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What is he thinking?
Ok, so I'm a female in my twenties, and so is the guy I've been talking to (Jake) for a few months now. We've gotten along really well, and have a lot in common. I don't want to rush into anything, but at the same time, I want the relationship to be heading toward something.We've already been fooling around and all,too. I finally got up the nerve to ask what we were doing, but didn't get a direct, clear answer. Lately, the conversations have been really good, and he tells me how different I am than people in his past, blah blah blah. For the most part, when we're around each other, it's like we're together...but we're not. He told me how he got out of hanging out with another woman to hang out with me, but then he turned around and said he'd probably end up having to go hang out with her soon, since he's running out of excuses. So...I'm just confused. Is he just trying to get me going by talking about someone else, and get me to be like "no, don't go!"? Or, is he not wanting to be in a relationship with me, and we're just a weekend fling?
I'd appreciate any good thoughts on this...Thanks!
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Well I think you need to ditch his ass . He sounds to me like he is using you . I am a guy and I know how guys think and you have asked him yourself what's going on between you 2 and you never got a clear answer . If a guy likes you and you ask him whats going on he is going to tell you how he feels and most likely you 2 would end up being a couple . But that has not happened instead he is hanging out with another girl and using you both . He is using you,Don't get jealous dont show him any attention and ditch him , he had a chance to be with you but instead chooses to keep things the way they are because that means he is single and can have who he wants when he wants and also gets you on the side . Ditch his ass don't let him play games with you there's better guys out there then this guy . If he really liked you he would want you as his girlfriend not just some hook up .
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Just walk away. It sounds like you two want different things. Find someone who wants to only hang out with you.
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I think that him telling you that he is going to hang out with another girl could be an attempt to make you jealous. Just to see how you would react. But it could be possible that he is trying to let you know by saying he's dating other people that he doesn't want to be serious with you and possibly trying to end everything!!
Since he is being honest about even talking to her in the first place I would try just talking to him about it. Take advantage of him being open about these things to find out how he really feels.
You could maybe say something like "So what do you think about (whatshername)? Have you known her long and are you dating her too?" Try not to sound really overly jealous. Tell him that you really like him and it has been a few months so you just want to know if he plans on ever getting serious. Because you don't want to waste your time if he isn't. Say that you are willing to take it slow still if that is want he wants.
I would be curious if he were to tell you that he is also "talking" to her, if he has slept with her or any other girls yet...You want to keep yourself safe ya know?
Hope this helps! :)
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