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Am I a slut. Still facing this?
Basically my question is, what would you classify me as?
I was a good girl growing up. Like no intercourse or anything. I was locked down in the house getting grades. Then I hit college or in other words freedom. Boys and liquor got introduced. I started to become sexual as in giving and receiving oral. I believe I am sexual to a point, but I am 19 and still a virgin. Yes I said it, 19 and still a virgin. 20 in 17 days! lol I have done many sexual things I am not proud of. Like giving oral to a guys friend 2 months after talking to that guy. I feel like some people would classify me as a slut because of the number of guys I gave oral to. But I am much more than that. I am very loving and caring! But all people see when they see me is, she give good head. I want to start over you know? I like holding onto my virginity so at least I can still hold on to that good girl. So, what would you consider me?
Thankyou if you can get to this question.
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Definitely NOT a slut. I would define being a slut as someone who hands out sex without any emotion or discretion. Sounds like you have both. And congregations on still being a virgin. I know how hard guys try. I know how hard I tried.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age will be helpful to you.
Like gunner; I don't believe in labels. I believe you are what you feel you are. To me, from what you have written, you are a young lady who has set some boundaries on what type of sexual activity you will participate in and enjoy.
At 20 years of age you, to my way of thinking and I am very liberal in the area of sex and sexual activity, have a right to a sex life. If you choose to remain a virgin that is your right. If you choose that your limit on sexual activity is mutual gratification through oral sex and masturbation that is your right.
As I said when it comes to sex I have a very liberal view for someone my age. I feel that there is virtually nothing weird or off limits between two consenting adults, done in the privacy of their bedroom as long as neither party are truly physically hurt. The operative words are CONSENTING and PHYSICALLY HURT. I think the word consenting is definition enough. Physically hurt is defined as beyond what may be agreed to in say some BDSM play or in some fantasy play or spanking play.
As long as you set your limits and stay within those limits, the hell with what anyone else thinks. It your life and your sex life.
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I don't really deal in labels, but I'd have to say word is most likely spreading around about your extracurricular activities. best way to deal with this issue is to refrain from doing the activity that gives you a bad rep. after a while, the bullshit will go away.
its all cause and effect.
-Gunner
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No I do not think you are slut. I am glad you are holding on to your virginity. be careful with the drinking and partying though. I think you are a rebelling from being held down and unable to do anything growing up. I know alot of people like that.
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Okay. You really need to get over the 'label' issue.
You are only a slut if you want to be, and feel good about the label. Otherwise you aren't. 'Nough said.
It doens't matter what people online consider you - you've earned a reputation in real life as being someone who engages in oral sex easily and willingly - and it's going to follow you for a while. Nothing anyone can do about it, so accept it.
You can 'start over' whenever you like, by simply changing your behavoir. The label will take much longer to change, but you can change your behavoir today, tommorrow, next week. Start when you want to start, and slowly, eventually, your reputation will catch up with the person you've changed into.
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