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Gender: Female
Location: Montreal, Quebec
Occupation: cocktail waitress
Age: 21
Member Since: January 31, 2005
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Hi. I met this guy at work. He was really adoreable and hott. So, later on in the week, I'd look up and see him looking at me.
It was like that for weeks, and finally after much advise from my best friend, she convinsed me to ask him to the movies. I did, and he was going away that weekend. He dissapeared for like 2 weeks and we didnt see him at work. I was very depressed, I had gotten very attached to my little curly headed surfer.
Finally he showed back up at work and quit. Me being the stupid person I am, I forgot to get his phone number. ( I was so kicking myself for that later). So my best friend tells me to look it up in the phonebook. I did, and called him. We hung out the next day, and hung out alot ever since then. We've partied together and everything, and he acted like he really liked me.
Finally we made out. Nearly had sex but I stopped myself. We were hanging out another time after that and he told me that he asked a girl out, that he used to go to school with. He had mentioned her before, but just said she was his best friend! I was like WHAT? I was so hurt, but decided I'd let it go. Next thing, was he was moving back to his home-town state and going to college there. Where SHE lived. So (again advise from my friend) I was told if it made me feel better, to write him a letter and let him know how I felt. I did. A LONG LETTER! I didnt give it to him right away, and then I went and hung out at his house again and we made out and did some pretty serious stuff...WHILE he had a girlfriend now. I gave him the letter and I called him two days after and acted weird..of course, I understand, it was a pretty emotional letter. He moved away, and thats been nearly 2 months ago and I'm still now having difficultys getting completely over him. True, we never 'had anything going'. But he came and picked me up everytime we hung out, even when I said I'd drive over there to hang out, and he didnt try kissing me or anything EVERYTIME so he wouldnt just be using me. My friends all say he's a jerk and to forget about him, but I can't! I've thought I've been in love before, but I never knew what "falling in love" meant until I met him. What do I do? I can move on, but I can't forget about him? What do I say to him when I do get in contact with him. WHAT DO I DO?
I need advise, HELP! (link)
I was in a similar situation for about three years. Eventually you will move on and realise that this guy is far from right for you. You'll also realise you deserve better. He clearly doesn't know what he wants or he'd pick on girl and only one girl. He also doesn't respect you or his girlfirend if he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too. Just because he's not necessarily using you does not mean he respects you. Otherwise he wouldn't try anything with you knowing that it hurts you not being with him. You are not his consilation prize for when he's lonely and not with her. You deserve better!


Ok i have been with this guy for like 8 months and i really love him hes only had like 2 other real g/fs and his longest relationship was 5 months..the only thing he did was finger one of them and she asked for it hes never got anything and we have done alot more stuff but i am so jealous of them and i dont know why and both of them are ugly so am i jealous and how do i get over them? (link)
Ask yourself...do you have any reasons to distrust the guy your with after you've been with him for eight months? Because if you don't then you clearly have no reason to be jealouse...


ok well people are always like if u have small breasts, it's comfortable to not wear a bra if you don't want to. well no matter what size your breasts are, aren't your nipples gonna poke out through your shirt? i mean, i just don't get how it can be comfortable with your nipples showing through your shirt and also with your breasts bouncing. thanks for helping! (link)
Umm...well...I would decide on wearing a bra depending on the type of shirt you wear...Like if its a halter with a low back then go bra free cus it just makes sence, but otherwise stick to the bra so u don't have to worry about the nipple problem...hope that helped...


Heya Im 15 (in 6 days) and female! There is this guy i like him he likes me. But he is popular (captain of the football team) and im not popular his mates cant stand me thus because im not popular. He hasnt told me he fancies me but tells me im pretty and calls me 'bubby' (babe). And he makes it obvious he does. We only smile to each other have talked a few times but he always makes the first move. Are there any good tactics that i can approach him with? How do i fake being confident? Because i get so scared of his friends.No one believes i can get a bf because im not popular but i have faith in myself i just need to put that faith into practice . please reply thanks ever so much xxx . (link)
Hi! Well having graduated high school about five years ago, and growing from unpopular to popular I can tell you this. Don't strive on wanting to be popular, the less you think about it and be yourself the more you'll end up having more friends and what not. When it comes to this guy, if he is making the first move, then he doesn't care what his friends think, and neither should you. I know it hurts when they treat you badly, but their just immature, and lack confidence in themselves and need to bring people down to make themselves feel better. Be happy you're not like that! Continue to find things that you like to do, to meet more people like you. And if you're afraid to speak to this guy then just wave at him the next time you see him in the hallway. Waving hello or just saying hi to people surprisingly makes a huge difference. I wish you well and goodluck!




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