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parents wont let me date
i've never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship with anyone. but im in grade 10 now and i like this guy and he likes me too,we've known eachother since elementary school and we're close friends and want to take our friendship to the next level, but there is only one problem with this, im not allowed to date and he is. my parents are very strict and will NOT let me date untill university i REALLY like him and he REALLY likes me too but we cannot date unless we go behind my parents backs. i have already talked to them about having a boyfriend but they are set on NO. what should i do, please help me if you can :(
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I have a different perspective.
You arent a little kid anymore but your also not mature enough, you must remember that.
You have to approach them in a truthworthy way and do everything you can to change their mind.
I don't quit agree with strict parents because parents need to keep an open mind with their children, trust them, and let them experience what life is got to offer.
If you do it behind their back, it can be harmful to your relationship with your parents but also it can be harmless.
I wil tell you why?
First, harmful because they will be upset and have trust issues with you and yada yada yada.
But, harmless because your parents cannot define who you are. They are simply their to love you, support you , and guide you through your life. However, bannding you from making your own mistakes isn't exactly guide.
You have to make a choice. Choose what feels right to you, what give you a piece of mind.
Good Luck =]
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Sneaking behind your parents back is not only going to prove them right in their notion of you not being old or mature enough to date but also brings up a serious trust issue.
I expect that when you approached your parents you have done so in a manner that a kid your age would. Instead approach them as the mature teenager you want them to see you as. Forget anything about boyfriends. Express your feelings is a clear way, let them know that you only want to get to know the boy and that they cannot shield you from heartache and all the other evils of the world forever. Ask them to trust in the way that they've brought you up and ask them to have faith in you in that you can make the right decisions. All you're asking for is a chance.
Perhaps compromise in that you can bring him to the house and have him meet your parents. Get them involved in your life. Ask that you and this boy spend time with eachother in the company of your parents.
Try to see it from their point of view and ask politely for this chance. Trust is a two way street.
Whatever decision your parents come to you must learn to respect and accept this decision. Being friends with him is better than nothing at all.
Also open up to your parents. Tell them whats going on in your life and speak to them about problems or school or whatever else. The more you include them in your life and are honest with them the more confidence and trust they'll have in you.
We all go through these things with our parents. It's how you handle them that counts.
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