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Making Progress?
Ok so I just started high school. I am 14/f. I am in the marching band and color guard. So, I met this guy(my age/Freshman) at Band Camp a few weeks ago. I didn't think he would want to become friends (he didn't seem easy to approach.) Then he sat with me and a few band friends at lunch during BC and our 8th grader said I was his best friend in the Guard (that made me smile) I said i didn't really have a 'best friend in band'and the guy 'W' said "Hey what about me!?" I was shocked and said yeah laughing. Then school started yesterday. 'W' kept teasing me because i was moving around the band room a lot! 'W's 5th period class is next door to mine (before lunch) and we left our classes at the same time, he walked up next to me and he was going to sit with me and my best friend (he was in 'W' class) and he came with us and we all talked and ate till near the end of lunch when 'W' left to go to his class early.
So then today. I have band with him. We talked a little (he started the conversation), then i realized i was lost.(It's a BIG campus)and he asked where i had to go. I said GEO and he led me through the huge mass of students. He and i talked a little more and i said i would meet him and my Best friend outside of 5th. So he walked me to class *smiles and blushes for no reason* and helped me find where i was suppose to go.
He did the same thing at lunch hung out till the end.
Now for my question... Do he and I seem to be making progress?? I really want to become good friends with him :)and... I'm starting to like him!!
Please help,any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Sounds like the way all friendships start to me, seeing someone you have interest in, you hang out near them more and talk more to each other. Its exactly the same way you've gotten any girlfriends in the past, the only difference is the romantic male/female attraction is present in this type of friendship which makes it seem a foreign strange new thing. But really, lots of what applies for how you act and are friends with females will apply here too. The only real differences begin to show when it comes to romance or in understanding each other. Guys and girls have different ways of interpreting things or what they say has one meaning for one sex and a totally different one for the other. So your skills at communicating will be tested with a male friend. He needs the training too and likely will welcome getting to understand how a girl thinks and believes...
But my only advice at this point is to ask questions when you find yourself guessing what someething he said or did meant to him. If he wonders why you ask, you tell him you want to learn to understand him better... which is true.
Sounds like he is very interested in you. OUr body language and actions give off signals when we are interested, such as making sure to be within arms reach or closer of each other. Good eye contact, the blushing, finding excuses to have hands touch, arms brush against each other and leaning towards each other while seated and having conversation shows attraction as well.
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Yeah you guys seem to be making progress.
I don't really have much advice for you because you seem to have got it down fine. He's definitely interested in becoming good friends with you. Just treat him like you would any other friend and he'll easily become one of them. Then of course after that, you can progress into becoming more than friends if the attraction is there between you guys.
Maybe try hanging out together outside of school. If that's weird then invite more friends along. It's a good way to get to know people better.
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It kind of sounds like you want him to be more than a friend. I say this because most people don't stress over just being friends with somebody. But answering you first question yes you are making great progress with just becoming friends. Just talking to him and getting to know him like you did the friend you have now. If you really like him in the "boyfriend" type of way, keep doing the same things you're doing now. Don't make it weird or awkward. Gradually it will be where you want it to be, where you both want it to be.
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