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i was just wondering, how can you improve your singing voice. i know you dont have to be born with it and i know you dont like drink milk and drink waater but like idk i want to be a good singer but idk what to do? (link)
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Your right. You dont have to be born a singer to sing but it doesnt help if you're born tone deaf either. Try practicing controlling your breathing by underwater breathing or timed breathing. Take up singing lessons. Listen to the music, then practice, then practice some more. Don't smoke. Eat Healthy. Exercise. Before you go on sing/perform you should drink a glass of water, a spoonful of salt (to kill bacteria in the throat) and a cap full of vegetable oil (to moisten the vocal cords, not syryp or honey). Thats all I cant think of.
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I have two younger siblings. Some might say that I shoulk babysit them fir free, but I also cook, clean, and chase them around. I think I should get a little something. What do you think? (link)
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Did you give birth to them? Did you agree in any way shape or form to take responsiblity for them when they entered this life? Didn't think so. I think it would be great for you as an older sibling to play with them and teach them joy and love, it is not your job to babysit them. This is the answer you were probably looking for right? Well it's true. Your parents shouldnt make you feel obligated to babysit them just because your older than them. Your parents chose children therefor agreeing to make arrangments for them to be taken care of when they cannot and that doesnt mean handing them over to their big bro/sis. So explain this to them, you don't have to charge them too much if you do decide to babysit for them but let them know that it's their job, not yours. P.S You should help around the house just to be a good kid ;-) good luck
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I am a single girl in her twenties and joined a ToastMasters Club back in September. I joined the club to help with my speaking skills and self esteem, and also to meet some nice single guys. Well to my disapointment I didnt meet any nice single guys, but I did meet two really nice married ones. They are both the nicest guys, and treat me with respect. The one has 3 boys, and the other guys as far as I know doesnt have any kids. I find myself going to these meetings sometimes just to see these two men. I don't want to have an affair with either of them, or replace their wifes. I just like going because of the way they make me feel. I've had problems with men in the past. My question is am i commititting a sin by liking these guys? I would also like to add that I don't fantasize or lust about them, I just wish that I could be there friends. (link)
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You dont have to wish that they would be your friends. By the sounds of things they already are. Like you, many people have had a bad past with men. It's okay to want to have a healthy relationship with someone for once. You dont have to feel like your persuing these married men, adoring their qualities and abilities to respect women is just fine. There is life outside your toastmasters club you know. Maybe men dont ring at your doorbell and say hey I'm a great guy but there are a lot of men out there, like these ones who are taken, that are more than willing to treat a woman right in return for same affection. good luck and keep up the search
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I got into a fight with a girl in my neighbor hood. Now i don't like to fight but when it comes down to if i have to fight im going to do my best. So when i did fight the girl i beat her up, but i don't like to brag. i'm not that kind of person. So in school i hang out with my cousin and 2 of my friends. One day i was getting out of school and i heard someone yell " you got f***ed up. When i looked i saw a boy who is friends with the girl i fought, so i figured he said it but i didn't jump to conclusions. I just kept walking. Then in school my friend came and told me that the boy is going around school telling people that i got beat up. But again i ignored it. So then the other day i checked my email and the boy sent me an email saying you got f***ed up and then he was laughing. What shoud I do about him??? I told my mother and she said we should make a police report but then i keep thinking about wat the boy would do. (link)
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The boy is just befriending his friend whom you 'fawked up'. She is at loss of pride right and he is trying to make her look better. He's not going about it the right way but his intentions are good and given the chance he were your friend he'd probably do the same thing. I think you need to email this bugger back and tell him straight up. Look I know I beat up your friend, whether she likes to admit it or not. I'm not one to fight, nor one to brag. However, your friend started the fight (if that's the case) and I didn't feel like taking a beating when I could have easily defended myself. In defending myself, I didn't realize my own strenght. I'd apreciate it if you didn't bother me anymore. However, if you do, let this be your warning. I will take action. (something like that). No pride lost. And hopefully no more P.I.A (pain in ass) good luck
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Just wondering what you other girls may think.
In a guy, is it more attrative if he is shy and sweet. Or if hes confident and secure.
I think I find it more appealing if a guy is sweet and shy. Its adorable in my eyes, what do you think?
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Well Sara, my name is Sara too but with an h. I think that guys that it is great that a guy be shy and sweet and confident and secure. The personality flaw comes in when you add the word too next to it. Too shy. If your too shy then your not able to communicate and make relationships. If your too sweet you can be made out to be a pushover. If your too confident then it comes off as cocky. And if your too secure you can be unaware of dangerous things. So there you have it an adorable guy just needs a little bit of balance, too much is too much.
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is their anyway to reduce strech marks or get rid of them? (link)
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Depends where they are. If they are on your breasts you can use creams. Look in the pregnancy isle or skincare. If they are on your hips or inner legs. Lose weight and use creams, no offence but thats how it's done. Good luck.
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I love my boyfriend, i really do and we have a great relationship but im still very good friends with my ex. me and my ex have been together 4 other times and whenever we are together we flirt like crazy and he always tries
to put hims arms around me, or find a way to be close to me. I feel guilty because i love my boyfriend so much, but i feel like i have little "feelings" for my ex. I wouldnt leave my boyfriend for my ex, because my boyfriend and i have to much and hes an amazing guy, but i have dreams about my ex and think about him alot. whats my problem? i also always wanna just kiss him and have him hold me and be with me. i feel soo bad! what am i sopose to do. i tried to talk to my boyfriend, but that doesnt go well AT ALL. what should i do?!?!? thanks in advance (link)
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Do you spend a lot of time with your ex? Usually the thing you do the most (or the person you spend the most time with) is the topic of your thinking. If you spend more time with your boyfriend you will probably be thinking about him as aposed to your ex. Even if you still find yourself thinking about your ex it's okay as long as you dont act on your fantacies. Remember the saying "You always want what you can't have" well my lady. I'm sure you could have him if you wanted but not without losing or cheating on your boyfriend. It's not my place to tell you whether you love him or not but for his sake (his heart, his pride) don't do anything with your ex. As a matter a fact I think it's best you don't hang out with him too too much. You will either develope feelings for him again or simply make your boyfriend suspicious or jealous. Just ask yourself, why did you and your ex breakup? Do you really want to go there again? That's it. Sure you'll do the right thing.
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OK, I'm starting swimming lessons in about two or so months and well...I have a HUGE ass. I'm talking massive. I know there's not much I can really do about that because none of the rest of me is fat so I'm guessing it's just the way I am. But I'm really self-conscious about it as I have super skinny legs and then this huge ass!! Sso has anyone got any good excersizes or tips for toning it up and improving my self-confidence? (link)
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Ok, so you have a big booty egh? Guys like big butts. Girls wish they had bigs butts. The most important thing is that you like your big butt. It's one thing to have a big butt cause your big and another to just have a juicy bottom. If you want to tone your backside then you should;
do squats: stand with legs bent and shoulderwidth apart hand out straight and just bend up and down (rep 45, each night)
There are a lot of other things that you can do but I find this one works well.
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ok...i am dating this guy ...have been dating for ...7 months now and i like him....i am really young and so is he...i am 14 and he is 16..... he dont live in my town but he comes to see me and my dad and my brother every weekend..... he gets very mad and upset when he cant c me when he wants ... hold me or touch me ..... well i like him ...and i really dont want to hurt him and i dont want to lose him.......but he is wanting to run away and try to make it on our own........ hes family is very welthy so he has the money to run away .... and he is saving up ..... i dont want to run away .... i want to finish school and make a something of myself... not having to lean on him for everything...i want him to finish school and to make something of hiself 2!..... but i dont want to hurt him by saying i dont want to run off with him... what can i tell him ? ........... ps..... plz dont tell me that i am to young to b dating or anything like that ..cuz that isnt really helping me at all!!! (link)
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You have 3 choices:
1) "run" away with him
2) dont run away see his reaction
3) break-up with him
If you choose number one that doesn't mean you can't finish school. If he's really willing to pay for your way and your not worried about being away from family.
If you choose number two you might have to tell him why not (what you told me would be perfect) or be forced to choose
Number three.
Those are your options, pick one (not number one but one of the three)
Good Luck Darling, persue your dreams.
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I have a problem with worrying too much. I worry about everything, big and small. I worry that people won't like me at work, I worry that people are going to gossip about me, I worry that I might say the wrong thing. I also worry a lot about money, and that I'm never going to find a boyfriend. I also worry that my friends are mad at me.
Everyone tells me that I worry too much. Co-workers tell me I do a great job even when I think I left things a mess.
I wish I could just stop worrying. How can I stop worrying so much? I heard it makes you age and adds wrinkles.
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Well to releive you worrying doesnt give you wrinkles, they come with time not the thoughts that go on inside your head. If you do something that YOU are satisfied with then chances are so will everyone else. Don't worry. If you don't do waste your time gossiping chances are noone will gossip about you and if they do they are wasting their time. Don't worry. If you find yourself saying the wrong thing then simply rephrase it so that you wont be stuck with it. Don't worry. If you use your money wisely and save some of it you wont run into finacial trouble. Don't worry. If you continue to be the great person that I'm sure you are because you worry so much about silly things because you have a kind heart and a great conscience then the right man will come to you and you wont end up like the lonely old woman with 25 cats. Don't worry.
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Alright, damn this is a long but interesting story. Ok, there are these two people who i have known for like 9 years now (I'm 17), and they have both completely changed from when i like first met em in like second grade. One is a boy another is a girl. The guy has been my best friend ever since who knows when, and the girl is my neighbor that i have known forever. Anyways, they both have real personality disorders, and ususally go around screwing up their relationships, and they are so full of themselves that they dont give a damn about anyone else, even though they say they care about their friends, a lot. Anyways, the guy i think has a Borderline Personality Disorder (go look it up), and the girl is just crazy in the same way but a bit different. Over the years as they have been maturing, they have been developing these disorders, and yeah no good has been comin out of em. The girl goes around talking to every single guy she can get a hold of, (and pulling out bullshit about how she says she loves em when she really doesnt, she gets bored after like a week with someone, and her boyfriends are random people that she finds outa no where) while the guy goes up to a girl and expresses his love, and if they dont love him he threatens to kill himself and stupid shit. Now its sophmore and junior year, and these two are together now, kind of half ass. The guy expresses his love for her, while she acts like she likes him but she really doesnt like him that way. Then guy asks her out, and she gets surprised about it and says she doesnt like him like that. Of course, then the guy threatens to kill himself for her love. They get in fights, and they bitch, and make up OVER AND OVER!! IT IS OLD, AND IT NEEDS TO STOP! I am sick and tired of them screwing up everyone's lives because of them two, (THEY DO THIS SHIT TO EVERYONE) i gotta find a way to make em stop being retarded but i dont know how. (link)
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Well this sucks that it has to be someone close to you but the truth is YOU cant make them change and anything I tell YOU or anything anyone else tells YOU will not make THEM change. You said that when they were maturing they developed these disorders. Well obviously by the sounds of them they haven't matured a bit. This guy you talk of has got a problem. He doesn't think highly enough of hiself (which is exactly the opposite of what you said). He thinks that he needs a girl in his life to furfill himself. Your right he doesn't really love them but that's because he doesn't really love himself. Maybe you can help him realize this. The girl on the other hand is almost in the same situation she doesnt think highly enough about her self and she needs to lead guys on to make herself feel wanted or desired. Because of the way she goes about it she is making herself out to be a slut. sorry. I'm not calling her one but thats the reputation she is upholding. There you have it, you can pass this along but its not going to make them change. Good luck.
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So we went out with people and the guy that i like was going too. Me and my freind showed up eairly than the other girls and the guy i likelove was there too, so we were hanging out n stuff and he was being sooo cute to me. Then he saw that the other girl showed up and completly left me, and he liked her the whole time he led me on. and now im like dying and its sooo hard. Any ideas to get over it. (link)
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Well yes, he was leading you on. He'd prefer to call it flirting which is a kind of confidence boost. So there it is. You rule he drools. Find someone more like you who doesnt want to use you to make them selves feel better. Find a guy who is generally comfortable with himself and you will be the one reeping the benefits. If he doesnt treat you good then he isnt worth it. Isn't that what a boyfriend is for???
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okay well i am on a diet and ive only been drinking water and 2% milk but are there any other drinks out there that are okay for me to drink besides like diet pop (under 80 calories and 10g of sugar per 8 oz.)
and i dont like orange juice (i think that fits under my thing) (link)
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Cranberry juice (maybe not the best tasting) Tomato juice, carrot juice, apple juice, really any kind of juice that is unconcentrated with no sugar preservatives.
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What age do you think is the best for having a first boyfriend? :)
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Each person matures at a different age/stage. It all depends on the person. However, you don't want to be introduced to intamacy at too young of an age not only will be you exiting childhood way too early but once your 'innoscence' is gone you can't get it back. You have to be an independant individual before you can take on any other roles in society. Personally I think that fourteen is ideal for having a boyfriend. Statistically, adolescents begin have boyfriends anywhere from ages 8-17, wide variety. Usually the ones who have boyfriends earlier (8-13) tend not to be really serious, just curious. BYE!
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No i havent jumped into anything and we have no plans of a relationship or anything. We just talk a lot cuz we can talk anytime plus online but its just weird for me. sometimes i fall easily but not like this. it seems like i fell pretty hard already and it kinda sucks. ive never felt this way about someone i havent seen or talked to in so long cuz its like havin a crush on someone i dont know and i have no idea how to react to it. =/ (link)
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Well you know what. I used to fall hard and fast. When I first got into the dating game I always went too fast and ended up tripping countless numbers of times. Its okay though because as you mature you begin to understand the expression learning from your mistakes. Thats all it is really. I was under the immpression that you were planning on 'seeing' this bloke. That's what happens when your answering a question with, in speculation, little detail. Ok, you do like him though I presume from talking on the phone, msn w/e. Its okay to have a crush on someone you dont really know because its only a crush. Those come and go over time and maybe now how your feeling is a way that you haven't felt before. You have to keep in mind as well that different people send different vibes so of course its not going to feel the same. Just don't get sucked under.
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ever since i started walking to school there have been these 2 girls who always say hi to me and i never really thought anything about it until one of them asked me out and at first i wanted to go out with her but then somthing inside me told me she's bad news and i dont know if it's because im neverous i dont know if it's because ive seen her smoke a few times i dont know what it is but could someone please help me i dont know what to do. (link)
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Obviously your problem is that she smoke's. It's the only thing you mentioned. Is it really inside of you? Is it like a vibe because sometimes they are bogus because we are thrown of by media images. Maybe you don't think smoking is healthy and you wouldnt't take it up. Thats her choice however, if it really bugs you that she smokes you can either chose not to see her or explain your consern in a mannerly way as not to discriminate and request she doesnt smoke in your presence or in the a confined space. Props.
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Well .. i know this is kinda nasty but im old enough believe me because if i wont then i wouldnt ask this .. well nobody ever talked to me about sex but like i know about it .. but i was wonderin does a guy wont it shaved or hairy .. like not alot of hair i dont know help!!!
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I already answered a question like this. If your going to shave use mosturized shaving gel and shave in the opposite direction you would to shave your legs. You wanna know what, yeah, most guys like it shaved. Don't ask why, they just do. Funny thing is most guys don't even trim. When you're a girl you're expected to maintain a certain image. Shave your legs/crotch/underarms, do your make-up, wear fashionable clothes and on and on. I'm telling you the guys like it. Thats all you asked thats all Im saying.
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There is a guy that I was friends with 8 years ago when i was little and i moved and since then i hadnt talked to him or seen him... up until a week and a half ago. i dont know why but i seem to have feelings for him already even though its been so long. We've talked every day in the past week and a half and hes a really nice and sweet guy and he told me he sorta likes me too... hes supposed to come to visit so i can see him again soon. i dont know how to act and even if we did really hit it off he doesnt think it would work since hes lives 5 hours away by car.. it really sucks and im supposed to be going down to my grammas(that lives 2 minutes away form him) this summer for 3 weeks and were planning on spending time together and other times between now and then but i have no idea what to say or how to act when i see him again for the first time and im really nervous. help please (link)
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Too much too fast is asking for disaster. Don't go out of your way to see him too often. You knew each other 8 years ago, that's a real long time. People change a whole lot in that amount of time. You don't have to be nervous he's just like any other guy, just one you haven't seen for a long time. Picture him as your cousin from Ohio, or something. Your not jumping into a relationship right away, are you? I hope not. The best way to go when your not really sure what to do, or how to act is to have something planned. Like a movie, dinner, swimming w/e That way you have your time planned together not just hanging out. Maybe you wont have much to talk about but you'll have something to do rather than having nothing to do and nothing to talk about. Have fun.
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There is this boy that I'm having a real problem with. I know it's not the right thing to do, but I need a plan. A one time plan just to get back at him. The only thing I cant do is use pictures and violent. We're in highschool if that helps. (link)
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A steamy plan... here it is. Talk to him about whatever it is that you have a problem with. The smart always win against the strong. Talk to him sensibly. If he refuses to listen, be a nark, tell the teacher. Whatever you do don't retaliate. Its not up to you to punish people. Ignore him if you have to but don't do anything you'll regret. One word... Carma.
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Last Monday we were assigned a paper about something we've failed at and how it affected us. It was due Friday.
I thought about it all of last week and quite honesty, I've never really failed at anything. The only thing I could come up with was freshman year when I got a B in Geometry when I wanted an A and I'm not kidding. So I asked my teacher if I could write about that. She said I could if I wanted an F.
So I decided that I would think about it a little more over the weekend and turn it in for a late grade on Monday.
I thought about it over the weekend--nothing. So I wrote it on how I've never failed at anything and how that makes me feel about my life. I went into depth just like the other students and it was 4 pages long.
Today, she asked me to stay after class. She told me that she gave me a zero because I did not write about what I was supposed to write and that if I don't write about something I FAILED at by tomorrow, she'd keep that zero and not change it.
I think this is way unfair because what I wrote about was true and it was still on topic. I know it wasn't exactly what she asked but what else was I supposed to do? I'm not going to make something up because I'm not good at that and I won't.
What do guys think I should do?
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Call it Failing From The Future
Talk all about how you failed an assignment on failing because you never failed. Talk about how it feels and so on. Its not really true, you didnt fail but in the future you will if you dont write it. go go go.
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