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okay how can i prepare myself for this? ive been dating him for a month and im ready. im 19 years old. ive been fingered/everything else besides sex. how much more painful is it going to be? i remember my last boyfriend when he would finger me i think he may have used 3 fingers because it hurt for the first time. is this how sex will feel? i dont mean to sound like a 12 year old who doesnt know anything but im nervous. helpppp!!! and also.. do you have any tips to make it seem like im really not inexperienced? and what position will be best for this? any other advice would reaaally be appreciated! (link)
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Of course everyone is nervous when they have sex for the first time. Just relax and breathe, sex comes naturally and for me it hurt very little. Sex WILL hurt if you are not wet enough. So make sure that you are just turned on. And breathe, sex is much easier then you think.
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So, I know if you have sex with a guy and you're a virgin, he'll "pop your cherry" but what is it like? I mean is it really awkward or something? And no, i'm not having sex anytime soon lol, i'm just curious :] (link)
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my cherry was first popped when my boyfriend used his fingers. i felt embarassed because i was bleeding on him but he was totally cool with it and was mature about it. its nothing that us girls can stop. when we started having sex months later it still bled for several times. yes it was a major inconvience and a bit awkward. but if you are with someone that you truly care about and who truly cares about you then there will be no problem. and honey, if he gets grossed out then he is not mature enough to be doing what he was doing to break it in the first place.
hope i helped.
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I feel like I am the only teenager (18) who has not had sex yet, or even go pass first base. I don't believe in sex after marriage, but i think its sad how teenagers (15,16, etc) have sex so young. And people say because it's fun, but I feel that losing your viriginity is much more then just having sex you know? But why do people have sex at such a young age or if they are not even that far in a relationship (like 4 months). I'm just curious, about people's personal experiences. Regrets no regrets etc and why they lost their viriginity at such a young age. (link)
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i lost my virginity at 16 after a month of dating this guy. i definitely regret it and i was pushed into it. he was older and i felt privledged to be liked by this older guy. we are still together now and we've been together for over a year and a half. i regret having sex with him that early but i dont regret having sex with him now. i was stupid but hey, people have got to learn. i was smart about it and never had unsafe sex. girls now are having sex at 12 and 13. but you know what? theres nothing you or i can do about it.
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I know this might be kind of weird ,believe it or not ,im an 18 year old virgin but the thing is that there are a lot of girls who keepin tellin that im cute ,i have dated numerous times before but i just never got to that stage ,do i have a problem guys (link)
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definitely not!
i find virginity attractive. and so do many many other girls. its never "cute" to have been with lots of girls.
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Okay I'm kinda in a bad situation. This 23-year-old man and I are friends, well more like friends with benefits. He has a girlfriend, but he and I have been messing around since February. It started off as him giving me a massage, but it developed into something I didn’t expect. I know that it’s wrong but it feels so right. LOL!! I'm a virgin (by intercourse), and he knows it, but he is not. He says he doesnt't mind it, but i dont believe him. We have gotten as far as oral sex. Sometimes I feel like I want to have sex with him so bad, and other times I feel like I should wait. My question is should I have sex with him since we already gone so far?
2) When we get together to mess around, he calls me “baby”. Well he doesn’t call me anything else but “baby” when we mess around. Is that just because he is into the moment or am i blowing things out of proportion?
3) He asked me did i miss him over the summer, and i said no but i miss what we do. He said me too, and asked me why I didn’t miss him. i told him that i just didn’t and then he got mad. Does that mean he wanted me to? And does that mean that he missed me?
4) Should I stop messing around with him? Please give me a reason!!! (link)
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i think you should stop everything. and tell his girlfriend. being cheated on it not fun at all. it hurts a lot.
i dont think you should be doing any of this.
its horrible.
i may just be saying this because i have been cheated on, but the girl he had sex with, i know think and all my friends think she is a whore. i dont think you want people thinking that.
get into a real relationship or at least in something that doesnt have ties to another person.
oh and only have sex if you are ready. you just dont want to regret it. sex is a great thing!
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i`m a 16/f.. almost 17. i have sex with my boyfriend, and we use condoms, and he even pulls out. my parents have no idea we're having sex & would completely flip out if they knew. i want to go on birth control - because i have really long periods & because i get very very bad cramps. will birth control help with those? & also, if i tell my mom i want birth control for just cramps, and the doctor asks if i`m having sex - what should i say? if my mom is in the room, i don't want to say yes.
so, what should i do? also, does birth control make you gain weight? (link)
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you can go in the doctors office alone definitely. just tell your mom that you would be more comfortable that way. i didnt gain weight when i started. but honestly, for me, the cramps got worse. i never use to have any. and now they are almost to point of making me cry. but i think thats just me. never heard it from anyone else.
just tell your mom you would feel more comfortable going alone.
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Ok I had sex with my boyfriend the first time, he wasnt a virgin, but afterwards it didn't really bother me, why do people make such a big deal out of your first time? It wasn't all it was cracked up to be, am I thinking normal? (link)
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i feel the same.
its just different opinions that people have.
i was ready. and you were also.
you are thinking normal. dont worry
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i'm 17f. i'm still a virgin, and me and my bf are thinking about having sex. i'm worried it will hurt too much. whats some things you can do to yourself before sex to make it not hurt as much! any advice, thanks (link)
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just breathe and relax. if you are nervous and not 100% comfortable then you will be more tense.
believe me. it doesnt hurt as bad as you will make it out to be. once it happens. you will be fine. its nothing you cant handle.
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Im still a virgin and i was wondering to thoses who are no longer a virgin do you wish you were or are you glad you had sex cause i want to have sex but then again when getting married it would be alot more fun (link)
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i guess im different from everyone else here. i am happy with who i lost it to and when i did. i was not married. i mean sure, you are going to want to be "pure and innocent" for every guy you have relations with. marriage or not. its just a part of life. just make sure its what you want.
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is Datying and Going out with the same thing? i was told by a friend that they weren't. Help. lol (link)
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no. you can date multiple people. its like hanging out, but maybe with more in mind down the road. you usually go on dates before you go out.
once you are going out. you are the only one.
no more. you two are boyfriend and girlfriend.
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I have a boyfriend... of 4 months... and i just cheated on him with my ex..... i dont know what to do?
and I can not tell my boyfriend... pease... help!
F-- 15 (link)
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my boyfriend cheated on me and had sex with another girl. i had heard about it from other people and confronted him. he denied it for 3 months. then finally confessed. it hurt a lot. the lying more then anything.
DONT LIE. just tell him. you did it. now you have to face the consequences. as harsh as it sounds.
dont cheat.
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16/f
Alright, straight to the point.. I'm a virgin and all.. but like.. sexually active in a way that doesn't involve a dick inside of me.. so this guy I know, wants to pop me.. (I know. blah blah blah. wait for marriage, wait until he's right. blah blah. dont care)
So, we wanted to know.. when he does 'pop' me.. will blood get on his dick?
thanks :) (link)
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yes you will probably bleed.
completely normal. life goes on.
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im 16/f. my boyfriend is experienced and has had sex before and i am still a virgin. he fingered me the other day and when he put 2 fingers in it really hurt me. We're planning on having sex like within the next few days. Will it really really hurt beacuse it hurt me so much with just 2 fingers? thanks (link)
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i would suggest having him stretch you out a little with his fingers before you move on to sex. the first time didnt hurt as bad as i had expected. dont be too worried about it. you will be sore and tired. i have had sex about 9 times now and it still hurts when he is going in. you will loosen up. just make sure that you are with someone that you are completely comfortable with and let him know that you are afraid. tell him when it hurts you and he just needs to be very careful the first few times. you will be fine. :)
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16/F
When someone has a boyfriend, how long should it be before they begin to "french kiss"? My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month, maybe a little more. The other night, when he was dropping me off, he began to kiss me. Now, don't get me wrong, I am fine with a quick peck on the lips. But he opened up my mouth! I felt a little uncomfortable, but I let it go... until he started to use his tongue! I told him he was going WAY too fast. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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well honestly. for being 16 and dating for a month. you should have frenched kissed him before. i frenched my boyfriend before we even started dating. but hey. its all about what you are comfortable with. and if you need more time then take it. but dont shoot it down before you tried it.
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OK me and my friend have told eachother everything,
and secrets? never told to anyone.
So one day she asks me, Can I tell you a secret and I'm like sure, and she's like you cant tell anyone.
But one her other friends gave her two ciggartes! and I asked her "Are you gonna use it?" and she's like I dont know. But you have to do it with me. she said and I didnt say anything. I dont know. Shes like so will you and i said SURE!! why! I DONT KNOW! I was stupid! b/c Im not the type of person who stands up for hreself very often. I mean its just a ciggeret. it wouldent hurt me to have just one? would it?? (link)
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no it wont hurt you at all. nothing will happen. you will try it. like it or not. then move on with your life. it isnt a big deal. but if you dont want to do it dont give into peer pressure. but it really isnt a big deal. and you wont get addicted to just one either.
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well i always pop my knuckles and my back and sometimes my neck. is any of that bad? (link)
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actually it isnt good for you. it lets air INTO your knuckles. if you pop your knuckles enough you will notice that they are getting bigger. every pop is letting air into your knuckles. i swear.
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I like a boy in my class,but he's one of the "popular" people,and i'm not.I want to know how to find out if he likes me. (link)
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if he looks at you several times. you two make eye contact then break away. he probably thinks your cute.
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i'm a 14 year old girl and at the start of this summer i found out that i have scoliosis and pretty bad. i went back to the doctor later in the summer and now i have to wear a back brace. none of my clothes fit. my mom is taking me shopping and i would love some advice on how to stay stylish and hide the brace. i want to go back to school and still look good. this is all happening so fast and i just want to stay comfortable.
thanks!! (link)
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awwwwww. i am so sorry. i have a back brace also for scoliosis. i know it is hard. the other things people said do help. but also. just explain to your friends why you have it. they will understand. i promise. i know its hard. but yes. dark colors. solids are best so then peoples attention isnt drawn to your body. wear your hair down. and smilee. it helps. and like i said before just explain what it is for. in the end the brace is good. im sorry again.
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If you try one cigarrete do you automatically get addicted to smoking? (link)
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no not at all. it takes a frequent use of cigarettes before you are dependent on them.
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how do you not get caught if you skip a class? like is there a strategy or something (link)
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hey. first of all. you have to know your teacher. they wont think much of it if you are a farely good student. if you get on their bad side right of the bat, then being caught is more likely. if you do skip a class, try not to run into the teacher that day. it really isnt that big a deal. every once in a while is fine, everyone does it. just dont make it where you dont show up to that class for weeks. just be smart. any more questions just ask.
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