i'm 14 i'm a freshman and i like to help people. i'm weird, i'm silly, and i'm funny. i like punk rock music and i like playing the guitar, piano, and bass. i like listening to music, and i am falling in love with a wonderful guy, but we're having some problems right now. my besterest friends in the whole world are daniel inman(susie), hannah rufer, kerrisa bath, caitlin mace, nicole fuson, chloe shepard, tory gaurnier, and hana crawford a.k.a. the toothfairy. if you wanna know more, or you just need advice my email is on my profile.
E-mail: uncle_arlo@hotmail.com
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My friend just spread a rumor saying i wanted to have sex with my cousin who everyone knows b/c he's my age. I want to just beat my "friend" up or cuss her out, but i know that's not the right thing to do. Anyone have any suggestions? and DONT tell me to just talk to her. I want to say something that'll make her wish she never messed with me! (link)
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if you really wanna put her in her place, say " you're just messing with me cuz you wanna have a 3some with me and my cousin to full-fill some sickass fantasy of yours you sick fuck. why don't you just go have sex with a horse you whore!" or you could not say that, i'm just in a bad mood and i thought it would be fun to say.
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ok i broke up with my X boyfriend last year for the 2nd time. I don't kno y but everytime i read a story about a relationship tearing apart i think of him. I have a new boyfriend and hes the best and i love him but i realize i miss my X sooooo much. He was always there for me. He would make me feel better. I cry every time i think of him and all the things we talked about. What am i susposed 2 do. I kno i should 4 get about him cuz we go 2 dif. skools now and i never really see him n e more but i really miss him. help me!!!
sry this is so long
-confused (link)
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well, he should just be a good friend is what it sounds like. if you love your boyfriend, and miss your ex because of the way he cheered you up and all that stuff, sounds like my best guy friend and we have a ton more fun now than we did while we were going out. so ya, you guys should be friends, but only if you want to. good luck with this, hope i helped.
Sierra(arlo)
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Hi ! Well i was wondering what would be a good hair color for me to go with this fall/wonter i want to go darker but i don't want it to wash out my face ya know ?? So like my skin is like a creamy natural color not to light not to dark..and my eyes are greyish/hazel !! Yeah..right now my hair is Light Ash Blonde !! Thanks !!!! (link)
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i'd go with a chocolate brown if i were you. whatever color you end up picking, tell me what color and how it looks when you do it! :D
Sierra(arlo)
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Do you ever feel like breaking down.. DO you ever feel out out place.. ANd somehow you just don't fit in and no one understands me... I've been kiked... hurt.. well I'm just like him.. and the rest of the song.. and sometimes i just wanna curl up and give up! the kids at my school are so mean to me. And a lot of my friends think they're to "cool" to hang out with me. I've been pushed down and kids kicked me and I've been in 5 fights with a bunch of kids and always get beet up picked on. And i don't belong.. I think i should just run away. no one would miss me. I'm just a loser in the way! I just wish i was a little cooler and people would be nicer to me. like the other day i was over my "friends" house and him and his neighbors made fun of me and 1 kid punched me so i fell and then they threw things at me. I've broken down.. ok and I'm young and hopeless and going no where fast is what they say.And the girls... forget about it... i mean the only reason most them don't like me is becuse the cool kids don't like me. I mean I'm not ugly..but you get my point. And some kids just pretend to be friends with me and then stab me in the beack like it's a game. And my gf just played me. Well you kinda get my idea of my life. that's not the details though. It's a lot worse. Well is there anything i can do? Or should i run away becuase no one would miss me!
Signed,
A loser!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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i have felt exactly like you many times, i've felt out of place and like no one cared, and i may be able to help you. here i go. ok, well how do you expect to ever solve any problems if you just want to run away from them? i never run away from my problems anymore, i just deal with them, and each time i've faced a problem and solved it my life has gotten better and better. i tried killing myself many times, i ran away from home once because my mom lied to me and said she was going to go rent movies and pick me up some soup and juice because i was sick, and instead she went to her EX boyfriends house, and wouldn't answer her phone! i was so mad, but running away did not do me any good, it just got cops looking for me and a lot of yelling. so instead of running away, the next time i waited for her to come home and told her how worried i was, and how much i had cried while wanting and needing her to come home. she finally stopped, and started spending time with me. then i started facing all of my problems that way, being braver, being stronger. so don't be a coward like the old me and run away, and hurt people and yourself, but instead be like the new me, and be brave and strong. please don't run away, there are people that care about you, you just don't see them because you're too busy focusing on the people that don't care. you only see what you want to see, so want to see people who care. i really hope i helped. if your problems persist, feel welcome to email me. my email address is on my advice column. good luck.
Sierra(arlo)
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my friend is cutting herself b/c of lots of stuff how can i get her to stop she keeps saying its no big deal?? please help (link)
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well, i used to cut, and my friends have before, too. well first off you tell her how much you love her and need her around, and don't want her to end up dying from loss of blood. try telling her that the stuff she's upset about is no big deal, and the stuff that's good is great!(like frosted flakes :D ) if she asks you how to stop, tell her to put rubber bands on her wrists and snap them whenever she even so much as thinks about cutting or trying to hurt herself. then if she still cuts, tell her to use a shock pen. it hurts a lot more than rubber bands and may have a stronger impact on her decision to quit or not. i may only be 14, but i do know what i'm talking about here. hope i helped, if the problem persists, let me know and i'll see what i can do. good luck.
Sierra(arlo)
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how do u get a girl to want to go out with you? (link)
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you can't just make a girl want to go out with you. you have to flirt with her first, make her flirt back, if she doesn't then there isn't much chance, but if she does then start asking her questions. what kind of stuff she's into, what kind of movies she likes, etc... then maybe say, if she likes horror movies, then ask her if she wants to go see the grudge with you, or something(that was just an example there's a lot better stuff to do then see a movie) this is the best advice i can give concidering all you said was "how do get a girl to go out with you?" so good luck, hope i helped.
Sierra(arlo)
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Me and my best friend Krystal want to ask you this. Theres this girl, Holly, she keeps butting into me and Krystal's friend ship. I mean coming between me and Krystal. I feel that she wants to take my place. Its really getting me mad because she is really annoying to! Anyways she already slept over krystal's house once [ i was there to ] but shes that type of person that you get sick of quickly and Krystal doesnt want her to sleep over tonight. How can we let Holly down gently?? (link)
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tell her that you guys are best friends and that you need a night alone. aybe find another one of your friends that does like holly, and ask them to take her off your hands, eventually she'll find someone else to hang with, and she'll be out of your hair. hope i helped. good luck.
sierra(arlo)
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ok i have a problem..wel its not really a problem but i wanna lose about 10 pounds but i dont now how to? (link)
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i've given this advice four times now, and the others seemed to think it helped, so here i go. i lost 7 lbs and a pant size in a little over a week with this routine. it's not torture and it works. instead of snacking on junk, whenever you want a snack, eat a carrot or an apple, or something. you should eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, but more vegetables than fruits. fruits have natural sugar in them, it's not as bad as other sugars,but vegies are better :)
and if you don't wanna do crunches, then don't, they won't give you a flat tummy, they'll actually make you bigger, all it does is make your abs big, but you'd still have your pudge over them. instead you should walk 3 days a week, on a treadmill, or outside(i prefer outside cuz i get the fresh air) and that's all you need to do. so give it a shot, it's not hard at all!
good luck, hope i helped
Sierra(arlo)
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Hi. Does anyone know of a good way to get a flat stomach? All my friends say I'm not fat, but I would like to get a flat stomach and lose some weight on my thighs, too. I heard about doing crunches every morning/night and running a mile a day. Does anyone have a certain way to get a flat stomach and skinnier thighs? Thanks! (link)
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i've given this advice three times now, and the others seemed to think it helped, so here i go. i lost 7 lbs and a pant size in a little over a week with this routine. it's not torture and it works. instead of snacking on junk, whenever you want a snack, eat a carrot or an apple, or something. you should eat a lot of fruita and vegetables, but more vegetables than fruits. fruits have natural sugar in them, it's not as bad as other sugars,but vegies are better :)
and if you don't wanna do crunches, then don't, they won't give you a flat tummy, they'll actually make you bigger, all it does is make your abs big, but you'd still have your pudge over them. instead you should walk 3 days a week, on a treadmill, or outside(i prefer outside cuz i get the fresh air) and that's all you need to do. so give it a shot, it's not hard at all!
good luck, hope i helped
Sierra(arlo)
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Well.. First of all me and this guy have been "dating" for about 2 months.. And well we are truly in love I mean you have NO IDEA!! And I really really like him SOO much and we are just like the best couple ever... And WELL Yesterday he told me that he kissed another girl!! And I donno what to do.. I mean he said he didnt feel anything and he regreated it and I mean he told me himself what he did... But I donno what to do b cuz i mean I love him soo much.. and YAH!! I don't kno if i should be mad or what.. So will SoMeOnE PLZ JUST HELP ME!!! (link)
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you can be mad, but if you're truely in love, and he didn't enjoy it, then you should try and forgive him. once my ex(was my boyfriend) kissed another girl and i was mad for a few days, but we stayed together for a long time after that. the only reason we ended up breaking up was because he moved away. i still love himdeep down. so give him another chance, and if he does it again, then it's time to dump him. but hey, you never know, it might work out. good luck, hope it helped.
Sierra(arlo)
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hey i have a problem with cutting and i dunno how to controll it and today 10/22/04 i wound up cutting my self agian because my b.f broke up with me and im like in love with him and ahh...hard to explain and well i need some advice on how to stop or atleast trying to controll it please help me!! ill rate you high and i would like some advice from ppl who actualy do it or used to thanks soo much and if you wanna takl to me more about it im me on
babi beautifulx3 or email me at babii_thug_699@yahoo.com
thanks so much!! ill rate ya a five if ya get at me
love always courtney (link)
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ok well i know what you're going through. i used to cut and i was going through a lot, too. what i did was wore rubber bands on my wrists, and every time i wanted to or even thought about cutting, i'd snap the rubber bands on my wrists. if that doesn't work, try using a shock pen. it hurts enough to get you to stop, but also is much better than cutting. but you'd be better off starting with rubber bands. good luck and hope it helps.
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hey, well, about a year ago, this random guy IMed me, and he and I have become good friends after that. Well, his name is Will. And when we first started talking, he had a g/f.I started to like him a lot, and his g/f absolutely hated me. She kept thinking that I would take Will away from her.Ever since she started thinking that, I tried to stay away.(getting new s/n and never talking to them again)Well, he ended up finding my new sn, and I just let it go, and we started talking again. His g/f finally asked me my # so we could three way. So, I let in and gave it to her.We started talking all the time after that. And just recently they broke up. While they were going out, I had a b/f. And then he dumped me after about 3 months.(that was the 2 time we went out)Well,Will called me about a week ago, and told me that he was so happy that he and his g/f broke up.and then he told me that he really liked me.Well...i got anothe b/f, let's call him "JC", and he's my friends ex-b/f. now she's all pissed at me. one day i was talking to Will's friend. and now Will's friend keeps saying to dump JC and go out with him.so now, Will and his friend are mad at each other, and i feel like it's my fault. So, Will called me last night and said " what if i figured out your address?" and i got kinda scared. cause, i know how dangerous it could be.What am i supposed to do?! Will and his friend are mad at each other, and my friend is pissed at me,and Will has my address. Please help. And sorry it's so long.
-jena (link)
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ok well first off, let me just say that this is very scary! i know i'm gonna sound like your mom right about now, but how could you do something so incredibly stupid? giving someone off of the internet your phone number? it could have been some 50 year old man! well, any ways, tell your friend that it's not her fault or your fault that you like her ex boyfriend, it is her EX! if it was her boyfriend i can see why she'd get mad. try talking to her, and if she doesn't forgive you, she obviously isn't a true friend. about will and his friend, let them be mad, you shouldn't try and work things out for them, it might end up worse. and about your address, just keep your doors locked, and if he ever says he's gonna come to your house, just call the cops! tell them some psycho is coming to your house. sorry my advice is so long, but i'm only trying to help. good luck, hope i help and i hope this psycho doesn't come to your house.
Sierra(arlo)
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Hey guys. I bet you guys are really bugged by me already but I swear that this is the last question today. The 7th and 8th grade Halloween dance is coming up on the 29th and I bought my costume already. And my costume comes with this black rose to give to anyone I want. And earlier I asked about this boy Jimmy (and that I can't look him in the eye anymore b/c my friends told him I like him), and before my friends told him about me liking him, I was going to give him the rose and say "This rose is for the cutest guy at the whole dance" and then I was going to give him a peck on the cheek. But I'm not sure if guys like this type of thing. So GUYS (!) please answer this question! Thankz byebye! (link)
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i am not a guy...BUT i do have some advice. i did something similarly last valentines day for the guy i liked. i bought him a teddy bear, chocolates, a rose, and a card. he loved them, and then i pecked him, not on the cheek. sometimes guys like to get stuff too, and like it when girls take the lead. they don't always want to be the ones that ask you out, buy you stuff...etc. so hope my advice helps. good luck. and if you do it, tell me how it goes. uncle_arlo@hotmail.com always happy to help.
Sierra(arlo)
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there is this guy at my school, in my first period class that i really like. we have a lot in common and he's always been nice to me when we talk, and he thinks that i'm funny, too. the problem here is that his friends hate me. could his friends disliking me affect that he might actually like me? and if not do you think this guy does like me? i need help please! (link)
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hey! i clicked random and i got my own question, what kind of crap is that!?!? if i had advice for myself i wouldn't ask from other people.
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my sister is a pain in the ass and i cant make it stop . she never listens to my mom or my dad and when ever you try to talk to her and she doesnt like what your sayin she likes to drown out the sound of people by repetin the word la over and over again . she calls me names like bitch and ass and other stuff like that . how do i make her stop being that way . oo yeah she also does bad stuff and blames it on me !!!!
thanx (link)
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well, what you need is to buy a dog, a big dog maybe it'll befriend her, and distract her from bothering you. or even better, maybe it'll eat her. i am the youngest and i wasn't like that so this is the best advice i can give. good luck.
Sierra(arlo)
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Im a really big guy. Im 7 feet tall, im 450lbs. My questions is, why is it that girls just want to be friends with me. They dont want to think about anything more than a friendship. I thought girls didnt care as much for looks as guys. Big guys need loving too. (link)
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well, you'll find someone soon, someone like me that doesn't care about looks so much. ya if you're a good looking guy it helps, but that definately is not all that matters. if you're a sweet guy, buy a girl you like flowers, if you're a romantic, write her a poem, if you like a chubby girl buy her some chocolate(just kidding) i hope that my advice helped at least a little, good luck.
Sierra(arlo)
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hey theres this one guy i went out with and we were really close...we said i love you and all that stuff, then one day he heard alot of rumors around the school about me and they werent true,but he didnt believe me cuz he said that over 10 people said all this stuff.So he broke up with me,but a couple of days later we were talking on the phone and he said he would go out with me again but hes afraid of breaking my heart again..and i said "its ok....im getting used to it" but i didnt think before saying it. Then he said "why because of me" and i said yes....then he said he doesnt feel like talking....and he got all mad and hung up. After that we were talking on aim and we got in a big fight over that thing i said and he said he just wont talk or look at me anymore....And at school yesterday he wouldnt even look at me...but everybody i tell that too says i can get better, or u dont deserve him, but they dont kno how much i like him.When we were in that fight on aim he said that he was going to ask me if we can try it again, but i said that so now hes not going to ask me...and i just want to tell him how i really feel, but im afraid i'll say something else to make him mad.... (link)
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i know it's hard not to like someone anymore, that you really like.... BUT if he got mad just because of that, and broke up with you because of rumors that is stupid. if he really cared for you, he would believe you, not a few stupid kids at school. so ya you like him, and you feel sad, but if you guys go out again, he'll just keep breaking your heart and make you feel bad. as long as he knows he can treat you that way, he will. he'll start taking advantage of you, and it'll just lead to trouble. so do whatever you want, i'm just telling you what i'd do. good luck with this.
Sierra(arlo)
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aight there's this guy i've liked ever since summer. we were going out but then we stopped talking for a long time.. like 2 months? so i figured he forgot about me and didn't care, and i moved on. but then i found out why we hadn't talked, he had to go away for an emergency, and he wants to be still together with me, but i dunno if thats a good idea because we'll never get to see each other and we go to different schools. any advice? (link)
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it all depends on how much you like him. i had a boyfriend once that i was in love with, or so i thought, and he lived an hour away. we only got to hang out a few times, and it didn't work out. so i would say it's not a good idea to continue seeing him. but do whatever you want, just because it didn't work for me doesn't mean it won't work out for you. glad to try and help. good luck
Sierra (arlo)
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What age would you let your Child date?? What would you allow them to do with Him or Her? (link)
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my mom lets me date within 2 years older than me, and she only lets me kiss. but i'm only 14, how old is your son/daughter? i only know what my mom lets me do, hope i helped.
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k me and my [ex] bf broke up ALONG LONG LONG time ago..i think he even has another gf now, but neway its been like a year or something that we havent been together and we havent even talkd in almost that long..it would be our 2 yr anniversary comin up in like a month...we broke up in tha rainy season and it was SUCH heartbreak for me..i cried every night for like 3 months straight....but the thing is, not even like 2 hrs will go by that i dont think of him...and since its the rainy season im thinkin about him so much more and im really sad..this isnt normal to STILL not be over some1 by now is it? (link)
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i had the same problem, and it is totally normal to still think about someone you loved. even if you don't care about them anymore, it's still difficult. take your time to get over him, and don't worry about it. i still thought about my ex boyfriend until i met someone way better. so just don't worry about it, you'll find someone who is right for you that makes you feel great about yourself. you and your ex may even ending up back together if you're right for each other. i'm hoping that the guy that made me say "seth who?" about my ex will end up asking me out, so if your "seth who?" guy finds you soon, hope you guys get together. good luck, and hope this helps.
Sierra(arlo)
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