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Hey all! I'm 15, almost 16 *August 5th* and I go to Utica High School. It's a decent school, but living in Michigan is a downer seeing as we have the most sporadict weather ever. But, I still love it. I wouldn't move if I had the chance. =) Anywho, I love Forensics, It's my biggest hobby I probably have. And no, it isn't CSI or any of that stuff, it's Competitive Speech, but not like debate. I do the drama portion of it. Haha. I also love to sing. It's my dream to grow up and sing for a band for be solo, far fetched, but I can dream dammit! I like anybody who can make me laugh, and hate people who are 'stuck up' and 'serious' all the time. People need to learn to let loose, you know? I'm also a Christian, because God is effin' cool. He's cooler than you, remember that. Also, highschoolers really need to remember : "Save yourself for the one God saved for you." There are so many sluts in my school, it isn't even funny. Rather sad if you ask me. Other than that, I'm a pretty normal teen.
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My friend is coughing blood and i looked it up and i know what causes it. But she can't really aford going to the doctor and i am sorry for her. Is there any way to help? She is one of my best friends and is a PenPal.
The only way you can help her is get her a doctor. If she can't afford it, there is always Medicaid, a health insurance for people under poverty. If it's as serious as it sounds, wouldn't you rather her being alive then dead?
Megan
GOOD LUCK
first time you have sex is it better to have it with a virgin or a already experienced guy?
Hm. Good question.
I'd say a Virgin, because if both of you are virgins, you're both new to it and you won't feel like the "lesser" partner because you've never "done it" before.
Or, you could "do it" with an expierenced guy if you're not a virgin. Then you'll be having sex with someone who already has, like you.
Megan
What are ways to boost my self-esteem?
Write a list of things you like about yourself. Disregard anything anyone has ever said about you. Just take a pen and a piece of paper and think of the qualities you have that make you a good person. EX Friendly, Nice, Outgoing.
Or: Pretty eyes, fun, lots of friends ....
See where I'm going with this? When you're done, keep it somewhere you'll find it when you're sad or someone is being mean to you, that'll boost your esteem right up. :)
Megan
Do guys like it when girls are outgoing and flirty? If a girl is ugly but really outgoing, talkative, and flirtacious, will shallow guys still want to fuck her? Thanks.
You answered your own question.
A guy who is shallow doesn't like ugly girls. Period.
But, you can look at another perceptive. If the guy is a player, and loves sex, who "fuck" just about anyone to get some action.
Wow... I'm not going to say what you sound like right now.
Good um.. luck.
Megan
Ok, my girlfriend is on the Flagline at her school, so she has to be at all of the games on friday. I usually see her on fridays and saturdays. I'm a guy, and she's the first girl I've ever been, lets say, sexually involved with. And friday's I want to do 'stuff' (stuff being seuxal activities) but she says she's too tired. I know she likes to do it, because every time we do, I please her (and I know this for a fact)I guess I just don't understand how you can be too 'tired'. I could work all day and still have more than enough energy to do 'stuff'. Sometimes we do 'stuff' saturdays, but it makes me mad when she's too tired. I just get frustrated and feel like she doesn't love me. I don't understand why I get mad, it seems like a perfectly good excuse. Please help me understand this. Thank you.
Uh, there are a few problems here buddy.
1) You are in no way shape or form her owner. If she's tired, she's tired. I find it odd that you can ONLY see her those two days. It isn't fair for you to angry with her when she's tired. She might think that YOUR don't love HER because you "always" get mad at her when she doesn't want to have sex with you. The way you're going about it, getting pissed when she won't go down on you, she might think that all you want from the relationship is sex. And judging by this post, I'd have to say the same thing. All you've mentioned about her was : "Oh, we have sex and she won't have sex with me because she's tired and it pisses me off!" You've never once stated. "I love my girlfriend, and I really miss her and want to see her."
Typical boy, all you want is sex.
Now.
Here is what you do.
Go to your girlfriend, tell her you love her (if you do) and say you're sorry for getting angry. DON'T PRESSURE HER to have sex with you. That's VERY bad.
I smell a 1.
Megan
< I never said you pressured her, I said that's how it sounds. >
i have this friend...
because of some situations that happened last year in school ive lost most trust in her. but we have a lot of fun together. one part of me wants to forgive her for what she did and then another part of me wants to forget her and not trust her again.
what should i do?
Losing trust in a good friendship sucks, it really does, and you're feeling like you can never trust her again for whatever she did, right?
Well think of it this way. Everyone deserves a second chance. Now, you don't have to tell her whom you secretly like, or which girl in your math class you think is ugly, just be a friend. A normal friend.
Slowly, the friendship will gain back the inertia it once had, and you'll be able to grow to trust her again.
Remember, grudges are not healthy. If you "Forget her and not trust her" ever again, you'll always be thinking in the back of your mind, "I wonder how -insert name here- is doing?" And you'll see her at school or what not and think about her. The easiest thing you can do is forgive her. It's better that way.
You're never going to feel any better until you begin to heal for what she did. But let her know she has boundries. Tell her that you'll be her friend, but the trust you and her once shared is deminished and she is going to have to win it back.
Hope I helped,
Megan.
I have been dating this girl for almost a year. Our relationship had been going great, accually it was amazing and I fell in love with her, and she says she fell in love with me. Then she took a trip for about a month and became close with a whole group of people that I dont really know, we talked a lot during the begining of the trip but kind of faded during the last half. She denys cheating on me while there, even though I kind of think she did. Now that shes back, she barely touches me. We have had sex 3 times in the past 5 weeks (we see each other maybe 2-3 times a week). She says when we get back to school things will be back to normal, and that us dating is the first time she has brought her school life home, because it is different for her. I just dont know what to do, she barely touches me anymore and is becoming harder and harder to get her to hang out with me. We used to do everything together, now it seems like we only hang out if I bring it up. Whats going on with her?
Maybe she did meet someone at the before mentioned trip. Let us analyze that. If she did, she maybe trying to keep her distance from you so she doesn't hurt you and maybe if she keeps being weird, you'll break up with her for it and she won't feel like she was in the wrong.
The reason she isn't touching is maybe she just doesn't feel for you the way you do her. Some people grow out of love, and as sad as it may sound, maybe she did to. You should really ask her what is wrong. Ask he why she doesn't touch you anymore, tell her that if she was in love with you, she would act like it more. If she is barely hanging out with you, the question should be: Who is she hanging out with? Of course, you don't want to come off as controlling like, "Who did you hang out with today?" or "Where were you?" Girls hate that. They like their privacy. Simply ask "So, what did you to today?"
"Oh.. I went to the mall."
"With -Insert girl name here- ?"
"No, I went with -Insert name-" Make sure you say a girl's name when you ask who she hung out with. That way, it'll seem like you're curious, not worried.
Good luck!
Megan
On Saturday night I went to my best friend, Sidonie's party. A guy that she broke up with a month or so ago was there and I really liked him. We ended up kissing and the next day he asked me out, I said yes. Now I'm not so sure if I made the right decision by saying yes to him. For a start, I just feel like his rebound girl. When my best friend broke up with him he was very upset and I don't think he's fully over her. He keeps saying things like "You're so much like Sidonie." Which is kind of irritating and off putting. Secondly, I hardly know him and I wont be able to see him much as he lives on the other side of my city. I do like him but I'm not so sure if I want to just be his rebound girl, should I break up with him or see how it goes?
I certainly think you made a wrong choice by accepting his offer too quickly. Maybe you should as Sidonie what he is like, because she did date him. If he took Sidonie's breakup bad, he might take yours bad too. If things he says bother you, he isn't going to know it is, unless you tell him and therefor he'll continue to do it. Just let him know,
Megan
how do you know if your in love?
You know when you don't have to ask if you're in love. You just know. It's a feeling, an adventure. You know true and deep down that you're in love.
hey im reese and i weigh 130 and im 15. well ive been a lil "chubby" over the years and it never seems to get any better. i see everyone at my age with different builds but their skinny. but im 5'5 or so and my stomach just never seems to flatten out. and i come from a family whos really skinny. please help. is it because i havent lost my baby fat yet? i would think im sorta underdeveloped at my age but i need others to help! thanks so much! *rEeSe* :)
I'm 15, 5'4 and weight like 150, and I don't think I'm fat. Thanks for the reassurance.
i have an amazing boyfriend and i love him so much, like he is everything i dreamed of.. but the other day like one of my best friends *bob* told me that he has liked me since sixth grade, that i am amazing, and he is so jealous of my boyfriend, and how perfect i am and how much i mean to him.. and the thing is i liked *bob* for like 4 years and then i met my boyfriend. i talked to my mom about it.. and she said i shoudl try hanging out with *bob* to see if i like him or w/e so i went to the movies with him last night.. and had SO much fun.. would this be considered cheating ? am i a terrible person for like questioning my love for my bf ? and what do you think is the best way for me to tell my bf about this... ?
15-f if that makes any difference..
Alright. If you only went to the movies with him and you didn't do anything with him than no, it's not cheating. No, you're not bad for questioning it.
OK, so yesterday me and this girl got into a fist fight in the hallway and it started with like 4 people watching, but quickly it turned to like 30 people or more.....I'm not joking!!!!!So the girl scratched my face up and pulled my hair and made me look all torn up and I didnt make her look that bad....(I threw a couple good punches in the stomach). We spent the whole day in detention. Now everybody is saying how I lost the fight and how the girl tore me up, but really, i think nobody won. People in my school are so mean to me. (P. S. I go to Jr. High school in N.Y., so its madd tough)Well I just need to know what to say to these people before they torment me 4 ever. it really matters to me.~!~~~ plz help.
Let it go. I know it sucks when people talk about you, but if you dwell on it,it'll only get worse. So, you got in a fight? Big deal. Nexk time you get into a fight beat the shit out of the chick, claw up her face real good. Good luck, sweety.
Im on my period right now and i am so angry for some reason and i get pissed off so easily right now and i dont know why? and today this girl told me something and i ended up cussing her out and every one thought i was gonna hit her in the face so please tell me how i can be nicer why im pmsing
You can't. It's how girls are when they're on their period. It's really nothing you can control. You might want to apologize to the girl thought or you'll get a bad rep.
Okay theres this kid at my school. And we like "talk" on and off all year. Usually when we do talk its like ya know, we should hook up type of thing. And right now we're talking...how can i get him to really like me so we can finally hook up??
First of all, a "hook up" is sex and bye. So there really is no reason that he has to like you at all. If you want to have sex, tell him, do him, leave him. Trust me, if the guy is wanting to hook up, he doesn't want a relationship, he wants sex.
Megan
13/F
I'm in a relationship right now... and we're both kind of expecting our first kiss together, and, well, I need advice! I don't know what to do or anything! and it's driving me nuts!
Are you saying you don't know how to kiss, or you don't know what to do in order to get a kiss. If so, here are a few things to help you out.
If you want to be kissed, make sure you're in an enviorment that would be deemed "safe" for kissing. i.e movie theatre, bedroom, ect. Then, you have to get into the mood. Give compliments, flaunt your lips, make it damn obvious that you want your lips to be pressed to his soon!
If you don't know how to kiss, it's easy. Make sure your head is slightly tilted, so your noses don't collide. Then, press your lips to his gently, give pressure when needed. It's quite simple.
Megan
My parents know that I want to listen to Green day and Bowling for soup and a large variety of other music bands, but won't let me. I'm 13, but they prolly think it's too young. How can I convince them that I enjoy music and am missing out on a lot without it?? And besides-I should be entitled to what they had.
Your age shouldn't matter really. I listen to Green Day and all that good stuff and I'm 15. Tell them that considering you're a teenager now, you should be entitled to what they had as children, and that some way you're going to have to listen to some sort of music. Tell them that music is everywhere and you, as a person, should have the same rights as every other teenager. Music is life.
Megan
Are you able to use any sort of phone on a cruise? (e.i. cell phones & regualr phones)..or even the internet on a cruise?
Yes. If you have a lap top computer that has wireless internet, you may use it I'm sure. I'm also sure that they have some sort of telephone avalible for you to use. I assume that you don't want to be away from your boyfriend/girlfriend while on this cruise, so you either want to email/IM them or call them. Good luck with everything.
Megan
i have been seeing someone on /off for the last ten years . recently moved out because the depts are way to much for me, i know he cheats on me so why do i feel like i cant move on???
Because you've been with him for so long. You allowed yourself to get attached to him. Ten years is a very long time to be on/off with someone. You feel that since you've spent such a long period of time with them, you can't imagine what your life would be without him, since you probably cannot remember what it was like when you were not with him. You just have to remember what is best for you and what will give you the best chance at a good life. He doesn't seem like he is the one for you, so perhaps you need to move on, even though it is hard. And once you find the right guy, you'll forget about oh what's his name and focus on your ongoing future. Good luck.
Megan
today has been the worst day of my life. Ok, so i've liked this guy for over a year and i found out that my (one of my best friends) is moving in on him. She's after him and i think he likes her. she knows i like him, but doesn't care. My other best friends says we cant be best friends anymore. Everything is ruined at school for me now, what am isuposed to do? HELP
What a bitch. Tell her so, and you know what? Tell the guy you like that she is a sneaky little rat. Who would want to date her? Try and woo him, and like JET says COLD HARD BITCH.
ok.. me and my boyfriend of 10 mths broke up.. its almost been a month.. and im still totally in love with him.. ive told him.. and he knows.. i think he might like me again too.. so i was wondering.. if the next time we hug as "friends" should i kiss him on the cheek? or do i show him any type of emotion towards me wantin him back, or should i just act like friends with him?
*Madinga*
Well, if he already knows you like him still, you need not show affection to prove such. What you should so is see if he kisses YOU on the cheek. You're trying to see if he still likes you, he already knows you like him.