Hannah,
I have been BEST friends with someone for years now and we have always been so close. When highschool started, we were closer than ever. but now, i feel like its going down the drain, completly. I see this person almost everyday and when I do, i just want to cry and run up and hug them and say how sorry i am for screwing up everything. i do things that i would never imagine doing and because of that, its tearing us apart. I feel like i have to tell this person everything because i really have nobody else who was always there for me. i tell them these things because i no they won't judge me but when i told them something last week, they just criticized me. i want this person to NOT think that im telling them my business just because i want attention, i tell them because i no that they wouldnt be mad if i was upfront about it instead of them finding out the hard way. I actually told them something that happened about a week ago and it crushed me, it crushed me so bad because i felt like they didnt understand. I no some things i do are stupid, i no it is, but i just cant help it, im only human who makes mistakes. i feel like this person is beginning to really hate me and im scared that if this keeps going on, then we will not be friends anymore. i cant picture this person out of my life, they are so important to me but i think that if i tell them the truth again, they will judge me and tell there friends how stupid i am. i dont no what to do, eevrything i say to this person face to face gets turned around to me and i always end up the bad guy in it. i want things to be the way they used to be with minor changes. i love this person and i always want them in my life. i can tell how much this person means to me because i am crying right now...please, please help me.
Well, one thing you have to keep in mind about being in high school is that people change a lot, whether they mean to or not, everybody changes. Sometimes people change in a sense that they make different personal decisions, sometimes it's just that they have grown up and see things differently. Just remember before you finish reading this that people will always change. Like you said, you get really upset when you see this person around school, and being that you were so close, i can understand that. however, you also said you want to tell them how sorry you are for screwing everything up. Maybe the first thing you need to do is take a look at these things that you do that you said you cant imagine yourself doing and think about why you do it. Figure out a reason why because there is always a reason behind everyone's actions. until you know why you do these things, little progress will be made if any. i promise you know the answer to your own questions, it's just a matter of admitting them to yourself sometimes. if you feel that it's your behavior that is tearing you two apart, that is something that you need to work on personally as far as figuring out why you do the things you do that would make someone so close to you not want to be friends with you anymore. The second thing you should do is give this person a call and let them know how upset you are. tell them that you're sorry for whatever it is you have done and i'm sure they will give you time to explain your behavior. If you were that close, they aren't going to push you away, guaranteed. The other thing you said that i wanted to bring up was that you said you know the things you do are stupid, however you cant help it. Yes, you are right in the sense that it's only natural to make mistakes, however, how often are these mistakes being made and how big of a mistake are they? Mistakes, just like anything else really, are okay but in moderation. When mistake after mistake after mistake happens, it no longer is a mistake, but more of a bad habit or new lifestyle that just makes you come off as someone you weren't before, something with usually results in a situation like yours. So, my advice to you, 1. take some time to think about your decison making, realize that you DO in fact have control over everything you do so you CAN help it. realize that multiple mistakes can sometimes be a little more than mistakes and more of a bad habit. also, like i said, figure out why it is you do these "stupid" things because i promise you, there is a reason and you do know why, you just need some time to think it through. it's important to be honest with yourself as well, don't settle for "human's make mistakes and i cant help what i do" 2. after giving it some thought give this person a call and flat out tell this former friend exactly how you feel about the situation. ask them for time to explain yourself. let them know what's going on from your point of view and try to talk it out as best as possible. i'm sure they will tell you why they feel the way they do if they are being distant like you said before. open and honest convos will get you further than anything in this situation. you can't be afraid of whether or not they will judge you. if you don't speak up now, things might get worse like you are fearful of. don't let it get to that point. Well, hope i was able to help! don't be afraid to write back for anything! xxo Hannah
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0OHKAY S0O iM BACK F0R S0ME M0RE ADViCE ;
i WAS RECENTLY iN A RELATi0NSHiP WHiCH DiDNT LAST MORE THEN A MONTH (WE DECiDED T0 BE FRiENDS] BUT i STiLL HANG 0UT WiTH HiM AL0T && HiS FAMiLY L0VES ME ! (LiKE WE SiNG KARA0KE && WATCH MOViES WiTH HiS MOM && DAD ALL THE TiME]
SO0 THE PROBLEM iS i WANT HiM BACK . i REALLLY LiKE HiM. BUT HE G0ES T0 AN0THER SK0OL && F0R SOME REAS0N i GET THiS GUT FEELiNG THT iT W0NT W0RK 0UT =/ (MY GUT FEELiNGS ARE USAULLY RiGHT]
&& 2ND PR0BLEM iS i LiKE THiS 0THER B0Y NOT AS MUCH BUT i LiKE HiM && i D0NT WANT T0 BE WiTH HiM BUT HE REALLLLY LiKES ME && i DONT KNOW H0W T0 TELL HiM THT i D0NT LiKE HiM AS MUCH AS HE LiKES ME .....
Well, glad to hear this isn't the first time you've come to me :) I'm always here to help. First thing i think you need to do is tell the first boy that you still have feelings for him. Tell him that being around him had made you realize that maybe deciding to be friends wasn't the best idea and talk to him about giving it another shot. Even though he goes to another school, that doesn't mean you guys can't work it out. I know plenty of couples who go to different schools and their relationships are just as good as anybody elses. I noticed you said you have a gut feeling that it wouldnt work out. that may be true, but you never know until you give it a shot. Try it out again and see where it goes from there. I think that's the best thing you could do in this situation. Now, about the second guy. It's always hard to tell somebody you don't feel the same way about them as they do about you. But, to lead him on and make him think so wouldn't be fair. my suggestion to you would be when he starts to get flirty just give him friendly reminders that that's all you are, friends. if he doesn't get the hint then try talking to him. tell him that you kind of like him but you still have feelings for somebody else and that it wouldn't be fair of you to lead him on and make him think you feel a certain way about him when you don't. Hope I was able to help! -Hannah
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Dear Hannah,
I just found out a bunch of stuff about someone very close to me. This stuff isn't really the best stuff to find out. I wish the person told me face to face instead of me finding out from other people. I try not to believe some of it but the it just keeps getting worse. I'm down to the point where i cried myself to sleep thinking about it. I wish I could talk to this person about everything but it's to hard for me to talk about without tearing up considering it's very serious. I just hope that common sence will sink in soon before something that they can't take back happens. I can't look at this person the same way anymore...please help Hannah.
sorry it's taken so long to get back to you. like i said, i rarely check this but i promise to be more diligent. Well, if it is really that serious and affects you in such a powerful way, my suggestion to you would be to talk to them about it face to face. Maybe them seeing you so upset will make them realize just how serious the situation is and how it is affecting you so much. If you feel you can't talk to them in person, try calling them and talking to them over the phone, that way it doesn't exactly put you on the spot. regardless of how you decide to bring it up, you need to talk to them about it as soon as possible. the faster you act on it the faster the problem will be solved. I hope everything works out. -Hannah
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well i like this girl but i freeze up in front of her idk why i mean when we talking on the myspace the convo flows but when im around i freeze(this doesnt happen to me often) what is wrong with me?
aww that's cute (: well, first of all, nothing is WRONG with you. lol. you like her! A LOT apparently. :) you get nervous around her and freeze up. that's all it is. it's nothing bad. :) you said this doesn't happen to you often, but maybe that's because you reeeaaallllyyy like this girl. maybe, on the other hand, you're afraid because you don't know what you want or maybe you don't know if you're sure you see this girl as more than a friend so you're just being cautious. I'm not you so I don't know for sure. my advice to you would be to start talking to her more. push out of your comfort zone a little more than you normally would. maybe you're worried she doesn't like you the way you like her (?) so ask her questions like, so is there anyone you like? are you interested in having a boyfriend? questions like that. if you don't have her phone number, ask her for it. the more you talk to her the more comfortable you'll become. then maybe you won't freeze up as much in front of her. :) obviously there is already a little spark there if when you talk to her on myspace and stuff you have good convos. just talk to her more and when you see her, loosen up a little! chances are, you have nothing to worry about. hope I was able to help :) xxo Hannah
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Hannah...help.
So I'm talking to this guy. He's amazing. We have so much in common and he's really great to talk to. I feel so comfortable with him whether we're hanging out...or making out...lol. He always know the cutest right thing to do, but he's still dorky like me so he's not so perfect that I get all nervous around him. He's just so cute! He does things that other ex boyfriends i've had would never think of doing. Like i think i feel a really great connection between us.
So it sounds all perfect right....but no.
He's leaving! In 20 days. (I'm sure you prob know who this is by now...lol) He's going off to college. I know that there's no way we could keep a relationship or anything while he's at college cause that'd be just way too hard for both of us, and we've already established that we deff wanna keep in touch. So i dont know if i should tell him how i feel about this whole connection thing or just not?
i dont know! Like I just think he's so great...and I know i have to let him go and it's not that i'm worried about that cause that'll be ok...i just don't know if i should tell him all my feelings or not!
Well, situations like yours are always tough to make decisions in, considering no matter what you say, the situation is what it is and isn't going to change. He's still going to be leaving and you're still going to be stuck at home. But the way i see it, you have two roads you can take...
option 1: Obviously, tell him about how you feel. He knows already you have feelings for him or else you wouldn't spend so much quality time with him. But, (here's the downside) telling him either won't change anything for you, or it will just make it harder to deal with the fact that he's going and make it harder on both of you. Telling him won't keep him here as you already know. And you have to remember, he's going off to college. Of course you'll keep in touch and all, but college is college. Enough said. If you want to tell him just to get it out there so he knows exactly how you feel without playing guessing games, go for it. But bare in mind, it won't change the situation.
option 2: Obviously again, don't tell him. Like you said, you know you have to let him go and you don't think that will be a problem, but telling him might make that a problem if you get what i'm trying to say, because at that moment you might realize that now that it's out there and being discussed, it'll be harder to cope with. I could be wrong though. If you think there's a point in telling him then you should, but if there's no point and nothing is going to come out of it, why waste time and emotion?
Purely, the decision is up to you. You could go either way with this. If you think you'll regret not telling him and not putting it out there, then you should tell how you feel. But, if not, then don't. It's so simple yet so difficult when emotions are involved. But, i know you'll make a good choice and whatever you do, keep your head up and make the best decision to satisfy yourself. (:Hope i was able to help (: xxo Hannah
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hello,
so i have this friend and we have been bestfriends for about 4 years but now but all of a sudden things are changing between us we dont really hang out as much. i feel like she thinks i changed because of the new friends i have and shes scared that im turning into them. shes the one whos always super busy and can never hang out i just want to know what advice you would give me to make our friendship stronger again like it used to be. thanks
Well, in my opinion, since you said you guys don't really hang out as much, I would start by asking her to hang out next time you talk to her and when you do hang out, talk to her about how and why you guys don't hang out anymore. Find out what it is she's so busy doing that occupies her time 24/7 and ask her if maybe she could include you in these activities that constantly occupy her time so you two can hang out more. You said she's always super busy so if asking her to hang out doesn't work, just call her up and talk to her. See what's going on. Try to get back into a normal routine of what your friendship used to be like and see if there is any progress. Another thing i can say is that maybe you need to look at yourself. Maybe she's purposfully distancing herself from you because you said she thinks you're changing and turning out to be like your new friends. You may not be able to see it because it's you but there's a possibility that you could be changing and not realizing it. If she's been your best friend for four years like you said, I'm sure she would know you better than anybody else does and would notice a change in you that maybe other people who aren't as close to you would notice or a change that you can't notice in yourself. If that's how she feels there must be some kind of change unless she is just jealous that you are friends with these people which could be a possibility too. But, you never know which is why you need to talk to her. Also, maybe she's going through something right now that you don't know about. Try reading her body language and see if you can notice a change in her behavior towards you or just in general. I'd say from what you told me, it seems like something is bothering her and she just doesn't know how to explain it to you in a way that you could understand so maybe she just avoids you completely in attempt of avioiding the current situation you two are faced with. I myself am in quite a similar situation so I kind of have a feel for what may be going on. The best advice I can give you is to talk to her and see how much she opens up to you. Don't just hear her out but really listen to what she has to say and take it all into consideration. She's your best friend and if you want to make your friendship strong again, my suggestion would be to have a mutual agreement where both of you say how you are feeling and come to terms with what changes need to be made among the two of you to get back to the way things used to be. Well, hope i was able to help you out! Good luck! xxo Hannah
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How do i get in your pants???
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okay so theres this two people that i guess you can say im into. okay well one i have always been into but hes had a gf. the other one is like recent.okay so the one i have always been into just broke up with his gf.we texted for a while which makes me like him more .so now you can say im talking to him. okay, so i didnt think i would like the recent one. but it ended up that i actually do. through all this talking on the phone, school made me like him as any girl.the problem is i like them both. i have NO idea what to do. i think about both of them. get so excited to see both. but i kind of like seeing the one from a while ago then the recent one.like the one i have alwyas been into, i wouldnt want him to see me with another guy. i mean i know if he saw me with another boy i think he might get jealous cause i do think he could be into me.but i think that if i had to see him with another girl he might not have the same problem i would. but the recent guy i started liking, i wouldnt want to hurt him either by being with the other boy. i like them both, but i dont want either of them to get hurt or me to get hurt by hurting them. i kinda want to be with both of them. but of course thats not possiblee.i know the recent one likes me, i KNOW that. the other one, ehh now im not so sure about him. i want to find out without making it obvious.but i think he might have a "thing" for me. how can i do that ? and also what can i try to do to help myslef make the right decision on who to choose, if i would have to choose.
Wow, seems like you have a little problem on your hands. Well, if I was in your situation I'd probably stick to the newer guy for a few reasons.
First of all, you KNOW he likes you. It's not a guessing game because you already know how he feels. On the other hand, you would need to be sure you have feelings for him in return and wouldn't be going out with him because he's an easy catch. That wouldn't be fair to him.
Second of all, I understand you like the other guy and you have for a while. But, you need to take a few things into consideration. How long ago did he break up with his girlfriend? Does he have any kind of emotional attachments to her still? How long did he go out with her for? The answers to these questions are essential in being positive that you wouldn't be the rebound. Nobody likes to be the rebound because then you might end up getting hurt if he decides he's better off with his ex or better off single depending on his emotional state with his past relationship.
If you want to know how the guy you've liked for a while feels maybe you should ask him questions like "So, are you interested in having a girlfriend right now or do you not know what you want at this point?" or simply ask him "I was just wondering where we stand right now, like are we friends or what?" or you could say "Well I was just wondering because I've heard you have a thing for me but I'm not sure if that's true or not so I figured I'd ask you and get a straight answer."
If it comes down to you having to choose one of them, I'm suggesting you really put a lot of thought into who you have stronger feelings for and who you could see yourself with for a while. Think about who makes you happier and who you think you could have a more successful relationship with. you also need to consider who you think is more trustworthy. Making sure you don't put yourself in a position where you're going to get hurt is essential. I hope it all works out for you!
Well hope i was able to help! xxo Hannah
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I'm 17/f and my boyfriend is 19. we've been dating for about a year now, and we're pretty serious about each other.
he swore into the navy a couple weeks ago. he'll be in it for about 5-6 years.
as it stands, we've said we are going to stay together while hes gone for now. unless something comes up etc.
its a lot of time though.
should we stay together?
dont say i should experience dating others--im not going for that reason.
Well, you're right. 5-6 years really is a lot of time. I think it really depends on how attached you are to him and if you think you're stable enough to wait it out. It's going to be extremely difficult to have a successful long-term relationship with somebody who is going to be so far away for so long. If you think you can handle it and you honestly believe that it'll ultimately be worth the wait, I say go for it. If you're really serious about each other and think you can make your relationship work in your situation, then my suggestion to you would be to stay with him for now. If you find it getting difficult down the road or feel like waiting that long won't be worth it, then maybe you two should go your seperate ways. It really all depends on how badly you want your relationship to work out. Another suggestion: if you find being in this situation too difficult and find that it's causing you mental distress or whatever but you do want to be with him, maybe you two should agree that you'll keep in touch over the 5-6 year period but try picking up your relationship again when he returns. Hope it all works out for you. Good luck! :) xxo Hannah
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SO0 iM BiSEXUAL && i CAME OUT iN JANUARY T0 THE W0RLD ;; i DidNT TELL ANYONE iN MY FAMiLY BUT MY COUSiN SiNCE i TRUSTED HER BUT SHE TOLD EVERY SiNGLE FAMiLY MEMBER ...i DONT THiNK THEY ACCEPT ME ...WHAT SHOULD i D0 ?!
Well, first of all, I think you should confront your cousin and let her know that you confided in her and what she did by telling the rest of your family was really wrong. I also think you should talk to your closest family member, (whether it be your mom, dad, brother/sister, etc.) and ask them how they feel about the situation. Question them as to why it makes them uncomfortable or whatever it is they're feeling. Let them know that it isn't a big deal. You're still the same person but your sexual orientation has changed. Maybe it has just come as a shock to them and it's "out of the ordinary" but give it some time for them to adjust. I think that over time they'll realize you're still you, regardless of what gender you're attracted to. Hopefully they'll come around. Hope I was able to help! xxo Hannah :)
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okay ,
so theres this boy and when i was younger we dated...we both liked each other so muchh and we literally would do anything to see each other because we didnt go to the same school..unfortunately i found out he was in a gang..i was in middle school and really didnt care but then my mom found out!..she wouldnt let me see him or talk to him or even text him..i felt guilty because if i did talk to him it would be behind her back..well its been about 3 years now..he went to my highschool for a while..hes been doing so much better hes not gang affiliated anymore however he will always be one. we finaly started talking again and im starting to like him again even though i know his reputation may not ever let me be with him in a stable relationship because of what my mother thinks, i still want one..theres this side of him shes never seen and thats the side i love hes a great person and would never want to harm my mother and i.he doesn't go to my highschool anymore but I saw him the other day and i was so happy! He lives conveinently close But my mom didn't know..i dont like hiding things from her but if thats what i have to do to see him am i wrong? im going to be 17 soon so i should be able to make my own desicions. please help me i need a second opinion..i just don't want to loose him again. but i want to live happy and pure what do i do?
Well, in my opinion, I think you should explain to your mom the current situation with the fact that you guys are talking again. But, you should also explain to her the fact that he has also changed over time and is has made attempts (and been successful) to getting on the right track. Maybe that will help change her perspective of who he is a person. Also, (just a suggestion) if you want your mom to be able to trust that he has changed and is a good person, when you hang out, try to hang out in a setting (like your home) where your mom can see for herself the change in who he was then to who he is now. The key here is to be honest with your mom. If she is worried, it's only because she wants to protect you. Just be honest with her and hope that she can change her mind about him, even if it takes some time. Hope i was able to help! xxo Hannah
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Hi, I really hope you can help; i've gotten mixed responses from others...
Basically, my BF discovered that in my senior year of college (I graduated last year) I had taken two semesters worth of judo classes and he thought this was really funny b/c I don't look like, I guess, a "typical" jock chick--that is i'm not muscular or buff or whatever...i'm your stereotypical "girly girl" in appearance--tall, skinny, blond hair, blah blah blah and I'm like 125 lbs....so he's laughing at me, calling me "judogirl", etc., and I was fine w/all that, if a little annoyed, but then he made a mistake: he challenged me to a wrestling match...and I beat him.
He outweighs me by like 40 lbs. and is pretty strong but he didn't understand that my judo skills would use his strength against him and he just couldn't believe I won. I figured it was a one-time deal, but he was so bent out of shape that he's challenged me several times since then, and I've defeated him every time. It would be OK if he didn't take it so seriously, but he just becomes this mean pouty jerk when he loses and keeps challenging me and now i've refused to wrestle him b/c it's no fun and I hate his sexist attitude as well. But refusing to wrestle just makes him angrier and he says stuff like "you're just afraid i'll figure out your 'tricks' and win...it's so annoying!
I've considered just faking it and letting him win but I don't REALLY want to do that b/c I'm proud of my skills, and just wish he would be too...plus when he baits me w/all this "you're just a girl" crap, it gets my goat and i'm more than happy to throw him to the floor and pin him when he gets too tired to fight me off...
Have you ever beaten a boy at something athletic--whether martial arts or sports--or know a girl who has? B/c maybe if I can tell him he's not the only one he won't feel so bad...
Ha, well thank you for the compliments. :) Actually, I have beaten several guys at a number of different athletic, sporty-type things. It's difficult for a guy to grasp the concept that sometimes girls happen to be better at certain things than guys are. But, you're definitely right. It shouldn't make him mad. He should be proud he has such an athletic girlfriend and deal with the fact that it is possible for cute girls come out on top when it comes to certain things. :) Hope I helped! xxo Hannah :)
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so basically long story short : girl [me] is in love with guy. guy lives not in the same state. guy told girl hes in love with her. but sometimes he can be totally weird. like hes up and then hes down. its like talking to two different people sometimes. and i mean dont get me wrong i love both of "them" lol but its hard, i want a constant and stable relationship and i cant have that with him, but i cant picture myself with anyone else. even if im not "with him", i would rather spend my days without him, then with any one else. /: if i give yu more info you'll know who i am. lmao. cause you already knw the whole situation anyways. loser. so yeah am i crazy hannah? i'm giving him my heart, and i think he gave me his, but sometimes i feel like hes shutting me out. /: how do i know this is real? i mean i trust him that it is and that hes not lying but im totally stressing.
Well, to answer you're question, no you aren't "crazy" but you do have feelings for him that tend to get overwhelming at times because you can't be with him as often as you want and sometimes can't even talk to him as much as you would like. you also have to take into consideration the fact that distance plays a huge part in where your relationship would be heading. You don't need to stress because from what i know he really did mean it when he told you he loved you. I don't think he's trying to shut you out but maybe for him, talking to you round the clock is hard because not being able to see and spend time with the one you really have strong feelings for hurts and talking to you may remind him how much it sucks that he can't be by your side. I agree that his moods do in fact change rapidly without warning which may be giving you mixed signals but at the same time, you have to remember he has bi polar disorder. I think you just stress out easily because i know you've been hurt before and you know for a fact he can treat you right. He really does love you and you need to just relax and live in the now. Let things just flow and fall into place. It may take a while but it'll be well worth it in the long run. Hope i helped. :) xxo Hannah
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Hey Hannah,
Ok, so i have this totally awesome perfect boyfriend. we're so great together and i really enjoy being with him blah blah blah. there's jsut one thing...he's always flirting. i know he doesnt mean to, but hes a naturally flurty person and he's just nice. but when it's his ex girlfriend and a past hook up (there's 2 of them!), i feel like it's a little wierd. im not worried about him cheating or anything cause i know he loves me. but i feel a little awkward and jealous. idk what to do! am i being dumb? or should i say something?
help boo!
xo,
im sure u know who it is.
Ha, yes I do know. Okay, so my advice to you in your situation would be to be honest with him about how you feel. I know he's naturally flirty and extremely nice in general. Maybe he is unaware that it makes you feel awkward and jealous or maybe he's unaware that he's even doing it. You aren't being dumb. You're just a little concerned and you're more than entitled to your feelings. You just would expect him, being your boyfriend, to tone it down a notch and not be too comfortable with other girls besides you. I think you should say something to him and let him know how you're feeling. He can't change what he's doing "wrong" if he isn't aware that there's a slight issue to begin with. Well, hope I was able to help you out. (: xxo Hannah
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Hi hannah bannana (: its your buddy who you still have to celebrate with ! lol. Anyways theres this kid in my classes not mentioning any namess. But this other kid txted me onn sunday & was all like did you give ***** a handjob ? & i was like wtf NO. & Then like on mondayy i found out that these other kids knew about & i confronted ***** & was like whay are you saying all that & kept denieing it. & the kid that told me in the fist place was denieing it as well, that he didnt start it, because i had a feeling he did becaue he lies ALOT an makes up thinggs ALOT & i have confronted both of them & still dont know how it started. So, idk wether to eave it alone and let it slide or keep trying to findout who started itt ?
Wow, okay. Well, in my opinion, you should just drop it and leave it alone. It'll all blow over when some other stupid drama starts. You probably won't get to the bottom of it anways. If people confront you about it, say something witty like, "Uh, no. I'm not that desperate." Just know you can't trust that kid and be careful. I'll all die down eventually. Hope i helped. xxo Hannah ;)
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Last year I was a really SHADY person. I lost a couple of amazing friends but we talk now. But I just really miss this one friend and how close we used to be .I know things wont ever probably be the same because idk it just seems like they can never be, no matter how bad I want it to be the same. I know dwelling isnt good and just move on but I still wake up regretting everything .How stupid I was to do something to close friends. Even if I did become close to her again I know im still going to be thinking about what I did. I just hope she knows I think about it almost every day and wish with all my heart I could take it back. When ever we talk its just weird because we’d always laugh bout lil things and know what was going on with each other. Just hopes she knows im sorry
Well, everybody in life makes mistakes and makes some poor desicions that wind up effecting who they are as a person and how they live their lives, and yes, sadly some desicions effect friendships that were at one point thought to be indestructable. I know it may seem awkward when you talk to them because you feel so guilty about whatever it is you did but in my opinion, if you two are talking somewhat now, chances are your friend is trying to find some sort of forgivness in her heart. You have to remember, a lot of people can forgive others for their mistakes, regardless of how shady it may have been, but they do not forget about the past. Unfortunately, you can't take it back, but what you can do is give it time. Don't let what you did replay in your head over and over and over again. Let it go and live "in the now," rather than in the shadows of your "shady" past. I'm sure if your friend talks to you then she knows how sorry you are but it's just hard to adjust considering you were (from what you're telling me) such amazing friends. Just know that nobody can forgive you for what you've done until you can find forgivness in yourself. Hope i helped. xxo Hannah
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my girlfriend lives in another state and i really love her and dont want to lose her. what can i do to keep things going until i can move closer to her?
Aww okay. Well, long distance relationships are really hard to maintain when you can't be with that person as often as preferred. It's also really hard to display your affection for that person when you can't be with them face to face. My advice to you would be to just talk to them as often as you possibly can and remind them how much they mean to you. Chances are, if they feel the way you do, you're not going to lose them anytime soon. Other than keeping really close contact with her, there isn't much you can do until you actually move closer. Hope i helped. :) xxo Hannah
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I'm seeing the guy i'm madly in love with within the next couple of months, and i want to have sex with him. i am a virgin and i wasnt really waiting for him but im glad it worked out this way. i want him to be my first but i dont want to freak him out cuz im not sure if knows i still am a virgin. but im totally comfortable about sex and everything now so im ready. i just dont want him to be all weird about it. idno wat to do x0
Well, my personal opinion, I'm assuming he also has feelings for you too, but ask yourself; if he feels the same way about you as you feel about him, would it really matter whether or not you have already lost your virginity? I'm not him so I don't know if he's the type of guy who likes a girl with a little more experience or if he would respect the fact that you waited for somebody who you really care about and trust to lose your virginity to. If you think he would be "weirded out" by the fact that you're a virgin, I think you should be completely honest with him. After all, you do like him, correct? And if you do choose in the long run to persue a relationship, remember that honesty is key. If you start out from the get go and aren't up front about being a virgin, you're not technically lying but you aren't exactly displaying the truth either. From what you're telling me, you are ready for sex and this is the person you'd really like to lose your virginity to. So, my advice to you, talk to him about how you feel. Tell him, "look, I want to be honest with you. I'm a virgin and I want you to know that, but I know that I'm ready and I trust you. I just want you to be comfortable with the fact that I may not be as experienced as you but I do know that I'm ready." Being honest with him, in my opinion, is most important, and if it bothers him that you're a virgin then question him about his concerns and go from there. Hope I was able to help! :) xxo Hannah
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k so theres this guy & my best friend used to like him but now she doesnt at all and wants us to go out ( me & the guy) & that guy talks to me every single day ont he phone for hours...but he wont tell me if he likes me and sometimes i think he does sometimes i think he doesnt but hes not the kind of guy to go tell his friends who he likes he just keeps it to himself so should i move on or not?
well, he must feel some kind of connection with you if he continues to talk to you... so maybe he does have feelings for you but doesnt know how to show them or maybe he just likes talking to you for whatever the reason may be. obviously asking his friends is going to be no help at all so my advice to you would be to tell him EXACTLY how you feel. let him know you want straight answers and if he doesnt give them to you give him about a week or so... still no answer, move on. don't waste your time on something that you dont know is actually going to turn into something. as much as you may like him, you can find something better. no doubt. hope i helped! xxo Hannah :]
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i like this girl, but she doesnt like me back.. well sorta but idk.. i went out with her for like 3 months now and she just broke up with me... what do i do?? like im kinda obbsest with her, but she likes me still a little bit!! what do i do? do i give her the time she needs?? please help me.
Thanks
Well, of course after going out with somebody for three months you are still going to have some kind of feeling for them. Maybe she just needs a break and wants to explore her options. Maybe she's just confused. I'm not her so I don't exactly know for sure. Give her time. See what else is out there for YOU as well. It hard to just forget somebody and move on but you don't know what else you could find. :] You also need to let her know how you feel if she doesn't already know. Getting things out in the open will make is easier for everybody! Well, hope I helped! :] xxo Hannah
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