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Friends Stab Backs ?
Well, if you read my other questions, you know me and my "bestfriend" both 'like' the same guy, although i don't think she ilkes him. .. but whatever.
So now she's being a complete witch(if you know what i mean) to me. And she doesn't think so. But i know so, everyone says she treats me bad, but she thinks opposite, that I treat her bad.
We've been bestfriends since second grade, and I don't want that to end. But i don't know if i can handle how rude and witchy* she's been to me. I tell her about it, but all she does is 'backfire' it, and say it back to me. HELP! What should i do ? :/
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i'm in the ending process of what you are going through right now. My best friend liked the same guy i liked too, but i actually am going out with him. Your best friend is not your best friend. she doesn't know who she is, that is why she is wanting what you want. she needs to figure out what she wants. I would give up being best friends with her, and just be friends. because it will be hard for you to just drop her like that. Just distance yourself slowly form her by not telling her everything. If something happens between you and the guy, don't tell her. Keep it all to yourself. try your hardest. That way you can end your friendship in a way that won't hurt you as much.
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First of all let me say I know how you feel. I've lost friends over boys and it's the stupidest reason to lose a friend. Don't let a guy come between that kind of relationship. However, if it has and she is refusing to talk to you or doesn't see it your way then I will offer you this advice. SPACE! Sometimes people need space and a lot of it to begin to think clearly. If you continue to bombard her with all this stuff she won't have the time she needs to cool off and get it together, put things into perspective. I'm sure over time she will see that this guy isn't worth losing you over. Good luck =)
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Yo.
I know what the situation is like. I agree with the answers below, you should give her some space. Maybe she's just upset about something and just doesn't want to have to do with anyone or anything. Give her some space, and in a few days, try talking to her again. When you give her space, and then try and talk about the issue, maybe she will realise that you are a good friend and you DO mean well.
Hope everything goes okay!!
-xox yoliv
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I would give her some space and let her realize that you are a good friend and that she wants you to still be her friend. I'm not saying don't talk to her, just talk to her a little less and start talking to other people more. If you don't want to do this, i would tell her you need to talk to her. Then i would have a sit down or a phone convo and tell her EVERYTHING that is on your mind and how she treats you. Don't yell at her, just tell her nicely and never say anything mean so she knows your being serious and your just having a friend to friend conversation. Hope this helps!
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Me and my "friend" quote on quote had that same issue, we were besties from first grade to fourth but she was the backstabbing type, she lied on me, she betrayed me, and thought she was overally better than me, and just last year she decided she wanted to like the boy that I was seeing, so I went on and let her have him, cuz I was hearing rumors of him liking her, but it turns out he was still having feelings for me and trying to get back with me, and she knew it too. But what I do now is just I acknowledge her say hi whatever and dont attach myself to her like I use to. I call her my friend and she calls me her bestie, and I forgave her but I didnt forget. So what Im asically saying is you dont have to stop being her friend, just pull yourself away from her a bit. And she'll realize her mistakes, and at the same time if you did do anything you should realize yours and move on.
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You have two options.
One, take the high road and put up with it until she makes a move that will either repair or break the relationship. This would mean that you just try to work it out and try to be understanding about it. I did that in high school, a lot. I kept a lot of my friends but they weren't the best relationships.
Another move on the high road is to cut it off and let her flounder out there alone. I know that seems mean and that it will hurt at first, but you would probably be better off without that static in your life. I did that my senior year and I lost some friends but better ones took their place, and in the end I got most of them back. They just had to do some growing up.
Your second option is to go the low road, which is a lot more... mean. Show her what it is to be mean to her and slap her in the back of the head. Torment her, and eventually she'll figure out that you weren't being mean before. I did this Junior year. Between hitting people and stealing men from them I was amazed I survived. It's not the option I recommend, but I do have to say that it's the more interesting and entertaining of the two. Ha.
Seriously, option one has two good choices for you... ^_^
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