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Depressed due to boyfriend.
I am currently in my first "serious" relationship with this guy. My previous ones were just what I call meaningless flings where there was only a physical attraction. This guy is different though. I really love him, which I never though I'd say about anyone. We talked for a while before we started dating, and realized that we had a lot in common. When we talk to each other, I am beginning to notice possibly bipolar tendencies. He can be very depressed and suicidal at times. I've dealt with depression and suicidal thoughts for a long time, so I do not want to leave him at this time, yet it makes me feel shittier than usual.... Know that some aspects of this situation have been deleted due to the context rules of Advicenators.
Any advice?
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Alright, I don't know exactly how long you guys have been together but I can totally relate. I have had many short term realtionships in the past and when I found that right guy, I knew I loved him, even if we hadn't been together that long. One of ex boyfriends was bi-polar and I dated him for 7 months. He threatened to kill himself sometimes and this scared me alot. The thought of losing him made me so depressed. Well we ended up breaking up but still were friends, and he still was thinking of killing himself, since we weren't dating anymore. I felt so upset, as if it was my fault. Well now I'm in love again with my current bf, and I have been real depressed lately as well. We fight alot, and I have been feeling shitty and restless lately as if I'm not happy but I don't want to leave him either. All I have to say is that you NEED to talk to him. Let him know that you have dealt with depression before and suicidal thoughts, and that you DON'T want to lose him. Talking through things like this is the best way to get it through to him that you care and that what he is doing will cause you pain. You didn't exactly ask a question or give much information so it is kind of hard for me to try and figure out how to help you, but if you want note my inbox back I'll be able to help you better. I hope everything goes okay with you and your bf. But please feel free to note my inbox back so I can help. ~Sherah
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DONT LEAVE HIM! he needs soemoen to talk to right now. he needs YOU to listen to him and at least try helping him out with it all. you need to get him through this. hope this helps you out.
*~stephanie~*
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lol, were in the same boat sweetie. my bf is amanic depressent, cant get medicine because of his parents, and is now become a polological liar because of it! But the fact is that you need to learn that its not you. Your not making him sad, its just the way he is. Plus, what really keeps me here is that i know my bf needs me, just as i bet yours will need you, you will help him be happier then if he was alone, hell have his bad days, but the fact is, theyd be worst if you werent there. the only bad thing about a boyfriend like this is the hole break up thing, it might drive them to do something exstremly horrible as to suicide. so youve got to weigh it out, try and help him, keep him happy, be with him, have a great relationship, or leaeve him before things are to deep, i dont suggest the last one, especially if you have feelings for him, since he could just be the one. And if you noticed this problem with him, it would be very easy later on to suggest medication for him, hed listen to you.
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aww! diffantly stay with him. Next time he's upset or anything ask. He needs someone to help him through this time stay by him and always make sure that he knows that you will alwyas listen to his problems hope i helped...xoxo tara
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