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like a guy who just broke up
I have liked this guy for awhile now. He was in a relationship with another girl, but she broke up with him yesterday, and he talks to me about how he is so sad, and that he wants to talk to her. And I don't know what to tell him, because secretly I am happy that maybe I can be with him, but I want him to be happy too. So I told him that I was sorry for him, and I tried to cheer him up, but I don't know how I should go about starting something with him. Now just doesn't seem like the time. Advice?
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It might take him a while to get over his ex, but be patient and keep talking to him and trying to cheer him up and hopefully when he gets over her he will notice that you were there through all of that and then you can start flirting and you might just get him :] Hope i helped =]
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Dear, I think you hit the nail on the head when you said "now just doesn't seem like the time". You need to give him some time before you tell him how you feel about him. He needs to be able to get over her completely and giving him time to do that will benefit you as well.
Catching him "on the rebound" is not good for anyone. You don't want to be led on by him and he is probably very vulnerable right now.
The best thing that I think you can do is just be there for him as a friend right now. Show him that you care about him no matter what and that you are willing to help him through this. Then, once the timing is right, and you will KNOW when it's right, then let him know how you feel.
But, honestly, hunni, give it some time. You don't want to rush into it and get your heartbroken. Take it slow and best of luck!
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i agree with the last 2 answers. i've been there before..so many times. ahah. right now just be there for him, give him advice and help him get his mind off of things. you'll be able to become closer to him that way. he will start to see what a good friend and person you are. guys love a girl that can make him laugh. so your doing the right thing in trying to cheer him up. as long as you dont hint at a relationship, he'll be more open to one. cuz right now the last thing he wants is another girl to break his heart. he's gonna be hesitant for a while towards girls, just because SHE broke up with him. but dont think just because he's acting like maybe he wouldnt want a relationship with you, dont think that he's not interested. guys will just always be more scepitcal about girls after they've been dumped. hope this helps! hang in there. g
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This is the time and point where you should be there for him as a friend. It will get you two closer and he will see how caring & supportive you are. You should give him some time without trying to start anything, until he is ready. You would not want to be a rebound but hopefully in time something can spark between you two. Just have some patience and don't try to rush him.
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Yeah, I agree with you right now does not seem like the time that you should start going about starting some sort of better relationship with him. The only thing you can do is be there for him while him & his ex are going through this rocky point in their relationship. There's a big chance too, that he could get with you just because he's lonely without her and in the long term you wouldn't want that. Tell him that he can always come to you if he needs anything, he should start noticing that you care a lot about him and that alone will make him feel like your girlfriend material.
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