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i am fifteen and really want a kid
i am well soon to turn 15 and me and my boyfriend really want to have a baby. my boyfriend is 100%loyal to me. i guess i want to know if i should go through with this. i mean what to tell my mom i dont know my 16 year old sister is already thinking she might be pregnant to. i also would like to know if it is expensive to be home schooled and be home with my child. thank you.
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no having a baby at that age is the biggest mistake of your life maybe you are older and think you can handle a baby with your boy friend but you most defently cant not to brake your confidence. You will get a time when you really want to settle down with your boyfriend but please dont make that mistake right now.
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Ok ha where to start first you are only fifteen you are still a kid your self and its scary because think about it you body hasn't fully grown so u can probably die from having it.and its hard to have a kid at a young age how are you going to support it I mean when I had a false results of being pregnant I was scared because you can have bad back problems.you get bad stomach pains.and I know you want a kid but think about your gunna want it to have a good life I'm not saying you can't support it but its not going to be easy so all I kan say is please think about what your doing please
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You cant be serious, im not trying to be mean or intrusive but noone is ready to have a kid at that age. my best friend had a kid at that age and it ruined here life. my mother had me at that age and it cause nothing but problems for her. your young, you have plenty of time for that later, enjoy life while you still can. don't burden yourself with a child before you have a chance to experiance life. because you wont have time after having a kid to do anything.
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Dont. my mom had me at 17... and it sucked. for ME and her. we were poor. she never went to college. and do you want to do that to you parents. why should they support u and a child.
think about your life and why you want a child. get a dog first.
if ur sister is pregnant wait and see what happens with her. see how her life changes.
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its very expensive plus for a 15-17 year old girl it is even more painful and they will be required to have surgery plus stiches after birth and the baby will more then likley die its not worth the risk...... how would you feel knowing you tryed to have a kid and it died inside you or right after birth
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why would you want a kid at fifteen?
you're still a kid yourself how you gonna raise one? your bf might be loyal to you as of right now, but having a kid changes everything, just watch 16 and pregnant.
it is expensive to be homeschooled most kids who have a kid at your age just drop out, and its even more expensive to have a kid you have to pay for its formula, diapers, etc.
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All I can say is WOW. Everyone goes through the phase of wanting a baby around your age but most of us are not stupid enough to act on it. I am 20 years old now and if I am SOO GLAD that I wasn't dumb enough to even consider having a child at the age of 15. Honey, do you honestly think your boyfriend is gonna stick around if you have a baby?? I don't think so. In fact, in many states it's illegal to have a minor work for more than 20 hours a week, so how would you support a baby on that? If you think your parents are gonna support you than they need some sense smacked into them. Looking back to your age I want very little of what I wanted back then. Try getting a job as a babysitter or something, that way you get your fulfillment of being around children and you'll also get a lesson on how they're not all fun and games. And you're worried about home schooling being expensive uhh hello...reality check.... BABIES ARE EXPENSIVE! HAHAH I didn't think it was possible for people to be so naive.
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all girls/women go thorugh this wanting to have a baby heck im 17 and want one but i dont all at the same time there cute and its cool to think of something maybe looking like you and raising it but truly theres more to it then that. it is NOT easy it is very expensive and most times then not the guy will leave you. you guys will fight constantly you have a baby right? he is 14 or 15 w.e he wants only a couple of things in his life at the moment girls,friends,fun. thats it. guys are usually all the same. you should not have a baby right now wait to see if your sister is prego and if she is let her go through the pregnancy see how she acts and after you wont want one after that. its not right for you now just ruins everything you wont go to school hang with friends party see movies you want sleep have fun basically your job is the baby to make money to keep them from crying all night long to give them food clothing a roof over thier head a healthy enviroment. you also need support from your family friends. youll go crazy if you have a baby now. i know people who are married in their thirtys and still have a hard time with having a kid. imagine you at your age your parents might kick you out or not care at all probally wont help you. and a baby doesnt stay a baby forever it does grow up and it gets a lot tougher i think most girls forget that they grow up and dont stay lil ne more. but hope you choose not to have a baby right now and watit till you have a job and house of your own so you dont rely on everyone for the rest of your lfe.
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On top of what everyone else said, your family's trailer probably isn't big enough.
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No it is not a good idea at all.
My oldest sister home schools her children and again no it is not cheap, You need the proper education to home school your children and yet you are only 15 years old you do not have the proper education.
It is VERY VERY expensive to raise a child, It is 24 hour job. At 15, You should be focus on your education, Trying to prepare for a part time job, Seeking your license etc. Not having children.
A child should live in a stable environment, Too even get by you need a full time job and not one that pays the minimum wage. Your boyfriend is an idiot for thinking he is nearly ready to be having a child, Your thinking is also not very on tact either. You are too young, Simple as that. If you have a child at 15, I can promise you it will be hard as hell and you will be reliant on your parents to help you raise that child. When you have a child it is YOUR responsibility to raise it, Not your parents.
What in Gods name is the world coming too? If your 16 year old sister is pregnant, Guess what she ruined her years because once you have a child it's not about YOU anymore. If that child is crying..You need to be there for it. Sick, You be there for it, You want to go out with your friends, You have a child to raise and that child comes first. Children need diapers and diapers can cost a good 40 dollars a month maybe even more. Crib is about 140 and that is a CHEAP crib, Car seats range from 80 and up, That baby will need clothes, food, toys, crib, car seat, high chair, diapers, and a load of other things. It's not cheap and the answer is you are NOT ready. Use your head
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If you think a guy who's dating a 15 year old is mature enough to stick around and be a good father, you've got another thing coming. If you think you're ready, you're even more naive.
Raising children requires, above all else, the ability of the parents to set a mature adult example for the child.
You are not capable of this. You are a child yourself. You do not have the experience nor the maturity at 15 to raise a child in modern society, no one on this earth does.
Step 1 of presenting the kid with an example they can follow is waiting until you can support the kid yourself with a partner so that they grow up in a home where mommy and daddy showed them from day 1 that it's important to be able to take care of yourself.
If you have a kid now, your child will almost certainly follow in your footsteps and have a kid too early him or herself. This is how these things work, your bad decisions become acceptable end results to your kids because you weren't able to provide them a better example to try for.
Worse, you will not be as good of a parent. At 15 you haven't even begun to live your own life, how are you supposed to support a child who wants to do the same? You are not an adult, how will you teach a child to be one? Or are you going to give them the example to follow of "I did what I wanted and let my parents clean up the mess I left and teach my kid all the things they should have learned from me"
If you do that, I hope you're ready to be a grandparent-parent and raise your grandkids the way you should have raised your own children, because your kids will do the exact same thing.
Having a kid at 15 is selfish and shortsighted. In this day and age we do not raise our children to be ready to parent at 15, there is no such thing as a teenager who is ready, just teenagers who are arrogant and stupid enough to think they are.
I'm 25, my wife is a few years younger, we aren't ready for kids yet. We don't have stable jobs, we aren't done with our education, and to be honest we aren't done having fun being young and carefree. You're years away from being where we are. If we aren't ready, neither are you.
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Well, congratulation to you two :-)
But there are a few problems. Let's quickly go through them, shall we?
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Your body is still developing; it is not yet complete and stable. The best age to have children is between 21 to 29 years old, 35 years old is when you should stop having babies; having babies after 40 years of age is NOT recommended and should be avoided.
Maybe you can wait for another 5 or 6 years? Yes? Time really flies, you see :-)
Also, pregnancy is a very stressful process, and it takes a lot of toll on your body as well as your mind. One wrong move and your baby will be hurt--that's really unfortunate and unfair for the baby. That why before and during which time, "prenatal care" is recommended. You can ask your doctor about this and he or she should be able to explain better than I am.
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|| Financial readiness
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Babies are expensive--both to give birth and to raise them. Are you and your boyfriend able to make a living on your own without your parents' help? Do you have some money saved in your bank account? Assuming that you are living in the USA, if your income is below $1000 USD a month, you would have a difficult time providing your baby with all of his or her needs.
In short, you want to have enough money to provide your child a decent childhood. Can you do that?
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Babies are easier to make than to raise; this is something that we all know, right? Do you know how to raise a baby? Do you know how to stop him or her from crying? How well do you manage your anger and control yourself? You see, babies are adorable, but they can also be annoying sometimes because they don't know anything. Heck, they can't even speak!
Babies can bother you a lot, yet they are also very, very, very fragile. Have you ever heard of "Shaking Baby Syndrome"? It's a condition when the baby's brain is seriously damaged because he or she was shook by an adult (usually a parent who failed to control his or her frustration.) Here's where you can learn more about it: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location) . It's a sad, sad thing, really :-(
In short, knowledge is very important. You need to know what to do when your baby is sick or crying non-stop, or when unexpected things happen. If you don't think you know enough, let's wait and study on that first, before giving birth to one.
Good luck and I hope that you will make the correct decision,
ThirdQED :-)
P.S. Also, if something bad happen and you run out of help, give me a call. Perhaps something can be done before it takes a worse turn. My contact information can be found in my profile.
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