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Boyfriend over friend?
My best friend and I have been friends since 2nd grade (we are now 21). We stayed friends through the years, even when I moved to a different state for 6 years. I moved back to the same state as her in August. We are still best friends but I have noticed a lot is different. Since I moved back, she has had 2 different boyfriends. The first one, she would always blow me off for him. Now the second one is a bigger issue. Although I am not the one dating him I dont understand what she wants with him anymore. At first, I was all for her dating this guy. He treated her right. The twist comes in when my friend had a pregnancy scare. The boyfriend told her that if she were pregnant he would leave her and how its her fault if shes pregnant. She wasnt pregnant but they "took a break". Thats when I lost all respect for this guy. And now, they are back together. I told the guy what he did was wrong and now she will make excuses for him (such as"I care about you both i just dont want drama blah blah blah"). Even still she will pick this guy over me. In fact she would pick any guy over me. I dont understand why, I have been there for her through thick and thin. I would do anything for her. And i get thrown on the back burner. I am debating if I should confront her on this? I feel like it's pointless because she will just agree with me but still pick her boyfriend. My feelings are really hurt.
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Dude, you have been exiled to the dreaded "friend list." That means that you are more like a brother to her than any possible object of future adult affection, as it were. And you will never, ever get off that list in the same way she will not ever want to have sex with her brother. Capiche?
Oh, also, girls love guys who treat them like crap. When guys play up to girls, it is like they are begging her to be with them, which is really weak in any female's eyes.
Guys who continue to pine away for women who have consigned them to the friend list are not just wasting their time, but they look needy and desperate.
So find other girls to date. At this point, your only hope is to start shining her on in hopes that she will re-evaluate your position in her life. But even that is a longshot at best. Do not spend any more major time on her, okay? You could be using that time to chase other chicks. Life is short and she is a time vampire.
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Your friend is incredibly immature!I'm not sure if you have ever watched teen mom, but there was a very similar situation on there were this girl always backed up her bf over her best friend. She really loved her best friend and they got along so well, but this guy had manipulated her so much that she always took his side.
You have every reason to be upset and hurt, but you guys have been friends too long to let this get between the both of you. Unfortunatley some people don't see the light when these situations arise and no matter what happens they act defensively to any time of constructive criticism. The best thing to do would be to maybe space yourself from her more than usual for the time being if it hurts to see the way she is acting but still show her that you will continually support her and be there for her through all the rough times.
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