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Best friend is a whore
WEll ok my best friend is a girl and we have been through alot together and i really love her and dont want anything to happen to her and ill make sure that nothing does however, theres a problem she likes to get around and have fun with guys and it hurts/ pisses me off...by the way i dont like her more than a friends...she gives them head,let them finger her, and fucks them and im afraid one time somethings going to go wrong and she going to get pregnant...i want to convice her she dont need it but she just laughs at me and goes and does it anyway such as right now shes fucking a friend of mine in my basement...i dont no what to do...i want to tell her how i feel and also get her to stop!! Anythign in helpful! Thanks
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Your heart is in the right place, but there's not much you can do except tell her your concerns. I agree that it is a great idea to write her a letter to explain everything you're feeling.
Point out to her that she is a beautiful girl and a wonderful person. Tell her she deserves someone that will respect her and not just use her for sex. Go ahead and tell her that she's probably going to end up pregnant. Tell her she is too good of a person to go around and just let people have their way with her.
Once you tell her how you feel, let it go. If she doesn't believe you, then she's obviously just going to do what she wants anyway. I don't know if you would up for doing this, but maybe you could tell her parents what she has been doing and tell them how worried you are. Maybe they could at least get her birth control or something. My best friend did the same exact thing awhile back and I got so frustrated and I told her parents and they stopped her from doing it anymore. Yes, she got pissed when I told her it was me, but she learned to forgive me. It's the true friend that tells someone. Keeping silent will only hurt your friend.
It's up to you, but I hope you can convince her to change.
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Wow, i feel for you! Ok I've been in the same situation and it might help if you put it in words. Just let all your feelings out on paper..including how you're worried she might get pregnant or even worse an STD. Dont be nice, in situations like this you have to be brutal and your friend will thank you later. Good luck!
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talk to her, but if she doesn't listen you should try to back off. some things people just need to learn on their own. just be there for her if something happens, and let her know that. its fantastic that you care this much for your friend, but she's obviously going through something right now. she wants to be loose, and there's not much that can be done about it.
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Although it’s true you can’t tell your friends how to live their lives, you can certainly put your foot down and tell them what appropriate behavior is when they are a guest in your house.
Mature friends respect each other’s space and boundaries, so don’t hesitate to tell her you are not comfortable with her indiscriminate sexual activities in your home, and that if that is the way she wishes to act, she is free to do so elsewhere.
That is no different then telling someone not to smoke inside your home. Feel free to make it clear that ditching you to fuck someone in your own home is not okay.
Other then that, there is little you can do but keep repeating your message and/or tolerating her choices. She might end up ill, or pregnant, and that will change and possibly even end your friendship with her, but there is nothing you can do about that. If that is just the risk she is willing to take all you can decide is whether you are willing to take the risk of being her friend or not.
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All you can do is keep telling her how you feel. It might get through one of these days. Other than that stop facilitating her behavior. In other words don't let her use your basement! She is walking all over you. Friends shouldn't use their friends like that. Tell her that you don't approve of what she's doing and that she's not allowed to do it in your house. She can find someplace else to do it if she needs it that badly. Putting your foot down about it will probably upset her, but at least you can stop her a few times and at hopefully it'll sink in a little faster for her. Good luck.
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hey a good friend is telling your friend to stop whenever she screws up.
just confront her, and if she's a true friend, she will listen to you.
tell her that you're really worried about her and you're only saying this because you care so much about her and because she's your best friend.
tell her that she's gonna end up being pregnant if she continues, and even worse, she'll end up getting a STD.
if she still laughs at you and doesn't stop, then she's obviously not a true friend.
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Tell her how you feel. If you're good friends you should be able to tell each other anything. If she gets mad and ignores you she wasn't a very good friend in the first place.
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Tell her how you feel...
When she blows you off and gets pregnant, you get a wonderful chance to laugh at human stupidity.
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i used to have a friend like this, and i confronted her about it, and we havent been friends since january so she obviously wasnt a very good friend, i know you care about her but you've got to let a person make their own mistakes, and with the pregnant thing, just casually mention to her, and ask "Oh i hope your using protection?" just so she knows you care,
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Well, Im afraid sometimes you can tell people they are endangering themselves but they wont listen. (Thus the phrase- You can lead a horse to the water, but you cant make it drink)
You need to sit down with her and talk to her about it. How it makes you feel and what could happen to her. (STDs, pregnancy, being used, etc)You could even pull some statistic ups too. She probably thinks she is invincible and nothing will ever happen to her. This is a hard situation because she wont listen and sometimes in situations like this they wont ever stop until something bad happens to them. Maybe get a guy friend to tell her how guys only view her as an object or something.
Good luck!
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You're such a great friend! Wow, she's lucky to have you. Give her one more chance to talk it out. Prepare a speech about pregnancy and AIDS and stuff without making it TOO boring, and give some facts, and if she laughs in your face, she doesn't deserve your time. You're obviously trying hard to make her stop, but I don't think you will be able to control her actions. The only way she IS gonna learn is if she gets an STD or even worse, gets pregnant. I think it would be a good thing if she got pregnant, because that's the ultimate and best way she's gonna learn that she's screwing up her life. Telling her to stop will probably only make her do more. If something bad happens like pregnancy, she might for once learn from her mistake. Just give her another chance, and please, if she doesn't listen, let her suffer. I know she's your best friend, but you shouldn't have to spend all your time trying to help her out. If she won't listen, it's her problem not yours.
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well i think you should realy tell her how you feel and that you dont like her doing these types of things and it realy worries you and upsets you, tell her that your here for her and if she doesnt listen to you know then when she is in trouble its going to be hard for you to help her when she really needs you say she does get pregnant and all anyway just be honest with her and hope it all goes well oh and tell her that whatever happens your still going to be friends with her if that is what you want
hope this helps tc good luck
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