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Mom trouble! i need some opinions and advice.
my mom just told me i was acting like a b**** while she was screaming at me and i said 'well i could say the same for you' and she goes 'but you wont cause ill kick your a** if you do. im the adult and you are the kid so you might wanna keep your f***ing mouth shut.' do u think its fair that moms can trash talk their kid all they want cause they think they are all high and mighty but when their kid tries 2 stand up for themself, the adult can flip out on them and be like 'dont talk back to me or ill smack you b****!'? i mean seriously i want to know your opinion on that. also, i want 2 know if any of your parents are like that too. thanx!
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I know excatly how you feel my mom dose the same thing to me all the time whenever she says I did something I din't do and I say mom I didn't do she calls me a damn liar no I don't think parents should trash talk there kids but kids shouldn't talk back to their parents either.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather and I hope the wisdom that comes with age will be helpful to you.
Neither parent or child has the right to trash talk to each other. When a child does it, it is disrespectful. When a parent does it, it is verbal abuse. Verbal abuse if continues is a form of mental abuse.
Not knowing you well enough I am troubled on how to tell you or advice you on the best way to proceed. Abuse of any fashion is wrong, be it mental or physical. No child should be subject to it and there are services in place for you to seek protection.
My question is do you feel you are being mentally abused to the point that you need to seek such protection? Does mom talk to you like this on a daily basis or only when you do something she doesn't like and you two end up in an argument? At other times do you and she have normal conversations. If your answers are yes, yes and no, the absolute worse case scenario is that family services can remove you from your home and place you in a foster home.
There is still one more question that needs to be answered. When you and mom are having these arguments are you in fear of being hit; if so is it with her hand or something else? Where on your body do you think you need to protect yourself?
Not having answers to these questions I'm going to suggest you call an organization called RAINN. This stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They Operate a 24/7 hotline staffed by trained volunteers you can talk to who will most likely ask you the same questions I have. Once you have answered them they can refer you to professionals in your own town who can help you. The hotline number is: 1-800-656-HOPE.
If you feel you are in imminent danger I would suggest talking to your teacher or Principal at school. By law they will know what needs to be done to properly protect you.
I may have taken the deep end of your question and hopefully I have. I would rather be wrong in how I interpreted your question and supply information that could help you just in case I have read something correctly into your question.
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When a parent trash talks their children it's called 'verbal abuse'. And are simply categorized as fucked up parents.
To experience any kind of abuse isn't fair at all, so no this isn't fair. And you shouldn't be thinking that it's okay either. Its common but not okay.
I mean any adult will be horrified if they see a child is talking back to their mother like that, but more horrified to hear a mother call their child a bitch and etc..
I would be guessing you are a minor so moving out of the house is not an option now you gotta wait till your 18 that's only if you want to move out of course.
You can definitely stand up for yourself but not necessarily by calling her a bitch, try another approach called the guilt card, where you try to make her feel guilt for treating you that way.
I have very similar parents. They are all lunatics and I have a pretty bad temper, I usually go all crazy and scary em by leaving the house and crashing shit.. But i do not advice you to do what I did because at the end of the day they are your parents and you have no near to go but go back to your house and face the consequences.
Good luck :]
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I completely understand! My parents do that exact same thing but they actually lay their hands on me! Thats why they both got in big trouble by the law for child abuse. If something like that happens to me and I tell my friend or an adult they always say "talk to your mom about it" but they dont understand that thats so awkward! I am not close to my mom at all so I couldnt just be like "mom, i do not appreciate...blah blah blah,," So one day we had this big family problem. She was not getting what I was saying or wouldnt listen to me so I blew up. She snapped my cap. Do not cuss your parents out or anything but start crying and be like "Mom stop! Your making me so mad and everytime you yell at me you think its ok and then when I defend myself, you get on to me!" Make her feel guilty for being mean to you and I dont think it will ever happen again. But I TOTALLY understand!
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