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So my question is the one below this with my bf and I for 3 years.
You really gave good advice and its comforting when you know your not the only one going through something this horrible.
I'm just in a limbo right now because he hasn't tried to see me/bailed last night by just not texting me back when we had plans. And then said sorry he fell asleep. And I said I understood. Wish I saw him more and told him I loved him. He didn't respond :/ I'm freaking out because it kinda seems like he doesn't care at all. And I hate not knowing. Like what are we gonna do for new years? Are we still exchanging gifts? But I'm sick of texting him because it leads to disappointment. He said he wanted to make it work and try again last weds...but now it seems like I'm disposable to him and he could care less about me? :/ I feel like I'm close to losing him forever. I want to talk to him so bad. But he barely responds and stuff. Plus I have no idea if I'm still going to the game with him on new years? He invited me on Fri? :( I'm so stressed out. And I just want to be happy and confident knowing that things will work out. But I feel like if we break up we won't get back together this time. :/ plus its the holidays :/ please help :(
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Yes we are so in the same situation.
I've been in it twice now.
When they don't respond it really feels like they don't care, it feels like you are going to lose them forever.
You go crazy, you get a little insecure. Don't be. You had 3 lovely years together, come on, he loves you! Those feelings don't disappear, those feelings are not going to change.
Recently me and my boyfriend have spoken, but if he hasn't spoken to you it doesn't mean he doesn't care. He made the decision to end it with you - he has to ride it out and see what it feels like to be alone, to make a mistake - to realise that he made a mistake in ending it with you. I guarantee you, take my word for it, I bet he is going crazy, but he is trying to do the right thing and give you both space.
There might be a little bit of mind games going on there. It's tempting to do so with someone vunerable but I don't know what he is like.
I'm going to be alone on new years :( But don't go chasing him, honestly. It sounds cheesy but he will come back, he just needs time to think and realise what he has done. If he cannot be assed to even let you know what is going on for New years - dont go making the effort. You aren't in a relationship, you aren't required to do so.
Don't get over him, that's not what I am saying but he ended it with you. You've got to prove to yourself that you can be on your own ( whether you like it or not is another matter) You need to be strong for yourself.
I am the same. I really want to know things are going to work out and I am inpatient but there are some things you just cannot rush. You gotta let it run it's natural course, your relationship is no more, you have to accept it for now and spend some time on yourself.
I don't know why he bailed but I can tell you I bailed on my boyfriend. I was too scared to see him, it was too early, so instead of thinking he doesn't give a shit, maybe he just can't handle seeing you.
There are so many should of would of could ofs and as much as it's nice to hear them from each other it only sugar coats your issues.
If you want to talk to him, then do so. But I know why you want to. You want to see if he is missing you, if he is upset, you want him to say all the things you want to hear. And after you have found out those answers then what?
I honestly truly believe that true love lives on and you two will work it out. He is still going to be there 3 months down the line, don't worry, you are the best thing to happen to him! He knows it too.
Sounds cheesy but give it time.
If you need to talk to him, then do so
just don't depend in him emotionally because you feel alone.
Like I said situate yourself around good people who care about you and you will be surprised just how much you can be ok by yourself for the time being.
Message me and keep me updated!
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