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First Time Problems...
Well I'll keep it short for once. We've done some foreplay, me and my boyfriend, mostly on him. At the time we started trying sex I hadn't let him try anything on me, and we had really troubles, well, getting it in. This could be because I was so nervous (I would not get completely undressed!) and also we'd done little except kiss before trying. We tried again after the first time, the same problem. And then again a third time, and whether it was the nerves of not being able to do it before and the pressure, I don't know. Either way we decided to wait for a bit more and of recent weeks we've started to move on, doing a bit of foreplay for me too! I was wondering, do you have any advice on what to do, or anyone who had this problem of 'not getting it in' too? Any advice? Do you think it's more likely to work fourth time lucky?! Any answers are VERY VERY welcome. Thanks!
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well....i would say that try and make it an adevnture..you know..if he drives sneak out the house and have him drive you places, then have him stop in a remote place and just make out and then go back somewhere and you'll probably feel calm and comfortable around him by now...foreplay is awesome just you know make out to music and then....like make it flow...
lube works reeally well
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you need to take your time just tell him your not ready yet if he like he will understand.
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Ah, the first time issues...I had problems too, it hurt me continuously for like, the first three or four times.
Lubrication is VERY important. If you're not wet enough, then he's not going in anywhere...lol.
Make sure you get enough foreplay.
Also, I don't want to lecture or preach, or anything, but really - if you're not comfortable enough with this guy to get completely undressed around him, then you should probably wait 'til you are to have sex with him.
Granted, I'm not sure if you're still that uncomfortable, or if it was just that first time, but you get the idea, I'm sure.
He needs to do whatever he can to relax you, and turn you into girl-putty if you're too tense. Tension causes MAJOR problems, and it can hurt him, too. (But don't WORRY about it, or you'll wind up even more tense! =P)
Anyway, you have every right to be a little scared, it does hurt, and that's totally normal, if your hymen isn't broken. So you're not weird, or abnormal. You're probably just nervous.
Good luck honey!
-Siren =)
P.S. To the columnist who posted first on this question, I'm not one to encourage bickering between advicenators, or between the people who ask questions on this site and the people who answer them, but shut the FUCK up. This is a site for advice. If you don't want to answer a question, don't. If you think a question is unnecessary, ignore it. If people can ask what song they should play for their boyfriend on their one-month "anniversary," then a girl can ask why she's having so much trouble getting a first time with her boyfriend.
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that is really unfair to the person hu put da comment sayin stop puttin sex questions! she can put them if she wants thats the whole point! ur supposed to get advice!
i think u should just try a few more sexual fun things and then gradually ull get in the mood for the whole way? x
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i know this isnt the answer you were looking for i dont care if you give me a 1 i just am so tierd of you posting all these sex quistions on here ok im sorry i just had to say it
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