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Question Posted Tuesday October 4 2011, 1:28 pm
i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?
i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.i (link)
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I think you need some time on your own to find out what you want. It will take time, many discussions between those involved, your husband, your friend, family and others. People may try to sway you one way or another, but you have to try finding the best solution for you, while taking into account the feelings of those who may feel hurt and betrayed by your actions and feelings.
I hope this situation can be settled with the least amount of pain for everyone involved. I'll be thinking about you with.a hopeful heart. Good luck and best wishes.
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I am 17 years old. I have a month old baby & we both live with my dad. the babies dad is around and he's a great dad. He takes him when I have to work which is very helpful. He's definitely gotten his life together since my son was born. He has a job & plans on helping me with anything I need help with. But the problem is my dad is constantly putting his nose in our business when it comes to my son. For example I go to work from 4 to 11 & my sons dad picks me and the baby up takes me to work and watches him till I get off. My dad doesn't like my son out that late but he's a BABY! He doesn't know if it's day or night. Why does it matter? And it's our baby. It's what we have to do to provide for our son. I have to WORK. But my dad saids I don't but I don't want to depend on him I like having my own money and taking care of things on my own. He's always trying to tel us what to do with our son. How can I address to him in a respectful way to stop? I'm only 17 but I know when it comes to my child & my sons dad is 20 he's know too. We got this but my dad won't back off. and now he wants me to put my child's dad on child support but i don't feel the need to do that. I don't want to but my dad insist! Yes I am leaving under his roof but im barely an expense to him. I pay for my own clothes, food, & rides to work. Not only that I pay for my sons formula, diapers, wipes, etc anything he needs!! Please help I don't know what to do!!! I WANT TO MAKE MY OWN DECISIONS (link)
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I think your dad is in a similar situation to you and your guy. You all love this child and want him to have the best possible start in life. Unfortunately, you've all got your own worries and ideas. You and your guy want to be the sole providers, more or less, for your son. You want to make your own decisions.
Together, you make a solid foundation to be your son's family. After all, he's related to all of you and you all love and worry about him.
Just as you have your own ideas on raising your son, so does your dad. He helped bring you up and you've done well, getting a job and being as independant as possible. So tap into your dad's experience, you might be surprised at how much he knows about children, how to deal with nappy rash, continuous crying and lots of other stuff. He can take the baby for a walk while you're in work, put him to bed and babysit until you get home.
I think your dad wants to be part of your family. Try to make some basic rules, you make decisions about your son, your dad can suggest stuff but you decide what works and what doesn't.
I hope this works and you all have a good time bringing up baby! Good luck x
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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I think you sound like a good person, looking for the right place to do good. The world needs more people like you!
Not knowing where you live makes it hard to suggest where you can go and what you can do. In general, I think that if you look around your local community, you'll see people who need help, whatever age they are. Older people often appreciate all sorts of help, especially if they can also chat about the old days. Children also might need help. Where I live in Britain, there are groups of children, called guides or scouts, needing leaders to organise learning activities and games for their spare time.
So,look around you to find something that suits you.
I wouldn't emphasise the religious side of your life too much. Many people find this off-putting. After all, actions speak louder than words, if you devote yourself to doing good for other people, your example may well lead others to do the same. Your corner of the world could become a brighter, better place to be.
Good luck and best wishes. Hope this helps you a bit!
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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At 10 years old,you are young to have a boyfriend, in the grown-up sense of the word. At your age, boys can be either annoying little twerps who won't leave you alone because they like getting in your way or they try to act older than they are and act as if you aren't even there! As you get older, your friends will change, you'll try lots of different things, looking for what you like. Life moves so fast in our technical world, it'll be no time before you're 18 with boys taking an interest in girls, even you! Most young girls grow up to have serious long_term relationships, you probably will too. Hold on tight to who and what you like, let go of what makes you unhappy and enjoy your life.
Best of luck x
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I daydream a lot and I did a little research and I am not sure if it is a maladaptive daydreaming. I think it becoming a problem because I don't like pain. However, when I have a painful experience I create a scenario in my head. The scenario is even more painful but I am in control of what happens. During these daydream I get emotional because they are very painful experience but it worse than the pain I am going through. It my way to escape and process my emotion. I can cry without dealing with my actually emotionally pain. (link)
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I think you've answered your own question, sort of. What you've described could be called maladaptive I suppose, but I think it's more of a defence mechanism, your mind makes up new scenarios that are worse than the real-life situation. As you are in control, you can deal with it and it makes sense to you, you feel secure and safe. The real-life situation is out of your control, you don't know where it will go, what may happen to you or those around you. The very worst could happen and you would have no place to go. I think you are on the long range of normality; we all have defence mechanisms, such as denying something happened, or forgetting something in the past that is too painful to think about.
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Hi solidadvice4teens, I am not looking to start a fight. I am not a person who likes arguing. However, after reading your reply to my post I will not keep my thoughts about it to myself. Again, I am not replying to insult you in any way. With that in mind, first of all, let me tell you that in the past I have suggested to my current psychiatrist that she wean me off meds. She said exactly what you said. Was she right? Yes, for the most part yes. Adding onto that, at the beginning of your response you stated that you agreed with adviceman49. Saying that you are both right whether I like it or not. You both are PARTIALLY correct I say partially because you both assumed I was feeling mentally stable while on meds. There is a reason why I suggested to my psychiatrist that she wean me off meds. All those years I had been on them I never felt they truly helped me as much as they sedated me and I have been on loads of different cocktails of drugs. They have all been the same. They all dumb me down tremendously. Psychiatrists have tried prescribing me a smaller dose, changing the medicine altogether to a more "effective/modern" drug but the fact that I was drugged out, to the point of not knowing what I was really doing, on antipsychotics has never changed. Abilify was the last drug I was on and I do admit it was the most helpful one. Not 100% or even 80% either.(As my psychiatrist says the pill is the miracle worker, it does 80% of the work and you only have to do 20% of it). I was on it for four years and it was never the miracle worker my psychiatrist said it would be. Now, you also suggested I visit an emergency room. Why would I go to such an extreme? Doing that would surely result in me getting a 51/50. I have a tight work schedule, if I am gone for even 1 day without notice I would surely lose my job and if I told my employer to let me off the hook because I was in a mental hospital he would surely not sympathize. Not to mention how intense it would become at home with my own family members giving me looks of disapproval and disappointment or even amusement because of my mental "weakness". Adding on to that I was hospitalized when I was about twenty one twice in the time span of one month. I must say the psychiatrist there was horrible, HORRIBLE and the employee's were awful as well. They either hated their jobs or loved their jobs because the patient's crazy behavior entertained them. This is no lie, I got a rash on my face while I was hospitalized because a negligent nurse didn't tell me how to properly use a prescription acne face wash. Yet another thing that sparks my curiosity about what the psychiatry and drug industries true intentions are. Why would they give me a prescription for my acne when that has nothing to do with my mental health. Also, because I was put on so many drugs that had potential increased appetite/weight gain listed as side effects I was eating A LOT. I gained twenty pounds in ONE WEEK. That is ridiculously fast weight gain. They had no problem with serving me three meals in one sitting. That was extremely hazardous to my health. The way everything played out while I was there steers me into believing they were milking my health insurance for all it was worth. In conclusion, adviceman49 suggested I keep a note on my fridge to remind myself that I feel okay because of medications. If you took your time to read this which, I know, ended up being really long you now know that was never the case and also never will be. If I have managed to stay even slightly productive it has mostly been because of my own will. As a teenager I honestly thought they were helping me but I realize now that some of the craziest and most destructive things I have done in my life were done when I was on meds. I completely agree that my mind isn't average. Possibly even inferior and defective but one thing I don't agree with is psychiatry's approach to people like me. My last words may be shocking and insulting to either one or both of you: I am back on my meds. After all these years of being on if go off them my mind becomes too much to handle. It is bad when I am on them but worse when I am not. I hate being overly sedated. Most people see right through it and view me as slow and mentally impaired and I have never in my right mind told anyone other than family and psychiatrist's about my diagnosis. If anything those drugs that you refer to as meds. have done nothing good but turn me into their slave. I know 100% deep down that if the first psychologist I saw didn't order me to take drugs and would have stuck to therapies and counseling my situation in the long run would have been much better. I am not stating everything that has to do with psychiatry is bad but MOST psychiatrist's are and the pharmaceutical industry most definitely is. (link)
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I hope you find peace and love in your heart and your life for those who have hurt and mis-treated you and for your self.
Best wishes for your future.
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question submitted recently is for real. it is about to happen before the end of 2014, keep a record of this message, you may even make money out of it. good bye and god knows i do not want to do it. (link)
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Only you know why you 'have' to do this. Equally, only you can change 'destiny' or 'fate' and stop it happening.
Do you really think your soul will rest easily after you've killed all the people who have travelled and died with you? I hope God will forgive you if you do this, I doubt anyone else will.
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committing suicide by crashing an international liner to get insurance money. (link)
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You won't benefit from the money at all, being dead. Why would you do it? Any insurance claims made after such an incident would be thoroughly investigated, putting your family, and the families of everyone else on board through hell, wondering why you did it. Why would you want to do that?
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So most of the time I hang out with my freinds the subject of who would you have sex with comes up. My freinds usaly have a mental numbered list of who they want to have sex with and are shock when I reveal to them that I dont really think about that to much. Also they dont want a relationship with the people they want to have sex with. They just want to bang them and move to then next one and I feel like that thats messed up and it kinds makes me mad when they talk about girls like that. When I think of some one I care about I think of how we would spend time together or how I can make them feel like they are special to me. Dose that make me strange? (link)
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No question - you are not strange. You sound like a normal human being, with empathy and humanist feelings for everyone. The guys you hang out with sound like they're stuck in their mid-teens, when girls are merely sex objects for their use. they'll grow up one day and want to settle down.
Best wishes and all the luck in the world finding that special someone.
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OK, my life sucks. My mother hates me and is doing drugs, my dad keeps molesting me and I can't feel emotions or make friends. Now how the fuck do I commit suicide. (link)
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Only you can start the ball rolling and change your life for the better. You don't say how old you are, I'd guess early teens. Talk to someone about what your father is doing to you. If possible, keep a diary of what happens, it'll help you remember dates and times and will prove useful if the police get involved. By sorting your life out, getting help to turn it around, it may help your parents to see what's going on and they might change their lives too.
Talk to someone you trust, a teacher, doctor, nurse, a family friend, a social worker, whoever you trust to take this massive issue on and see it through to the end.
You want to commit suicide because your parents have lost their way and so your life is crap.
It will be long harf struggle to sort this muddle out, only you can start it off, no-one else knows what's happened, just you.
Good luck, a new and better world waits on the other side of the wall you have to climb, it'll be worth it.
Best wishes X
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I had sex with someone I've been seeing. For the first time, I had anal sex. I was not expecting that to happen. If I knew it was coming, I would have done an enema ahead of time. He still treated me well and acted as if everything was fine afterward. But now, he's not talking to me as much. I know that if you do anal, it's going to smell like poop. Now I'm just hoping he didn't try smelling his hand or whatever.
So, do guys get turned off if their penis smells like bad after having anal sex? Or are would they be satisfied that they even had sex, etc? (link)
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I agree with the other answers you've had. This guy sounds a bit thoughtless to me.
My worry is that you might think anal sex is normal. it isn't. No-one was built for anal sex, it can cause all sorts of physical problems if it keeps happening (incontinence - where you leak poo, anal fissure - painful area of the anus which can take a long time to heal, vaginal infection - if he doesn't wash his penis thoroughly after anal sex then tries normal sex.)
None of those are good, you don't need such problems.
Hope this helps, best wishes.
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again? (link)
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I tend to believe that everyone's religion is part of them, that no-one else has the same experiences or feelings as anyone else. Our religion is personal, even if you're in the same religion as 50,000 others, each one will have their own belief system. I don't know a great deal about Wicca, only that it's been around for a long time, and is largely accepted as an 'earth religion'. (I also think that there is only one God, but we all have a different view of Her/Him/It, whatever. Just as we would all give a different eye-witness account of an event, so we see God differently.)
So in my idea of it, if you worship the Horned God, whether that involves public displays of your faith or private prayer and praising, it is your business. Your God will hear and see you wherever, whatever you do.
For me, whoever you worship, as long as you do no harm to anyone or anything, you are free to do what you like.
Hope this helps and best wishes for your brilliant future.
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i want to insert my g.f back hole i mean bums hole can i insert is it any problem in inserting?? will my penis go inside if is it not then what should i do for it to go in... (link)
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Anal sex, or using the \'bum hole\' for sex is considered illegal in some areas of the world and abusive behaviour in others.
It can result in infection for you, as you are putting your penis into a cavity that carries waste products of the body. You could pick up a serious infection.
Your girlfriend could have more serious problems. rough anal sex could cause her anus to become irritated or inflamed, as it isn\'t designed to be used like this. Continuing such abuse could even cause her anus to become weak and she may then become incontinent, so she could be continually leaking faeces (waste
products). This could need surgery to put right.
I don\'t think there\'s a good reason for this behaviour. You don\'t say whether your girlfriend is willing to try this kind of sex but if you both read more about it, I think she\'ll find she\'d rather not have abusive sex.
Hope this helps.
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My brother keeps yelling at me. What do I do? (link)
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I\'d advise ignoring him for a short while. Perhaps when he realises you\'re not listening or reacting to his behaviour, he\'ll wonder, and ask why. That\'d your chance to ask him why he keeps yelling at you. Explain that his yelling is off-putting and unnecessary. If he wants to talk to you, about something, he should be polite and respectful towards you, just as you should be to him.
Possibly, he\'s seen, heard or experienced someone else yelling and believes its the way to get himself heard. Maybe he has a roblem with his hearing and doesn\'t realise that he\'s shouting so loudly? When you get his attention, ask him why he\'s shouting all the time.
If none of this works, see if you can ask a friendly adult to help, siting with both of you during the conversation; they may have more effect on his behaviour than just you alone.
Hope this helps, let me know what happens?
Best wishes x.
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So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL! (link)
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Whem hn I was pregnant, nearly thirty years ago, you went to your ante-natal classes, saw your midwife regularly and did all those things you were meant to; when you gave birth (in hospital in those ays) they handed you your Bounty box, which had a number of free items in it, for example some disposable nappies, cream to prevent nappy rash and information on how to look after the baby and where to go for further information. I don\'t know if this still haoens though.
Hope this helps a bit and that both you and the baby are well during and after the birth. Good luck and best wishes to you both. x
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This is a bit of a strange question I suppose.
I'm going into psychology. I intend to work with people. I'm very, very good at my job, which is involves social work. I got into the school I wanted, I raised a wonderful, sweet cat who's a fantastic companion, I'm happily single, headed toward my dream career, independent, etc...
But I never fit in. I don't connect with my age group at all. I look young for my age, but I feel like I'm closer to 40 than 30, and my body is falling apart inside - I'm a medical mess (crohn's disease, chronic pain, arthritis, history of anorexia, PTSD, depression, chronic insomnia, and formerly nightmare disorder). I have an affinity for classical music, I get piano sonatas stuck in my head and people I consider close friends laughed at me when I excitedly showed them a new book of arias I'm working on learning.
Even in my own friend group I'm not part of the group. I always feel like I'm observing from the outside, even when I make an attempt to be part of the crowd. It's not that these people exclude me at all. They make efforts to INCLUDE me, if anything.
I just don't feel like I fit in my own skin somehow.
I'm not really sure what my question is... does anyone have thoughts on this? Suggestions? Experiences?
Thanks to everyone who responds. (link)
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I think a lot of people feel like this. I know I do.
I think it\'s possibly because we worry what other people think of us, we change ourselves to suit their needs, forgetting our own.
You do hve a lot of medical problems which must really get you down. But you hold down a demanding job and you have a hobby. enjoying classical music is a minority activity but I love it too. I even take singing lessons to try and improve my voice! So you play the arias and I\'ll sing them!
to sum up, we\'re all individuals and we have to rub along together on this planet, doing what we can to help it, each other and ourselves.
I\'m nt sure if this answers your \'non-question\' but maybe its a start? Hope it helps, best wishes x
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I am Muslim . I understand the community. The actual religion of Islam is beautiful . The community, is different. Whenever I am at an azima, or gathering, it's like a competition (who married a doctor, who's kids or who is in the better college, who went to Hawaii . It's sick. Another thing that annoys me is that the people try to hind women from sex by covering them up. Yet all many men allow them to do is have sex and cook and clean.its sicker. I do know some Muslims that are different, but it's just the majority..... Also women do to men's every bidding the man comes home from work and then women are treated like servants...... After all, the man did work the day in the office - while the woman worked at home ..... Cooking and cleaning and not having a lunch break. It's SICK!!!!!!! Plus, most women cover up so if you show up in a bathing suit to a pool or shorts when it's not it is considered eb or shameful/forbidden. Again not all Arabs are like this............. I want to be part of a community but I don't know who to be with as in church group ????? (link)
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You\'re seeing the patriarchal system at its worst; even on its best day its a depressing system! You don\'t state your age but I\'d guess you\'re in your early teens?
Basically, the answer is in your future and your hands. The way you act and react to your culture now will affect those who come after you. For example, if young children saw you in a bathing suit all the time, they\'d probably think you were mad but they\'d get used to it, it wouldn\'t feel so threatening to them. (That is an extreme example, I\'m not suggesting you try it now!) Work at being the sort of adult you\'d like to know, open-minded, tolerant, whatever, see ifit has an effect on those around you.
Hope this helps, let me know how it goes?
Best wishes x
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Don't try changing my mind, I want to die and I will.
Everyone hates me, I get bullied at school cos of how I look, what I like, my stupidity... pretty much anything about me. Even my family hate me. There's nothing to live for.
I just wanna know if there are any quick and painless ways to die, just so I don't have to die a horrible slow death cos I'm just a pussy...
If I get any lectures about how "life is precious", or "don't die, you'll be missed", or "suicide is selfish", I wil ignore them and if I don't find any quick and painless ways to kill myself, I guess I'll just have to stop being a pussy and die the hard way. I won't feel the pain when I'm dead anyway I guess... (link)
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You don\'t say how old you are but I\'d guess you\'re in your teens.
There is no quick and painless way to die. As a nurse working in an old people\'s home for many years, I\'ve seen many deaths and none were as they\'re shown on TV.
Whichever method you try, there\'s always the possibility someone will find you before you\'ve died, then you have all the pain of coming back to life and dealing with it.
My best advice would be if you\'re fed up with your life, change it.
Ignore the bullies and the idiots who mistreat you at school, all they know about you is that you react to what they say. So don\'t react. Nothing as annoying as being ignored!
Its your life, you can use it or lose it. Most of the people I\'ve sat with as they\'ve died wanted to carry on living.
Rather than taking and wasting your life, why not use it for someone else? Work for a good cause, raise money for the homeless, animals, battered babies, old people, whatever.
DO something for someone!
I know this isn\'t what you want to hear but I know you need to hear it. However bad it is, its the only chance you\'re going to get at living, so make the most of it. No-one else can do it for you.
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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
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Coronary artery disease is a condition where the blood vessels that supply the heart itself with blood, (to keep it alive and working properly,) have s problem of some sort, usually a build-up of something called plaque.
This stuff builds up in the blood vessels and makes the blood vessel narrower than it should be.
This means that the blood doesn\'t do its job properly, oxygen carried in the blood doesn\'t reach the places it should and tissue may die due to the lack of oxygen.
I\'m not sure about the levels of coronary heart disease in young people but if you\'re worried about it, I strongly suggest you see your doctor for advice, reassurance, explanations and if necessary, treatment.
If you do have this problem or something else as serious, its better to get it treated as soon as possible. When you dee your doctor, he/she will probably want to know if you have a history of heart problems in your family, so ask your parents or another family member before you go or take them with you. (This is a very good idea, you\'ll need moral support and they should know if you have serious health problems.)
If you don\'t have it or its a less serious condition, think of the relief you\'ll feel!
Let me know how it goes? Best wishes x
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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants. (link)
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Bassically, you could try asking him a few questions. Like, you\'ve heard that your friend and her bf practically forced him into asking you out; is that true?
(That could work a few different ways , either he wanted to ask you out but felt too shy or they thought you\'d make a good couple, or there could have been another motive behind it altogether.)
Other questions could be: how does he feel about you as a couple now? You haven\'t stated your age but I\'d guess you were in your early to mid-teens; young enough to feel awkward about relationships in general and where they go.
Tell him how you feel, what people are saying about you as a couple and see what he says. Its good to communicate; ask him and listen, tell him and explain. he sounds like a nice guy.
I hope this helps. Let me know what happens? Not because I\'m nosey but it helps to know if my advice works. Best wishes X
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