My name is Annabelle, I'm British, I just finished my last year of university and am about to start my masters.
Gender: Female
Location: Great Britain
Occupation: Masters Student
Age: 21
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My best friend and I have been friends since 2nd grade (we are now 21). We stayed friends through the years, even when I moved to a different state for 6 years. I moved back to the same state as her in August. We are still best friends but I have noticed a lot is different. Since I moved back, she has had 2 different boyfriends. The first one, she would always blow me off for him. Now the second one is a bigger issue. Although I am not the one dating him I dont understand what she wants with him anymore. At first, I was all for her dating this guy. He treated her right. The twist comes in when my friend had a pregnancy scare. The boyfriend told her that if she were pregnant he would leave her and how its her fault if shes pregnant. She wasnt pregnant but they "took a break". Thats when I lost all respect for this guy. And now, they are back together. I told the guy what he did was wrong and now she will make excuses for him (such as"I care about you both i just dont want drama blah blah blah"). Even still she will pick this guy over me. In fact she would pick any guy over me. I dont understand why, I have been there for her through thick and thin. I would do anything for her. And i get thrown on the back burner. I am debating if I should confront her on this? I feel like it's pointless because she will just agree with me but still pick her boyfriend. My feelings are really hurt. (link)
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Your friend is incredibly immature!I'm not sure if you have ever watched teen mom, but there was a very similar situation on there were this girl always backed up her bf over her best friend. She really loved her best friend and they got along so well, but this guy had manipulated her so much that she always took his side.
You have every reason to be upset and hurt, but you guys have been friends too long to let this get between the both of you. Unfortunatley some people don't see the light when these situations arise and no matter what happens they act defensively to any time of constructive criticism. The best thing to do would be to maybe space yourself from her more than usual for the time being if it hurts to see the way she is acting but still show her that you will continually support her and be there for her through all the rough times.
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I am looking for quick, effective and painless ways to do myself in. However, I don't know anyone who would provide assistance personally, so in the meantime, if anyone can find out an easy way for one to commit suicide it would be extremely appreciated as the only thing that keeps me going is the thought of ending my own life. (link)
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I'm not going to be giving you the answer you want to hear. There have been times in my life when I have thought of calling it a day, because I never ever thought happiness would enter my life again, but it will I promise. There will be people in your life that will need you in the future, brilliant amazing kind hearted individuals and horrible mean unkind people that will cause a mix of events and situations in your life. But life is not the grades you achieve its getting through all the tough times, being stronger, enjoying the good times and being prepared for more tough times. Stick around.
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Ok, so I am female age 16 and i think I have a yeast infection... I'm scared to tell me my mom what do I do? I am sexually active will my partner get it? What's the best way to get ride of it without the help of a doctor?
Please help me (link)
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I live in england, and there are certain medications that don't need a doctors consent to use. They are perfectley safe and legal, and commonly used, they have adverts on the tv.
THe most effect thing is the tablet (see link below)and the cream.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B000QUWHIM/ref=asc_df_B000QUWHIM1387655?smid=A3P5ROKL5A1OLE&tag=googlecouk06-21&linkCode=asn&creative=22206&creativeASIN=B000QUWHIM
however i don't know whether they sell them in america- but I'm pretty sure they do.
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how can you really know the difference between love or lust? (link)
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I've only been in love once, and i found that this quote completley defines love. It's from the bible (1 corinthians 13), but taking religion aside i think it's a fantastic defintion and a way to know.
'Love is always patient and kind. It is never jelous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to exuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.'
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Why did you part ways from your first love? Your personal stories will help with my issue. Thank you. Please feel free to go into as many details as you want or leave it as vague as you choose. (link)
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My first love, lasted for four years, we were never in a proper relationship (14-18) as i wasn't allowed to date till i was 18, haha yes parents orders but it was a relationship without the name. We shared everything a normal relationship would. We started liking each other at 14, and we really liked each other but didn't start seeing each other till we were 16. However by that time he was the most popular boy in school, his ego and friends manipulated his thoughts which ended in the demise of our relationship. To be honest we were on and off for those two years, but the last year of our relationhsip were constantley together. After high school finished for both us (both seniors)i went to travel the states for 2 months (i live in england) and when i came back everything was different, he had missed me but gotten used to life without me(not seeing me 5 days every week), so me leaving for uni wasn't as hard for him. The night before i left for uni he was supposed to come round to my house, he never turned up, i saw him in town 5 days later after coming home for the weekend, and his last words to me were 'i will make it up to you annabelle, but whatever happens i know your going to go so far in life'. To this day i carry those words around with me, i still love him and i am still getting over it, and i know he still cares but life goes on. If it wasn't hom that broke it off, it would have been me just later down the road.
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OK...so me and this boy were talking about 7 months but we have only been together for about 2. Anyways it was love at first sight and we're crazy about each other, yesterday he actually got down on one knee and asked me to marry him...i love him and my answer is yes but i think we're too young for that.I'm 17 and hes 19 any advice is helpful. (link)
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Heyy,
Umm well i agree with one person who said it would be a good idea to be engaged for a while. I mean that way you really get to know each other before you are married. However i was also crazy crazy in love at 17, and like i would have married the boy, seriously i would have. You know if he had asked me i would have been at the nearest chapel in vegas, but wow now i'm like so thankful that it never got to that, because yes i loved him, but no it would have not been a good marriage. I really don't think you should get married at 17, i mean you may be one of those lucky couples it works out for, but i think your instinct is spot on and you should wait a while. In any case wait till you have been dating a year, because like my mum always told me that like the first two years of the marraige is blissful and then reality sinks in. So, like you've only been together together 2 months, i would give it more time.
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last year i wrote this kid i had a crush on a note saying i thought he was cute. after that note, i talked to him 2 times .. one right after i wrote it and one time in the summer .. i did it regardless of the fact that he told my friend that he did not like me, but thought i was a nice girl. now at school, we just completely ignore each other .. but his friends always stare at me, so i know he told them the whole story & i see him glancing over at me from time to time in the halls. but it probably means nothing. i just feel like a failure. i'm 16 and i've never kissed anyone. i'm not ugly & i get compliments all the time that i have nice clothes and that i'm really pretty, but i don't ever really talk to guys. i hear things that some guys think i'm cute, but thats it. i make small talk but thats as far as it ever goes. they don't talk to me and i'm really not friends with them, which is really pathetic. i'm just shy around guys & i thought doing what i did last year with the note would get me somewhere, but it didnt. it just made things more awkward this year. i mean, the kid isn't an angel..he smokes weed all the time & does shrooms on a regular basis..but he is the nicest person and is shy just like me. he is insanely hot and honestly every time i look at him he gets more beautiful everytime. i know he's probably not the best person to like, but there has been so many coincidences between us that its kinda creepy. (too many to name)and its just so weird how nothing has happened ever since i wrote the note in april. i dont know. what did i do wrong? what am i doing? i just dont understand how i've been single & unkissed for 16 years while everyone else is so far ahead of me. there's no other guys to like .. trust me ive tried. theyre all idiots and extremely immature. the one time i actually really like someone who is really attractive&a good guy at heart, nothing works out. HELP!!!! (link)
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Heyy,
Firstly i do relate to your story, because that was very much like me when i was younger. To be honest, you kind of identify the problem, it's because your shy around guys, and like don't feel bad about it, just every day make a goal, talk to one guy more. Smile more, be friendly, in my last two years of high school i made friends with a lot of popular girls who identifyed my problem which is that guys sense insecurity and shyness in a girl, and it makes them feel kind of ackward too. Like think of the geek in your school and talking to him, it's kind of ackward..right. Not that your in the same league at all, but do you see where i'm coming from? Try not to get too hung up on this guy but definetley smile at him and say hi when you pass in the corridor and dress up really cute, act as if it doesn't phase you that he doesn't like you back. Also try to meet more guys by getting a job or making new girl mates who can introduce you to more people, or hanging out were there are guys.
Hope i helped.
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Ok, someone please help me. I'm a 16 year old girl and am sexually active. I haven't gotten my period yet this month, and it's usually at the first of the month. Now it's the 21. i'm really concerned. i would really like to go get a pregnancy test, but i have no money, at all. are there any symtoms i can look for that might be a good indicator. Or really any sign on whether i should be scared. also i do have a habit of being late, but it's usually on a week or two. (link)
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did u use protection?
i really hope your not pregnant but as young grandma said -go to a clinic..and also if that fails borrow money- ask your friends say you need to buy a book urgentley then get the preggie kit..hope everything goes ok
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Well I'll keep it short for once. We've done some foreplay, me and my boyfriend, mostly on him. At the time we started trying sex I hadn't let him try anything on me, and we had really troubles, well, getting it in. This could be because I was so nervous (I would not get completely undressed!) and also we'd done little except kiss before trying. We tried again after the first time, the same problem. And then again a third time, and whether it was the nerves of not being able to do it before and the pressure, I don't know. Either way we decided to wait for a bit more and of recent weeks we've started to move on, doing a bit of foreplay for me too! I was wondering, do you have any advice on what to do, or anyone who had this problem of 'not getting it in' too? Any advice? Do you think it's more likely to work fourth time lucky?! Any answers are VERY VERY welcome. Thanks! (link)
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well....i would say that try and make it an adevnture..you know..if he drives sneak out the house and have him drive you places, then have him stop in a remote place and just make out and then go back somewhere and you'll probably feel calm and comfortable around him by now...foreplay is awesome just you know make out to music and then....like make it flow...
lube works reeally well
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My dad doesn't let me have a boyfriend. But for the past (almost) year my mom has let my secretly go out with my boyfriend. Now I have been with my bofriend for almost a year. My mom doesn't know we've kissed (although she almost caught us once). Around the 5th month we did some sexual things that i'm not proud of and actually regret.
I told him and we've talked about it, and he is ok with it, and we haven't done anything like that ever since. Recently i have been feeling extremely guilty because i have always told my mom everything, except what my boyfriend and i have done. The thing is that if i tell my mom i will lose my boyrfriend adn her trust, and if i dont i will feel guilty. I feel so guilty that when i am at his house i get depressed, i want to leave and i feel as though i am alone. I don't know what to do. (link)
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Honestley I would not tell your mum i doubt she would trust you, if you regret it and have stopped yourself that is better than her stopping you. Sometimes there are things you have to keep to yourself cos if you tell your mum it may not be pretty.
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To start off, I'm a guy in college. I have easily had 15 crushes in my life (one one true relationship) and I can usually talk to the girl even though I'm really shy. But this girl in one of my classes has the most beautiful smile and I am extremely attracted to her. Like more than any other crush I've ever had. She is always looking over in my direction, and at first I didn't think it was at me, but today we made pretty brief eye contact. So I think she may be looking at me. But I am just so amazed by her or something that everytime after class, I get cold feet and can't get up the nerve to talk to her. I have even seen her coming down the hall twice, and I freak out so much I can't look her in the eye and smile. I know I'll regret it forever if I dont talk to her, so is there anyway for me to get up the confidence to just go talk to her? I dont really have the opportunity to leave a note so that way is out of the question. Sorry its soo long but I need help, this is killing me that I can't do this. Thanks (link)
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Okay so I know what your going through ahhh to the button i have been through the exact same problem and you know what it took me 2 years to atcually have a conversation ..thats a long time, it was so worth it though but he was so awesome i couldn't believe he would want to talk to me.
I would suggest that you dont think about it when you see her coming take a deep breath and dont plan what you are going to say, just do it. Find a moment, she drops her pencil or shes alone at her locker, do something funny, get her intrest. Dont start off with 'hi blah blah' like if she has a badge with a peace symbol on it go up to her and be like 'so you wanna be a punk rocker with flowers in your hair?' i mean thats a really really lame example but what im trying to say is get a mutual ground. You never have a chance to make a first impression. From your question it definetley seems she likes you, definetley especially keep the eye contact and smile, and even if you havent introduced yourself maybe when she passes you in the corridor nod at her briefly and say hi and then promptly carry on talking with your mate. It will leave her intrested.
well, thats wayy long, good luck!
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Im 16 and have been with my boyfriend for over a year now we have been having sex for about 8 months and have never had any problems. I have always know I had a septate Hymen and always worried that it could get in the way but it never seemed to as he is very careful. BUT...The other night he got it a bit wrong and snapped it at 1 end.It was VERY painful for a few seconds and i bled alot for a few hours and then a bit the next day and i was quite uncomfortable.I am fine now but as i have been able to analyse the 'damage' i know that it has left the rest of my hymen hanging there and it really is horrible. My boyfriend and I are very close so he knows about it and he says it doesnt bother him at all....but it really does look horrible,and has made me really worried about him going down there and having sex again.im worried its goin to get caught and i dont know what i should do as i have no one to talk to who can help. is this a common thing to happen and will my hymen wear away in time? (link)
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http://www.childrenshospital.org/az/Site1575/mainpageS1575P0.html
apprentley you can get it removed
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1. for those of you living in the uk, do you know if an A-level in history would be required in order to study law?
2. is there a way in which one could do 'double-majors'? for example, i want to study english literature and law.
3. ucas points. say, i wanted to go into a university like oxford or cambridge - how many points would be considered good etc?
thanks (link)
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Yeh you may need history
Yes to number two
ummm prolly a minumum of 480 points for cambridge
Aslevel - A = 60points
b-50 points
c-40 points
d -30 points
alevels
a- 120 points
b-100 points
c- 80 points
d- 60 points
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on march 18 i'm going to myrtal beach for cheerleading nationals. i'm not like fat but i've gained some weight and have huge love handles. i plan on going on a diet and doing a 10minute ab work-out everynight + cheerleading. the only problem is, i have trouble sticking to my plan. i need some good ones to stay motivated. any ideas? thankss. (link)
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okay well i have my own salad recipe
ummm sliced apples
grated carrot
cucumber
and lettuce
mix it together...it fills you up whilst being awesome for skin and body..
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so yeah i really love this guy. and he used 2 go to ma school but now he's in high school (I'm in 8th grade)
so i dunno if he remembers me - i hope he does. sometimes we talked and stuff
and i wanna send him a valtentines day card. so now i'm asking. what should i write that will melt his heart? so yeah ...help?
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okay i have to agree with the person below me..be...flirty not ..SERIOUS....like and compliment maybe add 'your an awesome guy' and then be sweet but not too much..umm yeh thats really vague..sorry
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What color thong do you think is the hottest on girls?
Just wondering lol (link)
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im not a guy..but Red..is always a winner
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my crushes birthday is coming up soon and well see i'm friends with im but only for about about. i don't talk to him that much and err yeah my situation sucks. i only talk to him on the phone once inawhile..but i think i have crus on him. but what should i do for his birthday? should i call him and just wish him a happy birthday or do i give him a present or what? (link)
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Okay well its really nice to give a present so maybe keep it low key if you get one..like maybe an itunes voucher or HMV voucher..and like candy or something...and a sweet card ..short and sweet.
Okay well hope that helps
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my boyfriends mom hates me, and for no reason. im in 7th grade, she's hated me since 5th. even my boyfriend doesn know why. and she loves my best friend. and the other night at his modified basketball game his mom asked my firned why he was dating me and then flat out said i dont like her! ergg. so we never get to hang out. and i really love when we get to hang out. we have so much fun and stuff. but we onyl get to hangout at games like the JV games and Varisty and such, but sometimes we go like a whole MONTH [ not really that long it seems like it though ] without seeing eachother. what should we do.. cuz i really love him and if i ever went to his house [ which would nvr happen his moms physco ] id feel really uncomfortable. someone please help!!! (link)
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gahhh like thats really horrible for his mum to do that..but basically shes prolly like overprotective or just jelous of you..maybe her son talks about you ALL THE TIME...maybe write her a letter along the lines of 'i hope we can be friends' or something. Otherwise seriously confront her and say nicely 'look i hope you dont take this offensiveley but why dont you like me?'...but her son likes you so whatever she says - your boyfriend still likes you and thats WHAT COUNTS!..hahha sucks to be her!
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I have really noticeable blackish upperlip hair because i have hormone problems with my ovaries. Its not bad to the point where it looks like a mustache. I just dont like seeing it and knowing its there. For months I used facial hair bleaching kit, but then I felt it looked more noticeable. So I bought a facial hair WAXING kit. A week later my hair grew back! I think the wax kit really doesn't work.. but i want to get it professionally done. How long will the professional waxing last for? I heard 8 weeks. I don't care if its longer than a month, but i don't want to have to go out so often for it tho, like every 2 weeks. Or do you think I should just keep bleaching it? Thanks in adviceeeeeeeeee. (link)
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Okay so i'm Latin and every few months i get faint black hairs on my upper lip and i tweeze them- YES IT HURTS...but its not unbearable...
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okay well this guy that i have like for 2 years decided to istant mesage me and started talkin to me and then one day he asked me if i like him....well i told him i did and now i have to im him first when he used to im me first all the time.....but now it's he is never on and if he is on he goes away real quick and he gives me this weird look at school. i don't know what is goin on. (link)
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GUYS ARE SOO ANNNOYING..basically just confront him or ask someone to ask him why he is acting like that.....
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