|
what is a real friend?
hello,
so i have this friend and we have been bestfriends for about 4 years but now but all of a sudden things are changing between us we dont really hang out as much. i feel like she thinks i changed because of the new friends i have and shes scared that im turning into them. shes the one whos always super busy and can never hang out i just want to know what advice you would give me to make our friendship stronger again like it used to be. thanks
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Well, in my opinion, since you said you guys don't really hang out as much, I would start by asking her to hang out next time you talk to her and when you do hang out, talk to her about how and why you guys don't hang out anymore. Find out what it is she's so busy doing that occupies her time 24/7 and ask her if maybe she could include you in these activities that constantly occupy her time so you two can hang out more. You said she's always super busy so if asking her to hang out doesn't work, just call her up and talk to her. See what's going on. Try to get back into a normal routine of what your friendship used to be like and see if there is any progress. Another thing i can say is that maybe you need to look at yourself. Maybe she's purposfully distancing herself from you because you said she thinks you're changing and turning out to be like your new friends. You may not be able to see it because it's you but there's a possibility that you could be changing and not realizing it. If she's been your best friend for four years like you said, I'm sure she would know you better than anybody else does and would notice a change in you that maybe other people who aren't as close to you would notice or a change that you can't notice in yourself. If that's how she feels there must be some kind of change unless she is just jealous that you are friends with these people which could be a possibility too. But, you never know which is why you need to talk to her. Also, maybe she's going through something right now that you don't know about. Try reading her body language and see if you can notice a change in her behavior towards you or just in general. I'd say from what you told me, it seems like something is bothering her and she just doesn't know how to explain it to you in a way that you could understand so maybe she just avoids you completely in attempt of avioiding the current situation you two are faced with. I myself am in quite a similar situation so I kind of have a feel for what may be going on. The best advice I can give you is to talk to her and see how much she opens up to you. Don't just hear her out but really listen to what she has to say and take it all into consideration. She's your best friend and if you want to make your friendship strong again, my suggestion would be to have a mutual agreement where both of you say how you are feeling and come to terms with what changes need to be made among the two of you to get back to the way things used to be. Well, hope i was able to help you out! Good luck! xxo Hannah
]
More Questions: |