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Hey all. Im 23 and from Canada. I feel ive had kinda a tough life and have experience in almost any problem you can think of. Feel free to ask me anything!
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I just got out of 9th grade and my mother still will barely let me do anything. She won't let me go to the beach unless there's an adult there. I can't go anywhere with anyone unless she meets their parents first. She flips out when guys call. I wouldn't care so much but a lot of times a miss out on doing fun stuff because no one elses parents chaperone, they just drop their kids off places, and then I'm not allowed to go. Forget parties, because there are no parents she can confirm with that i'll be safe and not drinking or doing drugs. Does she expect me to never do anything in highschool? She doesn't trust my judgement, and doesn't understand that I won't make the same mistakes she did. I'm tempted to start lying 2 her and sneaking around so that I'm not stuck at home all weekend doing nothing. Soon my friends are going to be able to drive and she says I can't ride in their cars. I'm going to have a lot of boring weekends! How do I show her that I'm responsible so that I can go places? What can I say to her that will help her let go a little and not be so protective?
I had the same problem when i was your age (im 22 now) and i did what some of the other people said. Start small and ask your mom to let you go on a small outing. start with just girls first if your mom doesnt like boys. tell her you will call her every hour and DONT forget to call her when your supposed to. its a pain in the butt but its worth it if you get a lil more freedom. for the first few times dont ask to stay out later then she tells you to just say ok and be home at that time. after a few times that she sees you can be responsible and not get into trouble she should give you a bit more freedom. The person who said to have friends over at your house was a great idea. i used to do that. after a few times of having your friends over to just watch movies or whatever your mom will see that the people you hang out with arent so bad.
The best thing that worked with my mom was comparing to other people. something like "would you rather let me go to the movies with a couple girls unsupervised or have me sneak out and go to a drinking party with a bunch of drunk guys?"
works every time. i strongly suggest against the sneaking around. it never works and it will just make your parents not trust you even more. If your just honest and up front with your mom it she will see you can be responsible and it should all work out :)
Hope i helped! msg me if you need anything else.
~Princs~
Okay so here's my problem...I have a lot of friends, and i would say 70% of them are guys. youre probably wondering what the problem is right? Well the problem is, i have a tendancy to fall in love with my guy friends because they are so sweet and the perfect boyfriend material type for me. Sometimes i think they like me by how they act around me, but then i find out they only like me as a "friend" I'm sick of being just the friend and i want to show the guys i can be more than a friend...how can i should my guy friends that i can be more then just friends with them? That i want to be seen as girlfriend material?
Well I was the exact same as you. I hang out with all guys i had maybe 2 girlfriends and when i was younger i used to fall in love with them too. Its kinda hard when your seen as a friend to the guys to become more then that but it can be done. Try just simply reminding them that your a girl. My guy friends used to say gross guy stuff like "that chicks hot" and dumb stuff like that. When they say something like that just simply say "hello, im a girl you know". That usually gets their attention. Try dressing really cute and girly around them. If all else fails just make a move! tell them you like them, or even try just kissing one of them, although if your 13 thats kinda young to be just kissing people but the dressing cute and reminding them that you are in fact a girl should work.
Good luck!
do you ever feel like you dont fit in with your friends? well i do and like there all a little different than me. well me and my 2 best friends are pretty much the popularist girls in our grade. My best friend Katie is in love with a guy who already has a girlfriend of 1year and hes cheating on his girlfriend Kim with Katie and its been going on for 2months now or so and hes causing her a lot of pain with hiding behinde Kims back and shes been cutting her wrists i tell her not to do it but she says she cant help it and everytime she does it she promises she will never do it again and everytime she breaks the promise and i cant get mad at her or stop being her friend bc that would lead her into even more pain bc weve been friends since we were 7 and were 15 now. and my other best friend kristi is somewhat wild. and then theres me. were all honor students and everything but sometimes i just dont think i fit in. .. will this be a feeling that will go away? i dont have love life problems i dont get "too wild" i dk maybe im just feeling a little weird who knows .. please help!!
I feel the exact same way sometimes. I think everyone does at one point or another. Lots of people get confused with who they are and think they dont typically fit in just becasue there not the same as everyone else.
Maybe you feel like you dont fit in with your friends maybe because you feel like you dont want to deal with what they deal with, like katie. Clearly katie has problems which she should ask a doctor/teacher/guidance counsellor about, and should stop messing around with a guy whos got a girlfriend. I can see how you would think you dont fit in with someone like katie or even kristi because shes wild. Its ok if your not wild. When i was in highschool my best friend was really wild, she was all into drugs and drinking adn boys and i felt like i didnt fit in with her but then i realized that life goes on after highschool, you dont have to hang out with the same people all the time if you dont feel that you have alot in common with them. Try to find other friends that you feel you have more in common with but remember you dont have to give up your other friends. Theres enough of you to go around and you can hang out with all different people. Im still best friends with the girl i was talking about before and we only see each other maybe once a week or less. Just because you dont see someone all the time doesnt mean your not really good friends. Seriously try to meet some other new people or hang out with other people that you already know, you'll feel alot better about it, trust me. Sorry this was so long, I hope i helped you at least a little bit. Feel free to ask me anything else if you need to.
Hope to talk to you soon hun!
:) *princs
I'm gettin a tatoo here soon.. probably somewhere my parents won't see it.. I'm thinkin probably on the front of my hip.. like right above the underwear line.. Does anyone have a tatoo here.. and did it hurt really bad to get it done?
I have a friend who got one there, she said it hurt but not horrible. Just remember when you get pregnant it will stretch and WONT go back to the way it was.
For some reason pretty girls make me jealous. I don't have a man that I think they will steal but just seeing them makes me hate myself even more then I already do. There are only 2 things I like about myself, my eyes and my voice. But there are all these pretty girls out there and I am just not one of them. I don't know how to make myself feel better about it. I have tried making myself look good...but I can't even do that. Any idea on how I can get over this?! PLZ ~N~ thank you!
*~Carrie~*
Try not to worry about it much. Im kinda the same way with girls, especially my really pretty friends. Ive had people tell me my friends are soo hot and then ive had people tell me that im prettier then them cause im a better person.
Just remember that looks dont make up who a person is. Some girls are soooooo pretty and yet they treat people like crap and are just not nice people all together, and then some are really nice and same goes for not so pretty.
Its whats on the inside that counts. Im sure you pretty, everyone is pretty in their own way.
You need to be comfortable with the way you look. Do your hair nice, put on a little makeup, wear an outfit that flatters you and walk around like your the hottest thing at your school.
Confidence also make someone alot prettier, if you walk around with your head down and feel like your ugly people will notice that. If you walk around totally confident, thinking you look good other people will too.
Hope i helped :)
*princs
hi i was the one you just asnwer about tell my ex that i still like him.. well i don't know .. its too big, i don't know if i can do it.. i'm sry .. to be honest i'm too afraid.. pls if u are telling ur ex tell me how it goes!! ..answer here or whatever .. if u can tell me ur story i'll appreciated..thanks again ..
I will be more then happy to share my story with you. Ill leave you a message later tonight after i talk to him. :)
Hello .. Its just some simple questions .. they say Its easier to give out great advice than to actually follow it urself.... now I like my ex i was the one who broke things off (2 times).. i do know for sure he still has feelings for me but what i don't know is whether he would like to "go back" and try to see if it works (again).. i'm not going to tell u guys my whole story but when i say its complicated TRUST ME... so here are my questions.. pls be COMPLETELY HONEST.. answer them as if u were the one following the advice..ask urself "would I do it? REALLY?" ..
1.
Would tell ur ex u still have feeling for him? (even though he is still mad at u cus u broke things off (2 times) )
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would u give up and try to forget about him? REALLY?
3.would you tell him u still have feelings for him even though u r not sure if u want to go back until u fix some "issues" u have?
this is really imp for me cus i feel like i´m running away from something real..so pls if u canjust advice me with this ..or if u can leave a little note i´ll write into ur personal column.. thanks so much .
I will answer yes definetly to questions 1 and 3. I answer definetly becasue i am doin exactly that tomorrow. If you dont tell him then you will never know what could of happened and you will regret it forever i promise you!
As for question 2 if you tell him and hes not interested anymore then yes you need to forget about him and move on. If hes not sure then you need to give him time to think about it a bit (if you think hes worth waiting).
The worst that is going to happen is he will reject you, its not the end of the world. It cant be all that bad.
How are you planning on telling him cause i need a few ideas myself. I know i want to tell him i still love him i just dont know what to say.
Feel free to share any ideas you have.
Hope i helped :)
*princs
My boyfriend is at war, and I miss him very much. I need advice on how to get through this tough time without him at home. The kids keep asking about him and I haven't answered them yet. I'm not sure what to tell them when they ask why they're Dad is over in Iraq. Can you please help me so I know how to answer my kids' questions when they are upset and ask for their father who hasn't been home in over 4 months. Thank you!
Depending on the age of your kids its best to be honest with them.
My friend is at war and his little sister always asks where he is and this is exactly how we explain it to her:
"There was a man in iraq and he was very mean, he hurts lots of people and isnt very nice to the people in his country, the army was sent there to help all the people in iraq and they arrested the bad guy. Now that he is in jail your brother is over there with the army trying to help everyone get their country back so they can be safe now."
We try to keep the major details out of it and just basically say that hes helping people over there, it seems to work pretty well and its mostly true. shes 6 and think he brother is very brave to be helping people. We just tell her to pray and not worry her brother will be back soon. Try not to make it sound like its a bad or scary situation for him.
Hope all goes well :)
*princs
Okay, I know that when your pregnant you can not take any medications other than Tylenol. I also know, you can't get any work done on your teeth because you can't receive x-rays or novacaine either. The problem is some of my teeth, in teh back on the left side, hurt really bad. I don't know if it hurts from lack of calcium or becasue I have cavities. When I ever I drink something cold, it hurts even worst. Does anyone know anything I can do to make the pain stop?
Take tylenol, it works great for tooth pain.
Or call your dentist and ask what you could take.
Hope i helped :)
*princs
i have 3" zits all over my legs with 1" whiteheads.how do i get rid of them?
That could be some kind of skin infection.
I would go see a doctor.
Hope i helped :)
*princs
Ok my boyfriend and I just recently started having sex a couple of weeks ago, and everything went fine. This may be an over share but we took every precaution, using spermicidal condoms and having him "pull out". So this is why i don't understand why my period is late. Not by too much but by a few days. Then yesterday he fingered me and there was signs of blood about a half hour later. (and he had already popped me before that so its not that)I'm freakin out... you don't think i could be pregnant do you? Help me and ill do anything you ask... PLEASE
If its your first time having sex then its totally normal for your period to be messed up a bit.
If it still hasnt come in a week or so then you should go see a doctor.
Hope i helped :)
*princs
I get the worst cramps when I get my period. It's usually my first or second day when I get these horrible cramps. I take Motrin, drink tea and use a heating pad. Nothing I do seems to really work and my cramps get so terrible I just want to die. Is there something I can do or take that will make them go away?
I get them really bad too. Someone said for you to drink caffine, DONT DO THAT!!!!!! it makes it soo much worse, dont eat or drink anything with caffine in it (including chocolate) Try not to smoke alot either, im a smoker so this is hard for me but at least try to cut down :)
My doctor gave me a prescription for mine and they did nothing cause i get them soooo bad.
I found the best thing for them is extra strength advil. take it every 5 hours, not just when you have cramps. They work sooo well. I havent had a cramp in 4 months! Also drink lots of water and cranberry juice works wonders too!!!!
Hope i helped :)
*princs
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I've liked this guy for over a year now. He's an awesome friend, but once you do one thing that makes him mad, he's really rude! I've been told COUNTLESS times to get over him, but I just can't!! He means the world to me... and I just want to show him that without scaring him off or anything. We went out like a year ago for a while, and he was great, but I made the mistake of breaking up with him. I want to go back out with him, and I don't want to get over him. I'm not looking for an answer to get over him!!! I just need help on what to say to him!
Tell him you think you made a mistake and you still have feelings for him. Just be completely honest with him and im sure you'll get what you want.
Hope I helped :)
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im goen out with this kid who is older than me and i really like him he says he likes me alot too but my problem is like that for example today we were going to meet eachother somewhere and i went there and he came in after me and didnt c me at first so he started talken to a bunch of his friends...girls and guys..and in since they r older n all i dont wanna look annoying or clingy and go over and say hey but after a while i did and he was saying like, "hey u were here this whole time??" and stuff like that and i feel stupid if i dont say anything too cuz ill be like in the same room of w.e and hes over there and we arent talking or anything or if i say hi i feel dumb too. please help me if u can, thank you
Dont feel dumb and annoying. Just think about this. If he thought you were dumb and annoying he wouldnt be goin out with you. Your his girlfriend. Girlfriends are allowed to say hi to their boyfriends!
Hope I helped :)
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i have a seriouse problem with keeping a boyfriend. I have never been dumped because i always dump them so quickly! its so hard because i always wnat new guys, im never happy with just one, and i never want to hurt anyone or cheat on anyone! i have a boyfriend right now and i like him sooo much, he is perfect for me, but for some reason i want to dump him, its so hard and confusing, what should i do!
I have the same problem. Maybe your afraid of commitment. Or maybe youve been hurt in the past and you dont want to get hurt again so you push people away before they have a chance to hurt you. You could be waiting for this one particular guy so you dont want to tie yourself down cause maybe subconsciously you think you'll get him.
You need to just hang on and not break up with people so fast. If you find yourself getting frustrated and you want to break up with them maybe just take a breather, dont see him for a few days, think about all the things you like about him and if you know you have feelings for him then dont let yourself break up with him!!
If none of that works then do what I do, talk to friends/family about it, you could even try talking to the guy about it. If all else fails, go to counselling. It works pretty good.
Hope I helped :)
*princs
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i have the worst cramps ever! any girls now some good cures?
Stay away from chocolate and caffine, they make your cramps worse. Extra strength advil works wonders. I used to have a prescription for my cramps cause they get sooooo bad and it doesnt work 1/2 as good as advil does.
Hope I helped :)
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Hey guys im a 15 f. At nite it takes me like 45 mins to fall asleep. i have no clue why but its SO frustrating. Neways.... i was just wonderin if u guys had any tricks to fallin asleep (besides counting sheep) that could help me. Thanks so much!
I learned about this is physchology!
Dont drink caffine or alcohol for 2 hours before you go to bed. Try not to do anything in your bed thats not sleeping (homework, talking on the phone etc.) reading and watching tv is ok but try to just leave your bed for sleeping. Open a window cause oxygen makes you sleepy. When you get in bed take 3 deep breaths and follow each one with 3 small breaths. Try to clear your mind of all your days worries and try to not think about anything that will make your mind wander.
If you imagine yourself sleeping it makes it easier to get tired and fall asleep. If non of that works try sleeping with your head at the foot of the bed, theres some weird thing about the direction you point when you sleep.
If all else fails take gravol. Nyquil and tylenol pm is super strong!
Hope I helped :)
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For the past 2 weeks my stomache has been hurting. Its near the top a few inches under my breasts. It becomes a sharp pain and it will last about 10 seconds. Lately it has been coming more frequently and it has be lasting longer. I havent told my Mother yet because she will just say its nerves from moving into college on Sunday as a freshman. I don't think it is though. Has anyone else ever experienced this?
It probably is just nerves. Actually sounds more like an anxiety attack, a very mild one. Just to be safe maybe you should see a doctor. Try staying away from stuff with alot of acids in it like pop, and juices with alot of acid and aspertaime (sp?), stuff like frutopia and nestea!
Hope I helped :)
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I pay close attention to recurring themes in my dreams, as I believe that it can be my subconcious self trying to relay important information that I am missing in my day to day conscious life. For the past several months, I have had a recurring dream... well the dream itself is always different, but in the dream for a period of time my vision is terribly blurry. I can't read information, or I have a really hard time making out what is right in front of me no matter how hard I try to focus or squint my eyes. I know this is a bizarre question, but I can ususally figure out these things on my own and the answer to this one is just not coming to me. Any serious responses are appreciated greatly. Thanks!
When you dream that you are blind or cant see, its a sign of warning. It is a striaghtforward sign of deceit among those you trust most.
I would look into it further, find out if maybe your boyfriend is cheating on you or friends are doin something behind your back.
Hope I helped :)
*princs
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hey can everyone go to this site - http://www.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewProfile&friendID=1285597&Mytoken=20040901154408 ... and tell me what the name of the song that is playing and who sings it. PLEASE I really need to know
when i go to the site there is no music playing.
sorry
*princs