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So my question is the one below this with my bf and I for 3 years.

You really gave good advice and its comforting when you know your not the only one going through something this horrible.

I'm just in a limbo right now because he hasn't tried to see me/bailed last night by just not texting me back when we had plans. And then said sorry he fell asleep. And I said I understood. Wish I saw him more and told him I loved him. He didn't respond :/ I'm freaking out because it kinda seems like he doesn't care at all. And I hate not knowing. Like what are we gonna do for new years? Are we still exchanging gifts? But I'm sick of texting him because it leads to disappointment. He said he wanted to make it work and try again last weds...but now it seems like I'm disposable to him and he could care less about me? :/ I feel like I'm close to losing him forever. I want to talk to him so bad. But he barely responds and stuff. Plus I have no idea if I'm still going to the game with him on new years? He invited me on Fri? :( I'm so stressed out. And I just want to be happy and confident knowing that things will work out. But I feel like if we break up we won't get back together this time. :/ plus its the holidays :/ please help :(

Yes we are so in the same situation.
I've been in it twice now.


When they don't respond it really feels like they don't care, it feels like you are going to lose them forever.

You go crazy, you get a little insecure. Don't be. You had 3 lovely years together, come on, he loves you! Those feelings don't disappear, those feelings are not going to change.

Recently me and my boyfriend have spoken, but if he hasn't spoken to you it doesn't mean he doesn't care. He made the decision to end it with you - he has to ride it out and see what it feels like to be alone, to make a mistake - to realise that he made a mistake in ending it with you. I guarantee you, take my word for it, I bet he is going crazy, but he is trying to do the right thing and give you both space.

There might be a little bit of mind games going on there. It's tempting to do so with someone vunerable but I don't know what he is like.

I'm going to be alone on new years :( But don't go chasing him, honestly. It sounds cheesy but he will come back, he just needs time to think and realise what he has done. If he cannot be assed to even let you know what is going on for New years - dont go making the effort. You aren't in a relationship, you aren't required to do so.

Don't get over him, that's not what I am saying but he ended it with you. You've got to prove to yourself that you can be on your own ( whether you like it or not is another matter) You need to be strong for yourself.

I am the same. I really want to know things are going to work out and I am inpatient but there are some things you just cannot rush. You gotta let it run it's natural course, your relationship is no more, you have to accept it for now and spend some time on yourself.

I don't know why he bailed but I can tell you I bailed on my boyfriend. I was too scared to see him, it was too early, so instead of thinking he doesn't give a shit, maybe he just can't handle seeing you.

There are so many should of would of could ofs and as much as it's nice to hear them from each other it only sugar coats your issues.

If you want to talk to him, then do so. But I know why you want to. You want to see if he is missing you, if he is upset, you want him to say all the things you want to hear. And after you have found out those answers then what?

I honestly truly believe that true love lives on and you two will work it out. He is still going to be there 3 months down the line, don't worry, you are the best thing to happen to him! He knows it too.

Sounds cheesy but give it time.
If you need to talk to him, then do so
just don't depend in him emotionally because you feel alone.

Like I said situate yourself around good people who care about you and you will be surprised just how much you can be ok by yourself for the time being.

Message me and keep me updated!

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So me and my boyfriend have been going out for 3 years. We've had our off and on moments and a lot of it had to do with drug abuse on his side. I really care about him a lot and would leave when he began doing that but would come back when he had been clean for a while and began talking to me again. He finally seeked help and has been doing good for about 4 months. He got into what he wants to do for his profession and I think its helping him stay clean cause he doesnt feel like a loser. We've been long distance for about 2 years now and live about 5 hours away. We are both 22.

Well he came to visit me this week and it was really good for most of it. I felt bad cause I had to work some nights and since we were gonna ride back home together (we are long distance cause im in college) he didn't have a car. Without a car he was stuck at home. But what he wants to do for a career is on the computer anyways and he said he didn't mind and was just glad to see me. The last day is when we started the horrible argument. Something changed with the stocks (what he wants to do) and he was really antsy to get home and kept asking to leave the day early. I realize now that I should have just said okay, but when he first brought it up...it didn't seem like it really mattered. So I reminded him that we made plans with a friend up there for that night. We ended up fighting the ENTIRE day about it. We would argue, one of us would leave the room and then he would come back and hug me and say he loves me. It was like a cycle. But we ended up really getting angry angry and at one point I said wow we must really hate each other or something. I was in no mood to drive that long in the condition i was in.

Anyways, he ended up breaking up with me and said things like long distance is too hard, there's more bad than good, we have too much baggage, and we are bad for each other. I could not stop crying, and I'm extremely embarrassed to say but it seemed like I kept talking him into staying with me. This went on for like an hour. He said after that that he wanted to give it another try. We slept together that night and this morning. He just kept telling me not to think about it and that he loved me. I tried talking to him about it and saying if he didn't want to stay he shouldn't feel like he has to. But he kept saying he wanted to stay and I just take too much reassurance. Then he texted me tonight saying he loved me but stopped responding when I mentioned how sorry I was.

I just really care about him and my prides a little hurt. I wanted another opinion because I don't want to be bad for him at all. But I also don't want to break up and get back together again. It's too much heartache. So my question is really just your opinions on all of this. Thank you so much for any kind of input :/ I hate feeling this way.

I am in a similar situation with you.


My boyfriend and I were together for three years, long distance and three weeks ago he ended it with me and I totally know exactly how you feel.

I'm not a "make up break up" girl kind either and it's just so difficult because you want to stand your ground and be strong, but you want them back so bad also.

It seems like you do both WANT to be together and when you are you try to force things to work because you don't have a lot of time for eachother. So instead of talking about all the problems and issues you have with eachother, you just make out you are ok because you have little time together.

Spend some time alone. It hurts to be alone, but you need to establish some things for yourself. It's so raw at the moment and you need to be alone to figure out what you want. Ie do you want him back... or are you just lonely.

Time apart is nothing to be embarrassed or scared about. You love each other, you trust eachother - noone is going to go off for another person.. it's just taking the time to calm down and figure out what you really want to say.

Both of you need to wait, your both on emotional highs. Once you have gotten to the point where you stop crying (!) you will be able to just sit down, no bullshit. Lay out the problems you have, let him lay out his (dont jump in, don't justify, let him say what his issues are), and talk about how you could resolve them.

There is no need to jump back together.
He'll be waiting for you.

It's not weak to get back together, it's encouraging and strong that you guys might be willing to fight and make something work, but there are only so many times you can be hurt.

He has made his bed and now he needs to lie in it.
Sleeping together etc etc yes I've done it too, it happens, you still love eachother.

As much as I want to text my boyfriend 24/7, I kno w he needs some space. I am not trying to convince him to be with me, he has his reasons and I will NEVER sugarcoat it all, I've done it before and you end up breaking up again.

Honestly, time. Just have some time for yourself, have a strong support system and drop him a call in a months time and see if he wants to meet up. Everything your feeling he is too, don't think for a second he doesn't love you or doesn't want to be with you. Of course he does, he is just trying to find is way like the rest of us.

Take care and message me for anything.

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I'm 13 and my boyfriend is 14. We have been dating for 8 months and I really like him(obviously). When I'm with him I forget what to say and he gets mad at for not talking to him. So how could I fix that? I have another question, my boyfriend invited me to him and his family thanksgiving dinner. How can I get his family to like me?

There is no way to get someone to like you, you can't force it..
We all take instant dislikes and likes to people.
As you long as you are dressed suitably, well mannered, and even something like offering to clear the table, it can't go wrong! They will remember kind gestures like that.

It's okay to be nervous and forget what to say. I'm sure if you explain to him how much you like him and that you are worried that you might mess it up etc he'd be understanding and most likely find it sweet.

If there is anything you need just inbox me.

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i've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months & hes 16, im 15.
we've gone out 2 other times one time 1 month into the relationship & we broke up but got back together the next day then 3 months into the relationship broke up & got back together 3 months later, since last year.. and now we're 4 months. hes not the best boyfriend he's made me cry A LOT. hes not the sweet type, only when he wants to be. we've had so many issues in our relationships but we've gone through every single thing and made us the strong couple we are today. hes perfect to me though, hes sweet, a jerk , respectful , caring , and uhm sexual ? yeah sexual .. i find all those characteristics perfect in a boyfriend but we're all diffrent with diffrent tastes in men right ? well hes always respected me & never done anything to me if i didnt want him to .. he always touches my boobs & sucks on them sometimes. i've also given him a hand job before. he started telling me he wanted to have sex. im a virgin & hes well experienced.. :/ as in hes not a virgin but he hasnt had sex with a lot of girls, erm i dont think ? i feel like he deserves this though but whenever he upsets me it makes me question if i should give myself up to him, what if i get pregnant ? what if he uses me ? what if i regret it ? plus i get so lazy to shave down there & im not sure if he minds that :o & some days i have oder like a fishy scent which makes me curios cause i cleanse myself very good down there i trim my hairs and shave when it gets too bushy, im not sure how to handle that & im not sure if i should have sex!

Guess what?

You've already answered your own question.

You don't even need to hestitate if you want to lose your viriginity to someone you love. It's clear to me that this something you aren't ready to do, or don't want to do.

I'm just going to say this..
He isn't right for you. Your relationship is not steady at all and he makes you cry. You deserve to feel special 24/7, you deserve to feel like a princess. But this my own opinion and you don't have to agree with it.

and as for your other questions
- pregnancy. Wear a condom to protect you from std's, and just go be an adult basically. Go to the doctors and get on the pill. Don't shy away, because I'm sure you'd rather take a pill than explain that your pregnant to your parents or him. But also here is something to think about. If you did get pregnant and decide to keep a baby - do you really think your boyfriend would stick around and commit to being a father?
- Shaving down there is up to you.
- If you feel conscious about smelling and it may be an issue, go get it checked out!

Please don't take my advice as something negative but as someone who gives a damn and wants to make sure you don't look back and regret something

Inbox me if you need me

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My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 years now, I love im dearly but I feel as though he is not in love with me anymore. I am 37 and I am a girl. He is cold and heartless towards me. How can I win him back?

There isn't exactly a direct answer to your question.

I could give you various ideas IE - cook a nice meal, do something etc but those would all be pointless and temporary actions.

If he is cold and heartless towards you and he makes you feel unloved the only way to actually resolve an issue is to... unfortunately.. talk about it!

You need to sit down, alone, quietly & say what is bothering you and upsetting you. Ask him is he aware, why does he do these things - all the things you want to know. If he admits he doesn't love you anymore then you know it's time to break away, if he says he loves you, then you find out what the problem is and then ask.. how are you going to resolve it.

The only way you are going to stop feeling the way you do is to talk to him. Which can be very hard, but trust me, it works.

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what do i say if sombody asks u out

Noone can make the decision for you, you have to decide. But obviously it's a yes or no answer.


But the way to make up your mind?
- Do you like them, do you trust them, do you think it could work, is it more than something sexual, are they your friend, do they know you and are you old enough to handle the responsibilities in a relationship.

feel free to message me if you want to talk about this further
-sadie

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My boyfriend is away at the moment and gets back on Monday. I've really missed him and we've just come through a bit of a rough patch so I'd like to do something special for him. Obviously I could just cook him a romantic meal, but we do that for each other around once a week anyway so I'd like to do something different. I haven't got much money to spare so it needs to be something fairly low cost. Any ideas?

We're both 20 and more or less living together.

cheap candles in the bedroom,
and romantic music ; give him a really nice massage.
I always find that really nice when my boyfriend does that and vice versa. It's just you two, taking the time to chill and relax.

Sometimes we'll have a relaxing bath together which can be pretty nice, with a glass of wine :)

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I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy.

Don't sit around feeling miserable, B is clearly a horrible person, and this ex of yours obviously doesn't deserve you.

Don't wallow (not implying you do but simply saying don't!) around thinking you've lost everything when really you've saved yourself the trouble of further heartache and pain.

Don't sit around and be upset. Take some action. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't be "friends with benefits" with my ex. There are still feelings attached there, it just makes things complicated. It could get to a point where he may stop that all together and then you're cut off after being so dependent on him.

He says he doesn't want to lose you, so he fucks you? Wow he's clever. Honestly you deserve so much more. A real gentlemen would of said I don't want to lose you so can we be friends, real friends. He didn't suggest such a thing to you.

Ask him why you can't get back together if you don't know. If you have a suspicion he is going out with B, ask him. Ask all the questions to get all the answers you need and move on.

It really sucks, trust me I know but once you've found out what you need to know, only then you can be happy. Situate yourself around good friends. Look how unexpectantly he came into your life? It won't be long until you find a real gentlemen who deserves you.

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What does it mean when you sneeze a lot

we aren't doctors - so the best place to go is to them. But summer has arrived and you get hayfever anytime, so prehaps you could have that

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I need a good answer. I have looked around constantly and found no good answers. My girlfriend wants me to open up to her and I am completely fine with it. I want, am ready to and thought that I was but for some reason she doesn't think I am. Can you help me?

Why doesn't she think you are?
"Opening up" isn't something that happens over night and it isn't something you just do, you know? There's a moment, and you know when you are ready to express how you feel.
Don't spend your time trying to convince her - it's selfish for her to put any pressure on you. She should try to be understanding.
If she's impatient, it's her loss. Do it on your own terms, and ignore any pressure she might put under you. Stand you're ground.
If you want to express how you feel about her - and you aren't good with words. Explain that - but also express your feelings in another way - writing a letter. It's something she can keep and read over and over if she ever questions you.

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I'd like to get my eyebrows like Kristen Stewart's. I've attempted before, but I think maybe I should get some help/advice on it.

My eyes/eyebrows:

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m25t4fyiGP1qepjolo1_1280.jpg


Hers:
http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2hgezr7s91rtkhuoo1_500.jpg

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m2hgy5zTcj1rtkhuoo1_400.jpg

Like the person below said go them them threaded but also her eye brows look rich in colour because she might have filled in her eyebrows with a brown pencil for more definition. You look can find loads of eyebrow kits online and makeup stores
sleek makeup have a really good kit xx

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What is the diferance between a snog and meeting someone??

A snog is a kiss

And meeting someone is well, meeting someone, hanging out?

Inbox for more help

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I hear people calling each other this in general places. I think I know what it is but I'm not sure.I don't know what category this falls under.

A man's penis. But when you use it an insult it's meaning is the same as calling someone an idiot, a jerk , maybe someone who is up themselves etc

It's quite a common insult where I live (uk)

If you are still unsure follow this link
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dick

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Im really into music and i like to update my music pretty often so i was wondering if anyone had any ideas for me. Here's a list of what i like: I have a wide range of music.

Evanescence
Skrillex
John Mayor
Jack Jonson
Florence and the machine
Lil Wyane
Brokencyde

Thank you for your time and Happy New Years!!

Mumford & Sons
Ed Sheeran
Ellie Goulding
Adele
Jessie J
James Blunt

(I looked at the artists you liked and I tried to name similar and great artists you may not know, me being from the uk)

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hi, boyfriend of 2 years got me a xmas card that says, ''you're the love of my life and heart of my christmas''? what does he exactly mean? he has said, i'm the love of his life before as well. thanks.

It's what every girl longs to here

He loves you
He is deeply in love with you
He only wants you.

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My Boyfriend Asked Me If Id Have Sex With Him Im 15 Years Old And I Kind Of Want To But I Want Some Advice. He Got Tested For Aids And All That And He Dont Have Them But I Just Want Some Advice

Not sure exactly what advice you want but all I have to say is if you truly wanted to commit to sex you wouldn't need to come on an advice website. If you are fully ready you would know straightaway, you wouldn't need to think about it, or say "maybe" or kind of want to.

Everyone says it but in a sense you are quite young and it's not until your a bit older you realize. I don't think it's something you should do if you are having to think about. But if you feel like actually I am ready, then all I would say then is use protection, and make sure you are BOTH doing it for the right reasons.

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i have really thick hair, is there any way to make straightening it not as long so i can get up later but still have time to make it stick straight?

I recommend the brazilian blow dry too.

Or if its too pricey make sure you blow dry your hair straight first and then straighten your hair. You can always pop into local hairdressers or more recognisable hairdressers and ask them to recommend some affordable products for you.

Also when you get your hair cut, get them to cut the middle underneath of your hair shorter than the rest of your hair. You won't notice because its underneath but it helps to make sure you hair isn't tangled and not as thick. They can thin your hair out too.

Source - I'm a hair model in london for Rush

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Is there a website with sex positions on it?

http://www.sexinfo101.com/

really good website
shows you how to exactly do it.

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soooo today i dyed my hair red from the bottom layer and i left it for half an hour or more. btw my hair is black & when i came out of rinsing it ! nothing showedd! why is that ? is it cuz my hair is too dark?

It could be because it there is no bleach/peroxide in it. My friend with black hair tries all the time and it never works.

You either need to get a stronger dye, or lighten your hair. After you've lightened it (it could go a brown), leave the hair for a couple of weeks , dying hair damages it. Then put the red on it - but be aware if it's not permament, or maybe semi your hair could go a ginger colour after it washes out so it's important to choose the right shades.

What I find if I am unsure is go into your local hair dressers and just ask for their advice, then you'll know what to do. And if you have money, get it done at the hairdressers, it's always better.

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Hi.
I'm 13 and male. I am so different from all of my peers and most of them make fun of me. Today i found a typo in a book which we were reading and i pointed it put to a person iny group and she said tht is why people don't like me. How do i fix all of this and be accepted? Again, i'm vry different. I overuse the dictionary and listen to classical music. Plr
Please help! Ron777

Firstly your 13. These "friends" aren't going to be your friends forever - so don't even bother trying to change yourself for them. Have you thought about they need to change - and if you asked them to, would they? NO, so don't you change. You're great.

You and your "friends" have different interests and that's fine. You don't need to fix anything, why would you want to be accepted by people who can't accept the real you?? If you change they are only accepting the fake you.

I would suggest you keep being your lovely self and try to find other friends with similar interests. You like classical music? Ever thought about learning an instrument, there are always classical music groups at school or around the local area. I don't what other interests you have but I suggest you join a few groups and find some new friends. You have nothing to lose. If you don't like it - don't go back.

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