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Okay... My boyfriend Chris and me started going out this tuesday (9/6/05) I really like him but my friends cousin told me that he was kissing my best friend and asked her out. When me and him started going out my friends cousin told me that my friend called her cryin because me and him went out. Should I talk to them about or let it alone?
Thanks,
Ashley
talk to her about it, it cant be your fault if you had no idea. dont let it be because it might teach you about this boyfriend of yours
OK, One of my friends that I go out clubbing with is starting to annoy me. He is brilliant in every way, but everytime we go into the city, we take a taxi there and back and he always finds sneaky ways of getting out of paying for them.
For example, he'll say he'll just buy me a drink (and never does) or say he'll pay for it later, or just doesnt get out money to pay. Its starting to annoy me and it angers me.
We're going out again on Saturday but I need a way to make him realise that he has to pay and I'm not willing to, without seeming too petty.
Please give me advice!!
suggest hell pay the car rides thier and then youll pay home. or visa versa, then if he pulls that stuff on the way home you tell him that you dont have enough money because you payed for the ride thier
I am currently in my first "serious" relationship with this guy. My previous ones were just what I call meaningless flings where there was only a physical attraction. This guy is different though. I really love him, which I never though I'd say about anyone. We talked for a while before we started dating, and realized that we had a lot in common. When we talk to each other, I am beginning to notice possibly bipolar tendencies. He can be very depressed and suicidal at times. I've dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts for a long time, so I do not want to leave him at this time, yet it makes me feel shittier than usual.... Know that some aspects of this situation have been deleted due to the context rules of Advicenators.
Any advice?
lol, were in the same boat sweetie. my bf is amanic depressent, cant get medicine because of his parents, and is now become a polological liar because of it! But the fact is that you need to learn that its not you. Your not making him sad, its just the way he is. Plus, what really keeps me here is that i know my bf needs me, just as i bet yours will need you, you will help him be happier then if he was alone, hell have his bad days, but the fact is, theyd be worst if you werent there. the only bad thing about a boyfriend like this is the hole break up thing, it might drive them to do something exstremly horrible as to suicide. so youve got to weigh it out, try and help him, keep him happy, be with him, have a great relationship, or leaeve him before things are to deep, i dont suggest the last one, especially if you have feelings for him, since he could just be the one. And if you noticed this problem with him, it would be very easy later on to suggest medication for him, hed listen to you.
OK so I have a group of friends..they're just school friends..it's been like this for 5 years now! I hate it..I want to go to the mall or hang out with them outside of school..but how? I can't just self invite myself..I can't invite them over to my house because of family reasons..but I want to get closer to them and be BEST friends with them..not school friends..what do i do?
easy, go to the movies or go to the mall. get thier numbers or screen names or myspaces or whatever! Then just ask them what times are good, be accertive, chances are tthey really want to just are like you. ask them what movies they like or what mall theyd like to go with and find out whos parents should drive. It wouldnt be weird cuz obviously they like you enough to be school friends with you =)
I am starting birth control to regulate my period. I know that you get to know the exact day you start your period each month (by the color of the pill). But is it always 100% effective when it comes to your period or is it possible that you could start your period sooner or later?
from my exsperience and from what the doctor says, the only thing that may change about when it will come, is it may be a day to two days late, or two of the different color pills into it before you get it, different pills, so it takes a day or at the most two *maybe 3 in extreme cases* to get used to it and for it to kick in.... I know that a women can can get it early is shes stressed ect. but i didnt think that happened on the pill.. actually i was pretty sure that it couldnt happen earlier at all since the pills prevent it
well me and my friend lets call him fred... well me and him have been friends for a long long time... and well he's mad at me because well i dont really know why... but i dont know what to do about it... im feeling empty inside... and i want to talk to him but i havent been able to contact him.. he told me to fuck off.. because i was ignoring him but i didnt know that he had IMed me.. what should i do?
please help....
men are insecure. once you understand that, everythings alot easier. if you missed a couple IM's, specially if you werent even there or noticing, hes being way over insecure, it may suck, but wait it out. from what it sounds hes just being dumb, maybe he has a really good reason, but its his fault for no sharing it and just over reacting instead, not yours. wait it out and saee what happens, because if he cared about you, hell be back.
Hey, major question i have. Ok, i went to a softball game and i was sitting on the bleachers...and on the other side of the field i saw 2 people...the one of them looked like a guy from were i was sitting and the other one...was a girl, and i thought they were friends or somthing...so, then i started thinking, wow that guy is pretty cute...so then, i realized i looked at him a bit longer...and realized it was a girl...a very tomboyish girl,so...does that mean i'm like...lesbian or just made a common mistake?
~Brina
hah thinking someone is hot is just a girl thing. i explained this to my bf last night. girls look at men & women, not because were cheaking them out . just because were nosy. men just usally look because there checking them out. dont worry, just thinking someones hot is a common thing. its more like 'what you wanna do to them _ feel you get _ thoughts you think_ ' that kinda thing is completly different
I have this friend who thinks that I don't want to hang out with her and I only want to hang out with her sister, even though I hang out with her all the time and I only talk to her sister a little bit. She says I do it all the time but I don't but she insists that I do. It's annoying. Do you think that she is being parranoid?
parranoid or innsecure, if you know that your not dissing her in anyway, don't worry about it. some women just act like that. try not to let it bug you, next time ask her how much you talk to her sister? try to get her to prove that you talk to her all the time, make her realise you dont.
My girlfriend of two years recently lost her father to cancer. That was about two months ago and it was a tough time for her but in the last week she has begun to bounce back and smile agian.
The problem is, we haven't had sex since her father passed. I don't want to sound like an ass or anything, but we used to have a really active sex life and now it feels like there is this wall between us I can't get past.
Anyone know how I could bring this up without offending her? Do you think it's too soon? I miss the sex of course, but I can live without if she's not ready.
obviously she knows you care. if you have a really open relationship getting into it after a romantic evenining or something, and her pulling away, simply asking is it to soon? because ill wait for you. that kinda line will do wonders on a girl. Id personally wait a week before anything, specialy with her just comming around, but being very loving and affectioning, will bring her around slowly. maybe you should take baby steps.. after days or nights together taking the bases slowly will get her confortalbe.
Does braces affect making out?? ive kissed my bf loads of times but he wants 2 make out n i really dunno how 2.. hes made out with tons of ppl i feel so stupid can someone give me some good advice?? I have braces btw.
I RATE EVERYONE 5'S!
in a way maybe, but you dont really use teeth when it comes to kissing. well at least i hope not lol. kissing comes natural when you let it. trust me. we all get over it. making out isnt really a big deal, and being norvous aint gonna really matter, plus if he knows your not really exsperienced and he cared about you he wont make you feel unconfortable, you will only do it to yourself. braces really should hurt, less hes got it to and you get stuck or something.. but thats just dumb =p
First I just wanna say thanks for responding. And your right he can be an ass sometimes. But other times I dont know he is just different when we aren't around everyone. I mean I can tell by the way he looks at me that he likes me and the other day I told him I was mad at him and he wanted to know why so obviously he cares right?? My friend thinks that he is just playin me but my other friend thinks that he isn't and he will come around he is just shy. What do you think?
see its tough, you gotta remember that just because us girls have fell for a guy doesnt mean hes so nice not to take advantage. It depends how mean hes been to you latly, and yeah hes gotta care if he wanted to know why you were mad, but its the exstent hed go to get you 'unmad' that lets you know he cares, a simple why ect. is really easy, caring enough to make it better is different. did you talk to him about what hes said to you? maybe you should tell him that hes sending you mixxed signals, les you dont wanna talk to him cuz it can be embarrising, but id honestly just go talk to him about how your feeling, the fact that hes acting like he likes you but like hes an asshole the other times. tell him you wanna no straight up weithor he likes you more then a friend or if its just friends. and if he says anyhting about just friends, dont get upset or anything. maybe you should een treat him like your strickly friends and see how he reacts to that
Ok here it goes I have tried so many other websites to get advice back and all the other websites are just too busy or liars. So here I go for the third time telling my story and hoping to get some advice back for once. Ok there is this guy I have liked since last year. We met when I started as a freshman and he was a sophmore. He likes to joke around with people so earlier last year for no apparent reason he and his friends start calling me deuce. This goes on for awhile and it gets really annoying but then I start to like him and I didnt tell my friends about it until 2 months of liking him. Anyway we eventually become friends. And his best friend was calling the guy that I like my boyfriend so ok you could say that he liked me I mean it was pretty obvious. But nothing ever happened b/c my best friend started liking his best friend and then the guy that I like just I guess kinda got annoyed and told my best friend that he didn't like me but then told me he never said he didn't like me. An this all happened back in March of last year. In April we started talking again until he supposdly went out with a 7th grader for like 2 days I don't know if it was a joke or to make me jealous but whatever after they ended he came right back to me. In May our friendship got even stronger we started flirting constantly and talking online and over the summer we talked online and we had some really good conversations. Once online he told me he cared about me and to stop being friends with my best friend b/c she brought out the worst in me. And when school started last week and I walked in the cafeteria for our break he just looked at me and smiled and then at lunch he came over and talked to me(and he hugged me on Friday.) And after school all of last week we talked everyday after school. Until last Thursday when he gave me mean looks and said I look at him too much. I know he doesn't like that and I try to not look at him but its just so hard.( and I catch him looking at me too) I really like him I think he does too but is just afraid of what people will think or of having something great with me.)r maybe he is waiting for me to make the move. I mean I just dont know. SO what do you think???
no offence but he sounds like an ass. I think you really need to talk to him about this, you need to tell him that hes leeding you on. after a guy says thoses kinda things to you he shouldnt want to take them back or treat you the way that he is. looking at someone shouldnt be a crime, specially if he looks at you too. my advice is to go and talk to him and ask him if he even likes you or just ask him why hes being mean to you. if he liked you hed tell you whats wrong, instead of ruining the relationship youve got going
Hey, me & this boy named Kyle have been best friends since 2nd grade, he's liked me since then (2nd grade) for a girlfriend & I've liked him as a boyfriend since 5th grade. We never dated because I didn't want to ruin our relationship as friends, and if we ever broke up I didn't want it to seem awkward for us! So, now I'm in 10th grade & I just moved 26 hours away from him (We both still live in the USA) Just I live in Texas and he lives in Pennsylvania. We talk on the phone & internet. I love him to death he's absolutely amazing, and he tells me the same thing back. Except, he won't wait until we graduate for me, he says "Whatever happens, happens!" I guess he's right in a way, I can't stop him from seeing other people, but I want him to sooo bad. He doesn't believe in long distance relationships, so. I don't know what to do. Is he right about the whole situation? Or, do you think I'm just over reacting about the whole thing? Thanks for your help!
well this is comming from a girl that has had a long distance relationship for over a year now. i met my bf online and didnt actually meet untill about 3 months into it. if he really liked you hed probably wait. i know men will be men and are honry but if this guy loves you like you love him, he shouldnt even have other options. if you love someone others just seem to fall short. then again i also heard from a married women that she was apart from her husband atm for 5 years for collage and such and she cheated on him and he with others but it wasnt relaly cheating to them.. it was more like using people to satisfy a certain thing but they knew they were gonna be together at the end and stop with others. so its what you make with him! if hes certain that hes gonna be with you after HS then thats something i guess, but if he doesnt even wanna wait for you at all.. idk how much hed be worth waiting for you...
if your boyfriend and you are making out and he is doing all the touching and kissing and you just sitting there getting all the pleasure what should i do in return? also if he trys to kiss you once but you turned away your face because you were shy what can you do you make that person want to kiss you or should i make the first move on him with kissing?
knowing men, if you turned away in shyness hell try again, men are persisten, specialy if your really nice to him and just touchy touchy, let him kiss you. the return thing is what your willing to do, i persnoally arent in to doing things with guys, gets you a bad rep and id just rather give a blow job to someone im confortable with and fully trust like my boyfriend of one year.. but if a guy doesnt understand that you really shouldnt do it. no matter what you hear. its more of a deal foor a girl to do something to a guy then a guy to do something to a girl. but any touching any griding is liked by a guy.. anything lol
Welp this one girl angie was going out with a kid jon. While they were going out i sort of did things with jon =/ They broke up though and i lost my virginity to him. I asked him if he would ever consider going out with me becuase i dont want to be used. He said he would consider it but in his away messages and things it says how sorry he is to angie and how he wishes he could go back. i dont know if hes faking it? But i dont know what to do..somebody please help!
he used you. and im sorry to say it but he most definatly did. no offence but reality is you let him use you. he was still with your friend so he couldnt have liked you that much. i let something like that happen to myself and dont let him come to you and say its just cuz he doesnt want to hurt her because the fact is if he liked you hed go out with you. you lost your virginity so hes gonna mean more to you then he would to you. its a chemical thing in a girls body thatll make you like him more =).. but hoestly dont let him come back to you and give a bullshit reason like he doesnt want to hurt her or anything, because first hand, hes lieing and your friend will only get hurt and so will you. my advice is to find someone that you love and loves you back and respects you enough to know sex with you isnt special
lately, i've been really sensitive. i usually dont let my mom get to me but she yells at me and i feel like crying. why am i being so sensitive all of a sudden????
pms. i cry very very very easily. if theres even a reason when im pmsing lol
i dont get it...i only got 4 hours of sleep last night and i was very tired throughout the day but i cant fall asleep now! i've been trying for hours. all i do is lay there with an empty mind..not thinking about anything...how could i fall asleep?
when i cant sleep i sleep on my stomach * i never do that* or i sleep without a pillow.. but thats just my way
What do yo call a person without a religion? think its someting called Athiest(sp) or something.. am i right?? ill rate 5's for the first 4 people that answer
athiest.. you had it. but it is religion hah just no god
ive heard about a lot of different religons, and most of them i dont understand. could u guys list some religions with the basic belief/definition of that religion? (even one religion with a def. gets a
5)
christianity
n 1: a monotheistic system of beliefs and practices based on the Old Testament and the teachings of Jesus as embodied in the New Testament and emphasizing the role of Jesus as savior [syn: Christianity, Christian religion] 2: the collective body of Christians throughout the world and history (found predominantly in Europe and the Americas and Australia); "for a thousand years the Roman Catholic Church was the principal church of Christendom" [syn: Christendom, Christianity]
http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/people/features/world_religions/islam.shtml
http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/people/features/world_religions/hinduism.shtml
http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/people/features/world_religions/buddhism.shtml
http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/people/features/world_religions/judaism.shtml
hi im a 13/m and im 5'1" and im 99lbs, and im pretty fit, but i noticed that over this summer i was really lazy, and im starting to lose my six pack. does any1 have any tips of the fastest way to get it back by the time school starts? (sept 4.)
crunches. sit ups actually make the muschel but lots of cruches will make it appear like youve got it quicker then you actually get it