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My name is Amanda but my friends call me Manda Bear. I'm 23 years young and live in a small town in Ohio. I joined advicenators on Jan. 9th 2013. I want people to know that I am here to help anyone that needs it. Anyone can feel free to ask me whatever they wish. I hope that my time on this website proves to be fun and productive.
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Hey well I did a test at the docktor it was positive he said I should go back in 2 weeks to confirm do u think it will be positive aswell?
Yes I do think it will. The chances of the test being wrong are very slim hun. But I would still follow up just to make sure because you won't know for sure unless you go! If the doctor thinks you need to go back I would for sure listen to whatever he/she has to say.
I wish you the best of luck. Sorry it took me a few days to reply!!
I hope this helped. :) If you need anymore advice or just moral support go ahead and don't hesitate to ask!
-MandaBear-
A week ago I went to Florida to visit my boyfriend. It's a long distance relationship and we engaged in sexual activity for the first time.
He fingered me, and I gave him blow jobs a few times, swallowing. Half way through the trip my clitoris became a bit sore and when I got home I went to the doctor. She said it was most likely just a fungal infection and gave me an antibiotic. After that, the pain went away quickly.
However, now I'm really worried. I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone about going on birth control before our next visit and I discovered that he had not gotten STD tested after his last girlfriend who he had sex with, because she was a virgin prior.
But I don't trust his ex-girlfriend and I know people lie or you can get STDs from oral sex as well.
Should I get tested for STDs, and if so, which ones?
Am I wrong to ask my boyfriend to get tested as well, even if his ex was a virgin?
He thinks I'm being paranoid.
It couldn't hurt one bit to get tested! Just to be safe I would. When you go into the doctor tell them that you want to be tested for everything and aything that you can. At my doctor I had to specifically ask to be tested for HIV/AIDS so ask them what all STDs they are going to test you for.
I would tell your BF that it is very important to you that he gets tested as well. That you aren't being paranoid because there is a chance that his previous GF might have had something. Tell him you aren't willing to be sexually active with him anymore unless he goes through with it. If he really cares about you he will do it.
This is really too important to let go. Stand your ground and let him know that you aren't budging and he has to go get tested to be with you in any sexual way!
I hope this helped! :)
Ok, so I'm a female in my twenties, and so is the guy I've been talking to (Jake) for a few months now. We've gotten along really well, and have a lot in common. I don't want to rush into anything, but at the same time, I want the relationship to be heading toward something.We've already been fooling around and all,too. I finally got up the nerve to ask what we were doing, but didn't get a direct, clear answer. Lately, the conversations have been really good, and he tells me how different I am than people in his past, blah blah blah. For the most part, when we're around each other, it's like we're together...but we're not. He told me how he got out of hanging out with another woman to hang out with me, but then he turned around and said he'd probably end up having to go hang out with her soon, since he's running out of excuses. So...I'm just confused. Is he just trying to get me going by talking about someone else, and get me to be like "no, don't go!"? Or, is he not wanting to be in a relationship with me, and we're just a weekend fling?
I'd appreciate any good thoughts on this...Thanks!
I think that him telling you that he is going to hang out with another girl could be an attempt to make you jealous. Just to see how you would react. But it could be possible that he is trying to let you know by saying he's dating other people that he doesn't want to be serious with you and possibly trying to end everything!!
Since he is being honest about even talking to her in the first place I would try just talking to him about it. Take advantage of him being open about these things to find out how he really feels.
You could maybe say something like "So what do you think about (whatshername)? Have you known her long and are you dating her too?" Try not to sound really overly jealous. Tell him that you really like him and it has been a few months so you just want to know if he plans on ever getting serious. Because you don't want to waste your time if he isn't. Say that you are willing to take it slow still if that is want he wants.
I would be curious if he were to tell you that he is also "talking" to her, if he has slept with her or any other girls yet...You want to keep yourself safe ya know?
Hope this helps! :)
Hi I am 14 years old and I have had breast buds for about 4 months when will they start developing into bigger breast, I haven't got my period yet. Thank you for your time
They will start growing when you start your period and begin going through puberty. Sadly though there is no way to tell when exactly this will happen!
I'm 23 and mine never developed until I was about 17. But that is how it was for me. Yours might start getting bigger by the end of this year or ever two years from now!! Only time will tell!
Hope this helped! :)
Ok so I went to a dance friday night and danced with 2 guys (Tyson, Trevor) and then this other guy named Sam whom I have a history with came up at the end of the dance and told me that he wished he had asked me to dance during one of the slow songs. Now, its only been 2 days and I can not stop thinking about those 3 guys. The things I dont understand: 1. Trevor is on my bus and thinks Im crazy and has been kinda a hater, but Ive always like him a tiny bit. He asked me to dance and then gave me a hug before I left. 2. Tyson and I only text and talk, he likes me and flat out admitted it when we danced. Problem is that my best friend is his ex. 3. Sam has a girlfriend.. Help?
I would rule Sam out completely because he has a girlfriend.
Before considering Tyson I would ask your friend what she would think if you were to date him. Try to bring it up casual. Say something like "At the dance Tyson asked to dance with me and he seemed like he really liked me! Can you believe that? What would you think if he asked me out?" If she seems cool with it and you like him a lot go for him! :)
If you think Trevor is a "hater" but he possibly might just be teasing you because he likes you. If so then I would consider him. I would definitely talk with him more (maybe flirt a little) and see if you think he is into you or if he just wanted to dance with you.
You don't want to read too much into a guy dancing with you. They might have just wanted to dance.
Ask yourself out of Tyson and Trevor who do you like the most? Which one is more like you? Which one is nicer to you? Which one makes you laugh? Make a pros and cons list of the things you do like about each one and the things that you do not like. This might help you sort things out a little bit better!
I want to know how it works out chicky! :)
Do you have to pay for the programs or do you get them with the macbook?
These are the programs/software that it comes with and that you do not have to purchase.
-Operating system is Lion
-iLife which includes the following: iPhoto, iMovie and Garageband
-iTunes
-Mail
-Address Book
-iCal
-Anti-virus Software
I think that is basically it. I hope that this helped! :)
Hi. I cheated on a guy whom i love. I pretended to be somebody. How can i get him back?
You could ask for forgiveness but I doubt the relationship will ever be the same again. He will never trust you and might not forgive you. Ask yourself Do you really love this guy if you have cheated on him? If not learn from your mistakes and move on!
Hope everything works out! :)
Hello well I'm 14 and I need advice do you think I'm pregnant I have skipped my period for 4 months now and my breasts are soo sore and my Stomach is growing? What do u think???* and me and my boyfriend has unprotected sex everyday about 4 times daily and he cummes in me every time? Do u think there's a bun in my oven?
Hey girl! I think that it is very possible! I would go and buy a home pregnancy test right away. I would hurry because if you are pregnant the more and more you wait the less and less options you have to choose from. When you take the home pregnancy test make sure to read and follow all the directions exactly so you get the best results okay? I would say that if you aren't pregnant from the reading on the home pregnancy test to stop having unprotected sex immediately! Make sure he wears a condom chicky. Because letting him cum in you or just pulling out before he goes can still get you pregnant. And you are so young you don't want that! I got pegnant when I was 14 and let me tell ya, it was not fun. Do you have your period regularly every month before you have missed it now for 4 months?
Okay so I'm 13 and my pubic region is a dark brown. I read online that this is totally normal since you started your period. I started my period sometime last year (when I was twelve) in the middle of the school year. Recently this summer (2012) I started using tampons. And even more recent (oct. 2012) I started shaving. I'd like to know when does the browness of your pubic area go away and how can you help it to becoming normal like most girls have it, like your skin color. And how to shave my pubic hairs without infections and irretation and ingrowns and stuff. Also one more question is that one of my flaps (the right one) is longer abd stretched out more than the left one. I'm really scared and I've had it for as long as I've known. No I haven't had sex or been raped, TRUST ME, but I don't know if that's normal or not. Please answer the questions for me please thanks.
Hey chicky!
As the other two said it is completely normal for one side to be longer than the other.
Is the area that is brown always looked like that? Or is it just recent? If it has always been that way then I wouldn't worry because as the last poster said your skin color is just different there. If it is recent maybe you can ask your mother or a doctor. Either one would be able to answer this for you easily.
I find that shaving the way that your pubic hairs grow rather than against it will help against razor burn and ingrown hairs. Use a clean, brand new razor everytime you shave. And I like to use a nonscented shaving cream like barbasol. Even though that brand of shaving cream is more commoly used by men anyone can use it.
Hope this helped! :)
her older sister who is 22 went to jail for one year for fraud related charges. I overheard my younger daughter who is 18 saying that she wants to commit the same crime and try to go to the same prison as her sister because she doesn't want her to be all alone in there. What can I say to her to make her realize she is totally wrong in wanting to do this and she shouldn't follow her sisters footsteps like this? The person I called to talk about visiting said why not bring your younger daughter along for a visit and they can have her older sister and a guard show her around the place and what her daily life his like and hopefully will set her straight. Would that help, or would it just make it worse?
I am 23 and I think that if you took her on a visit so her sister can show her that going to prison isn't the life that she wants, that it would be benificial to her. It would scare the shit out of me I think. If you've tried sitting down with her and telling her why going to prison isn't good for her or her future then maybe seeing it first hand will help her.
Hope this helps! :)
Hi I'm 19 years old and me and my boyfriend had sex on oct 2nd I had what seemed like a period on the 31st. That lasted a day or two and than in nov I had really bad cramps and I thought it was my period but I'm not for sure cause it only lasted a day than I had brown discharge and I skiped the whole month of bec but I did have brown discharge and cramping now its jan and I had a one day thing that seemed like my period I only needed one pad and whin I wip I had brown discharge and blood in it now I'm having pressuer on my lower abdomen and bubble guts I don't really have regular periods I don't know what's going on whit me
It doesn't sound like you are pregnant. But I would take a home pregnancy test just to make sure. It might just be that your period hasn't become very regular yet or that all this stress of you worrying about if you are pregnant or not has cause you period to become a lot lighter and shorter. But it seems like it has been four months since you had sex. I would hurry and take a home pregnancy test just incase you are pregnant because if you keep waiting the options you will have will be less and less. If it turns out that you aren't pregnant I would still go and see a doctor if you feel like there is something wrong. Or maybe discuss it with one of your parents and see what they say.
I hope this helped! :)
Hey,
So obviously I kinda know what it means, but like how would you define a 'fit' girl?
(I mean the way boys say fit rather than psyically fit)
It is British slang for hot and sexy.
Hope this helped! :)
I want to no how to kill myself
I don't know what it is making you feel like you want to end your life but I promise you there is a solution to everything. And suicide is not that solution.
Please take a moment to check out these websites. They can help you with how you are feeling right now.
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
http://www.suicidepreventioncenter.tk/
http://www.suicide.org/
I hope this helps! :)
Can it be installed?
http://www.microsoft.com/mac/faq This website right here answers questions on system requirements for a Mac and Microsoft Office.
Hope this helped! :)
Hi I have no idea if I have my period and I'm 14 but I'm quite small and am a late bloomer but its kinda dull yellowish brownish and then light brown in the middle it's not sticky or anything more liquidy but not sure and kind of scared to tell my mum
Hey girl!
It sounds like you might be about to start your period. I would just go ahead and tell your mom about what is going on with you. She will know exactly what it is. If its not your period it sounds like it could be an infection but I wouldn't worry about it just yet until you see what your mother has to say.
I wouldn't be scared or embarrassed to let her know what is going on. I am 23 years old now. When I was 14 I started my period I went and told my mother about it even though I was nervous too. And she made me feel comfortable talking to her and really took away all the stress I was feeling about the whole situation.
I hope you figure it out soon chick! :)
Okay. I have this friend. No, not a friend. A bitch. She takes advantage of me and then treats me as if I'm transparent. She was close to me last time but I realised that I was the one giving in to her all the time and she took the friendship for granted, so we became just friends. But she was mean. So once, my friend was chatting with me. At that time my friend was close to her. But I told her, "Maybe you shouldn't tell all your secrets to her. She might betray you when she gets angry. She did that to me."
Then my friend told her. WTF?! And then BOTH of them got angry at me because they said I BAD-MOUTHED HER. They started spreading rumours about me and stuff. I'm serious. She really did that to me before. I'm so upset because they blew this whole thing up and pushed all the blame to me. If she had not done that to me, I would never have said that to my friend. HELP!! What should I do? I'm not patching things up anymore because I've had enough!!!! :(
What you said about that girl wasn't a positive thing to say about her but if she really did that to you then you were telling the truth. Just like Mangy Momma said. I agree that you need to find new friends.
If they are spreading rumors about you I would ignore them and they will stop. If you don't feel like you can just ignore what they are saying then let people know if they approach you with these rumors that, you told your friend the truth about this girl and she didn't like it. So now that is why they are spreading rumors. That should help diffuse them.
Be the bigger person and don't spread rumors back they will get what is coming to them in the end!
How do I stop my period after its started
Just like the other two said...You sadly can't! There are ways to make your period less annoying than it has to be. Excersizing the week before your period, taking ibuprofen and using a heating pad can all relieve cramps and make your period not as heavy. As the last poster said taking birth control you can skip up to 3 periods in a row and then allow yourself to have one. Ask your parents about getting on birth control and if you can all reach an agreement they can set you up a doctors appointment. :)
I'm a 13 year old girl. My best friend and I have been fighting. We were fighting at her cousins house and she pushed me then kicked me in the head. It really hurt afterwards but I was ok. She betrayed my trust and then lied to me about it. She has been very mean to my boyfriend and he thinks I should stop being her friend (not just for him but for me too). My parents aren't crazy about her either. She used to be nice and actually beautiful, and I don't know what happened to her. I've always found someway to forgive her but this time I don't know.
Sometimes you can't just keep forgiving someone. If this isn't the first time she has betrayed your trust then I see her doing it again and again. A real friend isn't going to physically and emotionally hurt you. If you have your parents and your boyfriend weighing in telling you that you should just let her friendship go, then I think that is definitely what you should do. It is a real bummer losing a friend but if she isn't being a good friend then you don't need her in your life bringing you down anyway. :)
Ok so, i have heard constantly that being gay is a sin, but i couldnt find it in the bible, plus i dont even understand WHY its a sin in the first place! Can somebody please help me understand?
I personally do not believe so. If you are apart of a certain religion and you feel as if others are judging you based on your sexual preferance, then maybe that religion isn't for you. Why would you want to be apart of a group that hates you for who you are and the very thing that defines you as a person? I am assuming that you were raised christian? Or that there are people who hold christian values that told you being gay is a sin? If so, a part of these christian values are to not judge others. Love everyone because they are all Gods children. Also to not hate the person who has sinned but hate the sin itself. If you are gay I would distance yourself from these people saying this to you. Just let yourself know that there is nothing wrong with you and no one has the right to make you feel bad about your own personal choices. There are 29 references to being homosexual in the bible http://skepticsannotatedbible.com/gay/long.htm this link will show you what they are since they are too long to write here. Overall I do not believe that homosexuality is a sin. According to the bible it is but only if you act upon homosexual urges not just to be homosexual. If you have any more question feel free to inbox me. :)
Please watch this movie "No Child Of Mine" part 6 and tell what is the name of the song at the end.Please.......
I gotta start off saying you didn't give me enough information to watch the specific movie you are talking about to find the song.
When I googled the movie "No Child of Mine" I found that there are three movie with the same title. I was unable to find a full soundtrack list of any of the three movies. Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you. I found that the 1997 version of that movie had two songs listed for it which are as follows:
Heavenly Nobodies
Written By: Miki Berenyi
Performed By: Lush
Ladykillers
Written By: Miki Berenyi
Performed By: Lush
I hope that one of those songs is the one you are looking for.
I would also try getting the movie and going to the credits at the end of the movie and see if it is listed there.
Or possibly you could fast-forward to the part of the movie the song you want to know is at and try to write down the lyrics. Then take those lyrics and google them that will bring up the song even though you don't know the title. :)