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Nervous just thinking about Kissing! How do I overcome this?
Sooo, I just started dating this guy about a week ago. He's really nice and whatnot. But, my previous, and also first boyfriend, would get really mad at me whenever I didn't kiss him. It was my first kiss, but I don't like telling people that because it sucked (he's also my second boyfriend after my previous one). I hated it. I'm scared to kiss him. I told him why and he kind of backed off which made me feel better. I want to kiss him. I just freak out about it. He tells me I need to boost my confidence but I don't know what else to do. I know I'll have to do it someday. I'm even nervous about it just typing this! I've asked friends and everything, but they're no help. Someone with experience or something help me! :(
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Dear Sweet Soul,
I laugh when I read this because it sounds like me when I was young. I was the same way. Lol. I found that the only way that I could kiss them was if I held my hand over my eyes, sounds crazy, but it worked for me and that was all that mattered.
When you learn to LOVE yourself the fear will fade away. So embark on the journey to Self Love and you will live a joyous life!
I am now grown with two children and married, but I sure do remember the "strange" ways that I used to operate on.
Best of luck friend!
Much Love, Light, Healing, and Blessings to you and all you Love. <3
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It's totally normal to feel nervous about kissing. You need to move at your own pace. When I had my first kiss, it was about a month or two into the relationship. He didn't pressure me at all. You need to feel completely comfortable or else you just won't enjoy it. If he pushes you about it or you kiss before you're ready, you just won't enjoy it. Kissing is natural and it happens when the time is right.
So, him telling you that you need a confidence boost isn't going to help. If he brings it up again then just explain that you're not ready and you don't want to feel pressured into it. You care about him but you just want to wait until the time is right. If he cares about you, he won't bring it up and he'll wait until you are ready.
But besides that, you don't need to stress out about it. Kissing is supposed to be fun and no one is ever going to be perfect in the beginning. My first kiss was just a peck and you don't need to be making out for your first kiss. When you're comfortable around him, it'll come naturally.
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everyone is nervous about this stuff in the beggining but honestly almost no one who has actually done it a few times still has the fear. its natural to be nervous just know that for the most part things always work out fine. and even if its not perfect the first time, which honestly is the case very often, it gets better. you guys will learn and get better together and eventually find your speed / comfort zone. give it time. i have had many kissses that started off very bad and ended up amazing, you just need time to get used to it and adjust. this boy likes you, he will enjoy kissing you regaurdness. just be comfortable with him and even be honest about your worry and he can help calm you down. boys usually think its cute when you do stuff like that.
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