|
Is this friendship really over???
OK here goes nothing. I have this friend (best friend) ive known since i moved to califonia. I was 13 then, im 23 now. We're still friends and she has my godson. In a nutshell.. I've done everything for this girl. watched her son for free, skipped appts to take her places. Basically helped out whenever she needed me to. She's helped me out too but not half as much as i have with her. I moved away for 3 and a half years (2 and a half hours away)... and now ive come back and its been a little over a year. I finally get to see my godson etc etc etc... ANYWAY...so ive bent over backwards for this girl.
Back to what i was getting at...Lately i have been noticing that she never hits me up unless its to go somewhere with her.. because she "doesnt want to go by herself".. wtf?!?! ok.. ive done everything but now its hitting me like a ton of bricks. For example: i ACCIDENTALLY broke something of hers that costs approx. $150.00 and i told her i would repay her.. as soon as i can. Now .. not to mention she knows im filing for bankruptcy and the transmission on my car is sitting in the trunk of my car...waiting to be A. fixed or B. voluntary repossessed AND SHE KNOWS ABOUT THESE THINGS!!!! so the thing i accidently broke was her boyfriends and im pretty sure hes going through her to get through to me to pay, BBUUUTTTTT before any of THIS happened.. ive noticed ive been feeling "used" by her..
we all know what that feels like at some point... right??? well im no stranger to it.. just because im a nice person and i wear my heart on my sleeve...it seems that people (even my BF) want to walk all over me.
She is moving with her boyfriend and her son (my godson) 45 minutes away. Now when i moved people would say "oh yea ill come visit you.. " yada yada yada etc etc etc... BLAH!!! yea right!... 2 people not including my best friend came to see me ONCE!!! now she said this the other day and i quote. "yea people said they would come to see me, make a special trip to come out"... i replied "do you know how many times ive heard that before??".. she says "well just goes to show who nyour true friends are".. are you f**** kidding me?... well then honey.. your not my true friend like i thought you were..
please tell me your opinion on this.. i know i may not have been very clear on what this whole situation is about.. but i need some clarity on what i should do. sorry i wrote so much.. this is the first time im talking about it...
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Time changes, people change, and feelings change. People grow apart without realizing that they are growing apart and would never exactly figure why it happened.
Feeling used is horrible and being used is horrible and who makes somebody feel used or uses somebody is horrible therefore your friend is obviously a bitch
Everybody should be nice but being 'too nice' isnt good because it makes it too easy for people to walk all over you.
I think you should somehow from anywhere get those 150 bucks, throw it in her face, give he a big ass lecture and tell her exactly how you feel and wrap it up with you not wanting to speak to her because you don't deserve or need friends/people like that in your life.
And that is my opinion!
Good luck :]
]
I KNOW EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL. my friend and i have been friends for about 13 years and let me tell you, it won't get any better. i've talked to her. i've explained to her how she treats me and how i feel used, it never gets through.
what i would do if i were you? just end it. right there. pay her back whatever you owe her and NOTHING more. even if you talk to this girl, she'll never change. people say that they can change, but guess what? they don't. i understand you might wanna see your godson, and you guys have a lot of history..whatever. but none of that matters. you sound like a damn good friend. and damn good friends do not deserve to be walked all over. i've been letting people walk all over me my entire life and i recently decided to make it stop. i'm sick of being treated like shit, aren't you? i'd end it there and then. maybe she'll get the picture and change, then that would be cool. right now, she is not the type of person you need in your life. you have enough on your plate without your so-called "friend" stressing you out.
hope i helped, and take care.
]
More Questions: |