hello everyone. first, thanks to everyone for the great ratings and feedback. i truly appreciate it. i love to help, in whatever way i can, and i like to think i can offer a unique opinion on issues, whatever they may be. feel free to ask me anything, i will try my best to give you the best answer i can. peace out.
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We want to know what the difference between a circumsized dude and uncircumsized dude. So we can tell the difference. and what are the benefits of being circumsized? (link)
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circumcision is when the foreskin on the penis is removed. when the foreskin is removed, the guy doesn't have to pull it back. the easiest way to tell the difference is to look at it...or ask him! as for the benefits, in my opinion, it doesn't matter. i'm not really sure, but i imagine it's more convenient, and maybe more sensitive...since that layer of skin is not there. hope i helped!
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I am 51 years old and have an older brother, two older sisters, and a younger brother that is forty years old now. The problem is that all of us siblings except the youngest brother feel so unloved and hurt. The problem is that our mother wrote a will about five years ago and only mentioned our youngest brother in it. She left everything that she owned to him. He knows that she has done this and thinks that it is all okay. We have ALL been respectful and good children to our parents. The rest of us siblings feel hurt by both our parents and or brother. It is not even about money or things but about fairness. Me and my sister that lives next door to me do all of the duties for our parents. They both do not drive now. In the last week and a half we decided to let the chosen one (youngest brother)do everything that we have been taking care of for years. Both she and I feel sick about our family being torn apart because of this. Am I being unreasonable or wrong by doing this? Your advise sure would help us. (link)
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I understand your feelings, and how upset you must be. It was wrong of your mother to do that, but I'm sure she had her reasons, whatever they might be. Your best bet is to ask her why she did it, the answer might surprise you. Mothers tend to hold special places in their hearts for their youngest children, their "babies", if you will. It doesn't mean she loves her other children any less, and it doesn't make it right. Your pain is understandable, and I think you are justified in allowing your younger brother to take care of your parents the way that you have been. No matter what the reasons are, and no matter what happens, don't let it tear your family apart. They're the only ones who will be there for you all the time, no matter what. Family is the most important thing, and no matter what she's done, or how she's hurt you, your mother is your mother, and you've got to remember that she does love you, even though it seems like she doesn't love you as much as she loves your brother. Again, if I were you, I'd ask her what her reasons are for doing this. Maybe she is just trying to make sure your brother is taken care of, if he hasn't been helping care for your parents, maybe he's not as responsible. Your mother might think that he needs more help, and that the rest of you are going to be fine. You'll never know unless you ask her, and I really think you should. I hope I helped, and I wish you the best of luck. Thanks for the question!
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I am going on vacation for a week and my neighbor has offered to water my garden and vegetables while we are gone. She is an older lady, not elderly but older. She lives next door, but we have a lot of land so it will be a hassle for her to come over and get out the hose, then roll it up again...but she offered and I need the help so I accepted.
My question is, I want to do something nice for her in return but I don't know what. I was thinking maybe a gift card to a grocery store or Wal Mart, but how much $$ is appropriate? Thanks for your advice! (link)
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a gift card is a great idea! but if she is older, she might appreciate a more meaningful present... like some sort of ornament, or decoration...but a gift card will definitely work! have a great vacation!
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i was just wondering if having sexual intercourse "feel" the same as masterbating?
is it better or worse?
thanks (link)
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sex is usually better, depending on your partner and the feelings you have for him or her. if they know what they're doing, it'll be better. to make it better, you should tell your partner what you like, and what feels good. that way, he/she can come to know your body the way that you do. don't get discouraged, sex is a beautiful thing, under the right circumstances. :) enjoy!
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13 Female.
School starts in 10 day's, and I want to come back with a splash. I'm getting braces tomorrow (finally) my hair's grown and taken an adorable shape, and my boob's have gone from being a 34B to a 36C. I've done alot of shopping and my face has cleared up.
Now I want that personality to go with it. You know, friendly, outgoing, confident, cute, and flirty. I'm sick of being too loud, or too obnoxious. How do I tone myself done, to be the calmer, cooler, collected girl I am? Thanks! (link)
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don't try to be someone you're not, it's too much work. work on thinking before you speak or act, try not to talk so loudly and just be kind to everyone. if you can't be yourself with your friends, how can they really be your friends? you have to be yourself, because if not, no one will really know who you are. don't try to grow up too fast.... you'll miss being a kid when you're older. i'm not calling you a kid, it seems like once a kid turns 13, they're practically grown up.. :) anyway, be true to who you are... that's what will matter in the end. good luck!
ps: the whole boob growing thing, don't let that be what defines you. i developed breasts when i was in grade four, i've been wearing a bra ever since, and sometimes, that's all guys want to talk to you for. so be careful of that, and make sure guys treat you like the queen you are. peace out...
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I've been having this horrible pain, about 5 inches to the right of my belly button. It'll come for about 30 seconds, then go away. But it`ll hurt so bad it forces me to sit down.
(its not period cramps, it hurts much worse, and its totally different, plus I had mine last week)
And now, I feel faint, really hott, and super dizzy. When I was at the movies I was nauses (sp?)
What could be wrong? Please help, I feel horrible! (link)
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i am pretty sure it's your appendix. get it checked out, right away. if it's appendicitis, it will expand until it bursts. your appendix is full of toxins, and if your appendix bursts those toxins will be released through your body...and it will kill you. this all takes time, so don't freak out, but definitely get it checked out right away. go to your doctor or your local emergency room...now!
good luck
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Here's the situation, me and this guy have been going steady for 4 weeks, we've been on 3 dates he lives 30 minutes away we met on myspace and I guess you could say that we're both "interested" in eachother. The problem is that I feel like I want this relationship more than he does. It seems as if i'm always the one who makes plans for us to go do something and I feel that he holds no initiative when it comes to us. It is both our first time in a male-male relationship and yet I feel like i'm more ready for an "us" than he is and when I asked him where he thinks this relationship is going all I get are "idk" and "wherever 'we' want it to go" which I think is very cliche. Also, i'm out to most my friends and family and he is getting there he just hasn't told his mother, however, some parts of his immediate family like his older sister and brothers want to change him and make him "straight." Amongst that whenever I want to come over to his house when he's feeling down he won't let me and keeps me at a distance and it just bugs the hell out of me. Also, we talked last night on AIM and it basically killed me talking to him because I'm just so confused about "us" so I told him that I was depressed (which I was do to him and just pondering about "us") and I started to cry... well I told him that and just ended the conversation by saying," I can't take this I just can't." Then I signed off and cried myself to sleep and he knew I was crying and still he didn't try and call me to cheer me up... All he did was just message me on myspace and was like, "I know our last date didn't turn out very well, but me and Stephanie were planning on watching a movie on Thursday and I was wondering if you wanted to come." I just don't know what I should do because everytime he plans a date it's always with one of his friends and it makes me feel just like another friend. So the question I keep asking myself is whether or not the only reason why i'm keeping him is because I like the idea of saying that I have a boyfriend as opposed to actually having a boyfriend... if that makes any sense. Thanks if you can help me out and sorry this quesiton was so long. (link)
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i agree that maybe he's just not ready for his first male-male relationship to become an actual relationship. he's still dealing with who he is, and being accepted for who he is. give it some more time, and if things don't change, talk to him. he might have some problems with committing too, so maybe thats why he's holding back. maybe he hasn't fully accepted who he is, or maybe he still isn't sure. it could be any number of things, and your best bet is to just tell him how you feel, face to face, or on the phone. maybe you could let him read your question..he might not even be aware of how hurt you really are. often, things that are so clear to us can go unnoticed by our loved ones. so don't overreact, don't get too attached, and just take it day by day. good luck! i really hope things work out for you.
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so, i have dark brown eyes, i was wondering what color eyeliner would look good with them? thanks (link)
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ALMAY intense i-color makeup. they have colors of eyeliner, eyeshadow, and mascara that they have picked to go well with certain eye colors. they sell it at walmart. check it out. :)
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My girlfriend's birthday is comming up. I'd like to get her a book that she would like, she reads a lot. She likes to read novels, the mushy love story kind. Does anyone recommend any that they have actually read? I'm not too great when it comes to this. Or should I just ask her which one she would like? I did want it to be a surprise, but if that's the best way to go about it, I'll try it. (link)
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if you're not sure what book to get, buy a gift certificate from her favourite bookstore, and put it in a nice, fancy envelope and include a pretty bookmark. that way, she can get whatever book she wants. maybe throw in a sweet teddy bear or rose to make it even more special...
good luck!
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SORRY ITS LONG i think im becoming anorexic because i never eat and well i eat but not alot.Yesterday i tryed to throwup on purpous but i couldt.Im scared for myself also iv been getting depressed latly and thinking about cutting i used to cut but i stoped because one of my ex friends told the school. I would never kill myself because i dont want to go to hell. After i cut myself i always feel so bad but i think i just feel that way because i dont want to get caught again.Boys and girls are always saying how hott i am but i dont think i am.I think im fat and ugly and i hate myself.It started around the time i started going out with my boyfriend.I cant brakeup with him because hes suacidel and i like him a real lot also he says i love you to me and i need to hear it.I need help! i need someone to talk to.DONT say my mom and dad because my mom has a deadly sickness and they have unuff stress and i dont realy trust any of my friends because i dont want them to tell like befor.Ohh ya i love to get hurt because i love the Sympathy and so i make when ever has happened worce. THANXS (link)
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if your boyfriend is suicidal, you need to get him some help. also, you need to get some help for yourself. it sounds like you have a lot of stress in your life, you have a lot of things to worry about. talking to a real person will help you, i promise. being anorexic will not solve your problems, it will only increase them. there are very few severely anorexic people who live past 30..so think about that.
you have reason to live, and a reason to feel good. you have a purpose to your life, and even if you don't know what that is yet, do you really want to miss out on finding out what it is? your mom and dad need you to be strong now, but they would not want you going through this alone. i commend you for not wanting to burden them further, but they are the people who will love you forever, no matter what. they should know what you're going through. your problems are not stress to them, they will help you get through this. if you can't talk to your parents, call a teen hotline, google the numbers. they can put you in contact with anonymous people who can help you. you need someone to talk to...pronto! please get some help for yourself, and your boyfriend. for the sake of your friends, and your family. no one wants to lose you, i can guarantee it. eat something! start small, like some vegetables, then work up to maybe some soup. if you're concerned about your weight, follow a healthy diet.. you will lose weight faster if you eat healthy things more often. when you starve yourself, your body's metabolism slows down, storing fat, so you're not really losing anything for a long time. your metabolism gets a kick start by eating healthy snacks three times a day, and light meals. good luck, honey... please take care, and remember, life is worth living. that's why we're here.
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my boyfriend is a cousin ov mine.we have been together for one year and are mad about each other.just lately we have been arguing alot and he has started to get paranoid about us been seen together. im really scared of losing him. does he love me or not?
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My grandparents were cousins, and not one of their nine children were mentally challenged. It is horrible to assume so and say that.
if he's paranoid about being seen with you, he's not comfortable in the relationship anymore. sorry to say it, as hard as it is, it's a pretty big warning sign. you should talk to him about it...his feelings may have changed, or maybe not. you'll never know unless you ask.
i wish you the best, and remember, some people may say some horrible things about your relationship, but they don't matter. if it's love, that's all that counts.
good luck
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What books changed your outlook on life? (link)
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She's come Undone
Highwire Moon
Girls in Trouble
Shipping News
The Robber Bride
Animal Farm
To Kill a Mockingbird
Cry, the beloved country
The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz
.... and of course
The Cat in the Hat
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hi i was wandering if anyone could help me find a cute middle name.... my daughters first name is gonna be Kylee ( pernounced like (kigh leigh) and i need a cute middle name to match with it. i appreaciate it! Thanks!!
*sarah* (link)
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Kylee Cadence
Kylee Nicole
Kylee Anita
Kylee Mae
Kylee Thorne
Kylee Faith
Kylee Skye
Kylee Olivia
Kylee Miranda
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Okay. I am 14 and I'm a female. Also I'm adopted. I really hate where I ended up and i really don't like my adopted parents. I was 12 when i was adopted (about 3 years ago). They told me then I didn't have an option about being adopted, they told me i had to be or go back to foster care. Okay the point is I really hate being adopted to them. It has been ruining my life. Also i really hate being seen in public with them, even before adoption i didn't like her. She was my 4th grade teacher and they made me be adopted to her. She's about 54 and her husband is 60, and her dad is 95.I live with them all. None of them even understand me, and another problem is that their really old. they are really disgusting and i can't even stand being in the same room as them. And since i was adopted i've been an only child for the first time of my life and i hate that part the most. I'm really loney every day and no one to talk to. I know for fact i would be better off some where else. i really want to live with my mom again. Kyle and i was taken away from my mom and dad when i was 8 and i was in foster care. mom and dad divorced and kyle was moved to another home. i stayed in the same place for 4 years, i liked it there. Someday i wish it could be my mom and i together again, if that were so i would be really happy. Now i am the only person i have, no one else cares. not even my adopted parents, they don't even respect who i am or who i would like to be some day. When i lived with my real parents my dad abused kyle and i and my mom was good person, she the nicest person i ever knew. My brother Kyle is special ed. and i worry about how he is doing in foster care. i aslo worry about my mom, she's lonely like me... sometimes i wish i could win alot of money and live with my mom in a nice house. i know that i have only about 4 years till i move out, but thats alot of time when you're a teen and i don't want to put my life off because the law forced be to be adopted and depressed. But i'm not that bad off, i make all a's and do weel in school. i play soccer. it's really hard for me to make friends, and i don't know why, before i was adopted i had lots of them. also it's really hard for me to have a boyfriend, all the guys that end up liking me.. i turn away from them. it's really hard for me. it seems that i've been away from people so long( being an olny child in all) i don't know how to be me in front of people. and it makes me really nervous. i have really good friends at church and all. When i'm around them i do fine but when they're not there, i don't know how to act. i'm also affraid to tell people what's wrong. every time they ask i lie and say i'm doing fine just so they can go away. iam really, really not happy. i am also sorry about not writing this all in order, anyway please give me advice. I really need some, noone i know seems to care about how i feel. So please help.
love,
depression of adoption.
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hi honey
i'm 22, and past the puberty/teen angst thing, but we have a lot in common. i was adopted too..my sister and i were adopted by our maternal grandparents. if we hadn't been, we would have been taken from our biological parents too. our dad was abusive, and so was our mom, but i really can't remember that. i can't totally relate to your situation, but i think i understand some of what you feel. i always wondered why our parents didn't want us enough to take care of us, and why they had to hurt us. when you're adopted, and you can remember it, you always wonder about your birth parents. where they are, what they're doing..etc. but you shouldn't torture yourself over it. i understand that you want to live with your mother, but if she wanted the same thing, she'd be with you. youngrandma gave you some great advice. you need to focus on the positive in your life...you're healthy, you do have a great support system around you..and you're intelligent, atletic, and accomplished. don't focus on wanting to be with your mother, it's her loss! you are a valuable person, and you are wanted. talk to your family about what you said, maybe show them the question (minus the part when you called them disgusting) and you wait and see what they do. don't keep all of the anguish you feel to yourself anymore. it's not healthy, and it feels really really good when you ease that burden. good luck, and remember...none of what happened to your family was your fault. :)
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Ok so I have rough dark skin on my knees and I've had them for as long as I remember. They're kind of grey and my mum says it's because of all the dry skin when I used to crawl on my knees. Anyway, is there anyway I can get rid of this? They look so weird when I'm wearing a bathing suit. (link)
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get a good exfoliant, and if it doesn't hurt, an emery board or heel file. it's just dead, dry skin that stays dirty. again, get a good exfoliant and a loofah, and scrub it off. maybe have a long warm bath, it will soften the skin. apply lotion liberally, and in the tub, use your exfoliating cleanser and loofah ( or whatever). remember to apply some gentle moisturizer once you're out of the tub, or it might hurt a little. there is a type of cream that you can get, i've used it, and my mother uses it for her dry, cracked heels. it's called prevex cream, and you can get it in the drugstore section at walmart. apply that before you use your loofah or pumice stone, or file. it will soften the skin. good luck!!
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I'm 14.
To make a really long story shorter, my bff...Jane. Has an abusive boyfriend, also, she's only 13, which makes it even more weird. She's going out with a 15 year old.
And she says I'm the only one she told.
She says he doesn't like beat her up, he just hits her a lot..
I never noticed, but recently she's been wearing long sleeves. Because she's actually BRUISED.
But, Jane says she really has it under control, and doesn't want to break up with him because she apparently realllly likes him. And she says he likes her, but..
I said if I were her I would break up with him.
Then she said something like that I didn't know what love was, so I couldn't say that.
I've never really been in this kind of situation before.
Do I tell an adult?
If you were me..what would you...do?
ugh, I'm kind of confused.
And I want to help my friend. (link)
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HEY!!!LOOK RIGHT HERE!
Do NOT confront him on your own! If he beats his girlfriend, he won't have any trouble smacking you!
Tell an adult, preferably her parents, or your own parents. Your friend doesn't know what love is, couldn't possibly begin to know what love is at 13, because what she's going through is NOT LOVE. Hitting her a lot is beating her up..and she does NOT have it under control if he's leaving marks on her, and especially if she thinks it's okay!
Kudos to you for wanting to help your friend, but you HAVE TO TELL AN ADULT!!!! The best way to help your friend is to get her out of that situation NOW. She might be angry at you at first for telling, but once the blinders are removed from her eyes and she's herself again, she will thank you. I promise. Good luck...and please go with your instinct and tell someone!
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as you guys all know.
the school year's starting soon.
and i want to be a whole new me ! :)
i want to get highlights.
& have a new found style.
i want to decorate my locker.
& i want your help. :)
any ideas:
on styles, locker decorations,
nice highlight colors for dark brown hair?
[i'm thinking a bit blonde or red].
helP. :D (link)
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seems like you've got the makeup question answered, but i'll just add a little something. it is true that you don't need a lot of makeup, but if you want to stand out, get some shimmery eyeshadow for your brow line..just something a little more dramatic! :)
and about your hair, i have about the same color hair as you do, and my hairdresser has always been after me to get copper colored highlights. She said this for my hair color, and for my brown eyes. You have blue eyes, but the copper color will still bring them out.
As well, for the makeup part of your question, Almay makes a line of makeup called Almay intense i-color. They have different sets of makeup for different colored eyes. They make eyeshadow trios, eyeliner, and mascara, all colored specifically to bring out your eyes, depending on what colour they are. Check out their website for more info!
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ive been sore a lot of times before
but this soreness i cant take
its in my arms
and my arms i do alot with
and i hurts to move them sometime
is there anyway i can help it
or treat it?! (link)
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you said you do a lot with your arms, so before you do whatever it is you do, stretch your muscles. the stretching will help reduce the pain after the movement. try a hot bath, or a massage. take some tylenol to relieve the pain for the time being, then apply some cooling muscle gel or cream to your arms. Absorpine, Rub A5B5....things like that. There are other brands that you can get, ones that are cheaper, ones that don't have a smell, you name, they've got it. You can get them in the drugstore section in any grocery store, or department store. The best selection is probably at a pharmacy or drugstore. Good Luck! If nothing changes, ask your doctor.
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The other day me and my bf were talking and she said that when she pees sometimes it smells like anomnia or whatever and it stinks? What could that be caused by. I mean she doesn't have stds or anything. (link)
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it could be a UTI or BI, but given that there is ammonia in urine, it might just be something she drank. if it's really yellow or almost orange, she's not getting enough water. again, kidney problems are not to be taken lightly, and she should see her doctor, or at least call her doctor or the appropriate floor at the hospital to see if it needs looking into.
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My boyfriend and i recently got into a huge fight (again). It started because he was joking about buying cars, then said he would by me a hummer. He completely ignored the fact that my cousin was killed by one only 2 years ago. He claimed that he didnt know about it, but we've been together for almost 14months now, its almost impossible that i never told him. anyway, from there he got really pissed off at me and everything hes been mad at me for started coming out. He told me that he hates that im working full time, going to summer school, and preparing for my moms wedding that is in 8 days. His biggest complaint about them was that i have no time for him. He also told me that he doesnt want me hanging out with people from work. (we worked till 3 am one night then went out to denny's for food) He kept saying things like "i do so much for you, i always make time for you, i try to please you so much and i get nothing back" which is a total exaggeration. At that point i asked him, do you want me to quit my job? drop out of summer school? im not asking you to please me, i just hoped you'd love me. Then he said the big line, "I dont know how to love you"
What do i say to that? how am i suppose to react to him now?
we havnt talked for a week. he keeps going on about how much of a wreck he is, but ive been crying every night. I realize that we are both at fault for this, but i dont know how im supposed to feel about hearing that after he told me he loves me so many times before.. (link)
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it sounds like he kind of exploded all at once, doesn't it? i'm hoping he said those things in the heat of the moment, because some of what he said could be considered possessive and abusive. don't get all freaked out, he's probably not meaning it that way, but if he is telling you that he doesn't want you hanging out with your friends from work, that is wrong. he can not tell you who to hang out with, and if he says other things like that, please consider the fact that some day it could get more serious. it's not physical abuse, but it could be emotional abuse. no matter how upset with you he was, he didn't really have the right to say that to you. sounds like he forgot about your cousin's death, so you should let that go. he wasn't with you when it happened, he probably doesn't realize how sensitive the subject is.
he misses you, he just wants to spend time with you. you should consider the ways you can spend time with him. try to make more room in your life for him.
if you get into fights a lot, you should think about the reasons why. what are the fights about? are they always about the same thing? have any been successfully resolved? consider your answers to those questions, and you will know what you have to do. good luck..:)
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