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Heyy guys. Let me know if I can help you out with anything. I might not always tell you what you wanna hear - but just trust me eh?advice
how can I do to love a little less??
Create yourself an identity without him. Spend more time with your friends or by yourself doing something you enjoy. The key is to be independent so that your life doesn't revolve around him, that way when things go wrong it doesn't hurt so much - and ironically it makes it less likely to go wrong because he'll actually start to chase you a little.
Wait for him to call you. Call and text him less. Don't ask to see him all the time. You'll end up having a little bit of space for like, a week, but then he'll end up calling and texting you more.
It's really easy to lose your identity in a relationship but trust me, find a bit of dependence from him and you'll like yourself so much more, and so will he.
I sit alone at lunch. I hate it I get so upset about it. Every table I've asked to sit at their table. They've said no because it was too "full" or they just didn't want me there. I hate it so much
Stop caring. Impossible I know but it's the only way. Sit by yourself, and don't care. Read a book, do some work, call someone; whatever. Act like you are fine on your own and people are more willing to hang out with you. Try not to get upset about it. I don't know what you do but I'm going to assume you're at school??
If so, start by talking to someone you sit next to in lesson. After a while, walk to lunch together or something - depends on the situation.
i wrote this a few years back.. just kinda want some feedback. i am by no means a poet hahah just curious and looking for tips
silence.
silence to fight against the words pushing at her lips
trying to get out
trying to fix what she’s stuck in
this dirty rut of past memories and a love gone rotten.
colder than ice, the those sharp words freeze her
freeze her mouth shut
and those echoing words are locked inside her head to spoil
until she cries
but her tears turn to ice
so whats the point?
Just a few points;
If you take out the "against" in line 2 it might flow better?
The fourth line, it's generally considered bad to use abbreviations in poetry when your style isn't very contemporary. Also, stuck? You need to be more consistent with the style. Change the fourth line and I actually love it.
I have another semester of poetry writing in January, so if you have anything you want me to take a look at send it my way.
16/f
There is this boy in my class who constantly annoys me to no extent.I don't even know the reason he constantly mocks me,like says I'm hot and stuff but in this mock tone.He also insults me on a daily basis.I never did anything to him,I didn't even pay attention to him,didn't know he was there until he started saying those things to me.He does it every single day.Believe me,when I come into the classroom and see him,my day is already ruined.I've really grown to despise him because he just won't let me live.We are completely different,he's one of those jerks who always get into trouble and he's brainless as well,whereas I am a sophisticated,polite girl and I take my education seriously,I'm very smart and on top of the class.I don't react to what he says,but lately it's really been getting on my nerves.What's up with this guy?I'd understand if I said or did something to him,so ok,in that case he'd be paying me back,but I never argue with someone just for the sake of it,I try to avoid all conflict and deal with things peacefully.But I just can't stand what he's doing anymore.I'm in second year now and he's been like this since the start of the first year.I really don't know what his problem is...
Now, I really don't intend to be mean here, but GET OVER YOURSELF. "I'm a sophisticated, polite girl... take my education seriously, I'm very smart, top of the class"... Seriously? I wouldn't be too quick to think you're too good for him. Grades aren't the be all and end all of intelligence and he's not necessarily "brainless".
My advice? Come down to earth and treat him like a human being. He might not take the piss out of you then.
There's a small chance he likes you, but of course you've considered that seeing as you're full of yourself...
I had sex for the first time this past Friday. The next day I noticed my inner thighs were bumpy. I tried to ease my mind by telling myself it is just razor burn but now I'm not so sure. I did shave my legs Friday but not that far up so that pretty much rules out razor burn. Now, since I was a virgin, I bled A LOT. And the spots where the rash is developing is where I had blood all over me, could it be from that? Maybe I'm allergic to semen? He wore a condom but before we had sex he expressed his concern of him cumming a lot because he was so horny. Maybe some of it leaked out? Maybe I'm allergic to latex? I don't know. I'd prefer not to go to the doctor but maybe I should? The rash isn't developing anywhere else, JUST my inner thighs. Not on or anywhere near my lady parts so it couldn't be an STD, right? If I had to describe the bumbs I would say they look and feel more like goosebumps and they itch. It's been a couple days now and it seems to only get worse. Should I suck it up and just go to the doctor?
It's probably just a rash from the skin on skin contact. HOWEVER. I am more concerned by the amount you said you bled? It isn't normal to bleed a great amount, a lot of girls don't bleed at all. I would see a doctor about that more than the rash. But while you're there, you might as well bring that up too.
ok! so my boyfriend and i were having sex while i was on my period.. and the condom broke, but he pulled out and he said he pre-ejaculated before he went inside of me, so my question is even if he did ejaculate in me, since i was on my period and it was heavy that night.. could i still get pregnent?
Go to your doctor. If it's within 5 days a doctor can prescribe a strong morning after pill for you.
You'll want to ignore this advice because it's embarrassing. Take it.
Just to bring this home a bit... I got pregnant whilst taking the pill and using a condom (which didn't break).
It's not worth the risk, and the sooner you act, the more effective whatever action you take will be.
It is unlikely, so I don't wanna overly scare you - but my situations near unheard of. The unlikely happens every day.
Good luck x
Okay, let me start off by saying that I go to a fairly small highschool so we have VERY defined social standings. And the popular group is spread out through the grades. So it's made up of freshmen, sophomores, juniors and seniors. You go to junior high wth the same people you go to high school with. Well in seventh and eighth grade I hated my life haha. I was unpopular. Not like really really nerdy but just in the "unpopular group" the average sues. The popular girls were alwasy very nice to me and it made my friends mad. My friends kind of sucked... they were always trying to find people to use or step on to claw their way to the top. But I just kind of dealed with it because I had known these girls forever... Well freshman year started and I was still average, until I caught the eye of Tyler. Tyler was probably THE most popular guy in school. Star quarter back, super cute, valedictorian, everyone liked him. I don't want to be like stuck up or anything but I knwo I'm a good looking girl, haha I mean I'm not ugly. Well we started dating in September. We dated aaall year. He's one of those guys you always dream of but never really think exist. Once I started dating him, my world changed. He was in the popular group so I started hanging out with the popular girls. They had always been nice and honestlly, I like them sooo much more than my old friends. They supported me all year and were awesome, and are still my friends even though Tyler and I broke up. I think its safe to say that Tyler and I were in love. We dated for almost a year, neither of us ever cheated, and he took my virginity at ten months. But we're young and we knew that once he went to college, a long distance relationship would be too hard and we didn't want to go through that pain. We broke up just a week ago... We're still friends, it wasn't messy at all but it still hurts ya know? Well I'm getting through it. And I still have my friends. The popular ones. I love them too haha. But see it's only been a week and already every guy has been trying to like... I don't know get with me? haha. I know none of them like me. They just wanna say they got what Tyler had. It's hard!! I don't know what to do... I don't want to start dating right away, that's not fair to Tyler and that's not fair to the new guy because I know I still have feelings for Tyler. It's also not fair to me because I know they don't like me for me... ya know what I'm saying?? I jsut don't know what to do... And my old friends think that now that Tyler and I are broken up that I'm suddenly just going to be friends with them again... But they were never friends to me. They never supported or cared about me... I'm just so confused right now. My real friends say I should just ignore all these new guys but its SOOO hard because I'm hurt right now, and lonely... I just wanna know if any of you hgave some other opinions on what I should do... I'm sixteen, gonna be sophomore.
Break ups are hard. Especially when you've been in love with that person. What you and Tyler had was special. You don't really wanna cheapen that by getting with some guy who doesn't even like you for you, do you? You said it yourself, you go to a small school. Everyone will find out. It's not worth the hassle just because you're lonely.
Let yourself breathe. Take some time, hang out with your friends (the "popular ones") and have some fun. You'll get over Tyler, and then you'll be in a better position to date.
It's not fair to anyone if you pursue any of the guys you've mentioned, and I think you know that. As for you're friends, stick with the one's that support you.
Although, just to be devil's advocate - you're old friends might just see that you're hurting and want to support you after you're break up. You'd know better than I, but surely if that was the case you could be friendly with everyone?
Good luck x
okay so i started a new job about a month ago..and i started talking to this guy who works there who i thought was kinda cute like the 3rd day this lady who works there said he thought i was cute and i said i thought he was too and the next day he said what did she say to you about me and i said well she said you thought i was pretty cute and then later that day he asked for my number...then like 2 weeks later last week he asked me if i ever wanted to go out sometime and i said sure and he said alright ill let you know the details later and now its been almost a week and a half since he asked that and he still hasnt asked me out....but at work we always work together and he helps me with stuff and talks to me and does that both look at each other look away thing if they like you and he smiles and laughs at everything i do so im guessing he likes me lol but i just dont understand whats taking him so long. Im really into astrology and well im a saggittarius and hes a cancer and i read that their shy guys,you usually have to make the first move and that their hard to read...soo im just really confused what is he waiting for?
thanks!
He likes you, and you know it. What are you waiting for exactly? Tell him about a new film you wanna see, and if he shows an interest in it, suggest you go together. I don't know how old you are but even something as simple as asking if he wants to go for a drink after work could get the ball rolling.
You just need to get things happening outside of work.
Do you have his number? Ask for it.
He'll realise he's an idiot for not texting you. Texting is great for making plans you know... lol.
You'll do fine ;)
What are some good shampoos/conditioners/etc. that will help restore health to hair? Currently, my hair is like .. a nest of split ends.
Herbal Essences have a new shampoo and conditioner called "beautiful ends". It's made with red rasperry and silk extracts. The range also has a Beautiful Ends Mask and a Leave in cream. Give these a go, makes your hair gorgeous!
im 15 and i like this guy alot he asked me to be his girlfrien and i said yes but my mom wont allow me to have a boyfriend how can i get her to trust me on this and approve?
Talk to your mom about her concerns. Why doesn't she want you to have a boyfriend? Listen to what she says carefully and respectfully. Show her how grown up you are. Prove to her how responsible you are in other areas of your life. For example, be home before curfew and do all your homework. Explain that this is something you really want and are ready for. Invite him over to meet your mom so she knows who this person is.
And finally accept your moms limitations. If she decided he can come over but you aren't allowed in your bedroom for example, accept and respect it.
She's only looking out for you. Make sure she knows you know that. And just be mature about it. Listen to her and she'll listen to you.
But if she still says no, don't stomp around the house in a mood. Say that you're hurt and disappointed but you respect her decision. Then leave it for a couple days. If she doesn't change her mind with that - tell her you've listened to her concerns but you really want this, so you're going to go for it. And you hope she'll understand.
Best of luck xxx
Earlier when I urinated I had this really sharp, kinda stabbing feeling down there. Since then I've had the feeling like I have to urinate every few minutes. I only go a little bit & I'm still having that pain. Does anyone know if this is the start of a UTI, bladder infection, or what? Thanks!
Sounds like Cystitis. You can treat it with medicine from over the counter - something with cranberry.
http://www.canesten.co.uk/cystitis/cystitis-treatment.htm
You can also get cranberry tablets. It should take 2-3 days. If it doesn't clear up, then you should see a doctor.
Good luck
so about two weeks ago, i went to my friend sarah's house with another friend, rachel. sarah told me that her younger brother who is a freshman, adam, was going to be there and so was his friend, chris, who was also a freshman. im a sophmore, by the way. so it ended up that me, rachel, sarah, chris, and adam, all basically hung out the whole night and slept in the basement togethor and watched movies and stuff. me and chris basically flirted the entire time but at times i felt like he didnt like me, but i couldnt figure it out. so the next week i sort of liked him but i kind of let it go because i knew nothing would ever happen because he didnt like me. but then, exactly a week later, my friend sarah told me that chris really likes me and he said all of these things about me like, he thinks im really hot and that i have a good body and told my friend sarah that he really likes me. so when i found this out i was so happy because he finally really liked me and that made my day. like i was so so happy. and that day, he facebook imed me and asked for my number and it was fine. then that night he imed me again and we talked and he was flirting with me and it was good. by the way, i never got a text from him after he asked for my number that day. it was weird. but anyways, the next day, which was on monday, i was so excited to talk to him so i text him but he never answers. it said that he got the text. so i went on facebook and i waited for him to IM me, but he never did..he was on for at least 20 minutes while i was, and i never got an IM from him. so i IMed him and we talked, but, i dont really think i like what we talked about.. he asked me how far ive gone, and wanted me to give details and then he called me a bad girl..which im not. i tried to make conversation about casual things but once i did that he immediatly changed the subject and tried bringing up the subject of what i had told sarah about him. then he asked, you like me? and i said yeahh. and he said, its cool i dont know ill have to think about it though. so then i was like what do you mean? and hes like i dont know like going out or something and im like oh okay and hes like yeah i dont know tho its complicated and im like what..im confused, sarah told me you said things about me..and hes like, yeah that i like you and i do but its complicated right now i gotta go text me if you want so i text him and ask what he means and he says that hes too committed to basketball and acedemics right now. then i say ohh..well i dont get it like..and hes like basketball is everyday to 730 except sundays, but your really hot and i wanna have good times with you, but i dont know right now. and then im like is this because you like other girls from your school, because thats what sarah said.. and hes like no not at all ugh this is so bad by me its just complicated right now, but your really hot, not in a perverted way, your really hot. he kept calling me hot like at least 10 times, he mentioned me being hot. and then, i say, well i think you know what you want..and hes like, what? and im like ..like its your desicion, you know what you want. and then he says, i dont know i want u and ur body haha but its complicated right now. and then i said, what so you dont care about me, just my body? and then he said, woah woah woah no not at all, dont take it that way, but im telling you this right now im too committed to basketball right now and i dont think having a girlfriend is that good for me. and then i said, oh..are we still gonna talk. and he said, yeah sure i have no problem with that but i gotta go talk to you later peace. and then i said okay talk to you later. and the next day, i facebook IM him, but it said it didnt send it..so then i try again, but it says the same thing..then i see that it says ive written hey three times. and he writes hey after the third time, so i say oh im sorry for writing that three times. my computer said it didnt send, its doing that for some reason. and all he said was, k. then i say yeah . and he never answered.. so then i sign off because he definitly doesnt want to talk to me. im so confused, he told me he likes me and thinks im really hot then why is he ignoring me now and made it out like he broke up with me when really, we didnt even go out? no one else knows either i dont understand, what did i do..
Oh my.
He shouldn't be going on about your body like that... but it's probably his way of saying that he likes you but not wanting to talk about his feelings. You are probably the best judge of whether he likes you just for your body or not... but if he does like you just for that, stay clear - it can only end badly, seeing as you really like him.
He seems to need space. Stop making an effort. When he's on face book just ignore him. If he wants to speak to you he will. - make him come to you. He should soon realise he misses you and is being a complete idiot.
I think you should probably explain that you like him, and that he might have other commitments like basketball and school but your not gonna wait forever for him to make up his mind. Tell him that youre not gonna wait around for him. Otherwise, he's just gonna string you along and youre gonna get hurt in the process.
dont talk to him for a few days, then explain youre not going to wait. then just sit back and wait for him to start the running. dont get upset if he doesnt express an interest right away though, it might take a week or two.
- if he moves on instead, you should do the same.
He sounds a bit weird to me anyway lol
Good luck
xx
Uhmm how do I control how I smell and taste in my vagina. My girlfriend and I are going to take it to the next level and I want to smell and taste good. Also how do I avoid razorburn down there?
Eating a balanced diet and washing regularly should make sure you smell and taste alright. As for razor burn, theres not really a lot you can do except use a thick shaving gel and moisurise with a sensitive lotion. You could try waxing, but its alot more uncomfortable than razor burn lol.
Good luck xx
for my birthday, i'm having a glow party. i already got 1000+ glow sticks, so i'm set there, but idk what else to do. i really wanted to get these glow cups that i found, but i'll be too expensive, since there's going to be about 50 people there. so any ideas of what else i could have? i found a bunch of glow in the dark puffy paint that i could put on a white sheet or something and lay it over our couches, and i also am going to have a couple of blacklights, but any other ideas?
You could add some UV stuff too?
You can get UV bubble machines which are really cool. But that might be a bit expensive.
You can buy a UV light bulb, which is exactly like a normal one but UV. they arent that expensive. if you had one in one room then that would be really cool. You can also get UV belts and jewellery and stuff which isnt that expensive. Hope you have a good party
llets start off as me and my best friend arent getting akong to well. she has a crush on this guy that likes me and hes cute so he asked if i wanted to hook up i said sure but my best friend cant find out and i dont wanna date you or any thing i just feel like hooking up oh and im 14 and hes 15 so my best frined hasnt a clue should i tell her before or after me and her crush hook up . oh and shes hooked up with my crushes all the time. but i feel guilty about doing what he wants to do and he also dated one of my othr best friends who doesnt like my best friend who likes him.so what should i do this is all going to happen halloween night and do note i might be drunk.
Tell her. Say that you know she likes him which is WHY you are telling her. ASK her. Say that if she really has a problem with it then you wont do it. But that you really like him as well and that you hope she would want you to be happy.
One of you might as well have him!
Go out Halloween Night and enjoy yourself
Good Luck x
17/m.
i applied for a christmas temp job by filling in an application, and they got back to be and left a message telling me that they waould like me to come into the store for an assessment. whats one of them? is it a job interview? or what?:S
I applied for an xmas temp job also, and after a telephone interview, they told me they would like to come in for an assessment. They told me it would be a team building activity, and then a one-to-one interview.
What actually happened was that I was sat in a room with the other applicants, and we were given a few minutes to talk to the person next to us. Then we had to give a short talk about a few things about their life - interests, previous jobs etc.
It took a few minutes and after that I felt completely comfortable - ready for my interview.
They called a few days later, offering me the job.
Good luck
okay, thanks for reading this
what i need advice about is songwriting. i need to write the lyrics to a song, just lyrics to a melody or both the melody and the lyrics, but my problem is i just can write songs! lol, i just dont know how to do it, for me is much more easier to write stories and that stuff.
but anyway, i just want some advice on where to start and how to write lyrics, it would be awesome if you could help me :]
thank you in advance
xo,
You could try to write lyrics for a song that already exists. This way you already know how many syllables to use in each line, how many lines you're going to have in a verse etc etc.
You should be able to create a whole song this way and you never know - it might inspire you to change the melody.
Another way of songwriting is to just wrtie and dont stop. Thing of good phrases you like and words that go together. Then try and make them in to sentences and go from there.
Alternatively, you could try writing a poem that rhymes, and try to fit a melody to it.
Writing a song is all about self-expression and letting your feelings flow. Just be yourself and do your thing. Don't try to imitate, forge or regurgitate.
The content of your song is really important. Its important to know what kind of song you're wanting to write - is it going to be a ballad? In which case the lyrics need to be meaningful and you could write some of your feelings about a past-lover to inspire you. Are you writing a song for people to dance to? In which case you need to write snappy, witty lyrics with a up-tempo melody.
The title doesn't always come first. Any part of the song can come first including the bridge, chorus and verse. Just let ideas flow.
If you're looking for a title, try looking through magazines and newspapers etc for inspiration. You can always twist headlines so you're not copying. Also, if your song is about current events, the public will be able to relate to it more.
Here are some tips:
http://www.songwritingtipsonline.com/?hop=ultimateso
Good luck - and don't give up!
im 15 and i have a serious boyfriend.
but i really wanna experiment with girls.
me and my girl friend hooked up a while ago when we were drunk but that was just a dumb thing.
when i say i wanna experiment i mean like eating eachother out, strapons, etc.
i know i dont have feelings for girls im not bi or gay, but i feel like the sex part would be cool because girls know what they like.
what do i do about this.
is this weird or common?
i think about it all the time.
lmao I'm sorry but you sound so much like me haha. Apart from the overly homophobic, pratically every girl has some kind of attraction to other girls. - and we all appreciate.
It is so unbelievably common it's suprising it's not more talked about. A lot of people are in the same boat though. The people giving you advice included.
People who frown upon same sex attraction are either questionning themselves and are having trouble accepting it - or they are homophobic. That's the truth in it.
You don't have to know what you are right now. Just like people for who they are. If you like them, you like them - gender is not important.
You have a boyfriend too. Stick with that. You will learn important relationship stuff that will apply to any relationship you have.
Hi im 17/f. I recently went to the doctors because i have bad anxiety and bad mood swings. After talking with him he said i was depressed and decided to put me on prozac. I dont really know much about depression. I didnt think i was depressed but i guess i am. Can someone please tell me more information on depression, and the medicine prozac. Thanks a bunch!!
Hey.
Depression is just when you've felt really down for a long time. You don't enjoy things that you used to find fun. You don't feel like going out or talking to people. It's slightly different for every one, but i'm sure you're doctor explained what it is to you.
Serotonin is a chemical in your brain that makes you feel happy. What prozac does, is stop the serotonin from going away.
This link is a blog from a girl who experienced depression and was prescribed prozac. She explains it's effect on her life.
http://www.epinions.com/kifm-review-117B-18D062A3-396A76CF-prod5
Good luck
im 17, theres this guy i realy like ive known him for nearly a year from school, i was out with my mate and i got chatting and that got his number and i didnt like him at the start but we i thought about it then i realy did like him, i was too clingy texting him 24/7 as i didnt want any1 else to have him i told him how i felt and i asked him out i tottaly embairssed myself because he said no i just thought he liked me too because of the nices texts i was getting back and he always reapyed, stuff got around we didnt speak for ages my best m8 said to me she wanted him so i thought well she will get with her but later on he told me he wouldnt and we sorted it , but ive never got him out of my head i cant get with any1, when im not with him i realy want him but when im with him i dont? but i do if that makes sense?, days went by still texting everyday and i met him and we went out with some mates, for the first time we chatted and spoked about everyting and got on it was amazing never thought it with him after everythig loved it, but then i went off to meet this lad my mates said that hes said how can i be with her if she going to go of and he kept following and hidding to see were i was goin, he said he done care if i want him, but now he want to no my business what im doing who im with etc i said ive found a lad but he says cant you wait for someone to come along? and say he nos this lad and that he will mess you about, after that night we fall out because i belived other people over him but next day sorted it . he nos i realy like him, i just dont no why he texts me bk al the time or cant he just tell me to leave him alone because i think he will hurt me? i am hurt because i want him and i cant move on, but hes always going to be a guy i will always like and he nos is, hes clingly on me now even if i dont text back he keep texting me like i did.
i just dont no were i am with him? but i dont wanna ask again.
I understand what you're saying. My advice is to meet up with him and just say straight out - "I do still like you and I wanna be with you, and it's confusing when you act jealous about me and _____ because you said you werent interested" - or something like that.
It'll be really hard and you'll probably be scared of getting hurt again - but just think about how much you're hurting now. You can't go on like that.
If he says that he doesnt want to be with you then dont get upset. It'll kill you, yeah, but then you can explain to him that you just needed to know so you can move on.
If he says that he does want to be with you then thats great - obviously, but make sure the score is settled with the guy.
Hope it works out