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Too Shy, Big Crush
To start off, I'm a guy in college. I have easily had 15 crushes in my life (one one true relationship) and I can usually talk to the girl even though I'm really shy. But this girl in one of my classes has the most beautiful smile and I am extremely attracted to her. Like more than any other crush I've ever had. She is always looking over in my direction, and at first I didn't think it was at me, but today we made pretty brief eye contact. So I think she may be looking at me. But I am just so amazed by her or something that everytime after class, I get cold feet and can't get up the nerve to talk to her. I have even seen her coming down the hall twice, and I freak out so much I can't look her in the eye and smile. I know I'll regret it forever if I dont talk to her, so is there anyway for me to get up the confidence to just go talk to her? I dont really have the opportunity to leave a note so that way is out of the question. Sorry its soo long but I need help, this is killing me that I can't do this. Thanks
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hey man... just get the courage to do it. shes probably in the exact same position as you are just go up and start a conversation with her. some topic that you both like. ask her for her phone number when you get to know her better. ask her to the cinema or out to eat. If this fails at least u tried and shes not going to go around to everyone called you a loser. when you go up to her for the first time look her straight in the eyes blinking normally not to fast or to slow and talk to her about something
its difficult to start the conversation but once you get into it there are many things you can talk about like music, movie, sports anything you both like
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Your situation sounds almost exactly like mine, except I am the girl. I am only a freshman (in high school) however, and the kid is in my foreign language class.
The way you were saying how the girl was staring at you, it is very likely that she is attracted to you. I always steal glances at the boy I like, and once in a while, we meet eyes.
In the hall, she probably is deciding, just like you, whether or not to say hello. Building up courage for that kind of thing can be hard, but if you are able, it will hopefully pay off, because it really sounds like this girl likes you.
The same things happen to me. I always pass by my crush and have an explosion in my brain as I try to decided whether or not to say hi or not.
Best of luck.
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Oh Boy. This is a tough-y.
Well, If you can't talk to her have her talk to you! You do this just by walking across from her. I know I'm only 14 but if I was that girl, I think that I would want to talk to you. You don't even have to look in her direction.
[this might sound mean]
You can also try many other things. Such as making a conversation with somebody close to this girl. [such as a brother or friend] Then ask that person who is that girl you always hang out with? Then they will probably answer you question and you an say "can i meet her?" They'll probably answer yes. If they say no, hang out with them more and more to try and convince them to let you meet her. [this might sound mean that you are using people...but i guess its worth it]
If you finally get to meet her just say hi. Hey, aren't you in one of my classes. Then she'll say yes. Then crack a joke about the class and laugh. After that, there should be a slight pause. Then say "did you know you have the most dazzling smile?" she'll probably say like 'no i don't' or 'really, people made fun of me because of it' then you can say 'nahh, you are so pretty' If she says 'thank you' just say 'no prob.' After that just look down at the floor and smile. and she'll ask 'whats wrong.' just tell her 'i think i have a crush' and say 'well, gotta go'
Then once in a while look in her direction in class and just smile. JUST SMILE.
She'll get the hint.
And if she doesn't ask you out, get the courage and ask her out! you only have one life!
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The best opporunity is to make like you dont understand the homework not to the extent where you seem like a complete idiot but to the extent where a question has you "stump'd" This should get her to talk to youand should help you along a little either this or you are gonna hav to keep on admiring from afar.
good luk and Ia hope I helped even and that I wasn't too blunt
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Okay so I know what your going through ahhh to the button i have been through the exact same problem and you know what it took me 2 years to atcually have a conversation ..thats a long time, it was so worth it though but he was so awesome i couldn't believe he would want to talk to me.
I would suggest that you dont think about it when you see her coming take a deep breath and dont plan what you are going to say, just do it. Find a moment, she drops her pencil or shes alone at her locker, do something funny, get her intrest. Dont start off with 'hi blah blah' like if she has a badge with a peace symbol on it go up to her and be like 'so you wanna be a punk rocker with flowers in your hair?' i mean thats a really really lame example but what im trying to say is get a mutual ground. You never have a chance to make a first impression. From your question it definetley seems she likes you, definetley especially keep the eye contact and smile, and even if you havent introduced yourself maybe when she passes you in the corridor nod at her briefly and say hi and then promptly carry on talking with your mate. It will leave her intrested.
well, thats wayy long, good luck!
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