Im 16. so my ex boyfriend is dating another girl and she believes in no sexual stuff before marriage and he was the one I lost my virginity to when I was 14 and he was 17. i wanted to ruin the relationship so I told her that we had sex. So anyway she got really insecure. I said " I hear you're dating my ex, how do I taste?" Every time they kiss I think it's funny cause his mouth was on my vagina before and how shes getting my leftovers. every time she kissed him my friends said its like her kissing my vagina. Was that mean? do you think it stopped them her from kissing him? i had a boyfriend after him so I have moved on I just want to make my ex mad because he deserves it cause he is my leftovers.
Yes this is mean. Some question \" Did you think the boy you dated after never had a girlfriend?\" What if she were to say the same things to you when you were dating him? Yes its mean and it is not nice at all. I\'m not sure if you are writing this because you feel sorry about it, or you wanted validation. Either way karma is a bitch, and I only hope that it doesn\'t hit you too hard. I would apologize, and ask for her forgiveness. Its up to you, but to answer your question you were not only mean but also being a vengeful. Good luck with whatever.
Lillian Garvin
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i am 13 and my boyfriend is 19. he wants to have sex with me ? what should i do ?
I\'m not the one that is saying you\'re too young for sex because I am not your parent nor do you live under my roof. But for one he is too old to be your boyfriend, and if you have sex that is rape. No matter if you wanted it to happen or not. He could potentially go to not jail, but prison for those actions. I would recommend you to not see this guy anymore, and maybe start dating boys around your own age. 6 years is a big difference now. When you turn 18 then legally you may do whatever you want, but for now just let him go do him. Not trying to lecture but you either need to tell someone or just end it now.
Lillian Garvin
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Im 16/f and I do not get the whole fascination with dressing up, lots of makeup, dying hair etc. Like all the girls at my school are starting to wear these pretty dresses and doing their hair and they all look so beautiful..but its like i dont give a shit about any of that. Ive always been decent looking without doing a whole lot so i never really got into fashion or lots of makeup..I would like to tbh. Today i tried doing a smokey eye, and it kinda looked like shit lol. And i also tried looking up skirts and dresses that i could buy and they were all ugly and expensive. And all that stuff seems like a lot of work to keep up looking really nice everyday. I just dont get it, why is it so important? To feel good about yourself, sure but why else? I like looking nice but at the end of the day it doesnt really matter.. i dont wanna spend so much time on something that wont really get me anywhere and idk i just dont get it.
Actually I\'m not big into dressing up either. I am a basketball player so I tend walk around in basketball shorts and a t-shirt everyday. And since it seems like you know you look good and your self confidence is great, you don\'t have to do all that extra. But if you\'re anything like me I like to dress up every blue moon. I say go to the mall in your area and bye two or three outfits. They all don\'t have to be dresses, they could skirts/ a nice top and nice accessories. When I was in high school I didn\'t know the first thing about make-up ( and I really don\'t now) but for benginners start if with the basics. Foundation, eyeliner, maybe mascara if you would like, and some lip gloss. You know you look good with out it, so just with this little bit you would be killing the game haha. But I hope I helped, because I\'m a tomboy in college that still where\'s basketball clothes. But I still get hit on with my bball shorts, if that is more convincing haha.
Lillian Garvin
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So my boyfriend & I recently discovered we both had chlyamdia. I got it cured. But my boyfriend on the other hand, hasn't yet. He went but they sent him somewhere else, anyways we were messing around we been using condoms since we found out but I was messing around & I was teasing him & didn't think anything of it but I just licked the top of his dick (the head) & just remembered you can get chlymadia through oral. I didn't think about it, but it was literally just a lick. Not a suck or anything. One lick! Lol he didn't cum or anything. Is there a chance I have a chlymadia? Please answer asap!
I truly cannot say for sure if you do or not sense I'm not a medical professional. But just in case I would say to go checked out again, I mean what would it hurt. Even though it may be a slim chance of getting it, you never know. Haha I'm sorry I couldn't be anymore of some type of help.
Lillian Garvin
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I've always known something was wrong with me. I had issues with self harm for a long time. I still have suicidial thoughts. I feel the need to drink and smoke when feeling down. My newest being a need to "binge eat". But I tried to stop all that, and change. It all made me hate myself more than I already do but I snapped a bit today. Just ate a take out carton full of fries, grilled cheese, two sloppy joes. a carton full of sweet potato fries and some funyuns. all within twenty minutes then popped a laxative. never ate a laxative after binging before... but I just grabbed the pack I had in my room (because I heard it was a quick weight loss technique)and did it. who knows why?
Anyway I know to get the help I need I'd have to go through my dad and I can't talk to my family. And I really mean I can't. I'm already the black sheep...and it's funny because I give advice on here and try to be there for people and i'm starting to wonder if maybe all the times I said it was going to be okay was me subconsciously trying to make myself believe that...
I know it doesn't seem like there is a question in here...i guess i kinda just needed to vent. I have no one to talk to.
Its totally fine. If you just want things out, that is also why we are all are here. Sometimes its best just to let it all out, instead of just having an outright question. It seems you know what you need to do, its just how to go about it. If you have a question I'm here, and if you just want to vent I'm here. I know you may think that everybody will say this but you are beautiful in all aspects of the word. Sometimes its more saying that you are beautiful, that makes things come together. Just know I'm here.
Lillian Garvin
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I've already reported your site to Google and other search engines. I hope they kick your sad sorry butts off the net, or that Obama does something about sites like this, where any idiot can answer a question like "What's the fastest way to commit suicide?" I'm a reporter doing an expose, and believe me I will expose your site and others who are allowing this type of thing to occur! God help you if a parent finds the site up on their child's computer after such a suggestion is made and the teen carries out their suicide attempt in the exact manner as a teenager told them to do.
Isn't the world cruel enough? Where do you people get your values from? Or do you have any at all?
Pull out a bible and try reading it sometime!
A concerned mom
Or....become an activist and stop blaming other people for actions that another human being takes. If a mother like you would keep tabs on your kids, there would be no need for those types of questions.
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I am scared that my dad and his side of the family will disown me because my boyfriend is black and they are very racist how do I tell them ?
As gently as possible. I would try to prepare for the worst case scenario. You know best how your dad will react. You know he will be mad, and even more just because your pregnant. I would not recommend you do it privately, I would have someone you really trust there when you tell your parents. It will get very emotional and intense, but it has to be done. Since you know how he will react, it just might give you an advantage. But i also recommend to practice what you will say, its going to be hard, but hey life is no joke.
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I had sex for the first time with my boyfriend without a condom about a month ago and I took 2 home pregnancy tests yesterday and they both came out positive and i am so scared because my boyfriend is black and my family is very racist on my dad's side but my mom doesn't care if he is black or white but she would freak out if I told her I was pregnant by anybody at 14 years old I know this for a fact because my sister came home about a year ago and told my mom she was pregnant by her boyfriend and he was white and my sister was 17 at the time and she kicked her out she said if you want to act like and adult and have sex and then your going to be treated like one the only reason I had sex in the first place was because my boyfriend said he would break up with me if I didn't have sex with him . I asked him to use a condom and he refused but I still wanted him in my life and now i am pregnant what should I do ?
Even though its hard, your going to have to tell your parents. The only thing worse than telling your parents your pregnant, is telling them when you're 3 months and about to show. You cannot do this alone, and you can not hide this very long. I know its scary, but this is the path that you have to take.
And for future reference never let anybody force you into doing something you don't want to do. If he wants to leave let him leave nothing is worth more than your health and well being. I hope I helped and hope you all the best.
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Ok so I just started high school. I am 14/f. I am in the marching band and color guard. So, I met this guy(my age/Freshman) at Band Camp a few weeks ago. I didn't think he would want to become friends (he didn't seem easy to approach.) Then he sat with me and a few band friends at lunch during BC and our 8th grader said I was his best friend in the Guard (that made me smile) I said i didn't really have a 'best friend in band'and the guy 'W' said "Hey what about me!?" I was shocked and said yeah laughing. Then school started yesterday. 'W' kept teasing me because i was moving around the band room a lot! 'W's 5th period class is next door to mine (before lunch) and we left our classes at the same time, he walked up next to me and he was going to sit with me and my best friend (he was in 'W' class) and he came with us and we all talked and ate till near the end of lunch when 'W' left to go to his class early.
So then today. I have band with him. We talked a little (he started the conversation), then i realized i was lost.(It's a BIG campus)and he asked where i had to go. I said GEO and he led me through the huge mass of students. He and i talked a little more and i said i would meet him and my Best friend outside of 5th. So he walked me to class *smiles and blushes for no reason* and helped me find where i was suppose to go.
He did the same thing at lunch hung out till the end.
Now for my question... Do he and I seem to be making progress?? I really want to become good friends with him :)and... I'm starting to like him!!
Please help,any advice would be greatly appreciated!
It kind of sounds like you want him to be more than a friend. I say this because most people don't stress over just being friends with somebody. But answering you first question yes you are making great progress with just becoming friends. Just talking to him and getting to know him like you did the friend you have now. If you really like him in the "boyfriend" type of way, keep doing the same things you're doing now. Don't make it weird or awkward. Gradually it will be where you want it to be, where you both want it to be.
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Question Posted Wednesday August 21 2013, 3:37 pm
Hi there my cousin and i have been together for 6 yrs secretly we hve a 5 yr old daughter together and no one knows about it weve managed to keep it a secret this long but late last year she decided to end it recently saying she cant pretend anymore and alota people will get hurt if they found out i know shes my cousin but i just fell in love with her and even now im stil madly in love with her i havent seen or spoken to her in a month now and im heartbroken is it true u cant choose who u fall in love with? and i miss my daughter too and ive Also been told by people shes been seen with another guy this is just a very big mess at the moment i dont know what to do
I'm so sorry if this is late. Ive had so much on my plate lately. Well lets take being cousins out of it for a minute. She is tired of keeping secrets. All she wants to do is to have a clear mind set and heart. Holding things in can be very stressful no matter how minor or or major. I'm pretty sure she still has feelings for you for sure. You have a magnificent child together. You just need to allow her to do whats she needs to and then come in with a open heart. Be honest ask her what is missing in the relationship and how you both can achieve what you want.
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Hi everybody I have two questions. First I want to get a tattoo on the side of my forearm ...I'm not sure what of... But I was thinking my first and middle name. So my first question is... Is it weird to get your own name tattooed to yourself? I feel like it is a little odd but I'm just wondering if it actually is. And my second question right now I am hairdressing but want to go to college to be a cosmotology teacher... Or a therapist... Or maybe an FBI agent.. I am obviously very in decisive but would a tattoo that couldn't be easily hidden like on my forearm stop me from pursuing a job I may want? Or do employers look more past tattoos now? Thank you!
I have heard a lot of weird things as tattoos and thats not really one of them. The point of tattoos are that they are an expression of yourself and what you believe in and stand for, so if thats what you want do you! Something tells me that being a hairdresser and therapist it really shouldn't matter but it should be easily hidden depending on what shirts you wear, and the position of the tattoo. I'm not really sure if you are a girl or guy or not so it kinda depends on what you wear. I would check with being an FBI just because I know being a cop over where I live they have stopped selecting cops with tattoos, that can MAYBE be visible. So I would actually check with the actual FBI.
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For the past several months my boyfriend and I have been apartment hunting. There was one place we just fell in love with though it's expensive for a one bedroom because it's considered "Luxury".
Everybody's been telling us not to do it because we won't be able to afford it but we're not the typical couple.
He has two jobs working about 50-70 hours a week and I work one job at two places and work 36-40 hours a week but I make more than him an hour.
Together we make around $3,400 a month, 43,000 a year and I'd like to start doing some wide work as well just to fill up the empty hours so I'm not bored and lonely when he's at work.
Finance wise (monthly), Rent is $758, renters insurance $20 Electric around $300, High Speed Internet will be around $70, Groceries around $200, we don't want cable TV since we have Netflix through a family account,
My car payments are $316, his car insurance is $130 mine is $160. Both of our cellphone bills together are $90. Gas is about $150 for both cars (I have a hybrid). I know there are other bills that I can't think of right now but with what I've already taken out above that still leaves $1,006 a month free.
What other expenses should I be looking at?
How can we go about getting good quality furniture for not sky high prices? We already have a dining room table with chairs, a dresser, a book case, a sofa, an HD TV, a Macbook Air, a desk. The apartment comes with a fridge, freezer,dishwasher, washer and dryer in the apartment, oven, microwave, lots of cabinets and counter space and two walk in closets.
Ok lets say all your math is right, and it does leave you with 1,006 a month. have you totaled gas for the month. God forbid there is an accident do you have extra cash for emergency bills, new tires, new belt for ether car, even a new car. What people forget to save for is accidentals, and that is what really hurts people in the long run. Also God forbid you guys split, what then? I'm not trying to be a Debby downer, just saying these things unfortunately happen. Also bankers suggest you put 15% of your income in savings for rainy days. Though if you do choose to get the apartment I suggest you not to rent because you end up paying way more than what is costs. Garage sales, Thrift stores, and little shops are the best places to get nice things. You can make it your on also.
P.S. If you didn't already know you can right off gas for 2nd jobs and any other jobs after that.
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I was just wondering whether there's any females here who at some point have been at a size where their inner thighs chafed together and then lost weight.
This summer I have done a lot of travelling and my inner thighs have chafed and now the skin is kind of red and rough. However, I'm slowly losing weight (working out, eating better) and I want to know whether this skin will get better and go back to the way it was before after a while.
Could anybody answer this question for me? :)
Yes they will. I'm guessing your on the lighter side because you said your thighs get red. Eventually your thighs will heal. A quick way for this to work is stop wearing a lot of shorts that have your thighs bare rubbing together. Also put some type of shea butter on them. Sooner or later they should go back to the same old thighs you had before.
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Ok so firstly I am a 17/f and a virgin. I was going out with a guy 9 months ago and he broke my hymen because he fingered me with 3 fingers but there was never any blood and it was never uncomfortable. So recently I was started going out with a new guy and I haven't done anything since the old guy (9 months ago). But when he fingered me (1/2 fingers) for the first time I instantly started bleeding. I freaked out and found it so embarrassing because it was bleeding a lot. It bled for 3 days. A few weeks later I got my actual period and it really hurt! A lot more than normal! So I decided to just ignore it. Then after my period was over and everything seemed ok we tried again and the same thing happened but worse. Please help me! I don't know what is wrong?! And its really starting to hurt!!
I will go out on a limb and say you didn't brake your hymen the first time. And I will also say you may need to go see a gynecologist to make sure everything is right. I know for a fact bleeding vary's between person to person. Though a gyno is you're best bet. Hope I helped
Lillian Garvin
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So I've got a bit of depression and I've bEen really down and whatever so today my best friend asked me why I've been so down lately and I said I'm sick so she said she finds it really hard to be my best friend(probably because of me being down) now her and the other girl In our group is becoming best friends, they doing everything together and I don't know how to get my best friend back. I find it so hard to not cut anymore because she was my reason to stop. The reason I don't tell her what's wrong anymore is because she's said things about me being attention seeking, that I must leave the earth and that I'm not really suicdal, stuff like that. I really don't want to lose her :( please help get her back?
I'm not sure if a real best friend would say anything of that sort, but if you want her I'll try to help. You need to be totally honest about your depression and tell her its nothing about seeking anything, its a condition. Also make her understand that you don't want to loose what friendship you guys have built. By this time you will figure out if she is really worth being called a best friend. She can take it and run with it or not want to deal with it. I hope she is a true friend and tries to help. I know I would. But also understand that it is natural for a person not wanting to hang around someone who is down all the time. Just like a relationship it take two.
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Im tired of being hurt and feeling lost I live with my dad and stepmom but I have another family two hours away and in that family I have my stepdad he's horrible he treats my sisters with love and care but I get told I'm worthless and no one would care if I existed I can't do this anymore I usually keep strong but he's tearing down any defense I have two years ago I attempted suiside but my 6 year old sister caught me and stopped me I did it because of him but never told my parents about it they don't even know I attempted it no one knows but my sister she watches me everyday now and its getting worse again his words hurt more than it should I don't know what to do anymore 15f
Even though its cliché that man sees something in you he doesn't contain and lashes out on you. I say tell the parents you are living with now what is on your mind and what you are dealing with. If you are not close to them as you want to be, it may bring you guys closer. Though if you think they wouldn't understand at all tell someone you trust. But always know you are not worthless. You have so many years ahead of you and the best way to prove someone wrong is to be successful. I hope you find comfort in your family and friends, and just know you are beautiful and accomplish anything.
p.s. I would tell your mother how her husband makes you feel, and when you tell her I would recommend you have someone there just in case. I know how these things can get. She can get defensive. Since you live with your other half at least it won't be awkward in the house. It will be hard but remember your sister and how she found you. Do it for her, and peace within yourself.
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Hi , Im 13 years old , & Im 5'6 & I weigh 256 pounds . I am WAY over weight . I cannot go to dieting because I have a physical in one month so i NEED to loose weight before I go off the charts and I dont want him to yell at me . I literally just started making myself puke to loose weight . How long will it take for me to be average weight ?
I will try to keep it short and sweet. Stop making yourself throw up. If you think its bad being over weight, try being over weight, irritable, with horrendous breath. Its also rots your teeth and look it up to see what I mean. Plus since you extremely overweight now it will take months and months before you get back to where you should be. And by that time so many things will be shutting down on you, you wouldn't make it. The plus side to being that big is that you drop weight fast if you do 1 out of the 2 things. You either cut down on your eating habits or work out and still cut down on what you eat. Please don't read this in a mean way, just out of concern.
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I'm 13 female, a virgin, haven't had my period like ever. I don't know if its a yeast infection or anything. My vajayjay smells VERY VEEEERY strongly of pee. When I take a shower like 5 minutes after I'm done the smell comes back a bit, then it rapidly gets stronger. I can smell it when I move a lot or in a certain position. It smells really bad and anything I sit on smells of pee after. It's really embarrassing. My underwear is wet at the middle of the day and its uncomfortable. Any remedies? Do you have any remedies that'll work on a ODOURFUL vajayjay WITHOUT yeast infection. It DOESN'T smell like fish AT ALL. Just pee. I wipe thouroughly from front to back twice after I pee. It still doesn't do anything. I also SWEAT ALOT down there an there is never any discharge or anything but its really sweaty and wet and smells like pee! I drink roughly 4 cups of water a day and I know I more. Help!
I would recommend you to use feminine wipes and or feminine wash. If that does not help you should just talk to your doctor, because if its that much of an issue it might be something medical and not just on the surface. Don't be embarrassed it happens more than you think. It's just good that you're taking care of it now. I hope all goes well.
Lillian Garvin
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well im female/19.
Me and my ex boyfriend are still in contact were still friends, and well we have them conversations where we always talk about the past, like we bring up memories and our sexual experiences together..
we've spoke about us having sex again, he was the last guy i had sex with to be honest.. and well we both want to do it would it be wrong? cause inside it's something i really want to do and i would o it over and over again, like i know it would be just sex but since he's my ex we both know what we like, and I have that feeling that by us having sex feelings would be there he once said it himself..
I agree with the person that wrote you the first time. None of us should be telling you who to have sex with because its not are place to, its only yours. Though what I will tell you is this you are 19 and an adult now who gets to make her own decisions. If you decide to have sex with him, and only sex, you are the one who is bound to have more feelings. There is something in women that triggers us to attach ourselves to the person we sleep with. And I'm not talking about emotionally, I mean biologically. We can't help it. I just will say be safe, if you choose to go down that road.
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Do you know the specifics?:/
Not too much because I'm not in the situation myself. Though I do know INS has cracked down on marrying an immigrant because of arranged marriages in the past. People would get married and after the illegal citizen would get his/hers visa and would get a divorce. So I would maybe contact someone from INS to help you further understand. I'm sorry if I wasn't much of help, but I hope all ends well. But always keep in mind if you do decide to get married for all the right reasons you shouldn't have too many problems.
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