Sorry this is gonna be long, but I need your advice. Right now I have a boyfriend that loves me very very much. But one of my guy friends likes me just as much as my boyfriend does. I think that I might like my friend more than I like my boyfriend, but I'm not really sure. I can easily tell my friend that I love him too. My friend and another friend of mine always talk about me (they both like me). He always says that he wants to do stuff with me and stuff like that. I'm not sure what I should do...who to go out with. What do you think? If it helps I am 13/f and my boyfriend is 14. My friend is almost 15.
Alright, well, I don't really know what to tell you anything more than just follow your heart. But, don't refuse to go out with one of the guys just because they're too old or whatnot. Actually, I've gone out with a guy that was almost finishing high school and I was still in middle school. I had a lot of fun, and it was something of a long term relationship (we dated for half a year). I got a lot of comments about it, but I didn't really care much. And in your case it's perfectly normal to go out with a guy thats 2 years older than you, but in my case... lol. I kind of had a hard time, but it was kind of worth it.
Anyhow, I should think that you shouldn't make major decisions, but here are two options I would be able to give you.
1. You're feeling unsure of yourself, and having a boyfriend is really bad if you decide that your friend was the one for you between the two. I mean, I don't know what type of guy he is, so I'll assume the worst because I am such a pessimist xD Anyway, he could get really pissed off and jealous, and try to revenge on you or your friend. If not, he could be the sweet type who'll understand, but you don'tcome across those a lot here. Anyhow, I would explain to your boyfriend that you would like to have some time off from the relationship because there is too much pressuring you but you do want to be friends, just not more than that at the moment. Meaning you'd basically break up with him, but this will let you find out about your feelings and he wont have anything to be angry about. If you find that you have feelings for your friend then I suggest you don't hook up with him right away, give it some time so that your (ex) boyfriend wont think anything of it.
2. Basically you'll do everything I've told you, save that you can lead your boyfriend on and hurt him a lot in the end.
That's all I can come up with to this situation. ;) Hope it helped somehow. If you need any help at all, I'm here for ya.
mrs_radcliffe answered Thursday March 24 2005, 5:32 pm: I think you should go out with your friend if he likes you and you ca trufully say you love him then thats a couple worth having.
BrokenTearsx3 answered Thursday March 24 2005, 2:48 pm: ok well i was in a same spot once and i went out with the guy i liked the most and we were best friends and we broke up a week later and we never talked again i miss him so i guess im telling you not to go out with them you they are good freidns cause they well fight and when you two break up then you well prob never talk again hope i helps a little [ BrokenTearsx3's advice column | Ask BrokenTearsx3 A Question ]
KellerKutie44 answered Thursday March 24 2005, 1:14 pm: well i you should still go out with your boyfriend but tell your friend it might happen later with yall cuz if you like them the same then stay with who you are with cause he might think thats weird that u dump him and then go off to another guy you know what i mean but if you truley like your friend more go for the friend but my advice is just tell your friend maybey later it will happen
FunkyHoMoSapien answered Thursday March 24 2005, 1:11 pm: well the 'friend' is older than you by almost 2 years which might seem kinda weird to the people around you. it seems to me that yur boy friend is in your grade which mean you can keep a better relationship. sorry to say but i would need a little more info to truely help you. but i hope i helped and if you need more advice IM me. [ FunkyHoMoSapien's advice column | Ask FunkyHoMoSapien A Question ]
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