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I got dumped.. but we want to be friends..
So my boyfriend broke up with me today. He was really stuttering along trying to get his words out there and I just knew he was gonna end it by the way he was talking and stuff. So I just took it expectantly. And we went on our ways.
Later he texted me and after a while I decided to text back because I was unsure if I should but I decided I needed closure and to find out what happened.
This is how it went:
Him: 'I'm so sorry. I hope we can still be friends. I just need some time"
Me: "Alright, and you really think that "just being friends' will work or are you just saying that as a popular breakup line? You can tell me the truth, I want to know."
Him: "I have feelings for you still. I just need some time. And if things don't work out I'd like to still have you as a friend." (NOTE: It made me happy to hear this because I feel the same way. But by the way he said that can I assume he wants to try dating again sometime down the line?)
Me: "I agree with you on that. The last thing I want is for you to just be out of my life just like that. But what do you mean when you say 'I just need time' Like you want to hang out with your friends more? You like someone else? Just explain to me why. I can handle it."
Him: "I have to much on my mind with me getting a job right now. All my friends want to hang out. And it's just to much. I have to get it all figured out."
Me: "And that's the honest truth?"
Him: "Yeah pretty much."
Me: "Alright, then I can live with that. Do what you gotta do, I get it."
Him: "I'm sorry"
Me: "It's alright."
Him: "I feel so bad."
Me: "I'm not gonna say I'm completely fine with this but I understand and you shouldn't worry about it too much."
Him: "I'm just as upset as you are. Believe it or not."
Me: "If you say so, it is a little difficult to believe though."
Him: "I am a lot actually."
Me: "I'm sorry to hear that."
Him: "Thanks. I hope you're fine too."
Me: "I will be."
And that's the end of it. I feel a lot better after talking to him about this. Do you think I handled it well? And do you think he is being honest and genuine?
I want to be friends with him. And how can I assure myself that tomorrow at school when I see him it won't be awkward and we can still talk. What are some things I can ask him?
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I don't think you were harsh at all! You were just being honest and understanding, why you gotta be critized because of that?
I think you handled it pretty well comparing to girls who gets all clingy, cry, or say shit like 'I can't live without him'.
I am not sure about the whole 'I need some time', this is just an opinion so you can't take me up for that, but it's because I simply don't believe there is such thing as in I need time. You either want to be with that person or not. I don't like people who keep other people hanging.
About the awkwardness. When you see him at school, don't wait till he breaks the ice or anything just simply pretend like nothing happened because If you going to act all awkward he'll get all awkward and it's going to always be awkward between you guys as friends.
Good luck :]
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I agree you did handle it well BUT!!!
I think you were a bit harsh how your feeling. SUre you are hurting to; But he is too. it's not People get confused all the time. Just because your taking a break doesn't mean its the end of the world. or anything. you two were close and still can be,. even if it is just as friends.
Don't worry about what will we talk about what will i say.
It will all come along naturally.
Hope this helps.
~Jasmine*
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i think you handled it well most people would have just told him off or said something stupid that would end their relationship and friendship, you wanted to figure out the real reason why he broke up with you and you got it. Yeah it might be a little acward at first just because you guys had a relationship and now your only friends but think about it maybe over time you guys can get back together and make things better because he can learn how to manage hanging with friends, work and having time to spend with you if you decide to work things out
kk hope i helped
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