Hey I am 16 and believe it or not I have a lot of experince in giving advice.
So let me know if I can help and I will do my best.
Gender: Male
Location: US
Age: 16
Member Since: March 21, 2009
Answers: 97
Last Update: April 29, 2009
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Hey everyone. 19/male here.
My girlfriend (18) and I have been going out for almost 8 months, and so far we have mostly had fun. This has been my first serious relationship and I am completely in love with her. We do fight somewhat often, but we usually manage to work it out and make up. Unfortunately, we both have different goals for both the summer and for the future... she wants to move out by the end of the summer because she can't stand her family and needs to get her own space and be her own person. She says this is a necessity and she has to do it with or without me. I originally told her I was on board, but after really thinking about that I don't know if i'm ready, or if I can take a semester off of college to work to make the money to move out. I've already told her this and she became extremely upset, and we both don't know what to do. We both love each other very much and are extremely attached but have different goals. I know if we broke up we both would be devastated severely. While I have considered it I feel like I could never do it because I care and love her so much. I guess my question is basically, what should I do....? (link)
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Well if you guys truly love each other then you will last. It is perfectly normal for you to stay back while she moves. Your both adults and have different goals thats ok. You are just going to have to let her do what she needs to do and you need to do what you need to do. But you could both stay togeather. You guys could take turns visiting each other on the weekends. I usually don't encourage lond distance relastionships but if you guys love each other than it will survive. Try it out and see how it works. But its also normal for two people to grow apart and finally just see that its not working for you guys. That normal too you guys are just beomcing adults your finding out what real life is that. Its ok for your views and feelings to change.
Good Luck!!
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I have been dating bill for eight months. We are both 16 years old. We wrote notes to each other every day which we often exchanged at lunchtime and bought each other little gifts. But i just found out that the last two months he has been spending with another girl. I had no idea this was going on until bill told me he thought we should break up. At first i was stunned. Now i just cry every night. I'm not interested in meeting any other guys. I cant study and i don't want to anywhere with my friends what should i do ? (link)
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Well your just going to have to remember that you are only 16. Your going to fall in and out of love many many times. Don't think you won't either because you will. Bill isn't the one you were going to spend your life with. Because if he was you would have stayed togeather. That's ok though because you are young go out and have fun. What do you think he is doing. Just go out and have fun with friends and meet guys you never know what you might find.
Good Luck!
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Hi everyone! Okay, this is a really dumb question, but is it normal to hear your heart beat? Like, I was sitting abnormally close to this guy I like, and he joke-flirts with me a lot because of the looks I give. These horrified looks. Well, he took my hand, and suddenly I could feel my heart beat in my neck, and it was really loud, and was going like, a hundred miles an hour. Is this normal? Sorry for the burden, I know this question is stupid. Thanks! (link)
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No your question isn't stupid. But when your next to someone you like your nerveous. So that makes your heartbeat faster. Yes sometimes you will hear it. Don't freak out its normal.
Good Luck!
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18/M
I know this question is asked to death, but I've read every one of them and they haven't helped. Maybe I'm just venting, but maybe someone can help me.
I can't ask a girl out. Simple. I've been alone with her a million times. The words get stuck in my throat like I'm choking on them. I can't push them out. I have her phone number. If I try to call her, my hand shakes so much I drop the phone. Well, not literally. I can't even do it online or in a text, even though I know that would just be insulting. I'm confident normally, but I freeze. I think things like she'll never want to talk to me again, she'll be disgusted, even though I know they're not true. I just want to ask her to go on a date with me, her to know how I feel about her. I think she felt the same way but just gave up on waiting for me. She deserves to be asked out. What's left for me to do? (link)
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Well just wait and see how she respnds to your letter then you will know what to do from there.
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what are some things to talk about with your crush? (link)
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Music, School, TV, Movies.
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Theres this guy that i've been crushing on since november. I'm a freshman and he's a junior. I always see him staring at me. During lunch especially. And also, during lunch, I sometimes see his friends turn around and look at me. One time on the lunch line, one of his friends look me straight in the eye with this sort of intese look and looked then away. And his friends are always being funny and making jokes when I see them. But I think they might always be like that. 3 of his friends shout and say random things to me too. lol
And when I see him look at me during lunch he looks for the longest time haha. And in the halls he looks at me too but i cant tell how long because i always look down. I see him a lot in the halls so maybe he just thinks i'm stalking him and thinks i'm weird. Is he interested in me? and why hasn't he talked to me?
Is it just my imagination? because i'm not really that pretty. I'm 14, 5'4" and 165lbs. I dont have terrible skin, but its not that great either. Is it just wishfull thinking? (link)
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Well those signs can mean many things. The only thing that is going to clear it up is just confront him about. Or you may even want to start a converstation with him. Talk about TV, Music, Internet. These are many things teens have in common. For some guys looks don't always determine wheather he likes you or not. But also remember that he is a junior and you may not stay togeather to long. But it's better to have loved and loose. Than not have loved at all right?! It's for you to decide.
Good Luck!
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hey!
ok so on myspace i wrote am happy and am better then you . and thiq qurl started qoinq crasy and she put "girl am way better than you. there aint a person thats better than me so take a gun and shoot youself." i was like omg is this gurl nuts or something. nd i didnt wrote that im better the you because of her but i guess she thought it was for her. i wanna ask her wats her problem but i dont want her thinking am visiting her profile .
what should i do ? (link)
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Well I would write her back and tell her that it wasn't intended for her. Is more than likely just misunderstood. Let her know that you don't think your better than her and then ask her what her problem was.
Good Luck!
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Hey there:
Sometimes there are girls that I want to date no matter of what religion they are in and there are other times that I only want to date someone who is catholic which is what I am. In this question, I'm kinda asking for advice on this matter and would like your personal opinions as well. What do you think of the idea of dating someone who isn't the same religion as you? What are the advantages and disadvantages of it? (link)
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Well some advantages is that you guys have the same religion, so you will more than likely share the same views on sex and other things. Disadvantages are that mayeb you don't have the same religion and you won't see eye to eye on a couple things like sex and god. Or homosexuals or something to that effect. Yes it can break you guys up if it let it get in the way. So just remember don't bring it up unless she does.
Good Luck!
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We have been dating for 7 months, we are true and strong. We don't fight about stupid little things, we don't do drugs or drink or party like a normal teenager. We truly want to grow old together. We talk every chance we get, we never grow annoyed of each other, and we never get sick of hanging out. We have a promise to never break up and truly try and solve the problem. But since I'm a teenager, I feel immature, but I'm not. And I can sense that people think we wont last (adults).
Is it possible that we will one day be married, and have a happy ever after? (link)
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It's a very small chance but yes. Sometimes that small chance is means more than that big number going against it. Don't worry what other people think. You guys a in love just be with each other and block everyone else out.
Good Luck!
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15/F
Okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months ago yesterday. And for those 9 months I feel like im the ONLY ONE trying to make any effort keeping us together. For example im usually the one to call him I call him when I wake up and before I go to sleep. I see him over the weekends and sometimes at my house during the week. I think the reason he doesnt call me so much is because my parents told me I cant see him so I have to keep our relationship a complete secret from my family for 9 months. He says he loves me but I mean I talk to him maybe 3 times a day MAX and maybe 5 mins each if even that. And he says stuuff like this when I call "Hey , yeah Im doing chores right now ill call you when im done." Thats his excuse right now he said that at 11 this morning and its now 5:30 and still no call from him. I highly doubt it takes him that long too do a couple chores. And then that makes me have mixed feelings, like I try to hard to keep us together. I told him yesterday about how it makes me mad that he doesnt call me after he says "ill call you in like 10 mins" and it takes him hours or I just end up calling him. He makes me feeel like im the only one trying to keep us together and he doesnt care about us. I do want to stay with him so dont say break up with him. Do you think just not calling him for a while and see if he makes the effort to call me would be the best thing to do? Thannnks(:
Sorry it was so longggg. (link)
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Look this may sound a little harsh, but if he doesn't care about your relationship then you should break up with him. It's going to be hard to be with someone who doesn't care about the relationship. Honestly not calling him will prolly not change anything. You should just tell him to either start making an effort or it's over. Maybe then that will make him want to attempt to call you or something to that effect.
Good Luck`
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A couple of days ago my girlfriend broke up with me. She told me her parents found out about our physical relationship and didn't want us to be anything more then friends. We'll she didn't tell me at first and just started acting weird like pushing me away. She told me when they said we couldn't hangout outside of school (We hardly see each other in school since were not in the same grade) and she wanted me to stop walking her. So its only been 3 days since we last talked and i never stopped thinking about her and about what happened. Our relationship was never perfect we ran into a lot of problems but overcame them. The day after she told me i wrote her a note saying everything (how i felt about her). And i asked her if she wanted to pick up were we left when this blows over. And she told me that she couldn't make me wait. And that's all she said and that we can only be friends. I wasn't sure that she would say lets wait this out and we can text like we usually do every day. But if she were to say no lets just be friends i expected more. Because i thought we had more. I'm a good guy i never put any pressure on what we did i let her know if she felt uncomfortable at all to let me know. But her parents don't see that they probably think im like all the other guys that just want a girl for their body and don't really care about them. I wish they could see how much i love their daughter but i was always pretending to be a friend.
Im sorry for making this so long theirs so much more to say but ill cut it off here. I want advice on how to deal with this.
What do you think i should do?
What is she thinking about? She use to say stuff like I'll always love you and your a great guy and i cant believe i almost lost you (Something similar happened b4 and she's broken my heart many times). But when her parents say no she makes me think that it was all a lie or it doesn't matter anymore. I know we were in love but will she come back to me again?
"Empty" is how i feel without her (link)
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Well it is amazing the pressure parents have on their kids. She maybe the kinda child that listens to her parents. That maybe why she totally cut you off. But just know that you are going to fall in love with many girls. You are just a kid and you will prolly fallin love with over 20 girls before you even come close to finding the right girl. All you can do it move on. Get out and meet different girls. Who knows you may even find someone else. So I think that you should just move on it will be hard at first but just keep thinking that she prolly wasn't the one in the first place. You will make it!
Good Luck!
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My best friend since like forever won't talk to me! Well I mean she does, but not like she use to. We use to tell each other everything and now she won't tell me what's going on with her. She doesn't talk to me on the phone anymore as much as she use to. I know it's probably something she doesn't want to talk about, but I really want to help her. I should probably drop it. What do you think I should do!?
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Truth is people go different ways. Me and my best friend here recently haven't been talking. She has a boyfriend and I am more worried about my education. (i'm a guy). People change interest changes over time. You can't help it and there isn't anything you can do but let it happen. All you can do is move on and find another new friend. Eventually you guys will grow apart and you will find another. It's just a part of life. It's normal and I don't blame you for being upset about it but you will make it. I promise!
Good Luck!
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Basically, a friend and I became really close to eachother. We'd been friends for a few months, but that was it. And then the new semester started and we just started talking a lot more, calling each other at night, and texting, too. (this occured around the beginning of January). So every weekend, we would go out with each other. Basically just the two of us. I started to crush on him, and I thought possibly that he was crushing on me. However, the first weekend in February he said he didn't want a relationship right now. I knew this already (even though I hoped he'd change his mind) because of a phone conversation we had late one night in January. Well, I accepted us just being friends and we continued with our friendship as if everything were normal. The next weekend was Valentine's Day and we rented a movie and watched it at his house. At first, it started as the two of us next to eachother on the couch, then he grabbed my hand and we were holdiing hands. Soon, I was laying against him (trying to not fall asleep). I really liked it, it was romantic and he was so sweet and caressing my fingers. But a week ago he'd said he didn't want a relationship. So of course I was a bit confused, yet I let it slide. The next week went by and he'd told his friends we were BF/GF and he was going to "officially" ask me out.We went out again that Friday night. Eventually, it came to the point where we were making out in the backseat, something I swore I'd never do. I'd also made a promise to remain virtuous until marriage so that was avoided that night. But what makes me mad, is at the end of that night, he said "I just want to be friends, I don't want a relationship. I'm sorry for leading you on for so long." It made me wonder if all he wanted was sex even though at the start of our friendship, our friendship, we'd both talked about how we believed in no sex until marriage. We agreed to still be friends after that night, but I was so angry at him that I told him I'd need time. The next week was a little awkward and we didn't talk much. But that Friday he wanted to hang out, and I said I was busy. I guess I kept a grudge because it seems I was always the one to start getting angry. And after that, anytime we talked we always ended up arguing. It finally got to the point where, he said "I don't know why I ever kissed you" and I replied with "I'm sorry I somehow screwed everything up and for everything I ever did to you. I'm sorry I thought we could still be friends. I don't know what I did. before I make things worse, happy early birthday." We had made plans a long time ago to go out for his birthday. Obviously that never happened. And we'd also made plans to go to his prom, which is in one week (4/25). And that's not happening either. Recently, it's been somewhat easier to talk to him (if you can call it a conversation if it's simple questions with simple answers) because we're working on an assignment as a group for banquet. He still says we're friends. He says he likes to tease me. I'm no longer mad at him, angry at him, or hate him. I want to be friends, he was my best guy friend! I guess I'm trying to figure out if it's time for me to let him go and stop crushing on him (because I've still got unreceding feelings for him, no matter what I do) or if we can at least be friens, if there's something still there. I just don't know anymore. I really don't know what's the best thing to do in a situation like this. (link)
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Well if there is something there it's going to be hard to be friends. But if you feel that you can be friends and let that feeling go and let him go then I think you should be friends. Because if you don't work out as a couple doesn't mean you can't be friends. It sounded like he was leading you on though. To tell you the truth any guy will tell you what you want to hear as long as he thinks he has a chance. He's a guy what else can you say. You guys just to need to re start your friendship and just start over. What else can you do. But some people who have a romantic history don't make it as friends. So if you don't make it as friends please don't be surprised. Sometimes it just ends up that way. You guys will eventually move on from each other and you guys will forget that it ever happened. So just hang in there and if you guys were meant to be friends then it will happen.
Good Luck!
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15/f
hey, im a girl. i need advice on something totally crazy but i really dont know what to do.
so like three months ago i met this kid who altar served like me and i got his number and stuff. from the first day we talked i liked him but he told me he had a girlfriend, which i was ok because i dont like when people cheat. so anyways like this month we have been talking nonstop everyday and i love it. i invited him to this big highschool dance because i thought it would be cool to hang out because that is the day of our confirmation retreat. so he said yes but hes not telling his girlfriend because this is a dance were there is major grinding and he thought she would get mad. and its not like were going to do anything wrong also hes basing his whole decision of dating me on that whole day.
so lately ive been telling my friends how he is going and that hes been telling me hes excited and stuff. they started to give me crap because he still has a girlfriend and hes not telling her about me at all which were just talking so it doesnt matter but i really think that it does. like i asked him if he would date me and he said he would but like he likes his girlfriend more which i totally get but like should i even wait for this guy.
this is probably totally confusing but i dont know what to do at all. i was thinking of uninviting him to the dance because that is causing confusion but he said hes making a decision off that day if were like compatible. thats why were spending the WHOLE day together but i just dont know what to do. if that made at all sense to you can you please help me on what to do.
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Look give him a chance don;t uninvite him. Then if he doesn't you guys would make it as a couple. Then tell him to either tell his girlfriend or you are going to have to stop talking to him. Because being the other girl is no fun. Trust me I have had girls tell me about it (i'm a guy) and its not good to be the other girl. So you need to give him a chance there could be something there, so just wait and see.
Good Luck!
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Almost a week ago my girlfriend and I broke up my reasoning because we never see each other and I didn't think she really cared but I am still madly in love with her. However a couple days ago I found out she had cheated on me and she also convinced me that she did care and that's why we started talking about braking up before but I didn't know why. I think she was just too scared of the consequences that's why she broke up with me. I'm willing to forgive her and try to get back with her, but I'm not sure how to do it or if shell agree. Can you please tell me how I can handle this (link)
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Well if she doesn't want to get back to togeather it isn't a big loss. You can't be with someone you can't trust. Everytime you call her or something (assuming you get back togeather) and she doesn't answer your always going to think that shes cheating. It's not your fault it's human nature to be paranoid after being cheated on. But since you want to get back with her you need too call her or something and just tell her that your willing to forgive her and take her back if she will have you as a boyfriend. But if she says no you have to understand she prolly re thinking somethings as well. So just ask her thats all you can do.
Good Luck!
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I have a best friend (we've been best friends for a few years now) we always have our moments and she jsut treats me like crap all the time. I can't take it anymore. She doesn't know how to say sorry. She's been with this boyfriend for about 4 months now & he's 6 years older than her and so of course I want to meet him. She acts like its a crime for me wanting to meet him and says I am just being ridiculous when I told her it made me mad and she said you're ridic.!!! and im like wow that hurts and she goes on making fun of me because my feelings got hurt. That was about 2 weeks ago and we talked (fought) tonight and i asked her if I could just call her so we could talk but she kept saying she's on the phone so I asked how about after? she never replied and it pisses me off. Does she not care about this friendship enough to try like I am? I also went out of town 5 months ago and she made me feel like absolute crap for going to visit another friend and being in another friends wedding that she isn't in. I told her to stop being so rude to me and she said oh well and i said you're acting like a brat and she said so?
she takes too much pride and it kills me.
WHAT DO I DO! (link)
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Sorry it took me so long to write back!
But you are just going to need to talk to her. Sit her down and tell her the problems that you have with her. She will either get mad or talk about it. But if she does get mad she will come back to you. She made need pride but she also needs her friends. Hold your ground you guys will either make it or you won't. I think that when you went to see that other friend she got jelaous. She seems to be the kind of person who wants to have all the attenion. With you gone she prolly didn't get that as much. So thats prolly the only thing that happened there. Just remember that next time she tries to make you feel bad. Or better yet just don't answer it she will get over it.
Good Luck!
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A week and a half ago I admitted to my guy friend that I liked him and I pretty much scared the hell out of him. We didn't talk over that weekend or the monday after, and by then I'd already realized that the way I told him (long story) was way too forward, and in addition to the fact that it's not everyday a girl justs blurts that out to him. Then on tuesday, which was last week I apologized for freaking him out and he said it was ok and he pretty much admitted that I freaked him out but that was the last time we discussed it. I'm completely relieved that we're still friends but he never said whether he feels te same way or not, so I'm thinking that either he's been thinking about it and is not sure how to respond or not sure how he feels or he's just trying to forget about it. Last Wednesday though I could clearly tell he was nervous whenever I looked at him or spoke to him, not in the way he spoke but just by his body language and facial expression. and in one of our classes he still seemed nervous but he was still talking to me and we would still laugh about some stuff so I was relieved that he wasn't avoiding me or anything. But during that period, and we weren't doing anything that period we were just hanging out while other people in our class were taking a test, he kept looking over at me, which he never usually does, so i don't know what to think of that. After tat day vacation started and tomorrow it'll be a week since we last talked and he hasn't texted me or anything, which I guess is not too surprising because he never really did that much in the past. I can't help to wonder if he's still thinking about it&is still unsure or if he's been trying to forget about it. But either way I would assume that once we're back in school on Monday no matter what the case is he's still going to have the fact that I like him in mind whenever he talks to me. But I'm scared after this week and a half the thought will have blown over too much. And I've decided that if he decides he likes me back, then the ball is in his court, and I won't push him about it or bring it up unless he does, because if anything I'm really lucky that he's still my friend, that usually wouldn't happen to me (but with guys ive like in the past, they always found out from other people, not me, telling this particular guy directly that I liked him was one of the hardest things I've ever done). Even though I'm completely willing to remain friends if that's what ends up happening, I still want to be kindof flirty with him and sortof make sure he doesn't forget how I feel and still considers ever giving me a chance. How do I act around him without being too pushy and being too obvious? (link)
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Well just act like you guys used to. Think back to before you told him and remember how it used to be. Then go back acting like that. But he may be scared to tell you that he likes you sometimes you have to push guys. Because if your don't guys won't do anything. Trust me I am one and I know that from personal expreince. So just try to ask him one more time see how he reacts. He looks freaked then just let it drop. It couldn't hurt could it?!
Good Luck!!
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Okay I dated this girl named Lorri for about 3 1/2 yrs when I was like 14. We broke up for 2 years and now we're back together.
It all started when she asked me to go to prom with her after her and Luke broke up. Well I figured since me and him hated eachother she was only trying to make him jealous so I was like okay.
But 3 weeks before prom we were talking one night and she told me she still had feelings for me but didn't expect me to care. At that exact moment I told myself I was just getting to the point where I could live without her, but then my heart sank. It was like every emotion I've ever felt for her struck a different nerve in my body.
In that instant, I realized every mistake of my life. And since then every moment I've spent with her has been like stepping stones to heaven. Like a dream to good to be true...that's when everything changed.
3 weeks ago I lost my job because my boss refused to pay me for the 46 hrs I worked that week. (I worked for a tree cutting business) I've put in 76 applications in the past 3 weeks but still can't get a job because of the hiring freeze. I lost my car because my step father totaled it and I'm ready to get my own place so me and Lorri can have our own life. Her mother's is causing too much stress on her life and I want her to be happy.
I feel like I'm loosing control of my life and I can't get a grip on anything anymore, like I'm going crazy.
Hope you can help. (link)
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Well you just can't give on when looking for a job. I know it's going to be hard with the current problems of america. But still you will soon enough find one. You and Lorri moving in is a great idea. But be sure that you guys are finically stable. Everyone at some point feels like they are losing control. It's ok your NOT loosing control. Just take a deep breath and remember that your in control. Because you truly do. You may not see it right now but you will soon enough. Stress is just a part of life. The way some people deal with it is different. You can try to excerise, Write down issues helps get it off your chest, talk to Lorri about them. These are just suggestions.
Good Luck!
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there is this guy i like but i dont know if he likes me, he somtimes has sweaty palms around me, he always gives me a hug, he jokes around with me like grabbing my side, i chatch him staring at me somtimes, he listens to me, he sometimes lets me listen to his ipod, and he asked out the last girl he liked (and got denied) so i dont know if he likes me but is hesitant, or doesnt like me. (link)
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Usally those are good signs that he likes you. Sounds like you need to confront him about it and get the truth lol!!
Good Luck!
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I can't seem to be able to let anyone in. As soon as anyone gets close to knowing me, or in anyway just close to me, I push them away. How do I stop shutting people out. I don't talk the person I consider my bestfriend really. I'm a listener not a talker. Theres no use in complaining about my problems, it doesnt do anything. I just want to be able to get close to someone, anyone. How do I do this? (link)
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Well you have to stop being the listener. You need too be the talker as well. Yes it may not help slove the issues when talking about them. It makes you feel better by venting. While talking to one of your friends just jump in one day and start complaining. lol!! You may also though have trust issues. In that case you need too find someone you can trust little stuff with first. Like gossiping about people at first. If that person doesn't tell then you know that you can trust them. So just depends on what holding you back.
Good Luck!
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