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Can a guy + a girl be just friends if they are both attracted to each other
I like a guy and I have a feeling he likes me back, but I don't know for sure. I just have some hints, and my intuition is telling me yes, but my brain is saying no. like we're both pretty much loners in one class, and I used to never pay attention to him even though we sat near each other, and then one day he just started talking to me and we actually have some things in common, and he's pretty funny, but still in a sort of nerdy, geeky way. but its kinda cute. he normally keeps to himself, or talks to a few other guys occasionally, but when i'm talking to him he becomes pretty talkative.
But is it true that a guy will not make an effort to be friends with an attractive girl if he doesn't want something more? I'm not narcissistic, but I know I'm not ugly or anything. I guess I have low self-esteem cause I constantly feel like crap, and then I'd look in the mirror and realize there was nothing wrong with me at all.
I'm not even sure if I'm ready for a relationship though. I'm terribly awkward, and have never even been kissed and I'm 18. But he also seems to be kind of like that, so does this mean that we'll forever be in the friend zone? I don't even know what I want, I just can't help feeling attracted to him, and occasionally fantasizing about him. We're both single, and there's just obvious chemistry, even though we don't even know each other that well.
I find I'm subconsciously flirting with him, but I'd never make an obvious move cause at the same time I'm still afraid of rejection and being so intimate with someone. but i cant help from smiling when i'm talking with him, joking around, and I sometimes have trouble maintaining eye contact. we don't see each other outside of school, too, so idk how that will even work. this is such an awkward situation! i feel really embarrassed just typing this
also, the idea of being in a relationship kind of freaks me out because I don't want to be scrutinized by other kids at school over it, especially since it would be interracial and my community isnt exactly colorblind, unfortunately. I wouldn't want to bring attention to myself like that. and we dont even live near each other so how would that work. and we're about to graduate and all go our separate ways
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as for your question in the title, the answer is no. if your intension is to just be friends with him (which it doesnt really seem like it is) then that almost never works if the freinds are atrartcted to eachother.
as for the rest - you seem to like him a lot and you should trust your intuiation because if you get the vibe that he likes you, and your pretty and he talks to you, chances are you really have no reason to fear getting rejected.
as for the being unexpereinced and awkward part- been there done that i promise it is much less of an issue than you would think
as for the last paragraph- dont worry first of all you dont need it to be an official relationship and make a big deal of it, just see where things go and keep it lowkey and no one will judge. the more you try and hide something or make it a big deal the more people judge. if you act like its no big deal everyone else will too.
just be a little obvious about that you like him and let him come to you.
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