Im 16 and have been with my boyfriend for over a year now we have been having sex for about 8 months and have never had any problems. I have always know I had a septate Hymen and always worried that it could get in the way but it never seemed to as he is very careful. BUT...The other night he got it a bit wrong and snapped it at 1 end.It was VERY painful for a few seconds and i bled alot for a few hours and then a bit the next day and i was quite uncomfortable.I am fine now but as i have been able to analyse the 'damage' i know that it has left the rest of my hymen hanging there and it really is horrible. My boyfriend and I are very close so he knows about it and he says it doesnt bother him at all....but it really does look horrible,and has made me really worried about him going down there and having sex again.im worried its goin to get caught and i dont know what i should do as i have no one to talk to who can help. is this a common thing to happen and will my hymen wear away in time?
ragingkolabear answered Saturday March 28 2009, 7:17 am: I went to my doctor with this same thing and this is what she told me to do. It worked well, so I recommened that you try it as well. My boyfriend and I went through painful sex for quite a while (I never told him becaue I was afraid). He was wonderfully understanding when I told him the answer to our problem. Hopefully so will your boyfriend:
Don't have sex for a month (give or take). Rather, when it gets to that point, have him insert his finger into you. That way he is slowly dealing with the problem. It will hurt a bit, yes. But not so much as a penis in there. They are much better than fingers.
When it gets to the point where his finger no longer hurts, go back to sex.
ub4481 answered Monday April 21 2008, 2:56 am: The exact same thing happened to me. I had a septate hymen (at the time, I didn't know what it was called; I just knew that it was hard to put a tampon in and I had to be very careful when having sex). My hymen tore in half- right in the middle. It hurt a lot when it happened, and it bled through the night and into the next day. I made my boyfriend take me to the hospital, and an incompetent doctor informed me that the skin would recede back into my vagina once the swelling went down. That never happened- the tissue just hung out of my vagina permanently. It was only painful when I had sex and went running or bike riding. I finally went to the doctor and had the tissue removed. My procedure was painful, but it was worth it. Unfortunately, the hymen will not disintergrate: you should really go talk to your gyno and get it removed. It is an outpatient procedure, and the most annoying part if the situation is that you will have to wear pads for a week... [ ub4481's advice column | Ask ub4481 A Question ]
karenR answered Monday March 12 2007, 4:58 pm: A septate hymen (for those who don't know) is when the thin hymeneal membrane has a band of extra tissue in the middle that causes two small vaginal openings instead of one. Teens with a septate hymen may have trouble getting a tampon in or trouble getting a tampon out.
The treatment for a septate hymen is minor surgery to remove the extra band of tissue and create a normal sized vaginal opening. Most of the time though it will break during intercourse, so maybe
that is what happened the last time. Sure sounds like it! :) [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
alisonmarie answered Monday March 12 2007, 4:53 pm: A septate hymen can be resolved with a quick procedure by your gyno. If the band of thick tissues that divided your hymen is what's hanging out, the only person who can help is your gyno.
Sabine answered Monday March 12 2007, 4:50 pm: You should see a doctor, dear. S/He will most likely want to do a procedure to remove the remaining portion of your hymen. You don't have to tell him/her how it was broken, incidentally. It can get broken through use of tampons, sports, or other activities. I have known people who had to have their hymens surgically removed. It's not bad.
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