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Mother only loving one child
I am 51 years old and have an older brother, two older sisters, and a younger brother that is forty years old now. The problem is that all of us siblings except the youngest brother feel so unloved and hurt. The problem is that our mother wrote a will about five years ago and only mentioned our youngest brother in it. She left everything that she owned to him. He knows that she has done this and thinks that it is all okay. We have ALL been respectful and good children to our parents. The rest of us siblings feel hurt by both our parents and or brother. It is not even about money or things but about fairness. Me and my sister that lives next door to me do all of the duties for our parents. They both do not drive now. In the last week and a half we decided to let the chosen one (youngest brother)do everything that we have been taking care of for years. Both she and I feel sick about our family being torn apart because of this. Am I being unreasonable or wrong by doing this? Your advise sure would help us.
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I understand your feelings, and how upset you must be. It was wrong of your mother to do that, but I'm sure she had her reasons, whatever they might be. Your best bet is to ask her why she did it, the answer might surprise you. Mothers tend to hold special places in their hearts for their youngest children, their "babies", if you will. It doesn't mean she loves her other children any less, and it doesn't make it right. Your pain is understandable, and I think you are justified in allowing your younger brother to take care of your parents the way that you have been. No matter what the reasons are, and no matter what happens, don't let it tear your family apart. They're the only ones who will be there for you all the time, no matter what. Family is the most important thing, and no matter what she's done, or how she's hurt you, your mother is your mother, and you've got to remember that she does love you, even though it seems like she doesn't love you as much as she loves your brother. Again, if I were you, I'd ask her what her reasons are for doing this. Maybe she is just trying to make sure your brother is taken care of, if he hasn't been helping care for your parents, maybe he's not as responsible. Your mother might think that he needs more help, and that the rest of you are going to be fine. You'll never know unless you ask her, and I really think you should. I hope I helped, and I wish you the best of luck. Thanks for the question!
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