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Q: Yeah, I know I could look it up by typing the lyrics. HOWEVER, I just know that there's a few times in the song when "Laalalalaaa, la la laalalaa" or something similar is sung. It's upbeat, a recent song and it's a female sounding voice.

Anyone know what I'm talking about? :)

You might also be thinking of Pink's "Please don't Leave me"

Q: Okay, well you know how some people's eyebrows have those really nice, high arches?! well no matter how hard i try, i can never seem to make one that looks completely natural and normal. Does it have to be like,just the way your eyebrow grows? Or can you make them? If so, would it be best to go to a place were they wax them? Thanks haha ;D

If you want to get your eyebrows shaped nicely, you should go to a salon to get them waxed. You can try plucking them yourself, but that's painful and takes forever. Also, do NOT try and wax your own eyebrows! Oy, I can only see that turning out badly.

Keep in mind that if you start getting your eyebrows waxed it is very hard to stop. It can become costly because growing back your eyebrows looks kind of weird, so it's best to keep them shaped.

Q: what are some things i can do to make my guy hard without acting like a slut...we make out alot and everything but what gets a guy hard? thanks

Do you touch his penis? I mean...that's really the best way to get him hard is physical contact. Especially if it's not specifically ON the penis but around that area. Like, kiss his hip bones and swirl your tongue around it. Also try whispering things in his ear, kissing his neck, use your tongue wherever you feel comfortable. He'll like it.

Q: I need to find a teacup poodle breeder in Illinios.Perferably near Chicago.

thanks =]

I found this one:

http://classifieds2.breedersclub.net/index.php?page=out&id=11724

They're in Buffalo Grove. That's the closeset to the Chicago area I could find. :) Generally just googling something like this will turn up with results!

Q: I have a politics essay tomorrow, and we haven't been given the topic. However, I made up a few of my own topics so I could practice.
What I want to know is, if you have a essay topic like "Australia is more democratic than the USA" Can you give reasons why it is and it isn't? Or is it better to argue from one point of view? I've just been arguing from one point of view, but I'm not sure whether teachers always expect a comparison.
And in cases like "To what extent to both countries uphold democratic values?" do I have to argue one point of view too? i.e. they both don't, or they both do? I just want to know the right way to do it so I achieve the highest possible marks.

I will rate. Thanks for your help.

I think you should pick one point to argue over, but bring up ways that the other point may be argued. For example, "Some might say that Austrailia is not as democratic because...((I have no idea)).., but this is not the case" So bring up opposing arguments and then refute them. It will make it seem like your position is the obvious answer.

The second way sounds a bit too complicated, just because you will probably find things that are the same with both countries and it will be hard to keep the paper going. But if you do choose this topic, I would argue the same point for both of them.

If you have any more questions, feel free to send them my way!

Q: I'm planning to play in my school's idol competition but we can't find a bassist. I was wondering if a keyboard can replace a bass. Also, is there any site where I can fine bass NOTES??? Not tabs or chords, I'd prefer notes since you can't really do tabs on a keyboard.

Thanks

I would agree that you should use piano notes instead of bass notes, because pianos and basses might be in a different key. It won't sound exactly like a bass, but you could use a keyboard to make a simulated "bass sound". If you don't have that option, it is feasible to replace it with just a normal piano sound, but it would sound about an octave too high.

Q: Dols vhyl danya

Can anyone tell me what that means in English? apparently it's ukrainian.

Hmm...well, to me it looks like the Russian way of saying "goodbye". (Which is 'До свидания' or 'Dasvidanya') Since Ukrainian and Russian are very similar languages, I would guess that's probably what it means.

Q: So, basically I have these problem areas that I've been working on for atleast the past year. I guess you could call them "love handles", my abs, and my inner thighs. I do curl ups (like 100 a night), these one leg things like 25 a night, and i dont know what to do about myl ove handles. Oh, sometimes I run about a mile.

I don't know what to do anymore.
Nothing helps.
Pleaseeee help. =)

Increase your running, that's the only way. Building muscle does not necessarily mean a decrease in fat. For example, if you want to have smaller thighs, working your inner thigh muscles is actually going to make them seem bigger becuase you will not lose as much fat and you will have bigger muscles. The best way to get rid of love handles is to lose weight through running and other cardio exercises. They aren't the most fun, but they are the most effective.

Q: Hi - anyone who can speak French
I'm having trouble translating this expression and wondered if anyone could help

"he had eyes only for the princess" or "he only had eyes for the princess"

meaning that he loved only her, he didn't look at other girls.

thanks!

Here's what I came up with as the closest expression.

"Il n'avait d'yeux que pour la princesse."

"He only had eyes for the princess"

"he loved only her"

"Il n'amait les filles que la princesse."

Q: I would like some big words and phrases to replace little words. For example, articulate = smart. I would like these words for in the future to be used in school projects and to impress university colleges. So any big words would be good.

---Montrealfan

Go to dictionary.com and select the "thesaurus" option. That will help out a lot! Also, on Microsoft Word, you can right click on a word and click thesaurus. It'll give you a few words. But be sure to look them back up in the dictionary, because the word might be slightly different and change the entire meaning of your sentence!

Q: Whats a good sport for me. I like to run...a lot. But I feel like thats not enough. I am very scared of balls though. Even a Ping Pong ball...so I really dont know what to do!!

AM

P.S. something cheap...I cant really afford expensive equiptment.

If you feel like just running isn't enough, you can try pole vaulting or hurdles. There is running, but other concentration is involved as well. If you join track, you can research the different events and see which one suits you best. Or gymnastics! There is a lot of exercise involved in gymnastics, and often you are required to run to get the proper momentum for a trick. It's not quite as much running as you are probably used to, but on the plus side...no balls!

Q: I was just wondering, do y'all spend more time with your bf/gf or with your friends?

If you're worried about dividing the time between the two, go on group dates and then you can have both at the same time! But my friends and I have always gone for a "boobs before balls" lifestyle, hang out with your friends because they'll be there for you even if the guy breaks up with you!

Q: I'm an 18-year-old female and lately my hair has been falling out like crazy. It's mostly when I brush it but even with just running my hand threw it, some still comes out. When I run my hand threw it's maybe like, 6 strands or so. But, when brushing it's like a wad of hair.

My hair used to be really thick and now it's like half of what it used to be about 7 months ago. That's alot of hair to loose!! I'm really scared because it seems like I'm going bald of something. My friends say it's stress but quite honestly, I have nothing to be stressed about!

Does anyone have any ideas???

Have you changed your diet at all? A drastic change in diet could lead to hair loss. If you're in college, chances are you're eating differently than you would at home. But I must agree with your roommate, stress is the main cause of hair loss. If you can't find any reason for this, go to a doctor! My brother had this condition called "alopecia areata", it gave him a bald spot in fourth grade. I'm not sure you have the symptoms for that, but it's something a doctor would know! They always have answers. :-D

Also, if you brush your hair excessively, it tends to fall out.

Q: Is there a plain Dance Dance Revolution for Gamecube? All I've found is the Mario Mix one.

No, the only game offered is the Mario one. Sorry! However if you have an X-box, I know they do sell it for that as well as playstation. (Sorry I couldn't give you any good news!)

Q: My boyfriend and I are constantly getting into debates about everything, especially religion and politics. We usually don't get that worked up, but I'm afraid it's going to do our relationship damage in the long-run. Is debating normal? Or should we avoid doing it in case we start fighting and potentially ruin our relationship? Do other people have experience with this...?

16/f

I think this is actually a good thing, although maybe not to the extreme it seems you are getting to. It seems to me that perhaps you are being slightly too wary about this, you shouldn't avoid having an intelligent discussion in case you start fighting! That's just dumbing your relationship down! It's a good thing that the two of you are able to carry on conversations with differing opinions, but if you or your boyfriend start to get a little aggressive, you should just "agree to disagree". Tell him exactly how you are feeling, that these talks are interesting, but you are scared of them getting over the top. Overall, I think it is wise that you continue these conversations, but if they start to get a little more argumentative than sharing of opinions, quickly end the discussion and move on to something less controversial.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been together for a year nnow, i love him so much. but my problem is i have had dreams that ive been making out[and more] with guys (that i know like me) and in my dreams i feel happy when i cheat, but when i wake up i feel horribl. anyone know what is going on?
15/f

You're probably just enjoying the attention that the other guys give you. Most likely, they are on your mind a lot because having somebody like you can actually be a stressful thing. Also, subconciously you are wondering what it would be like to date another guy. A year is a long time to be dating somebody when you're fifteen, so your mind is thinking about change. I'm not saying you should break up with your boyfriend though, not at all! I'm saying it's more...human nature..for you to dream about other guys that like you if you've been going out with the same guy for a year. It's the guilt you feel when you wake up that's important, because that shows that you truly want to be with your boyfriend!

Q: Ok, this is a total random question and is basically for anyone who has seen a ballet. Im in my ballet studio's The Nutcracker and Im the sugar plum fairy, I was wondering should I smile? would it make it less graceful or better?

I was in the Nutcracker when I was younger. (Granted I was three, and I was the gingerbread, so you couldn't see my face...) I seem to remember that our Sugar Plum Fairy did smile, but you have to do it in a graceful manner. I'm sure if you're the Sugar Plum Fairy you've had experience with the type of smiling most people do in ballet if their role permits it. I would ask your instructor though. If s/he has a certain vision for the fairy, they won't like you to change it. (Not to say that they don't want a little bit of your own creativity!)If you think you ought to smile, suggest it to your instructor and see what they think.

Q: I'm in this advanced choir. There's this new girl who just joined. She's 13, like me, only she's a grade ahead of me (I'm a 7th grader). I have to admit, she's pretty good. Everyone knows that she's got this beautiful high voice, a little like Sarah Brightman's. She's a bitch! She's always flaunting her voice. During camp, we all had to watch this documentary on opera, and she goes "I bet I could sing opera..." Jesus! She's only 13, right?!!!! She had to share a bunk with me. She's was a disgusting bunk mate. She was always spilling her milk all over my papers, bringing food into the dorm, not eating it, and soon there would be moldy peaches everywhere. She can NEVER stop talking about herself. It's always me, me, me, me, me, my voice, my hair, and my boyfriend. Once she was talking about herself and says "my friend and I were watching the Phantom of the Opera and I could sing that really high note at the end of the song 'The Phantom of the Opera.' " She sings the note and asks "Can you sing it?" So I tried, and of course I couldn't, because I'm not even a soprano, and she goes "ha-ha! i can sing the high E and you're all strained up. That's hilarious..." and goes off into another monologue about herself. Now I have to sit on the risers right next to her, and she's getting worse. She's also a brownnoser. She's always sucking up to our choir teacher, and so on...what can I do to put up with her? I don't want anyone to say "talk to her about it." It's not like she's my friend or anything.

You can sort of play a game with her, make her seem better than she is. I've been stuck with choir snobs too (I'm in an advanced choir, and there's this girl who's well...NOT..and she always tells me what my choir is doing wrong.)

If she says, "I can sing a high E and you can't!"

just say, "Yeah, well I guess that means you must be better than me." or "You're right. You must be the best person in this choir." in a totally normal voice. She's probably not expecting you to "admit" that she's better than you. (even though she's probably not.) It will catch her off gaurd and help her get the hint that you think she's bragging a little too much.

It's probably just a defense mechanism on her part. If she's new, there probably isn't a lot she can relate to in her new enviornment and so she has to talk about herself. It's the only thing she thinks you'll understand. This is the advice my mom gave me when I was getting tortured by the choir snob and it worked really well! She doesn't brag to me anymore. Maybe she still does to other people, but when she's around me she's more concious of it!

Q: tomorrow, my boyfriend is in a play, and I told him I can't come because I have work, so he's REALLY bummed, but really, I'm gonna show up and surprise him. My question is, what should I get him? Like you would get a girl roses for a good performance, so what should you get a boyfriend? Keep it under 10-20 dollars. Just brainstorm a whole bunch of ideas. I don't care whether its unoriginal or really creative. I just cant think of ANYTHING. haha thanks.

My family is really into theater, and every time my brother is in a play we get him chocolate roses, or something else chocolately. That way he's still "getting flowers" but they're cool, because he can eat them. Or really anything chocolate works, like a big Hershey's bar or something small from Fannie May. (If you have those..I don't know..are they still around even? Heh) Once we even got him a chocolate champagne bottle! But it's really not a big deal what you get him, because surprising him by showing up should be the real present! :-D

Q: Hey. Okey so i tried typing this into a online translator but the sentence gets all screwed up..and it's not like its a homework or anything..i want to let this guy i like know that i like him. And you said you know french soo.. Anyway i thought it would be cute to do it in french since that's how we met..he was tutoring me :) anyway this is hwta i'd like translated : Iäm writing to let you know that i can't stop thinking about you. You are constantly on my mind. You are a unforgettable person with an amazing personality. I'd never be able to describe what i like about you..because that would take me forever.
Can you translate that?
THANK YOU soo sooo sooo incredibly much.

Here's my translation of it. I changed it a little bit so that it would make sense in French, but here you go. (I'll write it literally underneath)

Je l'écris pour te dire que je ne peux pas arrêter penser de toi. Je te pense toujours. Tu es un garçon inoubliable avec une personnalité incroyable. Je ne pourrais jamais te décrire... parce que cela prendrait une vie.

I'm writing you this to tell you that I can't stop thinking of you. I think of you always. You are an unforgettable boy with an incredible personality. I will never be able to describe you.... because that would take a lifetime.

Write back if you have any more questions!

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Hiya! I'm dwarp. A crazy 19 year old from Chicago with too much time on her hands.I started this column when I was about 14, I think and I keep coming back. My friends tend to come to me for advice, so I've gotten pretty good at answering most problems. I'm a crazy Greek vegetarian, and yes, I have seen My Big Fat Greek Wedding. It's exactly like my family, so I am really great at answering questions about insane families. I study political science and international studies and I like to learn languages. I speak English, French, German, a bit of Greek, and I'm learning Italian next semester. I've had lots of weirdo love/sex-life experiences, so I'm pretty knowledgeable in that area. Ummm.....ask me anything!
Peace!