I am a parent of a three year old. I am no longer involved with the father, but still speak with him. Lately his new girlfriend has become obsessed with my child. She takes pictures and buys toys and outfits for her. I do not feel comfortable with her being around my child. What can I do to make sure she stays away?
Well, your actually kind of lucky because I can speak to you first hand about this situation as I am involved in this same situation, only with a younger child, and I am the "other girl". Haha. The only difference is that I ended up marrying the father in this situation.
First off, when I was first dating my NOW Husband, his ex-girlfriend didn't really want me to be around her child at first and I respected that, for a WHILE. But, there comes a time where your are just going to have to accept that your ex has a right to live his OWN life and you cant LEGALLY monitor what he does with his parenting time with your child, anyhow. Besides, would you want him telling you that you can't have your boyfriend around your daughter? No! It goes both ways. Also, seeing how a "potential spouse" acts with your child is a major step in a relationship. You wouldn't want to be with someone who isn't good to your child and doesn't treat that child the way that you see fit. And that is, after all, the purpose of dating... to "prepare" for marriage and to see if you are compatible with this person. Ya know? Now, since they are not married, he really should respect it if you have voiced your concerns about her being around the child, but just know that she has a RIGHT to be with her boyfriend and your ex has a right to have whoever he wants around the child. Try to remember that you are NOT the only parent in this child's life and you are NOT the most important parent either. You are BOTH important and both of you should be spending time with the child on your own and loving the child. Legally, if he is established as the father already, he has just as many legal rights as you do. Just because you have physical custody of the child, doesn't mean you are the only parent that matters and for the sake of the child, you should take that into consideration. Again, you are both EQUALLY as important.
The only way that you can legally "make her stay away" as you put it, is if the father has no legal rights and is not paying child support. But, if he is paying support and seeing his child, no judge in the land is going to allow you to monitor who he allows around your child unless you have grounds for a restraining order or protection order. That means that she has to THREATEN you DIRECTLY, or the child.
I understand, REALLY I do, that you are concerned and it is hard being in your shoes, I am sure. I have actually talked to my hubby's ex and I get how she feels, but you just have to realize that the father has a right to his own life as well and a right to include that child and WHOMEVER else he wants to be there. My advice to you is to TALK TO HER and try to make her understand how you feel and then... RELAX and accept the situation. It's really not within your rights to do anything about it anyhow. I also really hope that she respects your role in this situation and is willing to make a "Common Ground" with you and talk to you or the sake of getting along for the child. You don't have to be "besties", but kinds can sense tension and even at such a young age!
Good luck to you and I hope that for the sake of this child you can all try to work this out. Thanks again!
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I just got a new job lifeguarding, but I dont really feel comfortable with my body. All of the other girls at the pool are sexy and attractive. I don't really know what to do. Seeing as you are NOT the prettiest girl, how do you deal with situations like this? Do you just suffer through it knowing there is nothing you can do to make yourself look better or what?
First off, asking me a question like this is completely immature you are and THAT is more than likely your biggest issue, not your looks.
I consider myself to be a VERY pretty and beautiful girl in my own way and my husband certainly would defend me on that as well. It is all about your own perception of yourself. If you think your pretty and you ACT it and show confidence (and not send people shitty messages in their inbox saying shit like this), then others will see that and it will rub off and they will think you are pretty as well. It all starts with YOU.
And we will ALL have things that we don't like about our bodies. If you don't like your weight, then get motived and DO SOMETHING to change it. Some things ARE in your control.
Good luck.... and maybe you can be more mature in the future, I should hope.
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My boyfriend of 3 years, "Dave" and I have recently moved into an apartment with his friend, "Bob" and Bob's girlfriend, "April".
Bob has to go to basic training for 4 months so it is only Dave and I plus April.
I have to house sit for my grandparents for a week while they are on vacation and am over an hour away from the apartment so I'm nervous leaving Dave and April alone.
I trust him, but I came over to visit yesterday and walked in the room and he was on the computer in our room (he had no shirt on and pj bottoms) while she was on the bed watching him.
I don't know her that well and it freaked me out that a stranger is in our room with my personal stuff and on my bed with my boyfriend, alone.
What I want to know is am I over reacting and should I ask him not to have her in there alone or is that too controlling?
What would you think about this?
Thanks.
Honestly, I do not think you are over-reacting. I could never leave my boyfriend (now... Husband) alone with a girl for a week, especially if she is without her significant other for 4 weeks and especially if you have already been made uncomfortable by walking into a room with him having his pants off and her on the bed. Thats just... NOT acceptable, in my opinion.
What I think you should do is talk to your boyfriend and come to a compromise. Let him know that you want your relationship to work and that you don't want anything to come between the two of you and most of all... ALWAYS BE CLEAR About your EXPECTATIONS. If he doesn't know that you think it is wrong for him to be in his undies in front of her, then he can't do anything to HELP that. Make it clear to him.
The only solution to this problem, I think, if communication and for you to talk to your boyfriend. Best of luck! And, remember.... be CLEAR about your expectations and stand your ground, sweetie. Haha. Thanks again!
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ive had a cold for about a week
and ive been blowing my nose ALOTTT.
cause its soo stuffy.
my cold is going away but today i was blowing my nose and then like all of a sudden i cant really breathe out of my left one.
i feel all the snot and stuff (gross i know) when i like suck it upp. but when i blow nothing comes out?
i dont know how to explain it but its reallllly annoying me.
and im scared causae i just read something and it said if you blow your nose too hard and too much you can have an anurism (sp?) and you die from those..
Okay, first off, you should calm down, hunni. Your not going to die. You do, however, need to get to the Doctor so that you can find out what is wrong.
I am not a doctor, but from what your saying, you may have busted a blood vessel in your nose, or something to that effect. Is it bleeding?
Just be care, keep pressure on it, and get to a Doctor. Best of luck, hunni. And, like I said, try to calm down and relax. It will help.
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My boyfriend and i just started having sex about a month ago. And a couple of times i have bleed. I did lose my virginity to him but i didnt bleed the first time. is it normal to bleed after the first time? we do it more than once at a time ...could it be that? please help
First off, this is normal. Completely normal. Not everyone bleeds the first time that they have sex. In fact, if you don't break all the way through your hymen, you won't. So, don't worry about it so much. Not, if months down the line, after A LOT of sex, you are still bleeding everytime you have sex, then I would see a doctor, incase you have an infection. But, this is normal. Just relax and don't worry about it too much. Best of luck!
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is it normal to get an orgasm from dry humping?
Yes, it is normal. You can orgasm from any sort of contact to that area of your body as long as you are sensitive enough. It might not be common, for girls, but yes, it is normal. Nothing to worry about. Seriously.
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I'm not really sure how to put on makeup. I also don't know what would look good on me. I have brown hair and blue/gray eyes. anything can help!
I agree! The best policy for wearing makeup is to make it look natural. Look like your not wearing any. This can be tricky. I would get some friends or an adult together and go over some different looks that you might like and experimetn a little. Best of luck!
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well i know i have a sleeping dissorder but i dont know how to help myself, if you know what i mean. im 14 and cannot sleep when i need to. im a total night owl and do not sleep at night only during the day. this has affected my life big time, im failing in school, i have so many absences, i am a bitch to everyone around me. its also effecting me physically, i have these weird lines under my eyes that are so ugly. as of now it is 2 am and i have school in 4 hours. i usually go to bed at 5 or 6? and sleep throughout classes and sleep right when i get home. ive tried waiting till the right time to go to bed but its physicaly imposible. i dont know what to do and its ruining my life, help!
This is a very difficult situation and I want you to know that there is no easy answer. Sleep is very important to the body. There are many reason that we need sleep. It rejuvenates our mind, body, and just EVERYTHING about out bodies. You should be getting a decent nights sleep every night. If you don't, then like you said, it will start to effect your life and your body.
One of the biggst things that you can do for yourself is going to be on a day that you don't have anywhere to be or anything to do for a day or so, like the weekends! Lay in bed, get a good book, maybe a hot beverage, and relax and allow yourself to sleep. Sleep as long as you can. I, honestly, have done this before when I wasn't getting enough sleep. I would sleep for about 12 hours and feel SO MUCH better. But, it's not easy. Your body is going to want to wake up seeing as you have an eating disorder, but I do not reccomend sleeping pills until you have at least tried this without then, first.
Also, try to get yourself on a regular sleeping patter. This can do your body more good than you KNOW! Trust me. Your body will get used to sleeping at the time and you will sleep better better and become more refreshed because of it. Experts say you need aout 8 to 9 hours of sleep a night. Thats what is best.
All in all, try to relax yourself and your mind and alow yourself to sleep for, like I said, as long as your body will allow. You will fell a lot different once you do. And, if none of this works, you shoudl go to a doctor.
But, don't worry too much. This is actualyl common in younger people. Heck, even I have trouble sleeping sometimes when there is a lot on my mind. Your still young, you can get help with this. Good luck, and like I said, don't hesitate to go to the doctor if this doesn't get better. Thanks, hun.
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I have liked this guy for awhile now. He was in a relationship with another girl, but she broke up with him yesterday, and he talks to me about how he is so sad, and that he wants to talk to her. And I don't know what to tell him, because secretly I am happy that maybe I can be with him, but I want him to be happy too. So I told him that I was sorry for him, and I tried to cheer him up, but I don't know how I should go about starting something with him. Now just doesn't seem like the time. Advice?
Dear, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "now just doesn't seem like the time". You need to give him some time before you tell him how you feel about him. He needs to be able to get over her completely and giving him time to do that will benefit you as well.
Catching him "on the rebound" is not good for anyone. You don't want to be led on by him and he is probably very vulnerable right now.
The best thing that I think you can do is just be there for him as a friend right now. Show him that you care about him no matter what and that you are willing to help him through this. Then, once the timing is right, and you will KNOW when it's right, then let him know how you feel.
But, honestly, hunni, give it some time. You don't want to rush into it and get your heartbroken. Take it slow and best of luck!
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How do I know I climxed? I dont really understand much.
All I can tell you, dear, is that you will certainly be able to tell and KNOW whenever you do. It's not something you can mistake for anything else in the world, really. It is a great feeling and you have muscle spasms. Good luck!
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im gay and have a crush on my best friend melissa brother robert and he is straight but wishes that i was a girl because we have all the same exact qualities that we look for in eachother. Please Help
P.S. ive never been in love before so I really want this .
I agree with the other person that answered this question. This is a bit confusing. However, I think that the best advice I can give you, is this.
First off, the only thing that you can do, and the only option that I see that you have is to not only be honest with yourself, but to talk to this guy, Robert, and be honest with him as well. Let him know how you feel and listen to what he says.
It sounds to me that this guy is straight but might be "confused" seeing as he has said he "wished you were a girl". Often, when people are in this state of "confusion" about thier sexuality, it is dangerous territory for heartbreak. He could be unsure of what he wants, and therefore, is liable to lead someone one, like yourself, and then realize later that he wants something totally different.
Like I said, talk to him. Find out where you stand and give it time. Take it slow, especially if this is your firt "love".
Thats really the best I can do. Good luck! Let me know if you need anything. Thanks!
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Ok I just turned 19 this past October and my best friend turned 15 this past November. Anyway over Valentine's day weekend we ended up do everything and I mean everything even a couple times we didnt use a condom. Anyway im madly in love with her and she loves me so is this wrong or not.
Normally, if the two of you were both "of age", I would say that what your feeling is natural and that if you two have that kind of connection, then go for it. But, thats not the case. Um... HELLO!!!! You are 19 years old, she is 15. It's called rape, because legally, she cannot concent.
Also, if you really were "madly in love with her", then you wouldn't be having sex with her, because of her age and the fact that havig sex at her age is not what is in her best interest.
If you care about her, then keep her best interst at heart and do the right thing! WAIT!
Sorry to be so harsh, but its what needed to be said. Good luck to you!
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wats the cheat code 2 stop the aging
Press [Ctrl]+[Shift]+[C]
and then type.... "Aging Off.
Thats All.
BTW, Money = "Motherlode". It gives you like 50000 Simelions. *Smiles*.
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Can you get pregnant from dry sex?
Even if you and your partner have underwear and pants on?
In order to conceive a child, semen has to enter the female's vagina. Period.
So, if you can't tell... the answer to your question is NO!
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I'm eighteen and i would liketo know thebest sites to meet guys online safely. thanks.
Honestly, when ANYONE goes online, you can be WHOEVER you want and noone has a way of knowing if you are lying. For instance, I could tell you that I am a 23/Female from Illinois and from when you know, that is true. ALthough, it's not.
Bottom line, there is no "Safe" method for online dating. Your takeing a risk with ANY websites that you were to go on and make a profile. So, I would suggest NOT doing it.
Try going to social functions and events to meet people. It's much safer and you are FACE to FACE. You know who your talking to. No questions.
Sorry if this was harsh, but it's the facts and the truth. Please, just use your head and be smart in whatever you do. Thanks!
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I don’t know why this is bothering me, I always think out of the box. I mean I just don’t think of the now and always the future and what if‘s. When I told my friend that I liked her she doesn’t feel the same. Today I remember that I and she were talking about her story she had to write for English class. She was talking about the main character is semi based on her. She said “she needs a guy friend” I ask her “will It be infatuation with the both of them? and i kno that you hate romance stories” she said “short of but it be like her liking him but afraid to be serious with the relationship because what if it doesn’t work out and it will effect there friendship”. I didn’t say anything but change the subject. Now I began to think that she was talking about us. I am being stupid to think that because she does like anyone and me. But I know I like her…
She isn’t talking about our situation, when I told her how I felt. Right?
i am bi/female
To be honest, hunni, it DOES sound like she might be referring to your situation with her. It makes sense, anyhow. But, there is no way to know for sure without you asking her if it is. So, im afraid noone will really be of much help.
I will say this, however... sometimes people have a REALLY hard time accepting their sexuality when they think or know that they might be be bisexual, gay, lesbian, or whatever the case is. They can even confuse thier unwillingness to accept it as it simply not being true. Your right might not even realize that she has feelings for you or she might just not want to accept it and thus, act on it. You never know.
I would just talk with her and ask. Can't hurt.
Hope I helped.
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I am starting to feel sick and tired of my boyfriend. I also think he feels the same way, which he obviously denies.
We have been dating for 2 months. We semi-dated for 2 months before that. He cheated on me after a month and a half of dating. He lost his virginity to me, though, before that.
What should I do?
I would say that if your "sick of him" then it isn't healthy for either of you to continue this relationship. I would just tell him how you feel and try to stay friends. Dosen't sound like you have a healthy thing with this guy, though... and I would end it. Just my opinion. Hope I helped.
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My boyfriend and I havent been dating long but weve liked eachother for a while. Lately because of exams and stuff Ive been really busy and had to hang out with my guy friends more then him because they dont distract me and make me study, and I dont regret it because I just found out that I got a 96 on my french exam and french is my worst subject, so the studying is definately paying off.
The problem is I think my boyfriend is getting iratated because he keeps trying to make plans adn usually I have to break them off because of plans I had already made or because my parents cant get me a drive. He wanted to come over tommorow but he cant because his mom wont pick him up and my mother wont be in town and my dad cant drive much because of an injury he has. He was really dissapointed.
Now like I said before french is my worst subject and my oral french exam is coming up Monday, my two guy friends (the ones im always studynig and hanging out with) want me to come over tommorow and they are gonna give me the rides and stuff. I really need to study this but im afraid my boyfriend is going to get mad at me because I hang out with these guys a ton, ive even had 4 or so sleepovers with them but all we did was study adn listen to music, and my boyfriend was perfectly fine with it. I dont know how to tell him without him thinking something's up.
Any ideas?
Well, all I can really say here is that you need to be honest with him and tell him the truth. Just tell him exactly what you just wrote right here. Explain it like that and let him know that your school is really important and your getting good grades because of all of this studying. He should understand and... im glad yoru doing so well in school. *Smiles*.
However, since you are finding it so hard to spend time with your boyfriend, you might want to re-consider if your even ready for a relationship right now, because... it dosen't sound like you even have time for one, to be honest.
I know that juggling a social life and school and even work is REALLY hard, trust me... I know first hand, but once you get the hang of it, its not so bad. I would just think about that and... maybe... try to be better with time management or reconsider if you even have time to be with this guy. Thats prolly the best advice that I can give you. Best of luck. Let me know if you need anything else. Thanks.
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this is quite embarassing well im 18 and a virgin
and ive got a very small penis about 3 inches fully erect im really embarrassed im too nervous aound girls what can i do can? can i satisfy a girl?
Well, first off, I can understand why your upset. we live in a society where males are put under a false sense of pressure to be more "manly" and sadly... penis size has always been at the top o things that are "manly". But, to be completely honest, it really dosen't matter to girls all that much.
Sure, it might seem weird at first, but you can still, most definately pleasure a girl. Its like the funny little saying goes:
"Its not the size of yoru tool.... it's the motion of the ocean".
Sounds stupid... but its true. Just try to relax and when you find the right girl, you will realize just how much it dosen't truly matter. Thats really all that I can say. Best of luck! Thanks for writing. Let me know if you need anything else. Haha.
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is masturbation different from fingering someone?
or they both the same?
Simple...
Masturbation = SELF pleasure.... (FOR MEN OR WOMEN)
Fingering = Either self pleasure for girls... or... ANY FINGERS intering or touching the vagina.
Either way.... masturbation is done ALONE... by yourself... and a guy can fingur a girl... or she can also do it alone. It just... depends. Lol.
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