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How do I be the man I need to be in my situation?
Okay I dated this girl named Lorri for about 3 1/2 yrs when I was like 14. We broke up for 2 years and now we're back together.
It all started when she asked me to go to prom with her after her and Luke broke up. Well I figured since me and him hated eachother she was only trying to make him jealous so I was like okay.
But 3 weeks before prom we were talking one night and she told me she still had feelings for me but didn't expect me to care. At that exact moment I told myself I was just getting to the point where I could live without her, but then my heart sank. It was like every emotion I've ever felt for her struck a different nerve in my body.
In that instant, I realized every mistake of my life. And since then every moment I've spent with her has been like stepping stones to heaven. Like a dream to good to be true...that's when everything changed.
3 weeks ago I lost my job because my boss refused to pay me for the 46 hrs I worked that week. (I worked for a tree cutting business) I've put in 76 applications in the past 3 weeks but still can't get a job because of the hiring freeze. I lost my car because my step father totaled it and I'm ready to get my own place so me and Lorri can have our own life. Her mother's is causing too much stress on her life and I want her to be happy.
I feel like I'm loosing control of my life and I can't get a grip on anything anymore, like I'm going crazy.
Hope you can help.
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Well first thing i can tell you is life can but alot of stress and obstacle's in are lifes,that's lifes test to see how us as people will handle and deal with it,before you do anything else you need to but it out there that you are an control and everthing will work out.It sounds funny but you will be surprised how things will start working in your favor.One thing you dont have to worry about is your girlfriend because from what you say she loves you very much and you do as well,somtimes it not being the man, it's letting who you love help you through the issues that you are going through.Don't let anyone tell you diffrent.Life has a funny way of working its self out.... good luck feel free to send me a message if i can help you further..
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This happing to my dad right but he didn't lose his car but anyway. Don't give up on looking for a job. my dad went to some unemployment place to get some money. hE also started going back to school to get more stuff on his resume. one more thing he did was submitted his resume to be a sub. teacher. Today they called him to go in and sub. So there are some ideas.
i hope this helped you!!!
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Well you just can't give on when looking for a job. I know it's going to be hard with the current problems of america. But still you will soon enough find one. You and Lorri moving in is a great idea. But be sure that you guys are finically stable. Everyone at some point feels like they are losing control. It's ok your NOT loosing control. Just take a deep breath and remember that your in control. Because you truly do. You may not see it right now but you will soon enough. Stress is just a part of life. The way some people deal with it is different. You can try to excerise, Write down issues helps get it off your chest, talk to Lorri about them. These are just suggestions.
Good Luck!
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Stress is normal in life. Especially if you two are planning on moving in and living together, it's not going to be perfect or easy. It might not be something you're use to, but you'll learn to deal with it. Don't let it overwhelm you. If you have a lot of things stacked up on your plate, make a list of what you want/need to do and start with the small things. Accomplishing those things will give yourself a bit of a morale boost.
As far as finding a job, we're all feeling that pinch right now. My girlfriend just moved 2000 miles to live with me. She's looking for a job, i'm looking for another job for extra income, it's been 2 months and nothing yet. That's amazing you were able to put out 76 applications in 3 weeks. Don't give up. Stress may bog you down and make you feel week, but if you want to man through this, just keep trying and don't make yourself feel like this is rock bottom. I've been feeling stressed lately too from the moment I wake up til the moment I go to bed. It's tough, but I know i'll make it through in time.
I don't know what exactly Lorri's situation is with her mother and how dire it is. But if she's working as well and you've presented the idea of potentially moving out, you two should both make an effort to save up to get out. Find any job you can do, save up for a couple months and do it. At least you two live near each other and aren't at a great distance.
Just take a step back, take a deep breath, remind yourself this will all get better, you're not the only one going through this, and talk it out with Lorri. I'm sorry about your situation, but you're not alone. Don't let your fears and stress get the best of you.
I hope I could help ease your mind somehow. But, look, if you need more or want to talk about it more, get in touch with me and i'll talk you through it, man. I know how it feels like. good luck!
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