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i have an amazing boyfriend and i love him so much, like he is everything i dreamed of.. but the other day like one of my best friends *bob* told me that he has liked me since sixth grade, that i am amazing, and he is so jealous of my boyfriend, and how perfect i am and how much i mean to him.. and the thing is i liked *bob* for like 4 years and then i met my boyfriend. i talked to my mom about it.. and she said i shoudl try hanging out with *bob* to see if i like him or w/e so i went to the movies with him last night.. and had SO much fun.. would this be considered cheating ? am i a terrible person for like questioning my love for my bf ? and what do you think is the best way for me to tell my bf about this... ?
15-f if that makes any difference..
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♥Hey hun,
No, it's not considered cheating if you didn't do anything with *bob* and you're not really questioning the love for your boyfriend you have you're questioning the love you have for *bob*.
You should get to know *bob* better and see what you think of him be careful what you do though make sure you are sure about it before jumping in there because if you make a mistake and things with you and *bob* don't work out you won't be able to run back to your boyfriend.
Good luck.
♥Em
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Hey well i think that you have a little crush on the guy but you should just be straight up with your boyfriend i am sure he will understand and if nothing happened then i don't think that you were cheating on your boyfriend soo you odn't have to worry about that and you should jsut follow your heart! well hope it works out! :)
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it is not cheating. it is being...uh..curious. cheating is kissing. But you are not wrong to question your boyfriend. Have you ever seen the movie the notebook? Thats waht this reminds me of!
so follow your heart,
lyl ~**staci**~
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WEll, it all depends how your boyfriend sees it. To some it might mean cheating, but to me it doesnt because when you cheat on somebody you are acctually going out as b/f and g/f!! hope i helped!
MaNDY!
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Simply the fact that you are considering breaking up with your boyfriend for Bob is enough reason to end the current relationship. However, I wouldn't rush into anything serious with Bob until you spend some time together platonically and make sure these feelings are real, not just a leftover crush from when you liked him before. You should spend some time by yourself to sort out the complicated feelings you are having and tell your boyfriend that you care about him, but that you need some time alone, which will be true if you don't get involved with Bob right away. If you are patient and take your time with Bob, you'll feel better about the situation in the long run because you won't have guilt from cheating on someone. Of course, your boyfriend will be hurt, but he would be more hurt if he new you were leaving him for Bob. At this point, you are not obligated to tell him everything. If things don't work out with Bob and you end up wanting to get back with your boyfriend, then you will need to tell him what happened while you were apart. Jumping from boyfriend to boyfriend, especially with overlap (meaning you start dating the new one before ending it with the old one), is not conducive to a healthy emotional state. If you become too used to constantly having a romantic companion, you forget how to be single, which makes breaking up with men even harder because you are afraid of being alone.
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Alright. If you only went to the movies with him and you didn't do anything with him than no, it's not cheating. No, you're not bad for questioning it.
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no, its not cheating. it would be cheating if you did something like kissing or something. talk to your boyfriend, and tell him how you feel. if he really loves you, he would understand. it might make him mad though because you have feelings for someone else. it would be alot better if you did tell him because if you didnt, you might consider cheating because it would be a date if your bf didnt know about it. hope i helped!
~*ana*~
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hmm, if you went to the movies just to hang out, i wouldnt consider that cheating. however, if you did more then just that, it would be cheating. do the two know each other?? that could be a problem. and dont think your terrible, it would be worse if you didnt like him and pretended to. personaly i would let him down easy and then, wait a while before actualy getting togeather seriously wiht *bob*
hope it helped :+)
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i wouldnt consider it cheating.. and your not a terrible person.. who you love is who you love and you cant help that. Youve loved bob for a long time and he finally likes you so i think you should deifnately go out with him. All you can do is tell your boyfriend the truth.. say im sorry but i was in love with someone for a long time and I dont want to lead you on. hope this helps.. let me know how it turns out :-)
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