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this situation is so awkward and it sucks...
My boyfriend had been living at my house for almost a month. Everything was going great, he was getting along really well with my siblings and parents and everything. On Saturday my dad came home early from work and walked in on me and my boyfriend having sex. My dad got really angry and said "YOU CAN LEAVE NOW!" to my boyfriend and saying things like "HE'S NOT LEAVING FAST ENOUGH!" to me. I can understand how walking in on us having sex would upset him a lot and I understand that it's his house and everything and that we were being disrespectful and all, but at this point he still won't let my boyfriend back in the house and things are still really awkward between all of us. This SUCKS. I really miss my boyfriend living with me and we don't know how to make it right with my dad. What should I do? HELP!
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Sounds like a relationship you take seriously. I wonder what your boyfriend’s situation is that he would have to move in with your family. If you are both of legal age (18 +) and out of high school. It would make sense, where you would both sit down together, and plan for a place to stay together and possibly a future. If you are both minors, you might want to consider slowing things down a bit. It’s inevitable that someone in your family would walk in on you both. With a live in boyfriend in your family home, you both are never going to get the privacy you desire, and awkward situations like this are bound to come up. Your father probably feels betrayed and inconvenienced, in regards to providing shelter for someone he did not father, and creating a situation where you are at risk of getting pregnant before a preferable time. It doesn’t sound like your boyfriend will ever be allowed back in the house, regardless, talk to your parents about your thoughts and feelings on the matter, and keep an open mind to what they have to say, that should ease a lot of the tension.
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I can see where he's coming from and why he was so angry.
Seeing your boyfriend having sex with you would make him (your father) feel betrayed because your boyfriend comes in, gets along with the family and earns their trust, is then found having sex with you is likely to blow the families trust right up. He would see it as if he was nice and friendly when all he really wants is to have sex with you (I know that this is not the case but it could be what went through your father's head). Just bear that in mind.
Your father not allowing him in the house is a form of 'protection' for you in his eyes, saving you from getting pregnant or something. What he's doing is a fatherly act, even though you may not see it that way (not surggesting anything).
Now, you have to talk to your father without your boyfriend because him being there would only make your dad angry and beyond reasoning. So talk to him alone. Explain to him that what you were doing was nothing wrong because you were only expressing your feelings to one another (you may not want to say this, it's up to you) and remind him that is what he and your mum did and you're a result of that love. No matter what your dad says or does, nothing will destory the love which the two of you have.
Good luck with the future,
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Ouch.
Well, It kind of depends on your father's temperment. If he gets angry easily, give him a couple days to cool off.
I mean, I personally think you're extremely lucky that they even let him live with you. If I asked my mom or dad that, they would laugh in my face. Your parents let him live with you because they thought you two were mature enough to handle the situation (not saying you aren't mature. just stating what your parents thought when they allowed it). But now, your dad is angry, disappointed, & probably feels like an idiot for allowing it in the first place. First of all, give him at least three days of space & to cool off. Well, depending on your age, just simply tell him that you're growing up. Unless you're thirteen or something, he should understand that. Now, you've got to earn his trust back. Explain to him calmly (not whining or anything) that you & your boyfriend love each other & that .. yes, you both messed up, but you want a second chance to make things right. Explain to him that his trust means very much to you & you want to try & earn it back.
& hopefully, he'll listen & understand.
Hope everything works out. =)
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Hun, if you and your boyfriend were really mature enough and capable of living togeather, you wouldn't have slapped your dad in the face with your sexual activity.
You screwed up, big time. You say that you understand him being upset and get how disrespectful it was, but I don't think you truly understand if you actually think your boyfriend is going to be allowed to move back in.
If you aren't at a stage in life where you can be honest with your parents about your sexual activity, you weren't at a stage in life where you should be living with your boyfriend at all.
It was fun while it lasted, now deal with respecting your parents and begging thier forgiveness. Encourage your boyfriend to do the same.
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That really does suck.
I think all you can do is let some time pass. I think that whole situation was awkward. If you aren't patient, pull your dad aside and tell him that it was a mistake and how disrespectful it was and ask him how you can earn his trust back so that you can see your boyfriend again.
good luck.
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you should deal with not having your boyfriend living with you
sry but, he shouldnt even be livng with you
but, family before boyfriends so dont argue with you r da bout it
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