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what do I do?
Hi. I met this guy at work. He was really adoreable and hott. So, later on in the week, I'd look up and see him looking at me.
It was like that for weeks, and finally after much advise from my best friend, she convinsed me to ask him to the movies. I did, and he was going away that weekend. He dissapeared for like 2 weeks and we didnt see him at work. I was very depressed, I had gotten very attached to my little curly headed surfer.
Finally he showed back up at work and quit. Me being the stupid person I am, I forgot to get his phone number. ( I was so kicking myself for that later). So my best friend tells me to look it up in the phonebook. I did, and called him. We hung out the next day, and hung out alot ever since then. We've partied together and everything, and he acted like he really liked me.
Finally we made out. Nearly had sex but I stopped myself. We were hanging out another time after that and he told me that he asked a girl out, that he used to go to school with. He had mentioned her before, but just said she was his best friend! I was like WHAT? I was so hurt, but decided I'd let it go. Next thing, was he was moving back to his home-town state and going to college there. Where SHE lived. So (again advise from my friend) I was told if it made me feel better, to write him a letter and let him know how I felt. I did. A LONG LETTER! I didnt give it to him right away, and then I went and hung out at his house again and we made out and did some pretty serious stuff...WHILE he had a girlfriend now. I gave him the letter and I called him two days after and acted weird..of course, I understand, it was a pretty emotional letter. He moved away, and thats been nearly 2 months ago and I'm still now having difficultys getting completely over him. True, we never 'had anything going'. But he came and picked me up everytime we hung out, even when I said I'd drive over there to hang out, and he didnt try kissing me or anything EVERYTIME so he wouldnt just be using me. My friends all say he's a jerk and to forget about him, but I can't! I've thought I've been in love before, but I never knew what "falling in love" meant until I met him. What do I do? I can move on, but I can't forget about him? What do I say to him when I do get in contact with him. WHAT DO I DO?
I need advise, HELP!
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I would try and get over him..because theres just nothing there. He decided to pick up and leave..and to go back to another girl. Its his loss. I know how deeply you feel for him..but sometimes you just gota let it go. Just because you get over someone..doesnt mean you'll forget about them. You'll always remember him..you just have to remember the good times. Its not meant to be right now..hes flocking to another girl..so you just have to let him. He doesnt sound like that great of a guy because he cheated on his gf with you. My motto is ..once a cheater always a cheater. He could go and do the same thing to you! This kind of stuff is hard..i've been through it. Having the guy you really like move away. Yep i've been there. Getting over him will take time but your never going to just forget about him..and thats fine! As time goes on it will be easier for you to think about him and smile rather then get upset. Theres plenty other guys out there who arent going anywhere and arent cheaters..go for them :)
Hope i helped out..if you have anything else to ask please feel free to drop me a line
-melissa-
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Once a cheater, always a cheater. If he cheats on his girlfriend with you, he will cheat on you with someone else. I think you are looking for a serious relationship, he's looking for "booty".
J
I'll just add that I don't think you should worry about what to say <i>when</i> you get in touch with him. Just don't get in touch with him. It's only going to make things worse for you.
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I was in a similar situation for about three years. Eventually you will move on and realise that this guy is far from right for you. You'll also realise you deserve better. He clearly doesn't know what he wants or he'd pick on girl and only one girl. He also doesn't respect you or his girlfirend if he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too. Just because he's not necessarily using you does not mean he respects you. Otherwise he wouldn't try anything with you knowing that it hurts you not being with him. You are not his consilation prize for when he's lonely and not with her. You deserve better!
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You don't have to forget about him at all. But you have to move on. Just because your moving on doesn't mean you'll actually forget everything that went on between you and this boy. Your first love will never die, ever. I know it's hard, but moving on is the best thing. Try getting out there and dating some guys. This guy wasn't your Mr.Right and you need to realize that and everything between you guys weren't ment to be. If it was, you'd both be together right now. Think of it this way, you're that much closer to finding that guy that won't break your heart. You got to have a few bad ones before you get the right one.
♥ Krissy
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