I've crammed a lot of experience into my 32 years, it should be available to people.
E-mail: dshannon420@gmail.com
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Age: 32
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First of all, no judgements.
If I were to get pregnant with my boyfriend and before the abortion time limit he decides to stray(cheat, leave me, etc) and I find myself suddenly unable to go through with the pregnancy for whatever reason, does he have a right to say no? In other words, can the law stop me from having an abortion if he doesn't want me to have one?
If that were to happen, I don't see why it would be fair that he makes me go through 9 months of hell so he can have the kid when he was unreliable and irresponsible enough to cheat or leave me... once again, no judgements, please. I just need to know my options.. (link)
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You have nothing to worry about. The ball is all the way in your court.
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Basically my question is, what would you classify me as?
I was a good girl growing up. Like no intercourse or anything. I was locked down in the house getting grades. Then I hit college or in other words freedom. Boys and liquor got introduced. I started to become sexual as in giving and receiving oral. I believe I am sexual to a point, but I am 19 and still a virgin. Yes I said it, 19 and still a virgin. 20 in 17 days! lol I have done many sexual things I am not proud of. Like giving oral to a guys friend 2 months after talking to that guy. I feel like some people would classify me as a slut because of the number of guys I gave oral to. But I am much more than that. I am very loving and caring! But all people see when they see me is, she give good head. I want to start over you know? I like holding onto my virginity so at least I can still hold on to that good girl. So, what would you consider me?
Thankyou if you can get to this question. (link)
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Definitely NOT a slut. I would define being a slut as someone who hands out sex without any emotion or discretion. Sounds like you have both. And congregations on still being a virgin. I know how hard guys try. I know how hard I tried.
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I didn't realize I was such a negative person. But last year was the worst year of my life, and things don't seem to be getting much better this year. I started seeing a therapist.. and idk. School just gets worse and worse. I haven't had a great time at school since elementary school, tbh. Middle school was bad, and high school has been worse. I really want to get into the University of Chicago and now I'm even worried about getting into that.. and I keep feeling angry with myself for not doing as good in high school (I'm a junior) cause it's going to be very hard for me to be accepted there. It just seems like even when I try to do things 110% they still can't happen, so why really try you know? I know other people have failed and succeeded but there's no guarantee you will succeed in the end. Isn't that just naive? I don't want to amount to nothing, but it's so hard to now have much motivation.. even though I have goals and dreams it seems like they can never happen. I've never had a best friend or anything close to a boyfriend. High school hasnt been fun at all. I haven't been invited out with friends for more than a year. When I moved to a new town last year I tried making friends with people when everyone was nice and then they just abandoned me. nobody invites me to things. im uncomfortable doing that but i even tried inviting people to things and they couldnt return the favor to the new girl. even in my old school it was hard. i always felt jealous of other girls who got to hang out with friends often and go to parties and everything. i havent done that at all. this year has been a complete waste. i dont even have anyone on school i can really rely upon.. most days i hardly say anything to people at school, aside from teachers. people just dont want to talk to me and it just makes me feel worse.
And I'm not even ugly or anything. But because nobody really cares about me apart from my family, it makes me feel like I'm ugly. And then when I look at the mirror I'm surprised to find out that I'm just feeling ugly, and that I don't look ugly as I'd expect since nobody really talks to me. I'm not conceited or anything, though. I'm very against cockiness, I like quiet confidence. I dont think I'm very confident, though.. or I wouldn't be having these issues. I think I'm nice.. and like to talk and everything, I guess Im just socially awkward, and it's hard for me to initiate things usually. I spent a lot of my years on the internet.. doing a variety of things. I'm closer to people on the internet than most people I've met IRL. but at the same time it feels sort of empty.. because they have no obligation to continue talking to me and everything... its just an internet friend (link)
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Alienated in Chicago; I can tell by the way you write that you are a very intelligent person who should have no problem excelling at college. It will not be you being lucky to get in, it will be they who will be lucky to have you. ahhhhhh High School. I know its your whole world right now but believe me, ten years from now it will seem like it only lasted a week. The people you are around will fade into memory. Its the same even for the "social butterflies" of the school. I can tell you that some of the rude exclusive people from my school turned out to be the drunks, bums and criminals that they are today. I like that you have a good self image. And I am sure you are not wrong.
New towns are hell on school kids. I changed schools in between middle and High school and had the chance to re-invent myself. Punk rock and skateboarding gave me the "who cares what you think" look. It worked for me.
In conclusion, it is always realistic to be negative because we live in a very negative world but, it is BRAVE to be positive in it, not naive. Also there is a fine line between friend and enemy. With the trouble I got into, I would have wished to be you. Cheer up! don't give up, the race is long, and in the end it is only with yourself.
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okay im 19 and i want to get my own phone but idk wat company to go with. I had tmobile and they are good but idk if i want to stay with them. Its just me on the account and i love androids phone but i also dont have my own source of income so im looking for a cheap bill not super cheap but as cheap as i can get it so which should i pick? Tmobile, at&t, verizon or sprint ONLY no cricket ! (link)
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I agree, to hell with cricket. Also you don't want to be enslaved to AT&T and Apple. Since T-Mobil costs pretty much the same as any other and they will charge you a cancellation fee (maybe)I would stick with them.
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I mean really? Lately, and before people have started stuff saying my boy friend was cheating, or doing something wrong, when he's not the type..and I'm tired of it.
I want it to stop, because it's making me so paranoid ..and I already worry so much.. I love my boy friend and we've been dating a year and 4 months I'm not ready to let go..
How do you deal with this? (link)
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Misery loves company. You must be a happy couple to be having such attention. You have to look at this as a compliment of sorts (if you truly believe him)People are jealous of happiness when it seems so rare and hard to find. Yet every rumor has a seed, don't close your heart, just guard it. Even Christ's disciple was capable of betrayal.
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What do i get my boyfriend for a 9 month aniversory? (link)
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You might want to re word your question. In my world a nine month boyfriend surprise is a baby.
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I am a 33 year old woman who is confused, I have four older siblings who were sexually abused by our grandfather, the closest sibling is six years older than me and when I was six my grandfather died of bowel cancer, he did not have a very prolonged illness maybe 2 years. I am worried that I may have been abused by him as well because of the following:-
1. I distrust men, including family members.
2. I find incest storylines erotic.
3. I have extreme problems with intimacy - hence why I am a 33 year old virgin.
4. I have suffered depression and suicidal attempts from the age of about 7 and as far as I know I had no reason to be unhappy, I was well loved, well fed and housed.
Because I would have been under 4 years old I may not remember it and I am very afraid to ask my mum as she has had several boughts of cancer and already feels she let me down when I was growing up by working so hard. If I know if there is or isn't something wrong I can deal with it, its the not knowing that is the problem.
Thanks for your help in advance. :) (link)
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When the police catch criminals it is usually never their first offense. I had probably smoked four pounds of pot before my first possession ticket. Serial murderers are guilty of far more murders than they are caught and prosecuted for. Speeders offend hundreds of times between tickets. And drunk drivers........It all boils down to the probability that if he offended all your siblings, he probably offended you as well. We remember much from age four. Falling hurts. Stove burns. Crying purges. I believe you know in your heart if you were touched wrongly. Im 31 and have had much the opposite experience, but in the same proportion. See, I was extremely promiscuous when I came of age. You know, the type of boy who counted notches on my belt. I lost count and along the way I lost something else. I sold my innocence for experience. That first kiss rush, falling in love. I too now suffer depression and suicidal thoughts. The difference between us is I can blame myself. You can vent your anger at a grave. I envy that distinction. Please use it because your innocents is intact, just access it.
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My dad was in a car accident a few days ago but doesnt have lawyer money?
He says his neck hurts and it costs 4,000 to get the car fixed and we don't have that money. The airbag stopped him from getting killed. A girl hit my dad real hard on his drivers side and she ran off in her car. My dad was the only one in the car, he was so shook up he didn't get her license plate number. He has insurance and we know nothing about the girl. she drove away when he said he was calling the police. He has witnesses that saw the girl crash into him. The people don't know what the girls name is or where she lives but they know where she hangs out at and they told the police. They did a police report and my dad hasn't got it yet. I don't think he knows what to do about this. We took pictures of the car and he thinks that's all he has to have.We haven't found the girl that hit him and he cant afford a lawyer. He doesn't have $4000 to pay for what the girl did. He thinks he can get a lawyer for free. What is he supposed to do since hes saying his back hurts and the car is wrecked on the side and he cant get a lawyer?
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Adviceman had some good points about legal compensation. Let me add a few about payback. This driver is guilty of hit and run involving an injury. This is a felony. If you know the make model and color and the general area, I would go searching with my camera. See, all accidents leave paint evidence on both cars. No doubt her color is on yours and vice versa. Once you obtain that evidence turn it over to the police. The police can do what's called an accident reconstruction. (the police are not going to be so diligent as to take the initial steps) Basically a computer program that reconstructs the accident and compares the damage on the offenders car with the damage to your fathers. If she is the one the damaged areas will match up like puzzle pieces. Then sue that bitch for the camera the time the gas the injury the damage physical/emotional the lost work time and pain and suffering incurred by the whole family.
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what does being felt up mean? (link)
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This generally means letting someone touch you any way they want. Clothes, no clothes, under clothes.
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I am a 14 year old girl. This guy in my class has a girlfriend but I think he kinda likes me what do I do if I kinda like him back?? We don't talk to each other though. What do I do?! (link)
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Love at your age is so trivial. This so called relationship they are in will probably burn itself out before your class is even over with. So position yourself as a friend now and keep it that way until an opportunity presents itself. I know it sounds like trying to steal him away but, it wont if you just let their thing run its course without interfering, but pounce like a tiger when you get the green light.
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First off sorry if this is in the wrong section, I was torn between two.
15/F
In a few weeks im goin to see my girlfriend and im scared she is going to see my scars on my arm. I started cutting before I met her then did what I could to stop because she made me so happy. But when I go over im scared shes going to see them and start questioning me. U hate talking about it and ive only told one person that i used to cut.
I wear long sleeves whenever I can but its going to be getting hot again soon and im getting really paranoid. Does anyone have any advice to hide them or something?
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I cut. I stopped. I dont hide because that is what made me who I am. Your honesty and transparency will be way more valuable than deceit and lies. I heard once that lying is impossible because you cant remember them all and will eventually contradict yourself. You are who you are, cutting and all. Just let your friend know that was before you learned to love yourself WITH her help!!!!!!!!!!!
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A girl classmate of mine (I'm also a girl) looks at me like I'm an alien or something. I found out that she hates me because when I was walking past her while she was talking to her best friend, I heard her say (they were talking really loud), "I really hate her! She's acts so..." I know that they were talking about me 'cause they said my name. Many people actually has a crush on her, 'cause they think that she's pretty and nice. But they don't know that she calls me mean names sometimes. What should I do? (link)
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I know exactly what is going on here, she feels inferior to you. your probably prettier than she is and obviously more mature. The solution is to kill her with kindness. People like her thrive on conflict, if you take away the conflict, you disarm them. And gain maturity points.
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My friend is really out of shape. She's very uncoordinated, so she doesn't play sports. Almost all of her time during the summer was spent sitting in front of the TV. I've tried to get her motivated to do some excersize, but she won't. She gets stressed easily and she gets frustrated easily, so I think thats a part of why she doesn't want to excersize......maybe because she'll get frustrated when she can't do something. Sometimes I get a little worried about her because she is so out of shape....I don't mean to be rude when I say that....but it's true. How can I motivate her to live a healthier lifestyle by excersizing without nagging her and sounding like I'm being bossy? (link)
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I have swung from heavy to fit a few times. Each swing I took toward fit was because of a job. Tell her to get a job that is moderately physically demanding and the problem will fix itself. The upside of this method is her making money while getting fit, instead of spending money on things that probably wont leaving her broke and fat.
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I have a compaq and it seriously sucks. The battery lasts twenty minutes and it doesn't even go til zero, it dies at 15 percent. When it dies, I have to take the battery out, plug it in first and then put the battery in. Then when it turns on, I have to reconnect to the internet everytime. I want to get a mac for 999.99 but my dad says I don't need it. What do I do? ): (link)
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If your a starbucks drinking, elitist snob, then a mac is perfect for you. If you want to control your computer rather than vice-versa, I recommend finding a super cheap PC (pawn shops are great, especially if they wont boot)you could pick up one of those babies for dirt cheap and order a new motherboard, pirate or buy Windows and bam! High performance computer for like 2-3 bills. Learn a lot about maint. on your computer too. Then, when something breaks you don't have to sell your soul to Steve Jobs for some patch kit. How to do this is all over the net.
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Hello to all and thank you for your interest; this question is open to all! :)
I would like to know your brutally honest opinion about girls with dread locks.
Hot? Gross? Don't care? Let me know!
Thanks for your time!
Blessings :) (link)
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Oh man, good dreads on a girl is super sexy. Just not the hobo haven't showered all year hippie thing, that is gross but, well done dreads on a decent looking girl would turn my head.
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When a guy asks you to drip him off, what does that mean? (link)
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Its probably some urban version of jerk or suck him off. And if you need to know what those things are Im not sure this is the place.
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Almost 15/F Guy is 20/M...
I've been talking to a guy online and he's from a different country. I like meeting new people, but at first he came off really strong.
He would call me, and text me, and comment on my pictures on facebook, which really was uncomfortable.
I texted him back and told him that he was being stalker-ish, at that time, he backed off and we became sorta "civil".
I have trust issues with guys, A LOT of trust issues, and I can't find myself to trust this guy much, but I am still talking to him.
He acts like he's met be before, and it's not freaky, I'm only curious. He asked me if he could call me sweetie, and I didn't really care, so I told him sure. Sometimes he asks me if I missed him when we don't talk and we'll have in depth conversations, which is nice because my guy best friend doesn't know half the stuff about me that this guy is guessing about.
It is nice to have someone to talk to that really gets me.
Anyways, how should I tell him to "back off" nicely? I don't want him to say sorry, I just want him to know that.....I don't know how to explain it. Maybe that: I don't understand why he is getting so close to me and saying things to me like that. (link)
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The huge answer says it all. I will just add that as life goes on you will be in this position again and again. You need to learn to grow some balls and to hell with if "it sounds mean". At your age four out every five guys your age are going to try the same shit. A twenty year old has no business even communicating with you. You will find that exercising your backbone can feel very liberating and will prepare you for a world where the majority of people especially men, do NOT have your best interests at heart.
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I have a Windows XP computer that's about 7 years old and I have a problem with it. When I try to turn it on it won't finish booting up. What happens is I turn it on, shows the blue screen with the HP invent logo and at the bottom ESC for Boot option, F1 for Run Setup, and F10 for System Recovery. After that it goes to the black screen with a blinking white cursor at the upper left and just stays like that not letting me do anything else. Anyone know how to fix this? I've tried pushing F10 for system recovery but it still won't go farther than the black screen. I tried pushing F8 for safe mode and still won't go farther than the black screen. Basically I can not do anything beyond the black screen. Plus I do not have the Recovery CD for my Windows XP, I don't think it came with one. Should I take my computer to Best Buy Geek Squad? If so, do I bring the whole thing or just the hard drive tower part? Help? (link)
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The black screen with the curser is a ms dos prompt. The computer is asking you to speak its language. Ultimately your computer is not booting the Operating System which needs replaced. Aside from risking the investment of a new windows OS, try all the Ctrl + Alt combos. Esc, Delete. Also Fn+F8 controls monitor/LCD functions. If you have a healthy way to get online, and if your reading this you do, look up what the MS DOS prompt code for booting MS XP and key it in. Also try MSCONFIG, this is a root command designed to allow access to your OS settings. If it lets you in, search for something to do with the boot sequence and just fiddle around.
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Me and this guy hung out and hooked up and he wanted to go farther and I said no and he's like pleasee, we'll take it slow after this but I still said no, I asked him bout it in the morning he said he didn't want a relationship and then we stopped tlaking then he started talking to me again and he asked me for nudes and asked me to strip for him and I said no and he always wants to chill and I said no because I thought it was a booty call so I said no but then like the third time he got mad and I was like sorry I want respect and don't wanna be used! And he's like I'm not using you I like you and I'm like what about when you said you don't want A relationship and he's like well I've missed you since then :( and hooking up with someone you like isnt so bad because it could bring us closer. so I dunno if he just wants action or likes me?
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pls help!
kaaitlyn (link)
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Im a guy and THIS guy just wants to play with your body. There are plenty of girls out there that are down with that and you should tell him so.
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im 16/f and feel over weight, im 4'11 and weigh 160. my doctors says i should be weighing 130 or less. i hate the way i look i just want to die at times. my mother and I are looking for a plastic surgons in Rockford, Illinois that will do payments. we dont have much money but are able to make payments month to month. i just want to be happy and love myself. thank you. (link)
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This might sound stupid but, God is happy with you and loves you. He will put people into your life that will not care the least about a few extra pounds. Do not let Hollywood ruin your self image. Those people represent less than 1% of the population yet everyone spends millions trying to look like them. And fail. ex. Michael Jackson, Joan Rivers, etc.
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