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Want to make the best out of highschool but don't know how??
okay so im a sophomore in high school, and i play soccer and basketball. I don't really hang out with the "popular" crowd, but i have quite a few friends. Everyone says that high school is the funnest years of your life, but so far I haven't had much fun. I don't drink or smoke or do drugs or anything like that, and i've never been to an actual like 'party'. i just want to make the most out of high school and have a lot of fun! How and what should i do to fulfill that goal?
Anything helps!! =]
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You know what, I never did all that in highschool and I still liked it. You don't need to do those things to have fun. In the long run you'll be able to know that you never did drungs and never drank just to feel cool or to have 'fun' and best thing of all, you'll be able to tell your kids that in the future. All that happens when you get into all that is rumors and a false sense of a good time.
You can still go to parties with your friends and hang out with those people as long as you make it a point not to drink or do drugs. Go there knowing that if anyone offers you any you'll turn them down. And you might think that makes you seem uncool but you know what, that's what I did and people respect those girls and know that they're not someone that can be messed with.
Guys will know that they cant take advantage of you and you'll know who all the guys that just want to get some are so you can stay clear of any type of relationship with them. Plus, you get to watch everyone act stupid while their drunk which is the funniest part, and you'll acually remember everything the next day :)
When you do go though, take a friend that also doesn't drink or smoke so you have a sober friend there with you :) Just let people know that drinking isn't your thing but it doesn't mean you can't still have fun. Because honsetly, the people that think they need to be drunk to have a good time are the saddest people out there.
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Keep doing what you're doing.
Drinking and drugs is only going to make faded memories of awkward moments. How many times have you heard of girls getting "raped" at a party because they were drinking? (My Answer):
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Drugs get you nowhere too. My cousin started smoking weed CASUALLY when he was a freshmen in high school. He was pretty intelligent and excelled in science and mathematics--he could have really been something. By the time hew as a junior (the first time) he was completely fried. He could no longer remember or recognize his own home phone number. No kidding. (My Answer):
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High school is not meant to be fun or enjoyable actually. It was created to prepare you for the rest of your life. Example:
Elementary school prepares you for middle school.
Middle school prepares you for high school.
High school prepares you for...well, what comes next? The rest of your life.
If you start off drinking/smoking/whoring it up then the rest of your life is going to follow in the same manner. You'll run to drugs when things get hard. You'll drink your life away just to "have fun" which will lead to lost jobs. You'll give your body to men just to feel loved because you can't figure how to get love any other way (The Question):
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In high school you need to be learning how to live. Learning how to make it in this insane world. Learning how to cope with reality.
I'm not saying you shouldn't be having fun, but drugs, sex, and alcohol shouldn't be involved at all. Learning that "fun" means getting wasted and having an orgy at a party is not really preparing you for a great future.
Go to ballgames on the weekends.
Catch a movie or two with some good friends.
Go on a date or two--without sex, without drugs, without alcohol--just you and a guy having some dinner and a movie.
Spend time volunteering at various places. You have no idea how fulfilling this is--and fun at the same time! (How's that for real-world preparation too?!)
Go to local set-ups for bands to play. Most towns, even small ones like the one I live in, have an annual Battle-of-the-LOCAL-Bands. Things like this are usually free and pretty fun, especially if you're sober.
Go to fairs when they come around. There's no shame and having a thing of cotton-candy and riding the ferris wheel like you did when you were six. It's still fun...I promise ;)
Go to prom when it comes. As a sophomore, you can be invited by an upperclassman. No need to sell your body for this either or end up wasted by the end of the night--dances are just fun, plain and simple. (Your high school probably also has other dances you definately should attend.)
Join other clubs. We had a robotics club that seemed super neat and educational at the same time. They took a trip out to go to a convention and everyone had a blast--without drugs, alcohol, or sex too! What a concept!
Go to the beach when it warms up again. Bring a friend or two. Your family probably wouldn't mind if you talked to them about it beforehand--a fun trip for all! :)
Join the school-paper. What's more fun than getting the latest school scoop and writing it up to let your peers know about it too?! If you're school doesn't have a paper yet--address this to the principal and get one started!
If you want to make memories then alcohol and drugs are not going to help at all. Don't waste your time wasting your life away with these things. Spend school time at school, learning. This time is for preparation for when YOU have to rely on YOU to really make it alive.
Don't follow-the-leader like your peers do. Seriously, they are going to end up VERY unhappy and lost in just a few short years. You'll see.
There's just so many things you can do other than having sex, getting plastered, and doing drugs. There is no point in going to parties because that is what happens--people "hook-up" and act a fool.
My suggestion regarding sex and relationships (since I KNOW it's an issue):
Make CLEAR memories of your youth.
When you're older you'll have something to say. Your grandchildren will all sit around, wanting you to tell them about the time you and grandpa went out and did this and that. They'll come to you advice on how to make their own relationships work and you'll be able to say, "It isn't about having sex. It isn't about saying you're going to marry them. It's about life, love, and making lasting memories together."
Wouldn't you two like to look back years down the road and have giggles about the silly things you remember and the good times you had during the week? You'll be able to tell your future friends and possible children and grandchildren all about the neat things you two used to do together.
I feel sad that a lot of the teenagers now won't have a "how we met" story other than, "We met at a party and starting making out and had sex." I feel sad that teenagers will have to say, "I was engaged to 3 guys before he asked me and we got married." I feel sad that they won't have anything to say about what they did together other than, "Well, we we could see each other, we had sex. Sometimes with a condom, sometimes without. We had a few pregnancy scares." I feel sad that they will have to tell their own children things like, "No, your mother/father wasn't my first sexually. I lost my virginity when I was 13 to this one guy/girl. I had been with 13 people prior to your mother/father."
Go roller-blading.
See concerts.
Go to the park and watch old people in love.
Lay on the ground and look at the clouds.
Go on movie dates.
Share a milkshake.
Read books together.
Go have a few double-dates with your best friend.
Volunteer together.
Dance in the rain.
Talk to strangers together and see if you can help brighten their day.
Help each other grow.
There is absolutely no need to end up like this (My Answer):
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It happened. It's true. It's scary and I look back and say, "Thank GOD, I was not one of them. Thank GOD, I kept my head on straight." Those people have to live with that their entire lives. How would you feel if you were one of those that I listed? Happy? Doubtful. Confident? Doubtful. Loved? Doubtful. Smart? Doubtful. Good about yourself? Definitely not.
You don't have to be stupid to have fun. You don't have to kill brain cells to have fun. You don't have to numb yourself to have fun. You don't have to sell yourself to have fun.
Just keep doing what you're doing and memories will happen.
Drugs.
Alcohol.
Sex.
Parties.
The popular crowd.
That's all stupid. Wasteful. Hurtful.
Be smart. Be you.
If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Alright...well im a senior
now, and im not gonna lie i used to go to parties and drink...and they were amazingly fun.
And i also have played soccer all 4 years..
High school is honestly what you make it.
Ive had so many bad, good, stupid, and amazing times...but dont feel pressured to do things "the other kids" are doing...if you have amazing friends that will stick by your side your gonna have a great time, just take it one day at a time!
Good luck!!!!
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You know, I'm exactly like that. I'm in highschool at the moment and I don't drink, smoke or anything like that (and yes, I've never been to a party). But you know, I still have fun. Do you know why? Because I'm around the people whom I care the most about, more than any other in the world and just being with them and just being part of their lives everyday and seeing what's going on. Okay, I may not be going to parties with them till all hours of the night.
What I suggest that you do is just ask around and see what is going on during the weekends and see whether anybody invites you. For your soccer and basketball, just be yourself, have fun with your friends as you play the game. Just make every opportunity with your friends count.
I hope this helped,
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