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my boyfriend is my cousin
my boyfriend is a cousin ov mine.we have been together for one year and are mad about each other.just lately we have been arguing alot and he has started to get paranoid about us been seen together. im really scared of losing him. does he love me or not?
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Okay, you retards below me. Did she ask if her child would be mentally challenged? No. If you have such a big problem with it, then why the hell did you answer this question? Actually what you said wasn't even an answer! I have this girl in my neighborhood and her parents are cousins and most guys say that shes very pretty and I know that she is not at all mentally challenged so people below me, stop freaking out about that.
Yes, he loves you. I think he's just nervous of what people will think of you two. He thinks people will say what the idiots who didn't answer your question below me said. Which, unless we have that messed up people in the world who walk up to random people and freak out about you guys being cousins, then he should stop worrying about it. Sit down and have a talk with him. Ask him why he keeps starting all these arguments and ask him why he cares if people see you both together.
Sorry if the idiots were rude to you.
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Jesus, I really hate the ignorant thinking of those below who have said that it's wrong or disgusting to date a cousin!! And that your children would be mentally challenged!?!?! That really is a complete fallicy!!!!
My Grandparents are cousins and they have been together for over 50 years. They have a wonderful, happy marriage and nobody has ever been prejudiced towards them or discriminated against them because they are cousins. For one thing, cousins are not related enough for it to be considered incest. I do understand there are some placed in America where it is illegal for cousins to marry but overall, it's legal and there is nothing at all wrong with it.
I would also like to stress that neither my Mother, my sister nor myself suffer from any sort of mental illness (still reeling that someone would ever suggest that!!!!!) and in every sense of the word, we are a normal family with the same bodies, minds and behaviourisms as everyone else in the world!
Your boyfriend should completely ignore what everyone else thinks. What matters is how you feel about each other because there are only two people in your relationship. You can't help who you fall in love with and although I can't say if you will be together forever, you shouldn't let the ignorant beliefs of thoughtless people affect what you do with your lives. Nobody should.
Have a talk with him about this and explain that there are PLENTY of cousins who have relationships and go on to live very long, very happy and very fulfillled lives together. He needs to overcome his fears of other people's reactions before you can continue the relationship because at the end of the day, if you aren't both comfortable in it then it isn't much of a relationship at all.
I wish you both the very best of luck and I hope you can stay strong in spite of everything.
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uuum no offense but why the hell are you going out with your cousin? Thattt's pretty weird. If I were him I would be paranoid if I were him... people would probably be disgusted if they knew you were together.
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Do you live in Alabama or something??????? Why are you going out with your cousin????? I think you need more than advice. I think you need therapy.
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My grandparents were cousins, and not one of their nine children were mentally challenged. It is horrible to assume so and say that.
if he's paranoid about being seen with you, he's not comfortable in the relationship anymore. sorry to say it, as hard as it is, it's a pretty big warning sign. you should talk to him about it...his feelings may have changed, or maybe not. you'll never know unless you ask.
i wish you the best, and remember, some people may say some horrible things about your relationship, but they don't matter. if it's love, that's all that counts.
good luck
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Firstly, in reply to the answer below, my parents are first cousins, and I do not in any way consider myself to be mentally challenged! They have been married for 51 years and are very happy together.
I do feel that your current problems have absolutely nothing to do with any other type of relationship between you. Yes, he probably does love you and something has made him scared of losing you. Maybe someone has said something to him, possibly about the cousin thing. If you have started arguing and you didn't before, one or both of you may have unresolved issues that you need to deal with asap. Try to arrange a date which cannot be interrupted by anyone and gives you a real chance to talk. Find out what is bothering him and then try to resolve it.
If it is something you are able to deal with together, go for it.
Just ensure that if the two of you decide to separate, it is because you both feel it is the right thing for you and not because of anything that other people are thinking/saying. It is your lives, no one elses.
I hope it works out for you and the best of luck.
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It doesn't matter if you were brought up close together or not. What does matter is what line of cousin's is he? Your 1st? 2nd? 49th? If yall are super close, please know that in the future should you get pregnant by him, there is a higher risk for your child being born with birth defects. I can understand why he wouldn't want to be seen with his cousin in a relationship way. I'm sure he does have feelings for ya' but even he know's that it's just not right to be in a relationship with you.
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