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i use to have a mental sickness. i think it cause me to afraid of everything. i afraid that my relationship with someone i loved would affect her. i am scared cause actually i am a famous person. i am scared of all that i had to face would affect her. i am tired of everything. so, i broke up with her. people around me always said everything is my fault. i lost my parents. i live alone. people around me always said that i would just end it. maybe this is the end. (link)
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if you have a mental sickness then whatever is going on is not your self. it is great that you are aware of this and are trying to fix things. you have had a very hard time with your parents and your relationship but just know that things do get better and a lot of the time things get better right as they seem the worst. you have nowhere to go but up do not think that this is the end. it is not the end. you should get help for your mental illness go to a hospital and start getting treatment. try to get in contact with any family or friends that you have and maybe but an ad on craigslist or something to try to find a roomate. it would probably be helpful to live with something. if you make it cheap enough (can be as low as 0 since you are now paying for it all yourself anyways) it is more likely that you will find someone. i would also trying getting a job or even volunteering or joining some sort of club or group so that you can be around people who are better for you. goodluck with everything.
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I am a 15 year old girl who recently got dumped. For 3 days straight I didn't eat and all I did was cry at random times of the day. I'm better now and I'm not in hysteria like I was before but Im lonely especially at lunch. None of my friends have the same lunchtime as me except for my ex who I used to eat lunch with and a few others who I can never find. I've gotten used to it and now in trying to get over him. You see we have the same class after lunch and he only talks to me when he needs something like my phone or paper. Today we were completing a study guide and I was about to finish when he asked to copy. I gave it to him and was so happy when he thanked me. Thinking about it now makes me feel pathetic. I'm not over him obviously. I can't help but want to help him out when he needs it even if he treats me like a stranger the rest if the time. Do you think this is beacause I need human interaction since I have no one to talk to during a time I should be or that deep inside I'm just desperate to be taken back? This whole thing makes me feel like an idiot. (link)
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everyone gets like that. you cant help but wanting to help them and do nice things for people you care about / have any excuse to talk to them or have them give you attention. it is natural. however if you want him to take you seriously and for you to feel better about yourself you need to stop. he broke up with you, dont let him push you around. if he needs paper and you have theres no reason be immature and say no but if he is asking you for things that are actually annoying then your allowed to say no. at least dont go out of your way to help him and dont seem too eager or happy about it.
i dont think it is that you need human interaction. you had a boyfriend and an ex before that and have friends. just because they dont have the same lunch time as you does not make you pathetic.
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Okay, so I've known this boy for over a year now I'm quite close to him and his friends and we would all normally have a drink together on the weekends. He's so fun and I really like him, he gets along so well with my family and always jokes about how we'll end up together someday. He would stay over in my house occasionally after a night out but nothing ever goes further than a kiss, well that was the case until last week. We slept together and its been nearly two weeks and I haven't had so much as a text which isn't unusual because we only really speak at the weekends. Am I reading too much in to things? I really like this guy and I know he isn't the kind of person that would use me. If this is only a casual thing how can I turn it into something more serious? id appreciate some help please. (link)
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honestly most of the time if it means someting to them and they want to continue they would text you. but it could be that he just doesnt know what to say or is confused/scared. some boys wait a wierdly long time before texting girls or sometimes you have to let it happen by accident one more time and then at that point they 100% would have to text you if they want it to be something more.
i wouldnt read too much into it yet hopefully you guys will hang out one weekend again soon and see what happens from there.
maybe mid hook up next time as things are escalating say someting like "well i dont know if i can do this i dont usually hookup with people who dont text me after" (but phrase it a lot better) and say it in playful and teasing tone but it forces him to adress it and explain if he has an explanation. also lets him know that you want him to text you and want something more seirous so that if thats what he wants also he can try.
doesnt need to be exactly like that but just do something subtle to let him know your interested and to pursue it if he is.
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im really scared. i had surgery on my nose a little while ago because i broke it. and now everytime i talk my nose feels really strange. am i hallucinating or shuld i tell someone? (link)
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its normal for your nose to feel numb or tingly or sensitive etc or to not be able to move properly for a few weeks or even months after surgery. but if it has been more than 3 months or if it is causing you significant pain it might be an issue. i would see your doctor.
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Does the no contact method really work for an ex boyfrien? (link)
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no. i tried that and literally a year and half later you can still end up fixating on them.
only way is to start moving on with other people even if you dont like them you dont need to stay with them but just try stuff out and you slowly discover good qualities in other people that the original person lacked and see more and more why they are not for you.
also a lot of the attachment is just from liking the drama and history and wanting something to think and talk about so starting to move on will help with all of that.
after a while you can see the guy and not even have feelings left for him.
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okay i am a 13/f in middle okay. i went with this boy name j. okay during our relationship he seem like he was afarid to speak to me. so i broke up with him for another reason. now he speak to me like everyday now and be my friend.
I wonder why he would do that to me?
What does this mean?
please help.
~thanks (link)
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he wants to get back togeter with you.
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Hi,
I am a 19 year old male who just moved out of my house to start college. I live alone and lately I've just been feeling kinda lonely and sad. For some reason I just feel the need for a companion, a girl, just somebody. Whenever I see people at school who are really happy I just feel like I need that and want a girl to love me. I don't know. Like when I'm at home, I just feel so bored and apathetic, like nothing to look forward to. (link)
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you should definately find a companion. a lot of people get lonely in college especially living alone. i would suggest joining some clubs or groups or getting to know the people that live in your building. even taking classes that are smaller and easier to get to know people. even going to parties or clubs can sometimes lead to meeting people you stay in touch with. i would also suggest studying and doing work in public places even by yourself just to feeel more lively.
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Im 16 and he's 17. We been together for 10months. We fight so much and im not sure how to stop it. The littlest things cause it. He's cheated on me about 4 months ago so I have a big trust concern so I wanna look at his phone and I want him to make sure every girl he talks to knows he has a gf but he doesn't like that. We fight about me going on his instagram page, asking to see his phone, mentioning if the person hes texting knows he has a gf or not, even if he hugs another girl I get so pissed. I feel like now everybody is a threat. I don't know how to get over it and stop... (link)
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have to agree, in my experience once things get like this they only get worse. unless he has done someting significant to prove himself that your not including in the question i think he is bad for you. if he broke your trust and was truly sorry he would understsnd your concern and be okay with you chekcing his phone etc. he clearly doesnt understand the magnitude of what he did wrong.
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Sooo, I just started dating this guy about a week ago. He's really nice and whatnot. But, my previous, and also first boyfriend, would get really mad at me whenever I didn't kiss him. It was my first kiss, but I don't like telling people that because it sucked (he's also my second boyfriend after my previous one). I hated it. I'm scared to kiss him. I told him why and he kind of backed off which made me feel better. I want to kiss him. I just freak out about it. He tells me I need to boost my confidence but I don't know what else to do. I know I'll have to do it someday. I'm even nervous about it just typing this! I've asked friends and everything, but they're no help. Someone with experience or something help me! :( (link)
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everyone is nervous about this stuff in the beggining but honestly almost no one who has actually done it a few times still has the fear. its natural to be nervous just know that for the most part things always work out fine. and even if its not perfect the first time, which honestly is the case very often, it gets better. you guys will learn and get better together and eventually find your speed / comfort zone. give it time. i have had many kissses that started off very bad and ended up amazing, you just need time to get used to it and adjust. this boy likes you, he will enjoy kissing you regaurdness. just be comfortable with him and even be honest about your worry and he can help calm you down. boys usually think its cute when you do stuff like that.
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I startd chattin with a guy and when I askd my close friend about him she said she knos him and I should stay away from him she also called him some names.. When I asked her why she's sayin all these she didn't give me an answer.. So I continued talkin woth dis guy to see if his really what she says he is.. One day he was goin thru my phone and saw her picture and this was the conversation,he said "so you kno dis girl, and I said yes and den he said I don't like her and I said she doesn't like yhu eida infact she didn't want me to hang out with you" now my friend knos that I told him and she txt me did you tell him what I said what should I do I am confused (link)
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explain to her how you only mentioned it because he saw the picture and brought up how he doesnt like her. also maybe say that he said he feels like she doesnt like him and you just agreed.
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My boyfriend and i had a huge quarrel and we haven't said a word to each other since then.. Its been three days now and he hasn't called.. I sent him 3 messages and his not replying his been giving me the silent treatment since what can I do somebody pls tell me what to say to him I don't want to loose my boyfriend (link)
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i dont know what the fight was about or how bad it was but text him something like "i know your mad but i realyl dont want to lose you can we please talk? you at least owe me that"
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I have been battling suicide for as long as i can remember. It started because i was being abused by my brother and i had parents who didnt help me or support me when i tried seeking help.
My only outlet was self harm and taking my friends left over valium.
Neither seem to help block it out anymore. I have no coping resources and ive always felt like i dont belong here, like im an alien. I have wanted to kill myself for a while but i always chicken out. How do i do this? (link)
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please dont kill yourself. you are so young and your life is just beggining. i know everything seems horrible now and doesnt seem like it will get better but i promise it will. please go through hard times so they can get stronger. i know it seems hard to beleuive but everything happens for a reasons and for all you know everything could turn around and your life can become completely different. whatever problems you have right now are not going to be in your life forever, youll have so many oportunities for things to get better and i promise you that they will. please dont miss out on all the good things to come just because your in pain right now. you have so much more left to experience it would be horrible to never even find out what you missed. please please please dont kill yourself.
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I have best friend which is a guy, he did something that upsets me. Well, he just made me look like a foolish girl. He wants me to be his BFF again but i made a condition.He will write a letter to me of how important our friendship is, He didn't wrote any but we are normal friends. (link)
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seeing as you didnt explain what he did wrong im not really sure but if whatever he did was something really bad then he should definatly apologize and show that he is sorry before you go back to being normal with him. the same thing happened with me and my guy best friend and once we talked about it and he apologized i felt much better.
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hi im 13 and i really like this guy;ive know him for a very long time because our mums were friends when they were in high school...he lives in france so i dont get to see him much even if he comes to see us(in england) at least twice a year.
i really like him and i want to ask him out but i dont know if he has already got a girlfriend...we've lots in common and i think he really likes me but i dont know if he like,likes me or if he just likes me as a friend.
he once invited me to the cinema and we went but would that like a date?we've never kissed or anything though...
should i ask him out?if so how?does he love me?how can i be sure?!
thanks for reading (link)
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before anything you should find out if he has a girlfriend, just to save yourself from a potentially really awkward situation. if he doesnt then clearly you really like him and you should do something subtle to let him know so that if he feels the same way hel make a move. also realize long distance relationships can get complicated especially seeing as you are only 13 so just be careful before you get in too deep.
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what does it mean if a guy texts you every day but he doesnt make significant conversation? like he contacts me every day but he only gives me a few words in his texts? he knows im into him (link)
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if he is making an effort to contact you he obviously wants to talk to you. someone boys are just bad at caryying on a conversation over text or probably because he knows you are in to him he assumes you will make the effort to make the conversation. its up to you to keep up the conversation and make it more exciting. however if he acts wayy too disinterested then try ignoring himv a little so he gets the point that he has to try harder.
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Im a girl in high school , its been about 4 weeks since I broke up with my ex. I didn't take it to well until just recently so I decided to txt him we agreed to keep in contact as friends. He called today saying that I have to stop texting him because it was affecting him. After that he send me a text saying it was affecting his new relationship. I feel incredibly stupid and hopeless I thought I was over him. I don't mind anymore loosing him as a boyfriend but not having him in my life at all hurts more than I could imagine I don't want to go back to feeling so bad. Any advice ? i really need somebody (link)
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being close to your ex is usually a bad idea. if you want to have contact with him so badly it is probably becasue you still have feelings for him weather you realize it or not. i know this is not what you want to hear but you should stop talking to him. at least for a while. if he is already ina new realtionship and you two are over, move on. the longer you dont talk to himt he easier it will get. i promise you it seems impossible now but soon enough you wont care to talk to him so much anymore. try moving on with someone new or finding something to get your mind off him.
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Some parts of the following are kinda embarrasing so bare with me. So I am a 13 year old girl. I go through these weird two phases that are SO different! One of them is masterbation. I don't normally do it but if you averaged it, probably twice a month. The other phase is wearing diapers and watching baby shows. Nobody knows about either of these phases. And these phases come randomly. Right now I am going through both of them and it is really wierd!!! I have masterbated, made homemade diapers, and watched Baby Lonney Tunes today. Ugh, the one phaes that bothers me the most is the masterbating one. Because it is possibly a sin and I am Christian. There is nothing wrong with watching Baby Looney Tunes.... (link)
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as for the first issue. im not christian so i dont really know how big of a sin it is for yuo guy but im pretty sure its fairly common. but if you feel strongly that you shouldnt do it, like all things with religion you need to see past your desires and make sacrafices for your beleifs. it will be hard at first but soon enough itl be like you never started.
as for the diapers and loony tunes thing. theres nothing weird about watching looney tunes so dont worry. but the diapers i confused me. are you potty trained? do you wear them for fun or becasue you need them? if you actually need them to stop from wetting yourself you should see someone about that because at age 13 thats not healthy. if its just for fun im not gunna lie its a little weird but theres nothing necicarily wrong with it so i guess carry on but maybe try and find a new form of entertainment.
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I like a guy and I have a feeling he likes me back, but I don't know for sure. I just have some hints, and my intuition is telling me yes, but my brain is saying no. like we're both pretty much loners in one class, and I used to never pay attention to him even though we sat near each other, and then one day he just started talking to me and we actually have some things in common, and he's pretty funny, but still in a sort of nerdy, geeky way. but its kinda cute. he normally keeps to himself, or talks to a few other guys occasionally, but when i'm talking to him he becomes pretty talkative.
But is it true that a guy will not make an effort to be friends with an attractive girl if he doesn't want something more? I'm not narcissistic, but I know I'm not ugly or anything. I guess I have low self-esteem cause I constantly feel like crap, and then I'd look in the mirror and realize there was nothing wrong with me at all.
I'm not even sure if I'm ready for a relationship though. I'm terribly awkward, and have never even been kissed and I'm 18. But he also seems to be kind of like that, so does this mean that we'll forever be in the friend zone? I don't even know what I want, I just can't help feeling attracted to him, and occasionally fantasizing about him. We're both single, and there's just obvious chemistry, even though we don't even know each other that well.
I find I'm subconsciously flirting with him, but I'd never make an obvious move cause at the same time I'm still afraid of rejection and being so intimate with someone. but i cant help from smiling when i'm talking with him, joking around, and I sometimes have trouble maintaining eye contact. we don't see each other outside of school, too, so idk how that will even work. this is such an awkward situation! i feel really embarrassed just typing this
also, the idea of being in a relationship kind of freaks me out because I don't want to be scrutinized by other kids at school over it, especially since it would be interracial and my community isnt exactly colorblind, unfortunately. I wouldn't want to bring attention to myself like that. and we dont even live near each other so how would that work. and we're about to graduate and all go our separate ways
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as for your question in the title, the answer is no. if your intension is to just be friends with him (which it doesnt really seem like it is) then that almost never works if the freinds are atrartcted to eachother.
as for the rest - you seem to like him a lot and you should trust your intuiation because if you get the vibe that he likes you, and your pretty and he talks to you, chances are you really have no reason to fear getting rejected.
as for the being unexpereinced and awkward part- been there done that i promise it is much less of an issue than you would think
as for the last paragraph- dont worry first of all you dont need it to be an official relationship and make a big deal of it, just see where things go and keep it lowkey and no one will judge. the more you try and hide something or make it a big deal the more people judge. if you act like its no big deal everyone else will too.
just be a little obvious about that you like him and let him come to you.
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well im 15 and my boyfriend is 16 we have been dating for nearly a month? and i've gave him a hand job and a blow(done it with boys before), and he wants to return the faviour but i want to let him in just scared incase something is wrong with me 'down there' to be honest i dont think there is anything wrong but i just dont know? does anyone else have any tips so i can get over this low self confidence?... please help... just i've never let anyone touch me down there.. yes im a virgin obviously... (link)
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theres really not much to be worried about. chances are there isnt anything wrong with you, and if there is, boys are fairly uneducated on that part of women and probably wouldnt notice or care anyways. dont worry so much .
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I love my boyfriend alot but sometimes he wants to move too fast in our relationship if you know what i mean... I dont want to hurt his feelings but i always tell him no when i feel too uncomfortable and then he gets either really upset or mad. I don't know what to do, please help me.
-Takeitslowbabe (link)
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relationsships should always be that the guy wants to go further than the girl. they will always be a little bit upset when you dont want to go further but in the end they are usually just testing out how far you are willing to go, theyre always gunna keep trying until you stop them. So either compromise with him and be willing to go a little further, or tell him that your not ready yet and either hell understand or if not then the relationship probably wasnt the best anyways.
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