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OK here goes nothing. I have this friend (best friend) ive known since i moved to califonia. I was 13 then, im 23 now. We're still friends and she has my godson. In a nutshell.. I've done everything for this girl. watched her son for free, skipped appts to take her places. Basically helped out whenever she needed me to. She's helped me out too but not half as much as i have with her. I moved away for 3 and a half years (2 and a half hours away)... and now ive come back and its been a little over a year. I finally get to see my godson etc etc etc... ANYWAY...so ive bent over backwards for this girl.
Back to what i was getting at...Lately i have been noticing that she never hits me up unless its to go somewhere with her.. because she "doesnt want to go by herself".. wtf?!?! ok.. ive done everything but now its hitting me like a ton of bricks. For example: i ACCIDENTALLY broke something of hers that costs approx. $150.00 and i told her i would repay her.. as soon as i can. Now .. not to mention she knows im filing for bankruptcy and the transmission on my car is sitting in the trunk of my car...waiting to be A. fixed or B. voluntary repossessed AND SHE KNOWS ABOUT THESE THINGS!!!! so the thing i accidently broke was her boyfriends and im pretty sure hes going through her to get through to me to pay, BBUUUTTTTT before any of THIS happened.. ive noticed ive been feeling "used" by her..
we all know what that feels like at some point... right??? well im no stranger to it.. just because im a nice person and i wear my heart on my sleeve...it seems that people (even my BF) want to walk all over me.
She is moving with her boyfriend and her son (my godson) 45 minutes away. Now when i moved people would say "oh yea ill come visit you.. " yada yada yada etc etc etc... BLAH!!! yea right!... 2 people not including my best friend came to see me ONCE!!! now she said this the other day and i quote. "yea people said they would come to see me, make a special trip to come out"... i replied "do you know how many times ive heard that before??".. she says "well just goes to show who nyour true friends are".. are you f**** kidding me?... well then honey.. your not my true friend like i thought you were..
please tell me your opinion on this.. i know i may not have been very clear on what this whole situation is about.. but i need some clarity on what i should do. sorry i wrote so much.. this is the first time im talking about it... (link)
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Time changes, people change, and feelings change. People grow apart without realizing that they are growing apart and would never exactly figure why it happened.
Feeling used is horrible and being used is horrible and who makes somebody feel used or uses somebody is horrible therefore your friend is obviously a bitch
Everybody should be nice but being 'too nice' isnt good because it makes it too easy for people to walk all over you.
I think you should somehow from anywhere get those 150 bucks, throw it in her face, give he a big ass lecture and tell her exactly how you feel and wrap it up with you not wanting to speak to her because you don't deserve or need friends/people like that in your life.
And that is my opinion!
Good luck :]
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How I can I get along with better (link)
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Tips on how to deal with a stubborn husband:
1) Examine your interests and prioritize the interests that are most important to you. For example, perhaps you are more concerned about decisions about dealing with children, money, or issues relating to your personal independence. The issues that are most important to you deserve the greatest efforts.
2) Listen carefully when you talk with him, listen closely to what he says. If what he says is not clear, keep asking questions to find out what underlies his approach. When he finishes talking you can say, "I want to make sure I understood you properly. Did you say 'x, y. & z'?" Let him know you are listening, make it clear that you expect him to listen to you. You can say, "I listened to you, now please listen to me."
3) Try to understand his reasons and encourage him to speak honestly (in a non-confrontational manner).
Good luck :]
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my mom just told me i was acting like a b**** while she was screaming at me and i said 'well i could say the same for you' and she goes 'but you wont cause ill kick your a** if you do. im the adult and you are the kid so you might wanna keep your f***ing mouth shut.' do u think its fair that moms can trash talk their kid all they want cause they think they are all high and mighty but when their kid tries 2 stand up for themself, the adult can flip out on them and be like 'dont talk back to me or ill smack you b****!'? i mean seriously i want to know your opinion on that. also, i want 2 know if any of your parents are like that too. thanx! (link)
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When a parent trash talks their children it's called 'verbal abuse'. And are simply categorized as fucked up parents.
To experience any kind of abuse isn't fair at all, so no this isn't fair. And you shouldn't be thinking that it's okay either. Its common but not okay.
I mean any adult will be horrified if they see a child is talking back to their mother like that, but more horrified to hear a mother call their child a bitch and etc..
I would be guessing you are a minor so moving out of the house is not an option now you gotta wait till your 18 that's only if you want to move out of course.
You can definitely stand up for yourself but not necessarily by calling her a bitch, try another approach called the guilt card, where you try to make her feel guilt for treating you that way.
I have very similar parents. They are all lunatics and I have a pretty bad temper, I usually go all crazy and scary em by leaving the house and crashing shit.. But i do not advice you to do what I did because at the end of the day they are your parents and you have no near to go but go back to your house and face the consequences.
Good luck :]
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so me and one of my friend were suppose to be partners for this project thingy, but then there was this mis understanding where we thought we were going to ditch eachother for another group. So then now she doesn't talk to me anymore and i feel bad what do i do ? (link)
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Feeling bad isn't exactly what you should be feeling! You should feel funny that your friend has stopped talking to you for something so rideculous.
You said 'we', so you are both into this not just you. And you haven't mentioned if you done anything so I am assuming you did not. If my assumption is right, again, this is rideclous and not worth fighting over or worrying too much over.
If you really want to speak to your friend just text her, call her or grab her and explain to her what exactly happened.
Good Luck :]
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One day I wrote a note a boy I like and asked who he liked and he said me and when he asked me I wrote you-him.So now you know what happened we are at the problem part.So we now know,and I want to be around him and he`s sorta avoiding me.We did sit next to each other 2 times but it`s been a while.Btw he gave me a turtle keychain.So here`s the question:What do I do to make him want to be around me.Another tidbit is in the play my school is doing I am placed next to the guy that has had the biggest crush on me since I moved to that school.Sooooooo ya *please help* (link)
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Well if you both like each other and you both know, what is the problem exactly? It's a good thing that you guys didn't get trapped in the whole confused zone where you don't know whether you both like each other or not.
He might be avoiding you out of awkwardness since he might be feeling like he doesn't know how to treat you now. Boys so that. You need to break the ice, you need to be around him ( not stalk him or be all clingy) and talk to him without the whole awkward pauses or stuttering.
Wait till he asks you out, if he didn't, simply take control, go up to him and ask him out instead :)
Good luck
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i tried talking to her but i want to spend a little bit with her but now she just wants to be on her comp and talk to her friends and boyfriends and she is mostly in her room 24/7 and not my family and shes my twin (link)
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Again! It's so beautiful how much you love your sister, people this days don't have that kind of love toward family members.
But you still need to give her space, I am sure she is going to eventually miss you.
Or you can invite her out for a meal or bowling so you guys can bond for a day but don't cling on her all the time, that might upset her.
Also, you can ask your mother, father or another family member to help as on set up a trip or a family hang out where you both would be together.
Good luck :]
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So my boyfriend broke up with me today. He was really stuttering along trying to get his words out there and I just knew he was gonna end it by the way he was talking and stuff. So I just took it expectantly. And we went on our ways.
Later he texted me and after a while I decided to text back because I was unsure if I should but I decided I needed closure and to find out what happened.
This is how it went:
Him: 'I'm so sorry. I hope we can still be friends. I just need some time"
Me: "Alright, and you really think that "just being friends' will work or are you just saying that as a popular breakup line? You can tell me the truth, I want to know."
Him: "I have feelings for you still. I just need some time. And if things don't work out I'd like to still have you as a friend." (NOTE: It made me happy to hear this because I feel the same way. But by the way he said that can I assume he wants to try dating again sometime down the line?)
Me: "I agree with you on that. The last thing I want is for you to just be out of my life just like that. But what do you mean when you say 'I just need time' Like you want to hang out with your friends more? You like someone else? Just explain to me why. I can handle it."
Him: "I have to much on my mind with me getting a job right now. All my friends want to hang out. And it's just to much. I have to get it all figured out."
Me: "And that's the honest truth?"
Him: "Yeah pretty much."
Me: "Alright, then I can live with that. Do what you gotta do, I get it."
Him: "I'm sorry"
Me: "It's alright."
Him: "I feel so bad."
Me: "I'm not gonna say I'm completely fine with this but I understand and you shouldn't worry about it too much."
Him: "I'm just as upset as you are. Believe it or not."
Me: "If you say so, it is a little difficult to believe though."
Him: "I am a lot actually."
Me: "I'm sorry to hear that."
Him: "Thanks. I hope you're fine too."
Me: "I will be."
And that's the end of it. I feel a lot better after talking to him about this. Do you think I handled it well? And do you think he is being honest and genuine?
I want to be friends with him. And how can I assure myself that tomorrow at school when I see him it won't be awkward and we can still talk. What are some things I can ask him? (link)
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I don't think you were harsh at all! You were just being honest and understanding, why you gotta be critized because of that?
I think you handled it pretty well comparing to girls who gets all clingy, cry, or say shit like 'I can't live without him'.
I am not sure about the whole 'I need some time', this is just an opinion so you can't take me up for that, but it's because I simply don't believe there is such thing as in I need time. You either want to be with that person or not. I don't like people who keep other people hanging.
About the awkwardness. When you see him at school, don't wait till he breaks the ice or anything just simply pretend like nothing happened because If you going to act all awkward he'll get all awkward and it's going to always be awkward between you guys as friends.
Good luck :]
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my sister changed in 6th grade and started to like her friends more then me and care about her boyfriend we used to hang out all the time i miss her and i dont know what to do to get her back??? help (link)
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It's amazing when family is also friends!! But sometimes family needs other friends beside family friends.
You are used to your sister and that's nice. You love your sister and that's amazing as well.
But at some point you need to let her go, you know give her space to have her other friends.
On the other hand, you should also speak to your sister and let her know how you feel and tell her that you miss her.
Good luck :]
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Name key (fake names):
Me: Annabeth
Boyfriend: Jaysyn
I'm 16, a sophomore in high school. My boyfriend, Jaysyn, is a senior, 18. He's really sweet, and it didn't take me long to fall head over heels for him. I met him last year when I was a freshmen and he was a junior, and we started dating one month later. He was always very sweet and understanding about the whole sex thing: he wanted it, but every time I tried, I told him the truth--I'm no where near being ready for that, even if I might want it. Every time I said so, he was really sweet, saying he understood and wouldn't dream of making me do anything I wasn't ready to do. Lately, he's been going back on that promise. He's been getting kind of physical about it, too. Pushing me and shoving me and stuff; a couple of months ago we were at his house watching TV in his room because he gets free movies on his XBox through netflix, and he started kissing my neck and touching my leg and stuff. He was getting really touchy, and pushed his hand away and told me to stop, and he got really mad and he raised his hand as if he was going to hit me, but instead he just pushed me away from him, and I almost fell off the couch. I left when he did that and I went home. He called me five times an hour all night after that, and almost ten times the next day. Since then, he's been getting more violently, and touchy feely and rough, and when I deny him sex he gets really pissed. Last night I got up to leave and he grabbed my arm so hard I thought my wrist would break. Then he pushed me and I fell into the table--my knees are bruised. He called me a whore and a tease and told me I was being a bitch, and I left. This morning we had a date, and I didn't expect or want to go on the date after last night, but he showed up at my house right on time. I told him to go away and started to close the door, but he forced his way into the house and apologized for last night and got my oat from the closet and we went out and actually had a good time. He was really sweet, and he acted as though last night never happened. What do I do? (link)
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Oh dear lord!! That is called 'abuse'. No woman should ever be treated like that.
Just the fact that your boyfriend is verbally pressuring sex is a sign of calling it off with him but he has obviously past this point.
You shouldn't be that naive to what he is doing. You should understand and see that your boyfriend is mistreating you, abusing you and next could be attempted rape or worse rape. Do not underestimate a man who touches a woman wrongly. He obviously needs some counseling.
You should not, I repeat should not, come near this guy again or speak to this guy again. If he forcefully try's to speak to you, talk to an adult or simply call the police.
Good luck :]
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I met my boyfriend my freshman year of highschool, he was a junior at the time. We have been together about a year, ive never been this close to a guy before, I even went as far as losing IT to him. But the thing is, Hes graduating this year and im moving away to another city for my last two years of highschool. I also dont feel very attracted to him anymore..something changed. I still care a lot about him I have a lot of great memories but...I dont feel the same and I wish I did. Any advice? PS. Im 15 and hes 19 (link)
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Just like how time changes and people change. Feelings also change.
Age difference could play a rule on how you maturing and how he's maturing.
It's completely normal.
Also, you still caring about him is pretty much expected because of few reasons, but I'm going to mention the following:
1) when you lose IT to somebody you have that emotionally attached thing that happens.
2) you have been together for a whole year.
3)most probably your first love.
Just be honest and straightforward with him and take a break to see how you going to feel away from him and if afterwards you still feel like you want to break it off then you shall.
Good luck :]
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me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months now and lately i have been doubting him and believe that he has been lying to me, like he went for this party with his guy friend and he was really wasted and these two drunk girls asked him for a ride home and i heard that he slept with one of them but he explained and i believed him but then his friend told me that my boyfriend told him that " he makes love to me but he likes to fuck other girls" this friend has no reason to lie. so what do i do i want to break up because i'm no longer happy but i don't know why a part of me still wants to be with him and how do i break up with him what if he's not really cheating but he does often go to parties and i'm not with him (link)
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If a guy cheats on a girl that simply means he doesn't care, but your boyfriend is giving time to explain himself and that means there is another explanation.
You heard from people that he slept with one of the chicks. People talk shit all the time, you can't believe anything anyone says unless you see with your own eyes. And if that really did happen, alcohol can be an excuse for his action and also him lying to you can simply mean he is scared to loose you because of one stupid mistake, this is pretty much possible.
I don't exactly understand why your upset about the fact that he dropped to drunk girls home. I mean that tells you a good thing about your boyfriend like being nice enough to drop couple of drunk girls.
I am not very sure you 'believed' him because if you really did then you wouldn't be questioning him now. And you shouldn't be waiting for a proof because a relationship without trust is no relationship at all.
His friend could have dozens of reasons to why he would lie. (plus the fact that he is telling you something like that, apparently his friend said just makes him doubtful). Reasons like wanting to get back at his friend for something or him having feelings for you, it could be anything that you don't know about that could drive him to lie to you.
If you are unhappy in a relationship, there is no reason to stay in the relationship, you just simple get your boyfriend and be straightforward and tell him how you feel and tell him that you no longer want to be with him.
Also, it's very much okay for your boyfriend to go to 'parties' without you. It's no big deal as long as there is trust.
Good luck :]
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Question Posted Sunday April 3 2011, 8:37 pm
Ok.13/f
I have a bf and i loved him so much.I still love him but i dont know if he still likes me.
I get signs sometimes that he doesnt like me.
Most Times:
He always hold my hand.
Want to go out with me.
Wants to kiss mi.
Wants to share food with me.
Invites mi to come by his house with him and his parents.
Always watching me(Sometimes i might be on my black berry and he just stares at me and when I look up he looks away).
Sometimes:
He teases me (Like if i wear something he doesnt like ,Its ugly)
Talks about hot girls around me,BUT Only when his friends are there(i talk about hot guys BUT not like he does) i say a simple(I saw this cute guy today,BAM i done) (link)
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He sounds regular to me. Too regular.
You absolutely have nothing to worry about, he is just being the guy in the relationship.
Don't be insecure like that because that can cause you to imagin things in your head that isn't happening, for example, you thinking that he is loosing interest.
Good luck :]
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i've never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship with anyone. but im in grade 10 now and i like this guy and he likes me too,we've known eachother since elementary school and we're close friends and want to take our friendship to the next level, but there is only one problem with this, im not allowed to date and he is. my parents are very strict and will NOT let me date untill university i REALLY like him and he REALLY likes me too but we cannot date unless we go behind my parents backs. i have already talked to them about having a boyfriend but they are set on NO. what should i do, please help me if you can :( (link)
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I have a different perspective.
You arent a little kid anymore but your also not mature enough, you must remember that.
You have to approach them in a truthworthy way and do everything you can to change their mind.
I don't quit agree with strict parents because parents need to keep an open mind with their children, trust them, and let them experience what life is got to offer.
If you do it behind their back, it can be harmful to your relationship with your parents but also it can be harmless.
I wil tell you why?
First, harmful because they will be upset and have trust issues with you and yada yada yada.
But, harmless because your parents cannot define who you are. They are simply their to love you, support you , and guide you through your life. However, bannding you from making your own mistakes isn't exactly guide.
You have to make a choice. Choose what feels right to you, what give you a piece of mind.
Good Luck =]
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This is my first time applying and I need to know what skills you need. Thanks (link)
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Mostly facts about animals!
You need to know what to feed them and give couple of medication and what not.
Also talk to visters and give them information about the animal.
I think that wraps it up.
Good Luck =]
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So I've kept a pile of electronics on my computer table for a ocuple of years now (hoarding or extreme environmentalist - I don't know) that's from everyone in the family like broken USB sticks and broken computer mouses, cable cords, etc.
So I'm not sure whether I throw them out for the garbage man to take or what. I don't consider electronics exactly garbage, you know? Thanks (link)
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Well you can ask if somebody needs them but besides that if you don't need them why not get rid of them?
I don't see the problem here
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Hey guys.
I write blogss as you know! and for those who didnt know..well,you do now! Im a girl, so i write about things that other girls would probably relate to. But I want to write a blog that will interest guys too, not just girls.
I want to have mixed readers! So, if you can give me ideas on Guy stuff to write about, or what guys would want to read, and stuff. Thanksss (link)
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Well that's all I can think of right now so I suggest the following:
Cars, mostly about the new ones and the fastest. Whats on top gear! Classics!
Sex tips and tricks.
Playboys new 3D edition.
Commiment issues.
Animals, all great facts around the world.
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my friend likes this guy,
shes not sure if he likes her.
but he is alwayss looking at her.
and smiling at her.
but she blanks him.
she feels she does it without realizing,
but she does do it, but she really likes him
and doesnt want to seem un-interested. because she isss waay interested. but also, what knocks her down is his ex,she was really pretty, and she feels shes a lower level compared to her and not worth his time. but he used to talk to my frend online, then she deleted him, because she liked him and didnt want to like him more because she didnt wana get let down, after that he always walks past her in school smiling at her, and looks at her and stuff.
what does it mean. and how should she approach him. does he even like her :S (link)
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I think people can give mixed signals most of the times.
The best advice that I can give you right now is that if your friend really wants to know wether he likes her or not, she has to simply have the balls to walk up to him and ASK HIM.
I have said this so many times, you like him and you wondering if he likes you and its driving you nuts so put an end to it and ask him.
Its not so hard, its quit easy and simple if you think about it.
Good Luck =]
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So Im trying to stay a virgin. The guys I dated in high school did not really have a problem with it. We would fool around a lot and I made sure he was happy :)
Well I started college this year and I met a few boys who I of course made out with and Ill admit, even did a little more. Usually when I meet a boy, we will make out and if we have been kissing for a bit, Ill let him grab and suck my tits. I dont do this in public just if we are like in his room or something and no one is gonna walk in. I have really big tits and I just dont wear a bra so its really easy for him to get to them. Most of the time, the guy Im making out with will finger me and play with me and Ill come and it usually ends there.
This is pretty much what happened with this guy Ill call David. We met at a party and we started talking and soon we were making out. One thing lead to another and yeah...it didnt go farther than him touching me down there that night. He called me later and asked me to come over but I didnt want him to think of me in just a sexual way so I said no. He then asked if I wanted to go to dinner. We had a great night and I ended up giving him head which he said was the best head in his life. And he said a lot of girls have done that before to him.
At first I was really happy but now Im like oh my god...how can I compete with all those other girls. I told him Im a virgin and he said that he respected that. For a month now Ive been crazy paranoid. I really like him and dont want him to see other girls just cuz I wont have sex with him so I see him like every day and give him head or do whatever he wants. I try to keep it interesting with like ice cubes and strip teases and lingerie.
Hes been asking me if he could just rub the tip of his dick against me and I said yes. Weve been doing that a lot recently and one time he accidentally put the tip of his penis a little too far. It actually felt really good and now Im wondering if Im ready for sex. He said that wasnt sex and he has been doing it like every time we meet. Hes never come inside me which is how I know its not sex but he said it feels really good and it does feel good when he is in there. Should I just have sex with him? (link)
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Well nobody can make that choice for you.
If you feel that you would never regret it then why not?
But don't let him or anybody else pressure you into it. And whatever he is doing is defined pressure.
Being a virgin is awesome. And you should do it with somebody special to you.
And you shouldn't feel guilty and try to please him all the time, that is wrong. You keep feeling that it's your duty to give him head and please him everytime you see him. But, no it's not your duty at all.
If he is going to love you, then he is going to love you a virgin.
Good Luck =]
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I'm 17/f and he's 20/m
We've been going on with some issues lately. He's still confusing me about some stuff if you read my past posts. Lately, I've been hurt. I know he wants to get back on track and find out what he wants to do. He wants our relationship to be hidden from his parents until he's ready, since they do not approve of me. We're limiting the time we see each other so he has space, so seeing each other everyday ended up seeing each other once a week. And once every 2 weeks, which is definitely hard for me. But I agreed to it, he needs time. But then he asked me if I was upset that he's putting other stuff above me. He says that he'll try to see me as much as he can, like see me if he gets off work early and if something he was going to do is canceled. He's not always busy. I'm hurt because I feel like I'm just there as a left over and he'll come to me when "he has time". I don't know what to do, what to say, I'm not sure if it's fair or not. Advice? (link)
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Ugh! Excuse me.
If someone is ashamed of you because his precious parents don't approve, then wasting your precious time isn;t worth it.
And you gotta show him, that it isn't only him who is busy.
Whenever he calls, tell him you got other important things to do.
Don't give him control over you, that is not FAIR.
Show him where he stands and THATS IT.
Good Luck =]
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16/f So I like this guy and I want to tell him. But I'm wondering if it would be lame to talk to one of his best friends, a girl who is our mutual friend, about it. I was thinking that telling her might save me some possible embarrassment. But it's not full proof because even if i told her to keep it a secret she could easily tell him about it. Also, I can't help feeling that telling her instead of him just cheapens the whole thing. It makes me feel like I'm 10 or something! What is the best way to ask a guy out? (link)
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Yes actually telling his bestfriend does cheapen the whole thig.
But I will tell you the best way to ask a guy out. Ad it's simply asking him out.
Since you guys aren't very good friends, its way better because that way you have nothing to loose.
Go up to him ad tell him how you feel, and along that mentino that you'd love to go out with him.
Rejections aren't that bad. So in case, he tured you down, it;s okay, there is always more fish in the sea.
Good Luck =]
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