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she hates me for some reason
A girl classmate of mine (I'm also a girl) looks at me like I'm an alien or something. I found out that she hates me because when I was walking past her while she was talking to her best friend, I heard her say (they were talking really loud), "I really hate her! She's acts so..." I know that they were talking about me 'cause they said my name. Many people actually has a crush on her, 'cause they think that she's pretty and nice. But they don't know that she calls me mean names sometimes. What should I do?
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I know exactly what is going on here, she feels inferior to you. your probably prettier than she is and obviously more mature. The solution is to kill her with kindness. People like her thrive on conflict, if you take away the conflict, you disarm them. And gain maturity points.
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When I was younger my Mum always used to tell me that girls are only ever nasty to other girls because they're jealous. I used to that was stupid but actually, most of the time it's true. Think about it, have you ever bitched about a pretty, popular girl just because they're pretty and popular? I know I have. Girls will find any excuse to talk about other girls. You've given your classmate no reason to make her hate you so why else would she bitch?
Be civil to her and never retaliate. If you sink to her level then you're adding fuel to the fire and she will probably get worse. By calling you names she's crossing the line from bitching to bullying and you don't have to put up with that. Consider telling a trusted teacher about what's going on if it's getting you down.
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I would suggest killing her with kindness and if she continues being hurtful towards you, then completely ignore her. in the end she'll look like the fool. just be above her level and exude confidence. you win every time.
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Girls are ridiculous sometimes, aren't they? Best thing to do is to ignore her when you can, and be super nice when you can't- sounds counter-intuitive, but you don't wanna lower yourself to her level, you're better than that. And she's probably doing it to get a reaction out of you anyway.
Here's some articles from one of my favorite people on dealing with stuff like that:
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just act like the nicest person in the world towards her, "kill her with kindness". when she says something mean just laugh it off like you dont care and she will soon realize that being a total 'mean girl' is getting her no satisfation with you. she'll just think its a losing battle, feel stupid, and move on (: try it, it couldnt hurt right ?
~Alana*
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